How do I find my "passion"?? I don't like Anything?? I am stumped!

Profile picture of the author Shuayb by
Hi all,

I apologize for this being my first post and not offering much value or introducing myself properly, but I have been trying to figure this out for a good few years now to no avail, and I am hoping the minds here can help me out, God-willing.

I have tried to get into IM full time for the past 7 year or so, but it has never taken off. I make a little bit of money online every month, but nothing to replace my full-time income with.

Nothing can hold my attention. Every time I start a project, I am all excited about it and go at it with full force; but once that initial adrenaline and rush is gone, I can't seem to take interest in it no matter how hard I try and it either gets left halfway done, or gets completed but not as well as I thought it would since I just can't keep interest in it.

Not boasting here, but I sincerely and humbly hope you'll understand the point. I am a very smart guy, thank God. I can read well, I can write well, I can understand many different things and ideas well, I can comprehend what many others have difficulty comprehending (again not boasting at all but trying to make my point). I have knowledge in "traditional" webdesign, I understand Wordpress and can go from purchasing a domain name to having Wordpress installed and configured in a matter of a few minutes (like anyone else I'm sure, but again trying to make my point here).

I write very well (or so I've been told), I'm a platinum level author on Ezine Articles, applied at TextBroker a few days ago just to see what happens and the 200 word writing sample I wrote in my sleep got me rated as a level 4 by them, I have written articles for others (rarely) in the past and they loved what I wrote... but yet I can't figure out what to write about. I had applied at Text Broker thinking I would write a couple of articles for them daily to earn a little bit of extra cash on the side and maybe get into the "writing mode" for my own sites, but I sit there and go through their assignments in all categories and nothing appeals to me for some reason.

This is my main issue that I'm trying to get to: I cannot, for the life of me, figure out what my "passion" is!

I'm not a "loner" or a "weird guy" or any characteristics which one may associate with someone who doesn't "like" anything or doesn't have a passion. I'm actually a very normal, fun guy, have a nice family and friends, people like me and respect me. Again, not boasting, but trying to drive home the point that I am a "normal" guy who apparently doesn't like anything enough for it to hold his interest? How is that possible? :confused:

I have even done some of those exercises here and there, where you sit down and make a list of everything that pops into your head and then try to narrow down something you would love to do from there, but never was able to figure out something to which I would just say "oh my God this is it, I can't wait to do this and keep doing it from this point forward!". You know how they say your true passion is what you would do whether you were getting paid to do it or not? That's what I'm looking for but apparently having a bit of trouble finding it.

Even if I arrive at something which I think I like, as I said, after a while, sometimes hours, sometimes days, weeks at most, I completely lose interest in it to the point where I don't even want to look at it. I have many websites, some finished, some unfinished, many domains which I researched and they highly appealed to me at the time so I purchased them but then I lost interest and they're just sitting there.

I have the ability to write well, thank God, but as I said, I cannot figure out what to write about, nor do I like to write to be honest, even though I have the ability to write well (hope that makes sense). I feel that if I could find a topic which I was extremely passionate about, combined with my writing & researching skills, I could really develop a huge, successful authority site in that niche... but I have tried and tried, researched niches after niches for years and years, and for some reason I'm not passionate about anything?? How is that possible? :confused:

I'm just not understanding why I keep selling myself short, when I know I am capable of so much more. Thank God, I have a day-job with a decent salary, but there are just certain circumstances with myself and some loved ones where I seriously need to jump in and help out (with financial support), and I know that financial support and more can come from a successful internet business, but I just can't figure it out!

From the beginning of 2012 I have been on a leave of absence from my day job due to certain reasons, and I have about 6 weeks or so left before I go back to work. So I have the luxury of more or less dedicating as much time as needed to IM during this time, and I also have about $1000, more if justified, to invest into anything which may be needed, so, thank God, I am not as cash-strapped as many are when they try to go into IM.

