My whole freedom and schedule were ruined!!!!

by Chris Q Banned
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Here's my story:

I'm supposed to fully focus on making money as an affiliate and being a virtual assistant to my client, but it turned out that my dad wants me to duty on his internet cafe everyday during day shifts (8 hours daily). He may be a great investor and making hundreds in our currency on his work as a chief finance officer and a real estate broker, but why is it that he didn't hire another one instead of me? He did know that I earn some money on the internet, but doesn't care.

He should have hired those people who think that internet cafe was their main source of income, not me. Yeah I know that he's my dad, but he didn't care if I had making money online was my source of income. I'm also not sure if he can give me minimum wage too, which I really hate it to replace my own current income.

Because of this:

1. I don't have time to workout on the gym anymore.
2. I only have less time working on my stuff (late evenings).
3. I quit on my client's monthly huge job.
4. My goal of reaching six figures, spending vacation and buying my own car may not happen.
5. My chance of becoming a young millionaire may not happen too.
6. I may lose focus on taking action to make money online.

CONCLUSION: My dad wins, I'm just one of his "tools" to make money on traditional autopilot way....

I may not give up and having some patience to make money online, but this kind of internet cafe job really pisses me off.

I might leave them as soon I have six figure monthly income for me to focus well and not being interrupted. It's just that I hate someone (even my family members) to ruin my dreams, future and goals in life.
#freedom #ruined #schedule
  • Profile picture of the author areoo
    hey man relax man...
    **** happens..
    it depends on your priorities too right
    so yeah , i am sure you will get things figured out soon
    just dont give up on whatever you are doing
    and im sure when you are back on track your clients would want to have you again
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  • Profile picture of the author paulmontoya
    Hey - stop whining and get on with it. If you old man is a businessman, have a direct business-focused discussion and make your case. ideally, line up someone else who can do the internet cafe job well....and actually wants to.

    If your old man doesnt see your point of view, consider subcontracting your job to someone else so that you can remain on the premises , taking a supervisory role. You focus on developing your own business and pay your new member of staff whatever your dad pays you...or even a bit more , subsidised from your own online earnings.

    dont know your family background, but my gut feeling is that you need to support your dad, not whine about him. And perhaps he needs to lighten up a bit as well and give you more scope to either succeed or fail on your own. Compromise is the name of the game. Hope it works out for you both.
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    • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
      Have you ever wondered if he's getting you ready to take over his businesses?

      Have you ever wondered how lucky you are to have the prospect of doing that?

      Just saying.

      Some people don't even have parents to support them, you seem pretty well placed to me.
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      • Profile picture of the author Chris Q
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        Originally Posted by Richard Van View Post

        Have you ever wondered if he's getting you ready to take over his businesses?

        Have you ever wondered how lucky you are to have the prospect of doing that?

        Just saying.

        Some people don't even have parents to support them, you seem pretty well placed to me.
        Yeah I know..but when I'm going to be a millionaire? On his current age of 56 years? I'm not going to sit here and watch myself employed for survival for 5 to 10+ years here.

        I didn't even want myself to fail reaching six figure savings in this year, coz' if I do I will be disappointed..thus making my dad even more richer than I am. I have been waiting so many years to surpass his financial income to prove I'm better than him, which internet marketing has given me some light.

        I know it takes time, but not like 10 years or more to reach that goal. I also don't like to end up like some 5 to 10 years ago that ask him for allowance and to limit my opportunities. I know his goal for me, which is to let me fail in my career and to focus on the old traditional way of income which is known as minimum wage.

        Just being sick and tired of just contention, I never stop till I surpass his financial earnings!!!

        CALL ME STUPID..COZ' I'M NOT SELF EMPLOYED ANYMORE.
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        • Profile picture of the author Apollo-Articles
          I'm not sure if this is a culture thing that you feel if asked you must work at the Cafe but if you have enough income to support yourself without the internet cafe I'd strongly suggest you leave the job immediately.

          Seriously explain to your father your business and show some income proof more likely than not he doesn't realize that its's a business rather than a hobby.

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        • Profile picture of the author davezan
          Originally Posted by lamposproject View Post

          I know his goal for me, which is to let me fail in my career and to focus on the old traditional way of income which is known as minimum wage.
          As in he really said that's his goal for you? Or...is that what you think, perceive,
          etc.?

          As few mentioned, couldn't you politely say no and maybe explain WIIFM? Or in
          this case WIIFH as in What's In It For Him, especially if you are still living in his
          household?

          Or...you could perhaps use your time managing your Dad's internet cafe to also
          do your online ventures as well. Who knows?
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  • Profile picture of the author Gary Ning Lo
    I suggest talking to him about a partnership

    I'm sure that you will learn alot from him.

