New Dating Advice Site Questions

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Hello Everyone!
I am currently in the process of creating an e-book for my upcoming website. The questions will be answered by women and man in the book and will be available on video as well. The book will be targeted to people who are seeking relationship advice. There are many books like this in the market and I would like to hear any questions or ideas that you might have. What would you like to know about dating? Do you have any input on ideas that would make this project unique?
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  • Profile picture of the author shmerns
    This subject is very near and dear to me as I feel there are so many wonderful people out there who are still single. A lot of the reason for this is because they don't allow people to get to know the real true person that they are. Many people make a lot of mistakes in the first few meetings (dates) and misrepresent themselves. If they could be taught what NOT to say rather than exactly what to say in those first few meetings, I believe they would have more dates, meetings, encounters, etc..
    Once someone has gotten to know them a bit more, they can be more secure to let their guard down a bit more. Being a bit more reserved in the beginning can go a long way.

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    • Profile picture of the author Bugala
      I have read some relationship books and so far only two have really jumped out of the crowd.

      One was this Mars & Venus serie, which is good in teaching the communication skills. that when woman says this, she relly means. And when man says this,, what he means is this.

      However, i do feel Mars & Venuc serie despite its greatness, is still somewhat like a Beta version of the whole concept.

      Another book i recommend is Nicky & Sila Lee s Marriage Book.

      This is very different from the Other one, for these guys are obviously non pro people and dont know much about when other says it means this.
      But, the toold they are giving to marriage on solving problems and so on, they are absolutely excellent.

      Getting these books together, would be real rock solid hit.

      now to the suggestions.

      From all the books i have read, only in this Marriage Book have they mentioned that when you get married, its possible that there might bevome situations where you just have to cut out some friend of yours for sake of your marriage.

      Every other book always keep telling, "keep in touch with your friends, since if you get separated, friends stay... blah blah blah" But marriage book, it tells that there can be situations where you just have to cut that friendship out for the sake of your marriage.

      Another great one was that it also mentioned that avoifing cheating is not a will of your mind, but action. If you work long hours just together with a good looking opposite sex, you will end cheating your husband/wife.

      So the point in avoiding cheating, is avoiding thoses situations. Telling your boss that you dont want to work with her since shes too good looking and youre afraid you end up cheating your husband/wife.

      Now that realistic point of view i havent seen on other books, and i think you should get on to that one too.

      And actually, one thing i have never seen anywhere, is to point out the cultural differences in countries.

      I mean, i have Chinese wife. I used to date Finnish woman. Thats two different worlds. And life is much easier with the Chinese one, since they arent as equal in their culture as Finnish women are. So as i treat her, like i would treat Finnish woman, shes all the time happy, since im so great that i let her do this and that, when Finnish woman would be complaining all the time.

      And one other thing that no book have really gone into is how to figure out what kind of man/woman you want in the first place.

      And then how to find that right kind of man/woman.

      I mean, what you might really weant is a creative person. Now how do you figure out if someone is creative or not. No, its not if he/she paints, or does some creative things. Many people who are sttill stubborn and never learn anything do that.

      To recognise truly creative person, is to listen to what he/she says.
      Does he/she use sentences like "hmm, never thought that before.", "I thought differnetly before, but when one guy said that, then i realised that...", "I was wrong" "I changed my mind",

      Those are words of creative person, since creative person is in constant progress of thinking and is willing to change his views and peerspectives, since creative person thinks and lets thoughts affect him to adjust himself better.

      So Those would be couple of thing i would like to see on dating books.
      No diplomatic bs of broad expressions, but real ruff, to the pont comments like:
      "Do you want a woman that nags, or a woman that doesnt? If you dont, then you should consider woman from a country where women arent verey equal, maybe even country where women have got used to being between fis and kitchen. If you treat that woman like you would treat your local ones, then shes happy all the time. But on the downside, she might not be as active or independent as some nagging countrys woman might be. You have to choose what you want man."
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  • Profile picture of the author Bugala
    I was actually once thinking of putting up a youtube serie of "Finding perfect woman"

    I was thinking to make it so that i would figure out ways how to find that miss perfect and then would follow on that youtube serie how that goes on.

    I would have given the thoughts like the ones in earlier one and follow them through.

    It had started from me first narrowing down the first qualities of a perfect woman and then getting on some date sites where theres a chat and chatting for one hour with 100 different woman to figure out more.

    After thati would have thought what i had found out from those 100 hours and continued the search for the next idea i would have got.

    I think men had found it amusing and some women had proapbly given me hate mail since one of the things i had already figured out on dating services had been about "Okay, so heres 1 million single women. well, since i obciously wont have time to meet them all, lets narrow the search by throwing the ugly ones out and narrowing the serach only for the excellent looking ones"

    And obviously i would have stated that stuff of "no Scandinavian or US countries, those women are too equal and will keep nagging. I like the ones used to being more between kitchen and fist, since theyre happier of me"

    But its too late now, since im happily married. And to point out, to Chinese, so not to Scandinavian or US.
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