I need to make something happen in these few weeks, otherwise I will get sucked back into the day-job again and that will probably be it. I need help.

I'll stop talking (writing) now as I've babbled enough already, but I certainly hope I was able to make my point. In the end, I am looking for help, I'll try just about anything, to find my passion which I could venture into and turn into a full-time IM gig for me.

Thank you for your time and your advice.

Regards,

Shuayb
#internet marketing #find #passion #stumped

  • Profile picture of the author Michael Ten
    You keep trying different strategies, hobbies, activities, interests, different social groups, and spending time with different individuals until something seems to click and seem supremely enjoyable and worthwhile.

    If you stop doing that, then you will likely never find what lights your fire.

    If you keep trying different things, then you will likely have success eventually... maybe in 1 month... maybe in 1 year... maybe in 20 years.

    Good luck.
  • Profile picture of the author hustlinsmoke
    You have no hobbies at all. Not even watching T.V. doesnt matter though, do a few things and see if something clicks. Do alot and something will click.
  • Profile picture of the author mojojuju
    Your passion is disinterest, apathy.
  • Profile picture of the author danlew
    Find something that really interests you and keep playing on that for long. For example, if you are playing a game called World of Warcraft for more than a year, and you bought lots of premium items in their online store, that's where your real passion is. You loved that game for so long, it means you're very passionate to it.
  • Profile picture of the author nickdamodda
    How far are you willing to go? There are ways out, but they bring risks of course.
  • Profile picture of the author BrashImpact
    Shuayb,
    I too was once like you and at times I still am... It's part of our DNA and genetic makeup my friend...Not Good, Not Bad... but... when used correctly can be a Massive Asset... Let me take you for a Short Yellow Bus Tour at my home office...

    At 43 years old I am have been self employed since i was 17...now that sounds great doesn't...well lets take in to account the 300 plus times I have Failed and probably more... Unlike you my writing Sucks...an Ogre wouldn't give my writing the time of day.. However, I am an avid reader and a huge believer in personal education... I still follow that philosophy every day... I have mounds of Reading material stacked taller than the Empire state building. Education pays... and ignorance can cost a Fortune... Finding something to be passionate about is not in our DNA, we have the need to be constantly working on something new and exciting... so how do we cater to our own demise...

    We do it by simply getting in a business that allows short term accomplishments with Huge Flexibility. I can tell your smart normal guy, Sharp as a tack and you have Drive along with some Resources...Now let's take advantage of that nemesis by finding something to drive us...

    For me... I got into the Website building Business... Not for other people, but for myself... I am building an Empire in Online real estate... Why you ask, because it's lucrative and Flexible... Here are some examples:

    I love Waterfowl Hunting - So i researched the niche, built 40 plus sites, ranked them for Kick Butt Search Phrases... and Made Adsense money... but now.. i am board... So next i built a $7 product that was mine...(WOOT WOOT something different that was not about building a website) then i added it to all the sites... Oh No Board again... Now what? I sell Exclusive advertising to several Outdoor Companies on my sites... More money... WOOT WOOT again.... but... BOARD AGAIN... Now what... Most recently i decided to get into the Decoy Manufacturing Market...

    I now am building a Product of my own... Installing the Auto-Pilot marketing and sales machine... INTERNET Marketing and researching to build more sites for that product....

    The Beauty of this is... and there is more too it... I am always doing something different and i keep the projects down too 2 weeks or less... In the meantime the Empire continues too grow... I just got through doing some consulting to a couple of Outdoor Companies... Which was a Blast, easy too do... something different and more money...

    Too try and help you here... I think its important to understand that its all about staying diversified to keep our attention spans in check... As you can see in the past you have had huge issues...but applied this way as i have described its a HUGE ASSET. We currently work in about 30 plus niches like the one I described above and its Fun... Lucrative and Empowering... next comes Offline Clients looking for help... Public Speaking its all out there... I am involved in many of those aspects...

