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lack of focus is the issue

by thesuccesscoach
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been thinking about this one for a long time, but i think what holds so many people back is the lack of focus on one business model and not believing in themselves.

Here's the scenario, buy into an idea, a wso, a course, the next big thing, trying it out, not giving it enough time and then seeing something else and going after that, then not giving that enough time....

it's a vicious circle and then what happens? you get down on yourself and feel annoyed about being fooled by the next big thing, until you get that email

this vicious circle can happen again and again and again.

there's also the element of self belief and belief in general. can people really make this money? they must be brighter than i am!, i can't do that, and herein lies the self belief and self confidence.

for many internet marketing is lonely, sitting at home, working your but off to make a few dollars and then assessing that the amount of hours, weeks and months that you have put is not paying off.

what advice would you give to people who feel like this?
what advice have you taken when you felt like this?

what's your solution or answer!
#focus #issue #lack
  • Profile picture of the author OO
    You hit the nail on the head. Limiting beliefs are a large part of why some cannot ever find the path to success.
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    • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
      OO i think so too, there's plenty of ideas, plenty of strategies but all it takes is for your mind to say i don't think that would work, sure it might work, but i don't know

      and then you're snookered so to speak

      how would you break that or have you broken that negative thought
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  • Profile picture of the author tunc_los@yahoo.com.au
    If I can use the analogy of filling water into a half a dozen cups (the cups representing “the next big thing”) One will never fill a cup fully if he or she is moving from one cup to the other.

    “That which we persist in doing becomes easier for us to do; not that the nature of the thing itself is changed, but that our power to do is increased.
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    • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
      hum nice quote, and he who persists in moving from one thing to another becomes better and better at it

      i guess they train their mind to keep moving from one thing to another

      hum interesting
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  • Profile picture of the author Mahara Adhe
    I think that it's important for people to take into account their skills and what they truthfully are willing to do. If you are extremely shy and hate cold calling, then it's probably not a good idea to jump on products that feature that until you feel that it's something you will put into action with confidence. Once they assess those things, they can better put effort toward something that they have a high chance of working through.

    In addition to confidence, desperation definitely plays a big part in things. People need to get their offline life sorted before dumping funds into the online world. Once you have your finances in order, it's easier to not get pulled in by the next big thing (as you don't need money NOW and can focus on the long game).

    So....I think that taking those two items into account will help slow down negative thinking and actions with IMing (is IMing even a used term? Ha!)...
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    • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
      hum yes i do like this to sort out your offline life first, so many have problems in the offline life that they think they can build a new persona i guess online and that the two can be seperated but you´re right it´s not true

      you need to have the mind in the right place and work from there

      Originally Posted by Verice Lewis View Post

      I think that it's important for people to take into account their skills and what they truthfully are willing to do. If you are extremely shy and hate cold calling, then it's probably not a good idea to jump on products that feature that until you feel that it's something you will put into action with confidence. Once they assess those things, they can better put effort toward something that they have a high chance of working through.

      In addition to confidence, desperation definitely plays a big part in things. People need to get their offline life sorted before dumping funds into the online world. Once you have your finances in order, it's easier to not get pulled in by the next big thing (as you don't need money NOW and can focus on the long game).

      So....I think that taking those two items into account will help slow down negative thinking and actions with IMing (is IMing even a used term? Ha!)...
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      • Profile picture of the author Shane Hon
        I think reasons and emotions attahced to it play a very big part with building focus. The more reasons we can find to support why we would want to choose one method over the other, the stronger our emotions will be, which drives us to persist and pursue.

        Sometimes by reverse engineering a goal from a particular method can help to see why we chose that method in the first place and find more reasons to support this goal. Hope this helps

        Shane
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        • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
          So if people don´t have a big enough reason to do it they won´t follow through

          what if they have a huge reason but just can´t follow thru

          sure we´ve seen the sales letters in the format of "down and out turns their life around" etc etc

          but what if you do have a good reason but just get blocked, stuck, hit a wall, then what

          what if you have finally become saturated by the muck that´s out there that is promising untold riches and you´ve tried it and tried it and nothing has worked, but you have tried..


          just playing devils advocate here
          Originally Posted by shane1801 View Post

          I think reasons and emotions attahced to it play a very big part with building focus. The more reasons we can find to support why we would want to choose one method over the other, the stronger our emotions will be, which drives us to persist and pursue.

          Sometimes by reverse engineering a goal from a particular method can help to see why we chose that method in the first place and find more reasons to support this goal. Hope this helps

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          • Profile picture of the author Shane Hon
            Everyone has reasons for doing what they choose and like you said, a lot of them have a good reason to it too and that's great! Having one good reason is a good starting point. However, we will find more reasons to why we chose a particular goal we are passionate about as we go along.

