My Business, My Love, My Nightmare...

[Candace Gill]

Hello everyone,

I bet most of you don't know me, and some are very well versed with me.
First I have to start by introducing myself to the warriors that may not know me.
My name is Candace, I have been marketing for 8 years or so. At one point my business was on top of the world. After many long nights of constant work I finally starting seeing results. My first big success was a membership site that blew up faster than I could keep up with the payments! I built my business on determination and the hope that I could help others finally earn online.
In the long run I did just that...

After selling the business I decided to duplicate my success and offer my services to others through a wso. At the time, I had just gotten out of the hospital from none other than overworking myself. - NEW WARRIORS - Be so careful! Never over work yourself!

Anyhow, I offered a wso, it consisted of turnkey membership sites. I worked on the sites and built what I thought was quality, however it fell short of the expectations of one of my clients.
After a very painful and public bashing from the client and the person that sent the client to me, I became terrified that I was ruined as a marketer. I know, I know... sob story right?

Honestly this was not a sob story for me, this was the first real disappointment of my business, and I guess I simply did not have the tough skin to deal.

I ran away, ran from my business, and just quite altogether, that was my first mistake.
I felt defeated, I had always put my heart and soul into this business and thought my good intentions would be enough to push me through, to create quality over quantity.

You are probably wondering why I am telling you all of this. First and foremost, I have missed my first love of online marketing, secondly I am tired of feeling like I can not show my face, even after providing a refund and trying to make amends for my mistake, I find that warriors are still bashing my mistake even after almost a year since i first made it.

I once was able to post my name with pride, pride in all the people that I helped at one point or another.

My passion for online business is more than being afraid of what people will or will not say. This warrior forum once was my favorite place, and I do not want to lose that.

I do not want to walk away from my passion. PERIOD!

I will continue to build sites, I will continue to brainstorm and I will continue to get excited at the idea of building something that provides financial security for me and my family.

Thank you for your time,
Candace

[SandyDuPlessis]

Hello Candace,

I do not know you. I am not aware of the drubbing that occurred in the past. One mistake in 8 years? That doesn't sound too bad.

A public bashing? I have great difficulty in condoning that sort of thing I am afraid.

If somebody needs to be disciplined, that discipline should take place in private.

So far two warriors have taken me for a ride, the second one to the tune of over $500. I did post, looking for the first warrior, but tried to avoid bashing him. Where the second warrior was concerned, I spoke to one or two other members privately about this matter, but decided to leave it alone, since he appears to have taken himself off. Perhaps one day he will have an attack of conscience and return my funds.

I applaud you for coming back. I can understand how much hurt you may have suffered, but try not to imagine that whoever hurt you then, will deliberately try and hurt you again.

Sometimes, one does become over sensitive - usually as a result of nervousness. Avoid retaliation if someone says something unpleasant. Simply ignore what is being said. If for any reason you are forced to respond, then be as polite as it is possible to be. Do not be defensive. Be proud of who you are. Stand tall.

I am certain that there are other warriors, with whom you have dealt, and with whom you have had a good relationship in the past, who will have the courage to support your return.

If you need a shoulder at any time - feel free to PM me.

Stay strong!

Look after yourself and be safe

Sandy

[blackscorpion]

They knocked you down but not out. You got bruised but time heal wounds and it makes the skin thicker. They have won if you let them steal your dreams and sap your energy.

[derekwong28]

Welcome back Candice. I am sure you are much stronger than that.

I was horrified when I saw you insulted as Sitepoint auction by a horrible person using a disgusting pornographic term. But instead of losing your composure completely, your reaction was the epitome of grace.

I am sure you will come back much stronger than ever.

Derek

[GoGetta]

Hi Candice,

I do not know you but "Whatever Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger!"

GoGetta

[Donna Dueck]

Hi Candace,

I am one the people that subscribed to one of your memberships. I didn't get what I paid for and was left hanging high and dry. I was not very happy as it was the 2nd time that month someone took my money and ran away.

Do I forgive you? Yes, it was a long time ago. Do I trust you? No, trust is a fragile thing. You will have to work hard to get that back.

Keep you head up. Work hard to build your business, do it for yourself, not for anyone else. Share your experience and knowledge with others on this forum and elsewhere, and you will slowly start to gain that trust back.

There will be some people who won't forgive and move on but that is their choice and not worth your time and energy.

Good Luck

Donna

[Candace Gill]

Donna,

Hi, I am sorry that you feel one of my memberships was not worth the money. Was is Onestopwebshop.biz? If so, I sold the site several years ago, but my name remains on the actual site.

I have had nothing to do with it since the sale almost 3 years ago.
I hope this clears up some confusion on your part. I can give you the information for the new owner.

As for everyone else thank you for the kind words. It may take some time and a long hard road, but I will make amends for the problem that got started so long ago.

This business is based on perseverance and dedication.

Thank you again,
Candace