    I can only hope that you see what most would perceive as a Linear Flaw...Is more like a VERTICAL GULF STREAM 5 LEAR JET... Your the Jet.. Now take off my friend... PM me any time... I normally would not take this much interest in a Post...but after reading your Origial Post i wanted to respond...

    To Your Continued Success,
    Robert
  • Profile picture of the author sach411
    I don't write many replies. However this one, I felt like adding something.
    You are not alone with this. I won't call it a problem because it is a part of the process.

    My observation, we don't need a reason to do something we have to do.
    But if something is dependent upon choice, we find all excuses to do/not to do it.
    As example, in case you are doing a job for living, do you ever have to ask yourself to go to work?
    Whether it feels good or not, we don't take off from work for more than a week/2weeks or so.
    Why? because we have no option.
    However when it comes to IM, you have choice. Even though this work can give freedom for lifetime, this is ignored.
    Why..because we have choice to do it or not to do it.

    The mind then struggles to find a passion.
    Finding a passion is just a layer covering something which is stopping from doing the real work.
    I think we need to find that.
    The exercises you mentioned certainly help, provided we do them for a long time.
    I would wish that you stop waiting for AHHA moment to come. And find a little reason to work .. just for next hour.
    And then continue that.
    Ask, what can I do now to make my life better, life of people around me better. And do it... NOW.
    Motivation is a blast of energy.. however we can not expect something to motivate us all the time.
    Ultimately its also a emotion like joy or sorrow.
    If it last forever, it won't be of any value.
    Like if I experience joy continuously, I will not be joyful because I would then expect more... it would be routine thing.

    Did you notice, why you are still trying since 7 years? What is it..even if it is a small reason, you should respect it.
    For me, its a mixed feeling. I am excited by the possibility that I would be able to get the freedom.
    Sometimes to avoid pain.

    Good luck with your mission finding mission.
    Don't do too much analysis. They have a right saying that goes with it.. with a word paralysis.
  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Shauyb - are you sure that its the subjects you are tackling and not the IM part itself? Robert (BrashImpact) is right. Not everyone is meant to be online for a living. I can't do it 100% - I always have one foot in the brick and mortar world.

    Perhaps there is a business offline you could really dig enough to go obsession with. Use online to augment it instead of trying to do online only.

    Need another example? I love gem hunting. You can't do that online -- but I did put up a gem/gold/fossil etc hunting website. The stone and minerals I find, I sell. Sometimes I have them cut or cabbed - another brick and mortar necessity. On my site I have some vendors who I affiliate with, but that's not where the money comes from really. The money comes from getting to network with other gem hunters and getting the skinny on where the gem sites are. I can go anywhere in the country and get the insider scoop on where to get the goods. So my business is a mix of both brick and mortar and online.

    Maybe you need to find something that puts you into alternate universes, too. There's a more than a few people here that have businesses running in both worlds. It works for them and they enjoy it, while they might not have so much fun with it if they tried to do 100% in either universe.
  • Profile picture of the author mysterrio
    I think we will get great results when we start to ask great questions.

    Perhaps you need to forget what you like etc and ask yourself something like:

    Why do I want to get involved with internet marketing?

    Why did I pick this subject in the first place?

    Once I get this website up and running - what am I going to do with it?

    The bottom line is try to find a new way to look at things. It is okay to set up a site and flip it or give it to a friend. It is okay to have a site about something you don't like.

    My feeling here is - you want to find something you like and that is something YOU have to find firsthand.
  • Profile picture of the author Martin Avis
    Ah yes, the old 'find your passion' chestnut.

    Whoever first started peddling that crap probably meant well, but has inadvertently damaged the earning prospects of thousands of people ever since. Me included. It took me years to come to terms with the fact that I don't really have a passion for much of anything! And for a long time the guilt I secretly felt about that lack held me way back.

    There are still 'find your passion' proponents around and I'm sure they have no idea of the harm they cause.