    Cheers,

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  • Profile picture of the author designfuschion
    Setbacks are often an opportunity to re-evaluate and replan strategies.

    It sucks you had to lose a huge job. Like i said before,this can be an opportunity to use what time you do have to earn money through another method. Don't give up. I've read many stories on here where people have become successful and only had a few hours a day to achieve it. This is what is propelling me forward.

    Maybe read four hour workweek by tim ferris. He has great time management methods in that book.
    He's also got some new book on fitness. No doubt he's most likely got methods to get fit using minimal time.
    A way to work around not getting to gym is do an intense 15min workout each day. I'm sure i read somewhere intensifying excercise in short blocks is just as effective.

    Also, I don't know your dad but I'm guessing he wants you in the job becuase of your interest in the internet. He probably hasn't realised properly that you had clients earning you good money - parents are good at not fully listening to kids(no matter the age). I reckon he thinks he is doing a good thing giving you a regular income.

    I know it seems like it sucks but I reckon you need to figure out a new gameplan.
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  • Profile picture of the author Claire Sharp
    Maybe he is trying to start you familiarize his business in a way that he can leave anytime without worrying where to leave his business. You are lucky because it is you that your dad choose to be his manager.
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    • Profile picture of the author Chris Q
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      Originally Posted by Apollo-Articles View Post

      I'm not sure if this is a culture thing that you feel if asked you must work at the Cafe but if you have enough income to support yourself without the internet cafe I'd strongly suggest you leave the job immediately.

      Seriously explain to your father your business and show some income proof more likely than not he doesn't realize that its's a business rather than a hobby.

      Sam
      I've already showed him everything, but he doesn't care. He just wanted me to shift my first priority to his business than mine.

      Originally Posted by Claire Sharp View Post

      Maybe he is trying to start you familiarize his business in a way that he can leave anytime without worrying where to leave his business. You are lucky because it is you that your dad choose to be his manager.
      Consider me lucky, but cannot surpass his financial earnings for sure.
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  • Profile picture of the author WebPen
    A lot- and I mean MOST- IMers have to start while having a day job of some type.

    Either that or they're in school.... pesky kids...........

    So yeah, no worries man. Just remember your priorities- you have a very unique opportunity to learn offline business from your dad AND online in your spare time.

    Win-win I say!
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    • Profile picture of the author Chris Q
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      Originally Posted by AYoungMillionaire View Post

      A lot- and I mean MOST- IMers have to start while having a day job of some type.

      Either that or they're in school.... pesky kids...........

      So yeah, no worries man. Just remember your priorities- you have a very unique opportunity to learn offline business from your dad AND online in your spare time.

      Win-win I say!
      For two years of learning, sacrifice and dedication as an IMer, I ended my term as "self-employed" and now working for "someone"? With all the time and money I've spent and invested in the IM world, do I deserve to end up here and ruined all my dreams, schedules and freedom?

      My dad is on a win-win role because he earns a lot of money as a chief finance officer and real estate broker, I'm not. I'm not going to end up all the time saying, 'Dad, where's my weekly salary?" and it really pisses me off.

      His minimum wage is only good enough for me to survive by paying my own health and social security bills and even personal goodies, not for profit and goals that I'm looking for.

      Once again, call me STUPID because I'm not my own "boss" anymore..compare to my good ol' years being my own "boss" and works anytime I want to. I do believe that young people like me deserve to become young millionaires, not always ending up on the day jobs.
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      • Profile picture of the author Jill Carpenter
        If my current income was more than what daddy was going to pay me, I'd tell daddy it was all taken care of.

        Then, I'd keep doing my own thing and outsource someone else to take care of the other site (business).

        And if it is an internet cafe, why not sit there and do your work? lol
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  • Profile picture of the author ProvenViral
    Dude that sucks ... maybe it's because of culture since your from the phlippines and he expects you to run the family business lol ... Here in America I would say F U to that idea ... just my opinion.
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  • Profile picture of the author JamesGw
    You could have just said no.
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  • Profile picture of the author rosetrees
    How old are you? If you are legally an adult and you can earn enough money to support yourself, then have you considered leaving home?

    If you feel you have no option but to work in your dad's business then think laterally. Maybe set up some seminars on Internet Marketing. Use what you know to help customers and at the same time push your affiliate links.

    Life sucks sometimes - but you have to roll with the punches, pick yourself up, think laterally and move on. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and find a way to use the situation to your own advantage.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rose Anderson
    Are you still living at home? If so, are you contributing to the household income with your IM earnings or were you expecting your parents to continue to support you without any present contribution? I don't intend that to sound mean, but it might help us know where your dad is coming from.

