Why 95% of People Fail (and how to stop failing!!!)

[dvduval]

I think the biggest obstacle for 95% percent of people is an unwillingness to change their thinking. When you keep banging your head against a wall, it starts to hurt, yet some people fail to realize they can:
1. Find a rope and climb over the wall.
2. Dig under the wall
3. Chisel through the wall
4. Blow up the wall
5. Walk down a ways and find an opening in the wall
6. Build a catapult and fly over the wall
7. Ask someone on the other side of the wall for help
8. Team up with others on the same side of the wall, and work together to break through.
9. Build some steps that allow you to walk right up to the top of the wall (feels good at the precipice by the way)
10. Locate a place where there is no wall, or where the wall is lower and easier to get over
11. Start teaching classes on getting past the wall, and hopefully one of your students will help you over the wall as well.
12. Knock on different places on the wall and see if there is an echo. Maybe you can find a weak point.
14. Use the wall to write down your ideas that will implement soon to get you beyond the wall.

So... let's stop hurting ourselves and open up our minds to how we can get over the next hurdle (wait, hurdles is a story for another day; let's stick to walls.

[Perry Bee]

Some great advice here.

I had an uncle that was a brick layer. His name was Uncle Vinnie. All day long that's all he use to do was build walls. Brick walls. Day in and day out. Wall after wall. That was his job.

One day Uncle Vinnie got laid off. There was no more work for him. No more walls to build.
He didn't know what to do with himself. He sat around moping most of the day. He mostly watched Oprah and ate bonbons and felt sorry for himself. He sat around for about 4 years watching TV and eating bonbons.

To me that was Uncle Vinnie's personal wall that he had to get around. And for a man that had spent most of his life building walls it was a tough thing to do.

Then one day an idea came to him. The idea was to build brick fire places. Short walls. And he took the idea and ran with it. He opened his own business and it took off.

It was the smartest thing he ever did.

Though I wonder, if Uncle Vinnie had been in demolition instead of brick laying, would he had got around his personal wall a lot quicker?

[JHamilton]

I have to agree.. I think that we all tend to believe that the way that we perceive the world is reality, but there is a big difference between reality and our perceptions of reality

[donlester]

Certainly something to think about. For me the problem is usually finding the rope or the shovel. I have the desire to break through the wall, I just haven't found the tools yet.

[dvduval]

Interesting about the bricklayer, an expert at building walls, and was able to build one that couldn't be beaten for 4 years.

@donlester
maybe it is people you need? (rather than tools) Maybe you need to meet the right people that can help you with your wall.

[ragnartm]

Originally Posted by dvduval

Interesting about the bricklayer, an expert at building walls, and was able to build one that couldn't be beaten for 4 years.

@donlester
maybe it is people you need? (rather than tools) Maybe you need to meet the right people that can help you with your wall.

Yep "networking" can do wonders, people are more likely to help you, JV with you, give you special offers etc.. If they know who you are.

[Shlomi Khutoretsky]

networking is such a great tool

[onera]

How about walking away from the wall? That is a solution.

[Peter Bestel]

I can see the usefulness of your analogy but might it not be better to think that there's no wall in the first place?

There's an amazing amount achieved by folk that get into any venture and succeed because nobody ever told them that it would be hard. They simply proceed believing they'll win because they haven't conceived the idea of obstacles. If they do hit one, rather than it being a shock, they're more likely just to take it in their stride and deal with it.

There is no wall.

Peter

[dvduval]

Originally Posted by Peter Bestel

I can see the usefulness of your analogy but might it not be better to think that there's no wall in the first place?

There's an amazing amount achieved by folk that get into any venture and succeed because nobody ever told them that it would be hard. They simply proceed believing they'll win because they haven't conceived the idea of obstacles. If they do hit one, rather than it being a shock, they're more likely just to take it in their stride and deal with it.

There is no wall.

Peter

Absolutely, and I think that is the other 5%.
When we can see life as free and wonderful with opportunities to grow (rather than seeing the problems) we can look back and see how far we have come, and a few were fortunate to get it right from an early age, though I can't say I was one of them.

[Tina Clark]

Originally Posted by dvduval

14. Use the wall to write down your ideas that will implement soon to get you beyond the wall.

Something about this makes me feel really good.

Originally Posted by Peter Bestel

There is no wall.
Peter

Brilliant, Peter

Exact reason why I always think outside-the-box.. I do things alot different than most in my business and some are surprised.

I never follow the shadow in front of me, I learn from that shadow, add my own kick to it, tweak it and move on ...

James

[Kyle Tully]

There is no wall

[TLTheLiberator]

Great stuff but the vast majority if online business failures are because they were tricked into using the worst net business model of allllll time and won't change.

It is mlm and the recruiting people model.

That's where the vast majority of the scams and failures are.

TL

[dvduval]

Originally Posted by TLTheLiberator

Great stuff but the vast majority if online business failures are because they were tricked into using the worst net business model of allllll time and won't change.

It is mlm and the recruiting people model.

That's where the vast majority of the scams and failures are.

