Working Alone WITHOUT LONELINESS
Posted 12-25-2008 at 11:57 PM by DynamicMentalFitness
Tags copywriting, freelancer, happiness, productivity, success
One Warrior is currently dealing with the problem of LONELINESS and FEELINGS OF LONELINESS during a long, solitary workday.
Their question was as follows:
When dealing with feeling too alone or lonely as a Freelancer working in solitary conditions, here's a secret that may surprise you, but if you consider it carefully, you will have the insight necessary to put an end to the suffering you have begun to endure in hours when you are supposed to be giving and expressing the best of your ability, talent, and intelligence to the world.
The reason you are suffering loneliness during those hours...is because you are not alone at all. There is something you are mostly unaware of keeping you intimate company, and beating you up the entire time it is in your presence, though you do not realize it at the time.
You have unwanted guests: HIDDEN, DISGUISED, PAINFUL THOUGHTS!
There is never a moment occupied by a feeling of loneliness that is not first preceded by a thought or series of thoughts that call forth the emotion of loneliness itself.
They go hand in hand. Thought ----> Emotion = Experience.
You cannot have one without the other. And guess what - that's GOOD NEWS.
Sewn into the problem is the key to solving it!
Thought. If you can learn to detect the thoughts that are up until this point having their way in your mind, you can dismantle the entire pattern.
There is no real reason whatsoever that you are obligated to submit yourself to abusive mental patterns that interfere with your productivity, contentment, and joy at your work. In fact, if you can get directly to the ROOT of the problem, your enjoyment of working from 9 to 7 all by yourself will skyrocket, allowing you even MORE pleasure outside those hours.
The solution, therefore, begins with you training yourself in the practice and habit of keeping a quiet watch over the usually unguarded activity going on in your own mind. You'll discover then the shocking, often laughable reality of the strange notions that rise and fall and strike up crazy choruses of moods and emotions that have absolutely nothing to do with either reality or the task to which you are supposed to be engaged. You'll discover that, for no real reason at all, there are ideas flowing through your central nervous system that are not there to help you succeed - and one or more of those undesirable thoughts is lying to you, telling you that you are losing out on life, that you are lacking, that you are missing the action because you are not immersed in noisy company.
Consider this carefully: If it were not for the UNPLEASANT COMPANY you keep while working for your success during those hours, you would not feel like you need to ESCAPE the situation. A higher part of your mind knows it needs to be free from the pain you're feeling, but now you must train yourself to detect the CULPRIT that's causing the pain, and be rid of it by merely centering your attention back to your task, or just breathing deeply to relax, or mastering the ability to shut an unwanted thought down immediately so that you can enjoy your each and every moment.
The company you keep (but have been unaware of) it making you lonely.
When you cease entertaining that manner of vampiric guest, it leaves of its own accord.
Their question was as follows:
Quote:
Like most of you I do Coding / SEO work. Got a large list of clients and can’t complain about the money but my biggest issue is the loneliness of working by myself is starting to get to me.
One of these days I am going to go nuts bing in a Solitary confinement :-) Anyone else in a situation like me, how do you manage this ?
One of these days I am going to go nuts bing in a Solitary confinement :-) Anyone else in a situation like me, how do you manage this ?
When dealing with feeling too alone or lonely as a Freelancer working in solitary conditions, here's a secret that may surprise you, but if you consider it carefully, you will have the insight necessary to put an end to the suffering you have begun to endure in hours when you are supposed to be giving and expressing the best of your ability, talent, and intelligence to the world.
The reason you are suffering loneliness during those hours...is because you are not alone at all. There is something you are mostly unaware of keeping you intimate company, and beating you up the entire time it is in your presence, though you do not realize it at the time.
You have unwanted guests: HIDDEN, DISGUISED, PAINFUL THOUGHTS!
There is never a moment occupied by a feeling of loneliness that is not first preceded by a thought or series of thoughts that call forth the emotion of loneliness itself.
They go hand in hand. Thought ----> Emotion = Experience.
You cannot have one without the other. And guess what - that's GOOD NEWS.
Sewn into the problem is the key to solving it!
Thought. If you can learn to detect the thoughts that are up until this point having their way in your mind, you can dismantle the entire pattern.
There is no real reason whatsoever that you are obligated to submit yourself to abusive mental patterns that interfere with your productivity, contentment, and joy at your work. In fact, if you can get directly to the ROOT of the problem, your enjoyment of working from 9 to 7 all by yourself will skyrocket, allowing you even MORE pleasure outside those hours.
The solution, therefore, begins with you training yourself in the practice and habit of keeping a quiet watch over the usually unguarded activity going on in your own mind. You'll discover then the shocking, often laughable reality of the strange notions that rise and fall and strike up crazy choruses of moods and emotions that have absolutely nothing to do with either reality or the task to which you are supposed to be engaged. You'll discover that, for no real reason at all, there are ideas flowing through your central nervous system that are not there to help you succeed - and one or more of those undesirable thoughts is lying to you, telling you that you are losing out on life, that you are lacking, that you are missing the action because you are not immersed in noisy company.
Consider this carefully: If it were not for the UNPLEASANT COMPANY you keep while working for your success during those hours, you would not feel like you need to ESCAPE the situation. A higher part of your mind knows it needs to be free from the pain you're feeling, but now you must train yourself to detect the CULPRIT that's causing the pain, and be rid of it by merely centering your attention back to your task, or just breathing deeply to relax, or mastering the ability to shut an unwanted thought down immediately so that you can enjoy your each and every moment.
The company you keep (but have been unaware of) it making you lonely.
When you cease entertaining that manner of vampiric guest, it leaves of its own accord.
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