Important Steps To REAL Personal Change!
Posted 01-30-2009 at 04:48 PM by DynamicMentalFitness
Some Important Steps To Real, Measurable Personal Change:
- Decision - Know The Behavior You WANT (do not give attention or thought to the behavior you don't want (it gets enough attention as it is already!))
- Leverage - You need a powerfully motivating reason. For some, they have to be willing to painfully imagine, vividly, without mercy, projected the outcome of their failure to adopt the new behavior. For example - what will failure to adopt the new habit mean for you in six months, a year, three years, TEN years? Some trainers in NLP and NAC really focus in on this step, getting their trainees to endure pure hell so that they are COMPELLED to choose the new habit. Additionally, after people are feeling the pain of possible failure, the best step is then to project, vividly, meaningfully, what the REWARDS will be under the same timeframes were one to successfully carry out the new habit! For instance, what will it mean six months, a year, three years, TEN years from now if you were to make that new habit a part of your daily life!?!
- FIND A SUREFIRE TACTIC FOR DISRUPTING AND INTERRUPTING THE UNWANTED HABIT - You MUST have some way to snap yourself out of a pattern WHILE you're in the middle of it.
- Most people endure a psychological condition known as Cognitive Dissonance while engaged in something they don't want to be a part of. This is an emotionally painful inner conflict occurring when stuck between two competing ideas, ideals, or options.
- Further, we tend to do these things robotically, while totally aware that we are doing something that's not in our best interest - as though we were stuck in an out of control car, unable to steer it in a decisive, straight, steady course!
- If you have something already set up - a tactic, some outside help, a 'trick' (so to speak) - that can bring you out of the funk and back into the present, the here and now, so that you can make another choice, then you're at an advantage, because the more you interrupt a mental pattern, the more it messes up the neuro-physiological map of that habit that has been etched into your brain; making it harder to repeat that habit!
- PRACTICE DOING THE NEW HABIT AS A REPLACEMENT FOR THE OLD!!! If, with every opportunity, you interrupted and prevented yourself from carrying out the old habit, and immediately executed the NEW habit (or, if not in a physical position to do so, simply VISUALIZED yourself carrying out the new habit, mentally, with vivid intensity), then you would quickly begin establishing the new habit in your life, laying down the new biological pattern in your brain. The more deeply it becomes etched into your brain, the easier it is for you to carry out for the rest of your life.
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