TL

But hopefully they will learn from their mistakes (those things that stop them from progressing). As one infamous leader put it:
"Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, won't get fooled again." (or shame on me)

[dvduval]

Originally Posted by Kyle Tully

There is no wall

The idea that we can always conquer nearly any problem is certainly the right attitude, and by perceiving there is no wall that can help, but...

I want to say that everyone has "walls" in their life that are preventing them from going to the next step, and identifying what we need to learn (the wall) to get to that next step is very important. Then we can fashion the right plan for getting past that challenge.

[Teenage Genius]

When you become enlightened you will realise the turth.

And that truth is young master...

There is no wall.

The only walls are the ones we invent. They only exist because we make/allow them to exist.

[Ken Preuss]

The greatest reason for failure is not realizing that you are the answer you've been looking for....

Ken

[J.Knight]

"there is no wall"

Isn't that supposed to be, "there is no spoon"?

Jokes aside, I had a revelation recently while reading the book, 'The Magic of Thinking Big'.

When I look beyond the walls to my goal, the walls become stepping stones for me to skip across, aiding me rather than hindering.

[Adam Kenzington]

Originally Posted by J.Knight

"there is no wall"

Isn't that supposed to be, "there is no spoon"?

Jokes aside, I had a revelation recently while reading the book, 'The Magic of Thinking Big'.

When I look beyond the walls to my goal, the walls become stepping stones for me to skip across, aiding me rather than hindering.

"The Magic of Thinking Big" was a book I was introduced to when I was in my early 20's. It had such an impact on me. I love that book!

[Charann Miller]

There are no limitations bigger than the ones we set for ourselves.

[patchman]

People fail coz they have no plan or they havent done any research, if they do those things first then they will have success

[sinboutkaska]

Guys the reality is we can think what we want and it normally filters through in how we feel. The hard facts and why 95% of people in MLM fail is not because of their way of thinking - as I feel that everyone who steps into this arena has some leadership skills in general but ultimately you need the right tools and system to help you stay afloat right? So wall or no wall - I would have to say that your destiny is determined by your tools and skills of those around you? Up for discussion!

[Michael Ellis]

Because 85% don't do anything. The other 10% either do it wrong, or let failure stop any further action.

Of course percentages vary... but it's safe to say that the majority of people do not take action.

[Teenage Genius]

Originally Posted by Rannie1

There are no limitations bigger than the ones we set for ourselves.

Exactly!

I think of problems and obsticles abit like how a Parkour practicioner thinks of walls and objects... train and practice to get past the obsticle as "quickly and efficiently" as possable. By either going over it, under it etc.

Also a KANO lyric i heard in his track "Layer Cake" (AMAZING SONG BTW, ITS ONE OF THEM TUNES THAT MAKES ME KEEP IT ON REPEAT FOR HOURS)

Well yeah Kano's lyric goes "Theres always an obsticle, just move left... but the stress aint optional"

Other "off-topic" bars i like in that track :

"Im just trying to see the cream in the middle, thats the money i aint just speaking in riddles, i dont wanna see past times dealin' a little, i dont wanna see hard times stealin' in Lydls"

and

"Cos im in a industry-man, in eng-a-land, where i never sell more than a indie-band, you dont even wana know the ins-and-outs, but let me tell you how its goin-down"


Seriously - Listen to the Layer Cake, if you know what "The Layer Cake" is, or even if you don't you will love this tune.

[lburkeau]

I totally agree...the keyword is simply CHANGE...

That is part of our human nature that is toughest to break through.

You can't go it alone...share in joys and sorrows with others and then move on!!!

[MaskedMarketer]

Another reason why probably 95% never become really successful with IM or any business for that matter, is because they are not entrepreneurs.

Entrepreneurs have inborn traits which others do not. Some were made for basketball, some an accountant, and some are entrepreneurs.

Some people just need to face the facts there weren't cut out to be an entrepreneur. This doesn't mean you can't make money, but it will be more difficult and the person with inborn traits and talent will usually have the advantage.

[MaskedMarketer]

Originally Posted by lburkeau

I totally agree...the keyword is simply CHANGE...

That is part of our human nature that is toughest to break through.

People should be constantly changing and evolving. We are here to evolve, so we must change to do this.

But what is odd about this is- we humans naturally resist change...

[extremelyhappy]

Yep, networking is a great tool for success and it has helped me make a ton just because I know people who can help me increase my business.

Again, you need to learn just the 'recipe' to make it happen rather than doing lots of things that confuses you.

Most importantly, action action action. If it doesn't work, find someone who's done it and just follow his exact 'recipe'

[Fuad Tolieb]

Though I wonder, if Uncle Vinnie had been in demolition instead of brick laying, would he had got around his personal wall a lot quicker?[/quote]

Lol.. I think this is a very metaforic and good story. When somebody believes in his idea or dream it doesn't matter how you are going to do it, but more when you are going to take action. Your Uncle Vinnie decided to take action and that is very important.

[dvduval]

Originally Posted by StevenBird

When you become enlightened you will realise the turth.

And that truth is young master...

There is no wall.

The only walls are the ones we invent. They only exist because we make/allow them to exist.