            We are gonna be faced with obstacles we see as problems. This is when, by having more reasons, we build on our emotions and beliefs, which strengthens our focus.

            We all have several goals we want to accomplish and maybe by finding the one that has the most reasons, would help narrow down to what we can build focus on

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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    I like it a lot Shane, very interesting

    it really is all about mindset
    understanding what we are capable of
    which a lot of people dismiss

    as henry ford said (more or less) if you think you can you can, if you think you can´t then you are right.

    It all depends what´s going on in your head, if your head is all over the place no matter if you work online or offline you will not get the best results

    I think the advice of sorting yourself out first, knowing what you want and planning are very important before jumping in on the next big thing.

    To be honest, there is probably very little original thought out there, many of the courses you buy now, or books you read are continuations or building upon ideas that have already been discussed.

    this is very true in the self help industry, where many of the top earners are all saming the same thing fundamentally but with a new twist.

    this too can be the key for you. Find an area you are good at and then put your twist on it, i guess that´s really where the proper use of PLR comes in
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    • Profile picture of the author Shane Hon
      True, very true coach! I like the way you put it, direct and straight to the point

      I have a huge white board in my room. When something is troubling me but i know the answers are at the back of my head, i'll head to the white board and mind map whatever reasons and ideas that come to mind. Sometimes, i even have to take a snapshot of it, erase the board and continue! Ha Ha!

      When i find something thats well laid out, i'll leave it on the board so that it's the first thing i see in the morning.

      Cheers
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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    looks like we are on the same wave lenght

    regarding what you said that the answers are at the back of your mind it´s true

    every met someone and then thought what is their name, you forget about it and then bingo you are doing some unrelated and you think John, that´s his name

    the mind works away and thinks about what ever we put into it. Thus this can work in a very positive way, however very distructive as well, if you think you can´t succeed in IM then you put that thought in your mind and your brain works away finding reasons why you are actually right

    so becareful about what you think about....
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    • Profile picture of the author Shane Hon
      You're absolutely right! The sub-consious mind is so powerful that we have to be careful how we feed our consious mind. The Law of Attraction is also something that we do on daily basis that can lead us to how we want to determine our lifestyle

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  • Profile picture of the author AndyBlackSEO
    Yes, or focusing on 'too' many things diluting the level of success for any particular method or project. This is where milestones come in handy.
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  • Profile picture of the author Coffmansan
    Agreed. The key is to get one success fully active. Until you do that, your level of belief will only be able to go so far.

    Focus on getting that one offer or site or product to start bringing in some revenue, though, and all of a sudden your belief in yourself and your ability to make IM work suddenly takes off.
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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    very true that we can focus on too many things but also true we can over focus on one thing and put all the effort into the wrong area and not see the wood from the tree

    so then how do you know what to focus on !!!
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    • Profile picture of the author bobcath
      Hi you asked this question. I think this is one of the most important but overlooked questions that most of us fail to address. Its great to put in lots of effort and to focus on our chosen area, but what's peoples' view of getting around to WHAT to focus on.

      Its sort of parallel to being clear about your 'purpose'.

      I'd like to hear more about how we decide on what to focus on....

      all the best

      Bobby

      Originally Posted by thesuccesscoach View Post

      very true that we can focus on too many things but also true we can over focus on one thing and put all the effort into the wrong area and not see the wood from the tree

      so then how do you know what to focus on !!!
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      • Profile picture of the author JohnWiz
        Great discussion going on here

        Let me just add one point to it regarding "there's also the element of self belief and belief in general. can people really make this money?"

        For anyone feeling held down by this self-belief, in my opinion, the surest way to evaporate it is to persevere with whatever your project is... until you finally make that first dollar.

        I suspect I'm not the only one when I say this - when you've at last made that first dollar online, you instantly know... almost for sure... making a living online truly is possible.
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  • Profile picture of the author echelon
    I think too that lack of focus can be a problem. In my opinion, lack of focus can happen when the person has not gotten yet to a method that worked well.

    The advice of course, for myself and others who find it hard to concentrate on one thing is to focus.
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    • Profile picture of the author fin
      What's that old saying?

      10% inspiration, 90% perspiration.

      I guess we just need to aim for this, instead of the other way around.
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  • Profile picture of the author sharpturn
    If something is going on in your offline life that is bothering you then chances are your online work will be greatly effected.

    You can try to ignore it while you are working online but the truth is that the issue will still be at the back of your mind which will limit your ability to work at your full potential.

    As mentioned in the posts above, in order to move forward, for a person to create a success in their life, (whatever it may be), he/she needs to have their offline life sorted out.