    The trouble with this really bad advice is that it is normally interpreted as meaning you have to find a subject you are passionate about so you can build your online empire around it. Someone who is devoted to training dogs, for instance, should start a website on dog training, or write yet another crappy ebook on the subject.

    That's fine if you are lucky enough to have two additional things going for you: your passion is shared by a big crowd of people who are eager to spend money, and you happen to have the ability to communicate your passion in a way that makes them want to spend that money with you.

    The passion myth started out from a good place - the idea that if you are going to make it online you must be in it for the duration. You can't just dip in and out on a whim - building a business requires that you concentrate your efforts. Having a passion for your chosen subject, it was thought, was the best way to ensure that you wouldn't get bored and fall at the first hurdle.

    It sounds good, but it doesn't stack up to real life.


    What happens, for example, when you have finished building your mega authority website on cultivating Tibetan orchids, or collecting porcelaine thimbles? Is that it? Do you have to stop there? Or are you expected to have a string of passions that you can tap into?

    Look around - how many people make money from just one profit stream? Some, perhaps, but not many. Successful Internet marketers tend to be serial entrepreneurs.

    In the real world there are millions of people making great money from niches that they not only don't have a passion for, but in reality don't know the first thing about!

    I knew a guy who made a killing from a niche website about coat hangers. You can guarantee that he didn't have a passion for his subject.

    I have a site that has been making me steady money for nearly ten years now on camping. I know nothing about the subject, have never spent a night under canvas and have no intention of doing so. And incidentally, I haven't touched that site for 8 of those years.

    I am not in any way suggesting that having passion for a subject is a bad thing. Far from it. If you are lucky enough to love a subject that other people might pay good money for information about, then grab that God-given opportunity with both hands! You may have a goldmine at your fingertips.

    But if the passion eludes you, as it does the vast majority of us, don't write yourself off.

    Now, while I am clear in my mind that passion about a subject is not required for online success, there is another kind of passion that you almost certainly can't do without.

    That is the passion for the process.

    Anyone who has been making money online for a while is familiar with the mournful complaints of people who say that they just can't make it work for them no matter what they try. Ten minutes on the Warrior Forum will find dozens of souls who just can't make it work for them.

    Internet marketing is not for everyone. In fact, if the truth be told, it may not even be for most people. It takes a certain kind of person to do what we do - a person with a passion for the process of Internet marketing.

    I have been an Internet marketer for 11 years. Over half of them full-time. In that time I have seen thousands of people fail to make headway as online marketers and a few who have almost effortlessly risen through the ranks to become great successes.

    The difference is never in what they were selling or how passionate they might have been about any particular niche. The real difference was the passion they felt for the game we call Internet marketing: the tedious, time-consuming, frustrating, confusing, contradictory, exciting, invigorating and, at times, sublime 'process' that we eat, sleep and breathe.

    For many of us all it took was that first affiliate commission paycheck to ignite the fire.

    To some observers I have worked harder on my Internet business than on anything else I have ever done in my life, but in my mind I honestly haven't done a day's 'work' in 11 years. Because of my passion for the process everything I've done has been pure fun, utter joy.

    If you can spark that kind of passion in your belly about just 'doing' Internet marketing then the rest is academic.

    Martin
  • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
    You don't need to be passionate about the niches you get into, but you do need to be passionate about working for yourself. If you're not and can't focus and bring projects to completion and do what you need to do daily, you're going to have a hard time making a living online.

    It takes focus and discipline to get up every day and get to the computer and start doing the things you need to do to make your business successful. No one is around to crack the whip.

    One thing that is a high motivator is success. The more successful your business or projects are, the more motivated you will be to see them through.

