Does your wife/husband support you?

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Does your wife or husband support you with your dreams, ideas and concrete plans?

Today, I just had a talk with my wife, and after years of saying
I would just be wasting my time, she finally gave me permission
and her blessing to go all out.

All it took was just a little explain'n that profits are better than
wages, and a decision that we are not happy with the way things
are now and we (I) need to act. (Sept. 1 is the goal for my first profit check, though I've had a few small ones in the past)

Plus I told her that my time on the computer is my time, and my time with the family is their time, and it must be separate.

What about you, have any advice on how to encourage a spouse to encourage you? Or maybe it's there or it isn't. No grey area
#support #wife or husband
  • Profile picture of the author E. Brian Rose
    My wife supports me by using the money I make to go shopping.
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    • Profile picture of the author macostello
      Brian, I'm sure she supports you in other ways too!:rolleyes:

      David, I had the same battle with my husband as he felt the time I spent on the computer should be spent with him as he was out at work all day etc, etc.

      That didn't change until I believed fully in what I was about to achieve and more importantly how it would benefit me, him, our children and us as a family.

      Once I had that faith and belief in myself, it was far easier to 'sell' him the concept of letting me work some evenings on the computer because he is now enjoying the results (Yes Brian, husbands can shop too!)

      I also ask his opinion, listen to it and actually take it on board admitting that in some circumstances he is actually right (doesn't happen too often though). So much so, we have regular brainstorming sessions together and he actually pushes me to create new products etc - quite a nice feeling.

      The quality of your life always starts with you.

      Michelle
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    • Profile picture of the author All Night Cafe
      Seat down, talk to your wife. Simpley find an interest
      she has and go do your research. Show her how many
      people are making money.

      My wife wanted to see if I could help her find a product
      she could get behind and sell. I always talked about
      how fun it was to get up in the morning and see how
      many sells came in.

      My wife wanted that fun also, we sat down and looked
      at what all she had done for other companies, deciding
      she liked numbers best, like spreadsheets, accounting, etc

      I got her a course on how to go from newbie to making
      her own sells and she has never looked back.

      The money she makes is her mad money, when she
      wants anything new she buys it with money she made.

      Show your wife how fun IM marketing is, let her spend
      all of the money on anything her little hearts desires.

      Affiliate marketing is an easy way for her to get started.

      I go with just talking to her.
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    • Profile picture of the author magnates
      Originally Posted by E. Brian Rose View Post

      My wife supports me by using the money I make to go shopping.
      Lol .am cracking up here .lol So , i guess you are enjoying full blown support
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    • Profile picture of the author blueorca17
      Originally Posted by E. Brian Rose View Post

      My wife supports me by using the money I make to go shopping.
      Haha that's funny. My boyfriend is really supportive. He recently lost his job, but my income from IM supports us both. He actually DOES give me massages when I'm stressed out and overworked. Am very lucky to be with someone who is so understanding.
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    • Profile picture of the author MonopolyMan
      Originally Posted by E. Brian Rose View Post

      My wife supports me by using the money I make to go shopping.
      I knew this post would be in here somewhere, but bravo for getting it in #2.
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  • Profile picture of the author q12321
    If you are seeking your wife or husband support with your dreams, ideas and concrete plans, perhaps IM is not for you.
    The IM is tough. Seek the fellow marketers support. Reed IM dedicated forums.
    Wifes and husbands usually do not know IM problems.
    Yes they can provide the moral support - but, is it really going to help?
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    • Profile picture of the author scrofford
      Originally Posted by q12321 View Post

      If you are seeking your wife or husband support with your dreams, ideas and concrete plans, perhaps IM is not for you.
      The IM is tough. Seek the fellow marketers support. Reed IM dedicated forums.
      Wifes and husbands usually do not know IM problems.
      Yes they can provide the moral support - but, is it really going to help?
      Are you married? I wouldn't think so with your post above, though maybe you are. Do you realize what kind of problems can be had between two spouses when one of them doesn't agree with what the other is doing? It can cause arguments, knock down drag out fights, and even divorce.

      It's very important to have your spouse behind you when building a business. So yes it will help. It will help keep the peace so you can focus on the business and it will help keep your marriage happy.
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      • Profile picture of the author mydream247
        My wife supports me but it is hard for her to watch me go to work 12 hours, and come home and work 6 hours on the computer, she does not complain until she sees me tired but she understands my passion and determination is not for me but for my family.