    Instead of using you as a tool...he might just be worried about you learning a way to make a living since he probably doesn't understand IM enough to see it as a viable option. As you start making more money with IM you may be able to explain to him better when you can show concrete earnings as opposed to future earnings.

    I do feel your pain, though, like a lot of people on this forum, I built my IM business while working a full-time job (and I was also a single mom) so it can be done. At least you're young and have lots of energy...some of can't even say that

    Good luck, I hope you find a way to continue to build your business.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    What exactly do you do for your dad? Seems to me if you're just hanging out at the cafe and tending to customers you'd have time to work your business at the same time.

    Other than that, there are too many missing pieces to your story to be able to offer suggestions.
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  • Profile picture of the author marketingva
    This must be a cultural thing but I stopped letting my parents tell me what to do when I was 17 and moved out on my own 300 miles away. I'm an adult so they would never dare to tell me where to work and I don't even tell them any details of my life. They are my parents and I am a grown woman. I would tell your dad "Thanks, but no thanks" and move on.

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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      It's seldom I see such a clear entitlement attitude.

      Father is saying "time for the gravy train to stop". This view of "being my own boss" was possible only because the OP's lifestyle was paid for - complete with allowance.

      The idea that you become a young millionaire because you "deserve" it - or that you are too good to work a regular 8 hr a day job - is off course. I think the complaints sounds like a spoiled rich kid.

      I've read previous posts by the OP - and several are in this same vein.

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  • Profile picture of the author Jaymark
    You are young with lots of energy I would imagine. You may be working for your Dad eight hours a day but what about the other 16 hours? Yes you obviously need time for sleep but there are still 6 - 8 hours for you to pursue your dreams of building a business on the Internet. Get focused and make the best use of your spare time and you'll get there. Good luck!
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    • Profile picture of the author manicman1
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      are you serious DUDE....you already live in the Philippines and your dad just gave you a work space with Internet connectivity and PC's all you need now is a work force and you can become the IM millionaire you so crave utilizing the resources you already have had given over to you by your father.

      put up a posting for workers and start interviewing and start beating the bushes for work they can do (writing, SEO, VA's, programming...etc..) I see services and outsourcing listed on here all the time.and people buy it up like crazy... and you can run your business rather than working in your business...stop your whining and open your mind and think about how many butts you can put in those work stations and start cranking out product and services to marketers and clients around the world...Ramp it up man lets get this show on the road.....sometimes what we think is a curse is truly a blessing..it is up to you as to how you see it and what you do with it
      Make your Dad proud and show him what you can do with Internet Marketing...you might open his eyes

      Best of luck my friend...
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      • Profile picture of the author Alfredo Carrion
        Originally Posted by manicman1 View Post

        lamposproject

        are you serious DUDE....you already live in the Philippines and your dad just gave you a work space with Internet connectivity and PC's all you need now is a work force and you can become the IM millionaire you so crave utilizing the resources you already have had given over to you by your father.

        put up a posting for workers and start interviewing and start beating the bushes for work they can do (writing, SEO, VA's, programming...etc..) I see services and outsourcing listed on here all the time.and people buy it up like crazy... and you can run your business rather than working in your business...stop your whining and open your mind and think about how many butts you can put in those work stations and start cranking out product and services to marketers and clients around the world...Ramp it up man lets get this show on the road.....sometimes what we think is a curse is truly a blessing..it is up to you as to how you see it and what you do with it
        Make your Dad proud and show him what you can do with Internet Marketing...you might open his eyes

        Best of luck my friend...
        I couldn't agree with you more.

        To the OP - You've just got to stop whinging like a little baby.
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        • Profile picture of the author SeoVancouverWa
          Come on dude!! I hate to crack on Filipinos because I LOVE them! Great people, hard working, rarely complain....what the heck is wrong with you? You are sorta embarrassing yourself and your terrific country. Jesus.

          As an American that spends a lot of time in the beautiful Philippines I have been in my fair share of internet cafes. I have no doubt you could continue your internet marketing career AND take care of the internet cafe with NO problems at all. My goodness!!

          You sound like a spoiled brat American kid, not like a filipino that has pride and works hard for themselves and their family.

          Grow up son...and get to work in that cafe and KEEP on working on your internet business. And be darn happy you have an opportunity that many of your friends and countrymen would give a lot for.

          Your whining is pathetic.
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  • Profile picture of the author anhart23
    You lose something to gain something. Nothing comes easy friend. And in case you are sick and tired of it all, simply back off and do what you want to do
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  • Profile picture of the author ladywriter
    Perhaps you wrote that in the passion of the moment?