Yes, but think about something like the current state of our economy. It is easy to simply say "there are no walls", but making such a realization does not adequately help us achieve a better result. A another example is the "Power of Positive Thinking". To achieve a better result, saying "just be positive" may cultivate the right frame of mind to lead us to the result we desire, but to actually think about the different ways we overcome the wall is innovation.

[Nick Brighton]

Originally Posted by Peter Bestel

I can see the usefulness of your analogy but might it not be better to think that there's no wall in the first place?

There's an amazing amount achieved by folk that get into any venture and succeed because nobody ever told them that it would be hard. They simply proceed believing they'll win because they haven't conceived the idea of obstacles. If they do hit one, rather than it being a shock, they're more likely just to take it in their stride and deal with it.

There is no wall.

Peter

Peter, out of interest, do you study Bhuddism?

[patJ]

The wall is just an illusion

[baumann93]

Originally Posted by Kyle Tully

There is no wall

yep, people build the walls themselves and then try to clime over or dig under them

[Scott_Thomas]

Continually banging against the same wall is similar to the conditioned response story of flea training.

Fleas have an amazing ability to jump. But if placed in a covered jar or box (that they could easily jump out of if there were no cover), they will bang into the cover for a period of time and then become conditioned to no longer jump so high. At that point you can remove the cover and the fleas will not jump out.

When you keep beating against the same wall you eventually wear out, get frustrated, and then quit. All the while you should be following the advice of this post and looking for a way around the wall. There are always options and other ways of achieving results.

Education and a willingness to ask for and accept help can be your wrecking ball to crash through the walls that are holding you back from your dreams.

[Peter Bestel]

Peter, out of interest, do you study Bhuddism?

Not much. Just a Pink Floyd fan.

[Frank Donovan]

The secret to happiness is to look upon that wall as if you were a graffiti artist.




Frank

[Nick Brighton]

Originally Posted by Peter Bestel

Not much. Just a Pink Floyd fan.

Ahh, equally enlightening.

[moodyresources]

This is the most critical area for success of any kind! I am a big reader and one of the best books I ever read was The Power of Impossible Thinking by a couple of Wharton professors.

This book really challenged me to constantly be looking at circumstances from different angles which leads to me doing things which previously were impossible for me.

Since you are going to play the game, you should definately play to win which is becoming the best you personally can be.

[flashgordon]

Not all walls are bad... they keep some people out who should probably not be let in.

[spressnell]

That is so true about anything. Most people focus on the problem and not the solution. And some try one solution and give up without trying another one.

[Nizzura]

My wall is full of unnecessary graffiti..

talk about vandalism...

Nizzura

[Peter Bestel]

Seems that Bill Gates agrees with us 'no wallers'

Windows new tag line is 'Life without walls'

Not such a wise move though. When you consider the construction of your house - take away the walls and the windows will crash!

Peter

[Nick Brighton]

Originally Posted by Peter Bestel

Seems that Bill Gates agrees with us 'no wallers'

Windows new tag line is 'Life without walls'

Not such a wise move though. When you consider the construction of your house - take away the walls and the windows will crash!

Peter

I love the tagline "Life Without Walls", because it's a clever way of saying "Life is all windows, no walls", but also is saying "There's no boundaries or restrictions to what we can do".

Clever as hell.

[Joe Campbell]

Great motivation here! One page and a bunch of ways to deal with hurdles in your life.

[Sadat Ali]

Good analogy. And over time the wall seems to get more formidable and you just give up. But the ones who succeed enjoy the fruits of their labour. It's that mindset thing again.

Sadat

[gdwebs]

Nice posts, i think the 'ask someone the other side of the wall' will work for most

[DougBarger]

Also 95% of those who read the original post succeeded in overlooking the fact that there is no #13 either!

[Anbelle]

Good thinking, love your options ! You are right, I have noticed that most people are afraid of changing their lives. Somehow THE CHANGE is scary. Why ? Even people who are in most difficult situations don't seem to find the courage to do anything to change that. I am talking from experience here. In my marriage I was "captured" in violence. I was with this man for 10 years and the violence was there. Not all the time, but too many times over those years. Yes, of course I realised I should leave, but for some reason I was frozen. Until I took my life into my own hands and walked away. No, it wasn't easy. But what happened ? The Change was definately for the better. I found Me.
In any situation, most of us are afraid of the unknown, what comes AFTER, the Unknown, if we dare to change anything. Most of us don't realise the power we actually do have to make what we want of our own lives. We are too many times "under" somebody else's power, that we don't dare to try. Sometimes I have been called selfish to think like this, but hey... Who is the most important person in your life ? No, it's not your son, daughter, husband, wife, mother... IT'S YOU. You have to care of yourself first. If you are not ok with yourself, you CANNOT give anything to anybody around you. A Fact. You can try, but very soon you drown...
So, dream, believe in yourself and keep trying. If something doesn't work, change it. Life is too short to "keep banging your head against the wall..."
Stay active, don't be lying on the road to be driven over. Enjoy yourself, appreciate yourself. Love yourself ! Then you can enjoy, appreciate and love others !
Have a splendid day people.