        I try to show her what I am doing to make money online, so she can have vested interest, although she tells me she is not interested, only in the money..lol...
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      • Profile picture of the author q12321
        Originally Posted by scrofford View Post

        Are you married? I wouldn't think so with your post above, though maybe you are. Do you realize what kind of problems can be had between two spouses when one of them doesn't agree with what the other is doing? It can cause arguments, knock down drag out fights, and even divorce.

        It's very important to have your spouse behind you when building a business. So yes it will help. It will help keep the peace so you can focus on the business and it will help keep your marriage happy.
        For me more important is the trust not support.
        My spouse trust me in all what I am doing.
        My spouse knows that I am doing this for all our family.
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      • Profile picture of the author Chaiwriter
        Originally Posted by scrofford View Post

        Are you married? I wouldn't think so with your post above, though maybe you are. Do you realize what kind of problems can be had between two spouses when one of them doesn't agree with what the other is doing? It can cause arguments, knock down drag out fights, and even divorce.

        It's very important to have your spouse behind you when building a business. So yes it will help. It will help keep the peace so you can focus on the business and it will help keep your marriage happy.
        I totally agree with this. In fact, my wife never understood what I was doing no matter how much I tried to explain it to her and no matter how much money I made. She always referred to it as a hobby. And it led to the downfall of our marriage. Of course, there were a lot of underlying factors as well, but believe me, it made things difficult.

        So, yeah, the support of a spouse is VERY important.
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  • Profile picture of the author ladywriter
    My SO despises internet marketing and would rather eat garbage than have anything to do with it. If he goes to a website with any kind of opt-in he avoids it, he has colorful things to say about 'experts', etc. But me, he's supportive of.

    And, he's incredibly intelligent and honest, which I find to be invaluable as I'm doing anything online.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jack44
      Originally Posted by Bill_Z View Post

      Yep completely. And my family too. I'm pretty lucky.
      Yep, You Sure ARE!!!!!!! More than you could ever knowl,Jack
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  • Profile picture of the author lstoops
    Yes, my husband supports me especially because I am bringing in money. So he doesn't get upset when I need to go work in the evenings or whenever. But he doesn't 'get IM' so I can't really pick his brain or ask him for feedback (which would be nice).
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    • Profile picture of the author E. Brian Rose
      Originally Posted by lstoops View Post

      But he doesn't 'get IM' so I can't really pick his brain or ask him for feedback (which would be nice).
      That can actually work to your benefit. If you are selling weight loss products, do you really want the prospect to be knowledgeable in IM? You don't want them saying, "Oh ya I see the tactic she is using here!" Use this to your advantage and ask for his non-IM opinions on your sales pages.
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  • I'm single but for my coaching students this is one of the top problems after themselves their biggest enemy is their spouse I always have to help them overcome this problem
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  • Profile picture of the author Tarik93
    well i don't have a wife lol
    but my dad seems to support me quite a bit and he's always buying helpful WSO's which is pretty cool.
    Other than that, everyone else is either confused or wants me to stop fooling about and put more focus on being "normal" hehe
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  • Profile picture of the author J Bold
    Each morning my wife gives me a massage and says "Go get 'em baby!" Then she makes me french toast and hash browns while I take a shower. If I am feeling stressed while working at the computer she lies on the floor and rubs my feet. If I am feeling down she sings me a motivational song, and she has a great voice.

    I guess I must have been dreaming. I'm single.
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    • Profile picture of the author Charlotte Jay
      Originally Posted by redicelander View Post

      Each morning my wife gives me a massage and says "Go get 'em baby!" Then she makes me french toast and hash browns while I take a shower. If I am feeling stressed while working at the computer she lies on the floor and rubs my feet. If I am feeling down she sings me a motivational song, and she has a great voice.

      I guess I must have been dreaming. I'm single.
      Oh boy. I thought you were serious for a moment. Then I read the bottom half I WISH my husband would do this for me. Unfortunately my hopes have been dashed by the sound of 2 kids under 5 and a crazy puppy. Someday, someday...
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      • Profile picture of the author Jaguar-TI
        Well I don't have a wife so I know a girlfriend is considered minor leagues, but we have been together for a long, long time so we do think of a future together.

        When I approached her with the idea she wasn't exactly thrilled. I guess she prefers an ordinary way of making money, Job/career.

        However she does support me as a person and trusts me. If I can get the results, I know she wont mind.

        Got to get those results first of course.

        Cheers,

        Jaguar
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    • Profile picture of the author Domenic Carlson
      Each morning my wife gives me a massage and says "Go get 'em baby!" Then she makes me french toast and hash browns while I take a shower. If I am feeling stressed while working at the computer she lies on the floor and rubs my feet. If I am feeling down she sings me a motivational song, and she has a great voice.

