Where to find affiliates marketing to consumers.

I'm looking for places to find affiliates that are selling directly to consumers.

It's not a product aimed at IM and we're not multi level. We're not interested in CPA. We want affiliates that will drive sales ethically and get paid well for it. We aren't looking for an army either, just good quality affiliates.

I'm looking at Clickbank and PayDotCom to find affiliates that are currently selling products that would serve our customer.

I'm bookmarking bloggers in niches with the right target market to offer them our affiliate program.

But I think there would be some sites or forums where affiliates go to find products to offer. I found a couple so far but the sites were down or didn't seem to exist anymore.

I would really appreciate it if anyone can tell me where not to go too. We don't want affiliates that spam with unsolicited email.

I know there are warriors here that sell directly to consumers too, but I don't know the proper way to look here without getting banned, which seems to have happened to a lot of people the last few years. Any guidance there would be appreciated too.

Thanks in advance for your suggestions and expertise.