    I'm not saying that it isn't possible to make a success of yourself if your whole offline life is a mess because this is definately not so.
    You can achieve anything you want to if you put your mind to it but I do think it will take much longer and will be just that more difficult.

    Esentially, your working on two big projects at once. Trying to get your life in order and trying to build a business, (offline or online).

    I have total respect for those who have had to work through traumatic times in their lives and have not only come out of it still smiling but have also made a success of themselves in their chosen field.
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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    thanks everyone for the great comments, it´s interesting to see what people think

    so thoughts for the new year
    plan
    focus
    execute
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    sitting here making my plans for the new year will share once i have them done!
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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    what to focus on, and how to find the right thing are the interesting issues

    too many people buy into the im market, buy some mmr and then resell to others, heck i've refused to coach people who were selling im products and had never made a buck but were sticking up sales pages regarding how to make an online income!

    firstly i guess start with something you know about and do your research to see if theres a market, these days there's a market for nearly everything

    from there learn the basics of affiliate marketing and driving traffic. set yourself a target of how long you are going to stick at your chosen market. you don't want to pull out after a week, but then again you don't want to persisit at it for ten years and make no money

    listen to what others have said, perhaps join a mastermind or forum to get help from like minded people. you don't necessarily have to pay 400$ a month for the mastermind, at this point also decide how much money you can spend on such a thing.

    from there ask for and give support from and to others

    that's a start anyways
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    • Profile picture of the author jhuman
      Good post!

      I think the biggest obstacle in becoming a successful IM'r is making the decision to stick with one business model and not paying attention to the other stuff that gets promoted to you. That was the tricky part because almost every WSO looked like it was going to work but as I tried many different methods and failed at many (learned alot), most likely because I didn't focus 100%, I learned that this was part of the process of figuring out what worked for me. It's like studying a certain subject then finding other books who talk about the same subject but with a different perspective. There are bits and pieces which make the puzzle complete in this game.

      I discovered that the keys to success was as simple as this:

      1) pick one IM'r that you want to model
      2) learn seriously about what makes this IM'r successful
      3) model the IM'r

      People copy each other all the time because to become successful, you have to know what success looks like. After you have become that model, tweak it and sign it with your personality because, listen, the source of success is a naturally driven principle grounded on a solid foundation. That foundation could only be developed if you know what it is AND it is NOT what you see on TV.
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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    i do agree once you have made your first dollar online you can believe money can be made, but how would you recommend people go from the hit and miss to the steady flow of those dollars
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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    ah another good point
    model an expert, study them and replicate them as best you can

    very nice input like it a lot
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  • Profile picture of the author Dubois
    the this is I just got a go
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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    dubois

    sounds liek you just need some reassurance and a bit of a self confidene boost, sounds like you have a wealth of knowledge
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  • Profile picture of the author Dubois
    I try not to lie and not to scam people, but from what I see I'm "endangered species" nowadays. All I wanted to do, it's to make sites and have stable income from it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dubois
      What would I tell myself if I can time travel 12 month in past.

      Listen:
      Decide what you want to do, and do only that one thing - ignore the rest. + Try to learn only one skill and try to be as good as you can - then move. Programming, Designing, CSS, HTML try to learn that one skill best you can and you'll never be hungry. Don't be like dog, pissing around just to mark it.

      One more thing...Don't buy those ****ty tools, they don't need you...Unless you want to provide seo service.
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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    looks likes you have ethics too Dubois, i like that in a person, take this to heart
    there is no such thing as failure only feedback
    so look back on your year and see what successes you had and how you can improve and learn from things that did not quite go the way you wanted

    then move forward to a better year!
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    • Profile picture of the author Dubois
      Mostly my success are I bough ZenoPoster in last quarter of year, and I learn to make bots.
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  • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
    Well then Dubois

    there´s your plan for the next year too! just modify slightly!
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  • Profile picture of the author DavidG
    1. Write down in a piece of paper IN detail everything you see in a single day, ten years from now.

    2. Read that everyday two times a day.


    Just these two steps alone can help your sub conscience mind build habits that will allow you to do things you never thought possible.

    regZ
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    • Profile picture of the author thesuccesscoach
      Future pace yourself I love that idea, very very nice

      Originally Posted by regZ View Post

      1. Write down in a piece of paper IN detail everything you see in a single day, ten years from now.

      2. Read that everyday two times a day.


      Just these two steps alone can help your sub conscience mind build habits that will allow you to do things you never thought possible.

      regZ
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
    Get the WSO to support and help you fulfill your idea, not the other way around. Stick with something: don't jump from WSO to WSO as the next "savior" idea.
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