      I guess I must have been dreaming. I'm single.
      Lol. I doubt that this would happen every day even if your dream wife were real... people always want to get more and more out of a relationship, and when they don't, they get bored. So you need something to trade her for all this...
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      • Profile picture of the author J Bold
        Originally Posted by Domenic Carlson View Post

        Lol. I doubt that this would happen every day even if your dream wife were real... people always want to get more and more out of a relationship, and when they don't, they get bored. So you need something to trade her for all this...
        That's why it was a joke...
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    • Profile picture of the author betteseo
      Originally Posted by redicelander View Post

      Each morning my wife gives me a massage and says "Go get 'em baby!" Then she makes me french toast and hash browns while I take a shower. If I am feeling stressed while working at the computer she lies on the floor and rubs my feet. If I am feeling down she sings me a motivational song, and she has a great voice.

      I guess I must have been dreaming. I'm single.
      that was such a lovely story. i was incredibly jealous. for the half of minute it took me to get to the bottom.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jack44
      Originally Posted by redicelander View Post

      Each morning my wife gives me a massage and says "Go get 'em baby!" Then she makes me french toast and hash browns while I take a shower. If I am feeling stressed while working at the computer she lies on the floor and rubs my feet. If I am feeling down she sings me a motivational song, and she has a great voice.

      I guess I must have been dreaming. I'm single.
      WOW, Got Me GOOD!!!, I was going to ask if she had a sister,!?
      My Wife,allways Knocks her self down,and says its to far over her head,and Being a Newbie,I put my time in reading,and never Miss a Mike Cowles,or Keith Dougerty,webanar,and just went thru a 3 day training with the 2 !! My Wife has the cleanest farm in farmville,(Or should I call it a Plantation,Because its so big!!!!) Im not a gamer,and Have owned my own Welding and Fab co. for 35+ years,and the last three have been the absulte WORST! ,And the Co,is 107 years old!
      She Loves Mike and Keith!?????? But thinks the rest is a Big skam,and her being 100% Italian,,(Nothing against Italians,As I Love Her and Her Family And Dont want to sound like a bigot,which im NOT),But once she gets something in her head,as a couple of girls where she worked,there Husbands got layed off and tryed all kinds of internet things,All they did was run up and Max there credit card out!,,That didnt help me! My CPA,was the one that suggested Internet Marketing,and Being a good friend,As well as My Accountant, He Should also know in this Economy

      But I believe it works,and run to the WF when i get Bobbarded with the new 1 click,and your a millionair product! That every one gets! Rome wasnt built in a day,and neither is this! Yes,it would be Nice if I had that support,as when things were good in the Welding Buisnsss , She Loved it! So NO is not in my vocabulary,and not about to start,,Sorry for the long winded reply,Was going to start a New thread on this same subject,as I thoght it was only me,!
      Luckily,Just landed a BIG welding Job,so at least the $$$ is flowing, and I can keep studing! Thanks for Listining, Jack
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  • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
    My current girlfriend is VERY supportive in what I do. The last one wasn't, which is why she didn't last very long.

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  • Profile picture of the author drimaffli
    Of course my fiancée supports me because she is almost persuing IM for extra money and possibly a full time job in the future. We have two children to support so we're dividing and conquering IM. We each have our own niches, websites, etc. We have a competitive bet going on as to who can make the most money in three months.
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    • Profile picture of the author drimaffli
      Originally Posted by BIG Mike View Post

      My wife has always been supportive of anything I do and vice-versa. What's more, she understands it and helps out where she can.

      Of course, way back in the beginning, she'd say, "Honey, don't stay up to late baby." and today? "Honey, how much do you have in PayPal?" or "Can you run a sale? I want a new car!"


      I need a new car, how much you got in paypal? I want that ability one day.
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      • Profile picture of the author NickFarina
        My wife did once I sat down and explained it to her as a business and the fact that it wasnt just a get rich quick thing. I think its the same with a lot of people, the first time you are telling them what you do, because its unknown to them, they fail to see how it would work.

