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Why most people's dreams suck...

by Kevin-VirtualProfitCenter
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In the last 10 years I have seen several hundred people succeed online and I have seen several thousand fail.


They all started out with the same thing: A dream. A dream that their life could get better. A dream of more financial and time freedom. A dream of quitting the rat race.


But that's where the difference between the successes and failures became obvious.


Those who succeeded took their dream and turned it into a realistic plan--something they could act on. Not everything went as planned, but they continued to put in consistent work toward a singular goal. They found out what had worked for others and committed themselves to make it work for them.


Those who failed never moved far beyond the dream stage. They chased after every new product; new guru; shiny new gimmick. They never moved from a dream to a solid, consistent plan.


What about you...do you have a dream or a plan?
#dreams #people
  • Profile picture of the author MichaelHiles
    The only thing I can figure out is that for some people, dreaming about something is satisfying enough to never motivate them to actually do anything.
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  • Profile picture of the author Scott Ames
    You may say that I'm a dreamer
    But I'm not the only one
    I hope someday you'll join us
    And the world will live as one

    Good post. I'm mostly a dreamer. The few times I've acted and made a plan my dream became reality.

    I think a lot of people are simply afraid to go down a path. Article marketing looks good, so they start that. They then see that someone else is making money flipping sites and that looks better, so they start that. etc.etc. If they knew for sure they would not fail at a thing they might stick with it.

    Sometimes we are greedy too and try to grab every coconut on the beach but end up with hardly any. The new money making thing looks better than what we are currently doing and are bored with, so we jump to that. Then we get bored with the new thing.

    As someone once said and I paraphrase .... Put your right hand over your right ear, put your left hand over your left ear.... somewhere between your right hand and your left hand is the reason you haven't yet succeeded.
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    Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. -Winston Churchill

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    • Profile picture of the author The Expert
      I think the biggest problem is lack of time. People blow through their whole day just trying to keep the bills paid that there isn't any time left at the end of the day to build this business.

      Success at this is not a "part time" job. It's a full time commitment and then some. We're talking 8+ hours a day. Every day. Including Sunday.

      Until you get the machine up, running, profitable...and automated.

      Too many people think that they can carve out two to three hours every third day for this stuff and then wonder why nothing ever comes of their efforts.
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      • Profile picture of the author David McKee
        Originally Posted by The Expert View Post

        I think the biggest problem is lack of time. People blow through their whole day just trying to keep the bills paid that there isn't any time left at the end of the day to build this business.

        Success at this is not a "part time" job. It's a full time commitment and then some. We're talking 8+ hours a day. Every day. Including Sunday.

        Until you get the machine up, running, profitable...and automated.

        Too many people think that they can carve out two to three hours every third day for this stuff and then wonder why nothing ever comes of their efforts.
        Yeah, but that is what shiny copy said in the internet ad that I clicked on - that I could sit back and drink Mei-Tia's all day at the beach while my business ran auto-magically!

        Nothing really succeeds without plenty of hard work and thoughtful effort going into the front end - yes you can leverage things and "work smart" but you still have to work. And if you do, then one day the beach-side may become a reality.

        Funny thing is, if you find what you really love to do, it's not really work...I love this stuff so the extra hours go by without me even noticing...

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        • Profile picture of the author heatwave13
          As we have stated already, information overload (or misinformation) is major contributor to the dream-killing reality that many people face. I suffered with this early on as I was chasing all the latest and greatest things.

          New IM'ers need to be very discerning when it comes to the path and people they follow in this game. We need to put our "hype-filter" on as we decide who to take advice from or which system/model to follow. Each of us probably have different areas that we have a natural knack for. I write articles, reports, and do editing for many different clients and niches......but you may be awesome at picking hot niches while still another may be talented with the technical end of things.

          If we can each find our natural talents and interests and develop them, I think that we can have an easier time choosing our path in the internet marketing world. Then with experience, we can diversify. It just takes time and patience.
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          • Profile picture of the author marciayudkin
            They all started out with the same thing: A dream. A dream that their life could get better. A dream of more financial and time freedom. A dream of quitting the rat race.
            The above doesn't fit my life. I've been self-employed for decades - since age 28.

            I think people are not encouraged to take risks when they are younger, when the stakes are lower. Once you get locked into a high-maintenance lifestyle, it's really hard to risk a change.

            Once I made the leap to self-employment when I was young, it became relatively easy. Today I'm unemployable and much better off than those my age who are suddenly laid off with few employment options in a bad economy.

            If you're young, with few responsibilities, buckle down now and make your desired lifestyle a reality! I did and I've never been sorry.

            Marcia Yudkin
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            • Profile picture of the author jasonl70
              Originally Posted by MichaelHiles View Post

              The only thing I can figure out is that for some people, dreaming about something is satisfying enough to never motivate them to actually do anything.
              I agree with this... and to expand on it, I think the dream brings enough joy to their lives that it isn't worth the risk for them to take action and fail - causing the dream to die.
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    • Profile picture of the author JayWiz
      Originally Posted by Scott Ames View Post

      You may say that I'm a dreamer
      But I'm not the only one
      I hope someday you'll join us
      And the world will live as one

      Good post. I'm mostly a dreamer. The few times I've acted and made a plan my dream became reality.