    I hope you've had a chance to calm down and adjust your thinking--because that is the only thing that would keep you from your goals. Take some responsibility for the direction of your own life.
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    • I've never heard of anyone whining their way to riches.

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      • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
        It sounds to me like this whole IM thing is just a smokescreen. What it's really about is wanting to show you're "better" than your father.

        When a young buck starts to feel some power and wants to challenge for the right to lead the herd, there are two choices:

        Challenge the lead buck and accept the consequences.

        Go find/start your own herd.

        Whining on a forum board looking for sympathy isn't one of the useful options.

        So dry your eyes, wipe your nose, grow some stones and get off your ass. Either challenge your father and take the consequences or grab a damn broom, start sweeping and quit complaining.

        You want to sit at the grown-ups' table? Act like one...
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  • Profile picture of the author LauraJames
    Stop complaining. Actually, you should not have been complaining to begin with. Instead, be grateful for the lessons and the opportunity. Get off the "entitlement bandwagon" and realize what opportunities you have. Building a business takes work, effort, and positive attitude. Based on your continual complaints, you do not seem to understand, or embrace, the importance of these factors both personally and professionally.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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    Always look on the bright side. This job is just another income stream. You'll find a way to adjust, and do as much work in less time per week. As a matter of fact you can take the money you are making the cafe and invest it in your online business. Just keep focus on growing; at some point you'll be making so much money you can go to your dad and show him that its just not worth it to work in the cafe. If he doesn't like it? Screw him!
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    • Profile picture of the author Chris Q
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      Originally Posted by SeoVancouverWa View Post

      Come on dude!! I hate to crack on Filipinos because I LOVE them! Great people, hard working, rarely complain....what the heck is wrong with you? You are sorta embarrassing yourself and your terrific country. Jesus.

      As an American that spends a lot of time in the beautiful Philippines I have been in my fair share of internet cafes. I have no doubt you could continue your internet marketing career AND take care of the internet cafe with NO problems at all. My goodness!!

      You sound like a spoiled brat American kid, not like a filipino that has pride and works hard for themselves and their family.

      Grow up son...and get to work in that cafe and KEEP on working on your internet business. And be darn happy you have an opportunity that many of your friends and countrymen would give a lot for.

      Your whining is pathetic.
      Originally Posted by Alfredo Carrion View Post

      I couldn't agree with you more.

      To the OP - You've just got to stop whinging like a little baby.
      Originally Posted by JohnMcCabe View Post

      It sounds to me like this whole IM thing is just a smokescreen. What it's really about is wanting to show you're "better" than your father.

      When a young buck starts to feel some power and wants to challenge for the right to lead the herd, there are two choices:

      Challenge the lead buck and accept the consequences.

      Go find/start your own herd.

      Whining on a forum board looking for sympathy isn't one of the useful options.

      So dry your eyes, wipe your nose, grow some stones and get off your ass. Either challenge your father and take the consequences or grab a damn broom, start sweeping and quit complaining.

      You want to sit at the grown-ups' table? Act like one...
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      I've never heard of anyone whining their way to riches.

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      Originally Posted by Joe128139 View Post

      Always look on the bright side. This job is just another income stream. You'll find a way to adjust, and do as much work in less time per week. As a matter of fact you can take the money you are making the cafe and invest it in your online business. Just keep focus on growing; at some point you'll be making so much money you can go to your dad and show him that its just not worth it to work in the cafe. If he doesn't like it? Screw him!
      HAHAHA! "Stop whining", "crybaby", "spoiled American brat", "grow up son".....these messages makes me LAUGH...THANKS FOR MOTIVATING ME GUYS!!!!

      I just posted this thread because I want to re-motivate, re-adjust and re-focus myself through all of your messages guys

      Don't worry, as long I'm a Warrior I never give up. LMFAO
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  • Profile picture of the author Jake Gray
    You cannot get better answers from anyone else but your Dad. If you have
    an issue with it, tell him. Although it does seem a bit odd, perhaps he is trying
    to prepare you to take over the business. Just something to think about.
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  • Profile picture of the author AmandaT
    Many people in IM work full time jobs and still make tons of money online! This job is not ruining your career, you just need to spent some time learning to manage yourself and your time spent better and maybe do a little more outsourcing work.
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    • Profile picture of the author Ben Armstrong
      You should talk to your father first.

      Don't just tell him WHAT you want to do. Tell him WHY it's important to you.

      Once you've done that.... follow John McCabe's advice.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rob Whisonant
    Let's really look at this. You have 24 hours in a day. Your dad is taking 8 of them. Sleeping takes another 8. Let's add in another 1 hour for travel. That still leaves you 7 hours a day to go to the gym and work your Internet business.

    You are young. So where is the problem?

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