        Also my wife knows more than anyone knows more than anyone else, I hate being told what to do, and working for myself is my the only viable option.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kev Gowing
      Although my wife doesn't understand what I am doing, she supports me anyway.
      Don't get me wrong I am fairly new to this having only started in February and I haven't broken any records in making money.
      She knows my dream of financial security and better quality of life is the right path to take and realises that this is how I want to make my dreams come true.
      We have always been there for each other and always will be, after 30 years together it's time for us to share the best future we can.
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  • Profile picture of the author esk
    my girlfriend was supporting me from the day I started. Most of the time she has no idead what the hell I'm doing, but i really appreciate her feedback and support.
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  • Profile picture of the author Istvan Horvath
    Does your wife support you with your dreams, ideas and concrete plans?
    Which one?
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  • Profile picture of the author Gail Sober
    It's because of my wife that I even do this at all. Back in '96 she told me I should try and make some money on the internet and I said "What's the internet?".

    Sometimes I wished I'd never asked that question lol
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  • Profile picture of the author Steven Miranda
    Mental support.
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  • Profile picture of the author Reed Floren
    My fiancee supports me since we met at a seminar I was speaking and she bought my program (I guess they call that customer service lol)
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  • Profile picture of the author niplag
    I work with my husband. He is a software engineer and I used to work for a big advertising agency, so we put our skill set together. It can be hard work working with a geek though - lol.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mark20
    My wife gives me a bit of grief over my IM efforts but she does understand what I am trying to achieve. My girlfriend on the other hand completely understands (joking of course :p)

    The reason I got into IM was to build a better life for my family and to eventually give up the full time job. I am still learning but can see positive results in everything I am doing. Onwards and upwards!!
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  • Profile picture of the author Kevin Kimes
    I suspect many spouses have get-rich-quick schemes in mind when they think of 'making money online'. The entry into this kind of business is replete with scammers trying to sell us garbage for hundreds of dollars, and that has become the face of the industry to many people.

    For those who are wanting to get started, or are early in the starting stages, trying to gain support of their spouse, ask them to let you treat it as a hobby for awhile. If you're starting up while also working a day job, spend a "hobby" amount of time on it, without letting it intrude on family time.

    Once you have made some noteworthy income, show it to them. This will make it concrete for them, so you can make a case for spending real time on it, and for (eventually?) transitioning to it as a full time business.
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  • Profile picture of the author MichleJohn
    and what about singles....

    but still my girl friends support me....because she is very supported girl.....i got many new ideas by her....
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  • Profile picture of the author MikeAmbrosio
    Back in 2000 when I started (part time) she was upset most every night because I was on the computer instead of watching TV with her. One night I said, TV is your box, the computer is mine. SO, if I sit with you to watch TV, then you can sit with me to watch me on the computer...

    Well, she never did, but started to understand. I made concessions too, like making sure we have time together every day, even if it's just an hour.

    Now, we can have lunch when the kids are in school, last week we went on a 3 day trip (no kids) and tomorrow is our 9th anniversary and we get to celebrate it all day

    Now, she does my books, gives me input on certain things, and I get her eyes on some of the things I do for a "Non IM" opinion.

    She is always supportive of what I do (and vice versa). It's one reason (of many) I married her.
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  • Profile picture of the author ganesh
    Nobody supported me when I started but now my wife is showing a little interest. She has started learning the basics. Maybe I can use her help one day.
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  • Profile picture of the author Buildingfutures
    She never supported me. But Nowadays she just supports the foundation of the house.

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  • Profile picture of the author GeorgR.
    She better support me, i just bought her a new laptop

    On a serious note, yes she does....she has halfway an idea what i do and is proud.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jill Carpenter
      Oh, you better bet I'm supported with what ever it is I want to do - even if it is sitting on the couch all day eating bon bons and watching the Peoples Court (I would say soap operas but they are about to can all of those).

      Otherwise, they can kiss me good bye.

      I am me and I do what I want. They do what they want. Sometimes we do things together - but in the end we all go around once (well, maybe more than once but I have no proof otherwise) so I'm going to do what I do and I'm going to be honest with myself and sincere to me.

      That's not to say I have not made compromises and that I am a complete narcissist, but my happiness comes first - so I need to be convinced what ever is being done is somehow going to contribute to that or at minimum keep it at the level it is at or I gotta go.

      When I was a kid, my parents would tell me all the time, "If you don't like it you can go" and I actually did a couple of times, lol.

      It is imperative to surround yourself with people who accept you for who you are.

      When times get rough, I'm the first one to dig in and get my hands dirty and make a bazillion calls and inquiries to eradicate a bad situation. I expect no less from those who surround me. And those closest to me have been there to save my ass when I have needed it.

      But anyone who is with someone who will not support their dreams should stop to consider the consequences of hitting the later years and what ever regrets they may have for not doing something they really wanted to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author JamesGw
    My girlfriend uses my computer too much (she broke hers) and makes it difficult for me to work.