      I think a lot of people are simply afraid to go down a path. Article marketing looks good, so they start that. They then see that someone else is making money flipping sites and that looks better, so they start that. etc.etc. If they knew for sure they would not fail at a thing they might stick with it.

      Sometimes we are greedy too and try to grab every coconut on the beach but end up with hardly any. The new money making thing looks better than what we are currently doing and are bored with, so we jump to that. Then we get bored with the new thing.

      As someone once said and I paraphrase .... Put your right hand over your right ear, put your left hand over your left ear.... somewhere between your right hand and your left hand is the reason you haven't yet succeeded.
      I completely agree with this.
      They can't focus on one thing and jumping around and when they don't make money then they quit. Simple!
      Their dream and motivation are not strong enough.
      It takes time, dedication, commitment, learning, failure and success also.
      Dreaming is fun because we can dream whatever we want.
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    • Profile picture of the author rainyclayday
      Originally Posted by Scott Ames View Post

      If they knew for sure they would not fail at a thing they might stick with it.
      I think that sums it up right there. Perfectly.

      People may read a million billion times that they should stick with one thing, focus on one thing, find success (or decide it isn't going to work and understand why), and only then move to something else, but most people won't do it and will continue hopping from thing to thing. I think the above quote has a big part in the why of this.

      Even if you see that other people are successful doing something, self doubt always comes calling, and people new to IM (plus oldies too) start to wonder if, even though others can be successful, they just won't ever be able to do it. And then they wonder if they might put all that effort into something and then fail anyway. So it's just easier to move on to the next interesting WSO or other product they see.

      Add to that, the wild, crazy, and often farfetched claims of how newbies can go from $0.00 to $700.00 a day while they sleep, and it's easy to see why people new to IM don't often stick with it and most times fail.

      When I first started learning IM, I managed to fumble my way into making a site that brought in $400 in one day 3 months after I started (having never even knew one thing about IM previous to that). But I actually felt that I FAILED because I couldn't sustain that and couldn't make $700 a day right away.

      Anyway, totally getting off the original topic here, but yes, I absolutely think that if everyone really knew they would be successful if they just persevered, a lot more would carry on and not quit. Thus, a lot more would be able to see their dreams become a reality.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mukul Verma
    Robert Kiyosaki said it in Rich Dad, Poor Dad "Mind Your Own Business"

    The ones who succeed are taking action and making things happen.

    The ones who fail are chasing someone else's product, the big guru interest and so on. You are assisting someone else is living there dream (nothing wrong with that) at the expense of your dream (not there is something wrong with that).

    Mind Your Business and Take Action!!!!
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  • Profile picture of the author Lisa Gergets
    I think lots of dreamers can't be flexible with their dreams as well. My big dream used to be to be able to make enough constant income online that we could live on a hobby farm in Wisconsin, away from everything. That dream has changed because realistically, my differently-abled son will continue to need therapies that are likely available only in metropolitan areas. So my dream has evolved a bit...now I want to be able to make enough constant income online so that I simply don't have to go to work outside the home. We'll be homeschooling, so it's vitally important for me to be at home so that our kids get the whole balance of each of our personalities...my husband's being intellectual, analytical, concrete thinking and mine being creative energies.

    Being able to see your dreams in a realistic light and let them evolve as they will is essential to being able to succeed...
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  • Profile picture of the author Zeus66
    I think a lot of people can see Point A and Point B, but it's all the work in between that kills their dream. How many people do you know who've started, stopped, started, stopped, and on and on? They're not stopping because they suddenly stopped having the dream. Most of them stop because the work is hard, boring, etc. So they move on to the next big idea... until the work it takes stops them.

    For whatever reason, "getting something for nothing" is a mindset epidemic.

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  • Profile picture of the author Rick B
    I have a relative who probably starts an average of four businesses per year. They start out with the dream which is always the same ... making lots of money!

    They do all of the fun stuff. They research what others in that business are doing and how many of them got rich overnight! They call all of their friends (and, unfortunately relatives) to get their opinions when it's obvious they don't want to hear anything but, "You're gonna get rich overnight"!

    They form their corporation. It makes you feel important to pay a lawyer, I guess. They open the company bank account. They order the checks with the pretty sunset over the ocean. They get their business cards ... the 3D ones with their holographic photo that cost $1.50 each.

    Then they hit their first snag. Something didn't go as well as expected. Maybe they didn't realize that liability insurance for that particular business will cost 8 grand per year. Or that your employees all have to be certified by the state.

    Hey! Solving problems is no fun! Dreams don't have problems! So they give up until a few months later when they come up with another dream.

    And the cycle continues!
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