    Other than that, she's very supportive, although I think she's a little jealous.
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  • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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    Originally Posted by David Maschke View Post

    Does your wife or husband support you with your dreams, ideas and concrete plans?

    Today, I just had a talk with my wife, and after years of saying
    I would just be wasting my time, she finally gave me permission
    and her blessing to go all out.

    All it took was just a little explain'n that profits are better than
    wages, and a decision that we are not happy with the way things
    are now and we (I) need to act. (Sept. 1 is the goal for my first profit check, though I've had a few small ones in the past)

    Plus I told her that my time on the computer is my time, and my time with the family is their time, and it must be separate.

    What about you, have any advice on how to encourage a spouse to encourage you? Or maybe it's there or it isn't. No grey area
    I don't have a spouse to answer to and have very few bills to pay. But I have to say that if you run a household, have rent or mortgage to pay, children to raise and mouths to feed, I fully understand the anxiety a spouse would go through while waiting for a payday that may never come. If I had all of the above, I would have a JOB until the IM started working out.
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    • Profile picture of the author Robert M Gouge
      Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

      I don't have a spouse to answer to and have very few bills to pay. But I have to say that if you run a household, have rent or mortgage to pay, children to raise and mouths to feed, I fully understand the anxiety a spouse would go through while waiting for a payday that may never come. If I had all of the above, I would have a JOB until the IM started working out.
      I agree. If you are quitting a job to start IM without already having established streams of online income, you are gambling with your families welfare. There's no circumstance where this can be a good thing. I think that not only is it irresponsible, but it shows a definite lack of respect and caring toward your family.

      Not saying this is your situation OP, just agreeing with what was posted above.
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    • Profile picture of the author Gene Pimentel
      Originally Posted by sbucciarel View Post

      I don't have a spouse to answer to...
      Suzanne, I'm sorry, but the juxtaposition of your avatar and that statement just cracked me up!
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  • Profile picture of the author Fernando Veloso
    I work with my wife, so YES.

    In fact, she's right in front of me, at desk, creating some artwork for one event we're doing all the marketing; a bike adventure in the desert of Morocco.

    Cool huh?
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  • Profile picture of the author Matt Ausin
    My girlfriend supports me whatever I do, and I feel so blessed because of that. Probably because she knows that I'll always think ahead to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table, even if it meant getting a job.

    She just trusts me, is all. That's like, how normal relationships work.
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  • Profile picture of the author alcymart
    I would have to agree with a previous poster. My Wife also supports me by by going shopping with my earnings...lol

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  • Profile picture of the author mikemeth
    Yes it does support me, especially when I give her some money for shopping
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  • Profile picture of the author Audrey Harvey
    I have the most awesome husband who will do anything to give me time at the laptop. Does the laundry, irons his work clothes, makes dinner, washes the dishes, looks after the kids... even though he's not into IM, as a trained technical writer, he proof reads everything I produce which is really supportive. He's a keeper, that's for sure!
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    • Profile picture of the author myob
      My wife is my inspiration, and everyday is a new challenge to make more than she can spend. As long as I at least come close to doing that, she is in full support.
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    • Profile picture of the author betteseo
      Originally Posted by Audrey Harvey View Post

      I have the most awesome husband who will do anything to give me time at the laptop. Does the laundry, irons his work clothes, makes dinner, washes the dishes, looks after the kids... even though he's not into IM, as a trained technical writer, he proof reads everything I produce which is really supportive. He's a keeper, that's for sure!
      wanna trade? my husband is uhm.... hrm... not supportive at all. but he's really cute.
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  • Profile picture of the author ready4planb
    I'm kinda in the same boat as you. My husband has spent years with me trying to make money online. Finally he is coming around and starting to take an interest in what I am doing.
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  • Yes my partner definitely supports me in every way possible. There are some things that she knows how to do that help me in my endeavors. We work as a team no matter what. It has been awesome having her support. She is also running a business of her own and I support her in every way possible. Isn't that what Love is about? Helping eachother and making progress? You also have to put in enough time doing it to continue getting support.

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  • Profile picture of the author CatchyNameHere
    My husband supports me 100%. We have 2 children and one due soon and he does everything he can to help me out while also having his own job and other obligations which really does make things easier.
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  • Profile picture of the author oda
    After a Long time of putting up with me sitting at the computer my wife Now fully supports me as I showed some results this year at last.
    The Thing to do now is to make those happen more often and more consistently.

    My kids are also behind me as they find my paypal useful with a high aussie dollar and so many cool video games, fishing gear and gadgets available at ebay cheap.

    I decided this was my year in January and with the backing of the family I truly believe it will be MY YEAR. So far so Good.

    Oda

    P.S I tried to show my wife what I was doing Online, she is a country girl and she said this " I did not understand one word of what you just said, but if it makes you happy and pays the bills then go for it! I am going horse riding with girls the kids need lunch BYE."
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  • Profile picture of the author magnus1
    I'm really lucky in this aspect. My hubby supports me 150%. I'd do it regardless, but it definitely makes life easier when you have your partners support.


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    • Profile picture of the author jrpt
      My wife knows not a thing about IM except that she knows my goal is to get away from my FT job and get more and more into IM. Even knowing that, I requested her assistance in one small aspect of my whole IM system which she now LOVES to do and takes pride in helping me.

      She feels like a part of whole growth and without her daily does of help, I would not be where I am. Was it a calculated move on my part? ABSOLUTELY. I call it my outsourcing without having to pay or worry about the quality of the work.

      That's my advice: Involve him/her in a small (and I do mean small) aspect of your IM business and you'll reap the benefits 2x...maybe more.
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  • Profile picture of the author Giftys
    I've been lucky that my wife has always been very supportive. She moved from one coast to another with me back in '84 when I wanted to go to a music school in Hollywood. She moved to Nashville with me in '93 when I wanted to play with some artists. And when I told her I wanted to start my own business, she listened to me patiently while I convinced her that we had a shot at this. I often hear of wives that complain alot and/or discourage their husbands from leaving their cushy job to do something risky. I'm the luckiest guy in the world.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tuffy22
    She has more confidence and support for me, than I have for myself. Pretty amazing gal if I may say so myself. (and no, she's not reading this over my shoulder)
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  • Profile picture of the author Nightengale
    My ex-fiancé made no bones about the fact that he didn't agree with it (me starting a business) and he didn't think I should be doing it. Period.

    I didn't ask him for money. I didn't ask him to understand it, like it or participate. I only wanted him to support me emotionally in my dreams. ("Baby, I love you and am behind whatever you decide to do. I think you can do whatever you put your mind to.")

    I've always gotten this kind of support from my family, especially my dad. To me, love equals emotional support and belief in ME, whatever I decide to do. So his lack of support was like a cold bucket of water dashed over me.

    It was a critical factor in our breakup. I realized I couldn't live with someone who didn't love me enough to believe in me and support me for the rest of our lives.

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  • Profile picture of the author Gene Pimentel
    My wife and I both support each other completely. A few years ago, she had no idea what I spent so much time on in my office all day - she knew I was doing some business stuff on the internet, but really had no understanding of what IM was. In 2009, I spoke at an IM seminar, and she came with my for moral support.

    As she sat through the various presentations, the lightbulbs got turned on in her head, and started to really understand what this was all about. She got motivated, and has been involved in IM ever since (in fact, she's coming out with an awesome book soon, in her field of expertise (graphic design). She is a warrior as well (Roey Pimentel).

    It's a real blessing to have such a wonderful, supportive spouse! I highly recommend it ;-)
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  • Profile picture of the author betteseo
    sadly my husband doesn't understand IM and isn't supportive other than helping me spend the money I make (which is 2-4 times as much as he makes each month). I'm not sure how to help him understand or be more supportive.

    He works freelance as well (as an artist) so I've been really frustrated lately about his lack of support. I am very supportive of his work.

    any advice or suggestions would be great. my husband is Thai and I'm American. We live in Thailand... which may be part of the problem... cultural differences.
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    • Profile picture of the author Gene Pimentel
      Originally Posted by betteseo View Post

      sadly my husband doesn't understand IM and isn't supportive other than helping me spend the money I make (which is 2-4 times as much as he makes each month). I'm not sure how to help him understand or be more supportive.

      He works freelance as well (as an artist) so I've been really frustrated lately about his lack of support. I am very supportive of his work.

      any advice or suggestions would be great. my husband is Thai and I'm American. We live in Thailand... which may be part of the problem... cultural differences.
      Do you think he feels threatened by the fact that you're bringing in more money than he is? That could be the root of his lack of support. Could be a completely subconscious and/or cultural thing (ie: why would he help you to outperform him and make him look bad)
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  • Profile picture of the author Rukshan
    My GF left the relationship which was around 2 years because of IM. It seems most of computer addicted people can't manage general life.
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  • Profile picture of the author nnr21
    My wife doesnt. But she keeps an hope that I will succeed one day.
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  • Profile picture of the author jojon11
    well as long as you are bringing cash, she can't complain
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  • Profile picture of the author Paula Mae
    My husband is very supportive and has been urging me to take it full time for months. A couple years ago he didn't like how focused I was on my computer every day after work, but now he makes it very easy for me by taking over the cooking and cleanup each evening while I'm glued to the laptop. I'm lucky!
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  • Profile picture of the author Claire Sharp
    I am very much lucky with my husband because he always support me with my endeavor. With my dreams and what i want to be success. He always encourages me not to giveup when things go wrong.
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  • Profile picture of the author salmanbaig
    LOL.... I am a bachelor and have full freedom to do what I want !!
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  • Profile picture of the author matthewhell
    This is a great question. At first my wife thought I was just playing computer games. A matter a fact was I didnt tell here I was bringing in about 5000 a month for the first 9 months of my business. Then when I made more money, I had to tell her because I was buying many more things for the house and such. She was totally supprised. I started her on my website and she is now quite her job and works full time from home like me.

    I guess, I just like to suprise people. She was so happy and she said she will never doubt me again! ( not like I was doubted before or anything lol )

    I just didn't want to be known for making alot of money because of all the social crap that come with it. !

    hope this helps!
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    • Profile picture of the author BryanC
      This is awesome, I want to do this. It would take a lot of discipline and patience to keep the secret up for that long.

      Originally Posted by matthewhell View Post

      This is a great question. At first my wife thought I was just playing computer games. A matter a fact was I didnt tell here I was bringing in about 5000 a month for the first 9 months of my business. Then when I made more money, I had to tell her because I was buying many more things for the house and such. She was totally supprised. I started her on my website and she is now quite her job and works full time from home like me.

      I guess, I just like to suprise people. She was so happy and she said she will never doubt me again! ( not like I was doubted before or anything lol )

      I just didn't want to be known for making alot of money because of all the social crap that come with it. !

      hope this helps!
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  • Profile picture of the author alimnab
    Having a wife / husband who is a dinosaur in this internet age ( dont talk about IM , yet ! ) can be very challenging. Just have to let all those discouraging words fall on deaf ears for a while. Once money starts flowing ; things will change. But when will it flow ?
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  • Profile picture of the author topgold
    The funny thing is, my previous girlfriend left me when I first started doing IM. Then about a year into it, one of my female friends just totally found my enthusiasm about it "irresistible". I talk to her everyday now, and she wholeheartedly wants me to succeed. How ironic?

    My family, on the other hand... they shake their head everytime I talk about my dreams. They want me to just work a normal 9-5 job like everyone else, and they tell me that IM is just a complete waste of time!
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  • Profile picture of the author Dimitris Skiadas
    At first,when i told my girlfriend that i wanted to be a full time Internet Marketer,and it was the time i was just starting out with IM,she didn't believe me and support me at all.At the time i hadn't made any money online,so anyone around could have something to measure my success.

    The justice for me came 4 months later when she apologized for not having faith in me and for not believing i could make this thing work.Now she supports me as much as she can but still have her doubts..You see i am not a full time Internet Marketer and i have a day job.I tell her that i want to quit my job to go full time in IM but she tells me not to.Things(financially) are bad in Greece at the time so i she tells me to be patient and to do not quit my job.
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  • Profile picture of the author MatthewNeer
    I think its so important for your significant other to support you because if they don't, you're life is going to be MUCH harder.

    I would leave that person or make them believe...
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  • Profile picture of the author Rose Anderson
    As a single parent I don't have to worry about a spouse. However, my kids have been very supportive. My son who is 22 is an awesome proofreader and writer. I'll probably be adding him to my business before long. My 19 year old daughter is too busy writing her own vampire novel to be much help
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  • Profile picture of the author SchoolofKA
    I am not married but my g/f supports me 100%. As long as I make the money : )
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    • Profile picture of the author Alan Ashwood
      Sadly, not at all.

      I've tried explaining to her that in this economy, and at 62 years old, the 'normal' opportunities are limited. So I decided to try to create my own future.

      I have three small daughters, who deserve a bright future. I want them to be proud of their dad.

      To add to the problem, she has now petitioned for divorce. I really think she doesn't WANT me to succeed.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rumpleteazer
    Supported to an extent by my wife, but I think she gets fed up with me sat in front of the PC in the evening - especially when the money isn't exactly rolling in!
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  • Profile picture of the author Troy Broussard
    Originally Posted by David Maschke View Post

    Does your wife or husband support you with your dreams, ideas and concrete plans?

    Today, I just had a talk with my wife, and after years of saying
    I would just be wasting my time, she finally gave me permission
    and her blessing to go all out.

    All it took was just a little explain'n that profits are better than
    wages, and a decision that we are not happy with the way things
    are now and we (I) need to act. (Sept. 1 is the goal for my first profit check, though I've had a few small ones in the past)

    Plus I told her that my time on the computer is my time, and my time with the family is their time, and it must be separate.

    What about you, have any advice on how to encourage a spouse to encourage you? Or maybe it's there or it isn't. No grey area
    I'm very thankful to have an extremely supportive wife. But don't forget, it's a two-way street.

    Many IM'ers 'go off the deep end' and immerse themselves to the point of obsession - you have to be mindful of that and not take for granted the support you're being given.

    Also, be careful not to abuse your spending - another problem that many new to IM do - trying to "buy their way" to success.

    Good luck!
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  • Profile picture of the author dagaul101
    It's always nice when a spouse's eyes are opened to the possibilities the Internet has to offer
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  • Profile picture of the author scorpion
    My spouse does not know what I am doing. Neither does my friends know. They can't figure how you can make money facing the PC within the confine of the room, without meeting people face to face.

    That's the beauty of internet marketing. You can close deal with people you don't meet face to face.
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  • Profile picture of the author dragoncpa
    My wife always supports me. But it is very hard to earn my first dollars
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  • Profile picture of the author Fawkes63
    If you don't get the support why are you doing it?
    No really what is the point?
    If you are self-employed it should all be about lifestyle and quality of life shouldn't it?
    That means some sort of vision of a better future, so if your partner is not engaged with that then you might have some serious talking to do
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    • Profile picture of the author Silas Hart
      At first, she was like "eh, yeah.." and pretended to be interested and supportive, which I think is more than most people can say. At least she tried. A buddy of mine said he wanted to grow a bunch of tomatoes on my property to have a go at using his own tomatoes for his very good pasta sauce he would like to sell locally and his "SO" went on a rant about how stupid he is for having such a dumb idea. Once it came to me starting to buy my inventory from China, I was new to the process and didn't know how it all Really worked. I bought two shipments of stuff and I didn't really make much, but I didn't lose much either. I think it was roughly $1200 and I probably got the same return, maybe a little less. At that point, she wasn't really supportive but didn't say much until I told her about me buying a new but different kind of inventory for me to resell. She said "I think its a bad idea" - I did it anyway behind her back and made good money. It was pretty hard to contain myself from being "Look, I did it!" but not wanting to keep spending my own money I was making from my full time job knowing she would find out so I continually reinvested the money I made from my small investment until the point where I sat her down and was like "I spent this, I made this. I can continue to make this, but now you have to support me by doing more around the house and I will continue to work my full time job until we see how this plays out, and I'm going to put about $1000 a month into this for about 6 months along with the money I'm earning." - Worked out pretty well.
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  • Profile picture of the author prbinc
    Yes as a matter of fact, I just had this conversation with my wife over breakfast this morning. I have been struggling with the time commitment to get my IM business up and running as I work a full time job so my wife thinks that I should be spending time with her when I am not at work. The great thing is that I showed her exactly what I was doing and asked for her input on my business plan. She jumped in and is now my business partner.
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  • Profile picture of the author sloanjim
    wife doesn't but mistress does so all is good.
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  • Profile picture of the author sloanjim
    LOL you got me here was thinking "what a lucky b****"

    If I am feeling stressed while working at the computer she lies on the floor and rubs my feet. If I am feeling down she sings me a motivational song, and she has a great voice.

    I guess I must have been dreaming. I'm single.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kate Furst
    My husband is very supportive. He supports the three of us (him, me, baby) financially while I plug away at my IM ventures. Pretty cool!
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  • Profile picture of the author TEC
    My X-wife NEVER supported me! That's why she is my X now!!!!!
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  • Profile picture of the author Jake Toney
    Absolutely...why wouldn't a spouse be supportive? :rolleyes:...On the serious side, no one is going to continue to support pie in the sky, delusional dreams. If someone was a habitual failure and spent all their hard earned dough on scams...I could see why some may not get their spouse's support!
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  • Profile picture of the author stephfoster
    My husband supports me. We have 3 kids, and on his days off if I need work time, he does his best to let me work. Doesn't always happen, life gets in the way, but he tries.

    We also talk about my business, the challenges and sometimes he has ideas. Other times he's a sounding board for my ideas.
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