    But again ... passion for specific niches is not required. You only need to the know-how and focus to work on and make a niche profitable. Making it profitable will make you a bit more passionate about it.
  • Profile picture of the author sriram rajan
    Dude like evry one else, we are in a world where information overload is a growing concern. You have been at this 7 years means you have not QUIT and thats a great thing.. Now the best method in finding passion is take a break frmo your IM efforts and give yourself some time off. We think of the IM world all the time we are blinded and do not see the gold pot in front of us and we go around it.

    Taking a well earned break is always good, relax, medidate and best thing is join a mentor ciaching or a skype group where people are working towards a common goal and that is the biggest factor, going at IM alone is the worst thing as sometimes we feel if we are doing this right ? or should we just go back to the 9-5 routine...

    thats where having a group of like minded individuals will help you stay focused and motivated, as for the business models go does not matter , you can make money with a lot of them and the same for passion . like the experts say do the things you love, even if you will not be paid for it that is your PASSION and see if you have any such activities and see if you can HELP people with it ,, the $$ will follow....
  • Profile picture of the author jborjaperez
    Hey Shuayb

    I've felt like I didn't have a passion for a long time. I asked myself the same thing tons of times. How the hell am I gonna make this work, I don't even like anything. It's similar in my education as well. Studying business finance when I dislike most of it. I think the most important question is not how, what or when.. but WHY.

    I ask myself WHY I am on this earth and I have to find a reason for living. After tons of motivational videos and inspiring stories, my only real passion is that before I die I want to leave my mark on this world. That IS my WHY.

    Now what kind of passion is that? IDK, some weird kind but it's what I found and is what finally gave me the kick in the ass to actually do the mundane tasks day to day. I don't like writing articles, I don't like researching keywords, I don't like setting up websites... I don't like trading time for money.. All I know is that I want to leave my mark in this world and a regular 9-5 at my local department store won't get me that. I want to HELP and LEAD others to a life of fulfillment, wealth, and happiness. I think that's something good to be known for. And HOW to get there? Create my own level of success and spread my story to others. I think that's how I'm gonna do it :confused:

    Now this thread is about you NOT me, but I was hoping to inspire you or at least get you thinking about your passion or perhaps help you find out that your true passion is HELPING people or something of that nature. It wasn't until someone else showed me the satisfaction and rewards of helping others achieve greatness that it became a goal of mine, as well as a passion.

    What is your WHY for living?

    To be a family man? To be the best father you can be? To make the most money that your family has ever seen? To give your kids a better life?

    How are you going to attain this WHY for living through I.M.? Is it going to take hours and hours of work but in the end it will be worth it? IDK, up to you to decide.

    I hope I didn't ramble on about nothing. Remember Thomas Edison failed thousands of times... and every time he failed it was a lesson.. So build on your past, learn from it and change the future.

    Or maybe is there anyone that you consider a hero? or someone you wouldn't mind being? Emulate them perhaps and figure out what you need to do to get there.

    Hope this helps. I wish you the best. PM me anytime.

    -Jared

    P.S - Also, as far as APPLICABLE advice on working on I.M. tasks. If it sucks that much, which most of it does for me.. Work in small chunks of time. That way you're attention isn't needed for long amounts of time to the point where you're bored and want to quit.
  • Profile picture of the author RoboCod
    It's hard to add much to Martin's fantastic reply above. But the important thing is that you've recognised that you lose interest quickly.

    Now, don't kid yourself that it's going to change. Don't start a new project which is going to involve months-to-years of sustained effort. The authority site that involves building a list, writing updates every day, digging ever deeper into a subject...that's probably not going to work out.

    Instead:

    - Build niche sites for flipping or residual profits. Outsource the linkbuilding and writing, so you only need to concern yourself with the initial creation.

    - Find writing gigs where the process is of interest: you might not care about the subject, but if it involves learning about copywriting or another specific skill in the process, you might be energised by that.

    - Do consulting to other businesses. A quick burst of creative energy is often what people are crying out for, and you don't have to fake your enthusiasm beyond the point where it wanes.

    I'm exactly the same as you, and I've worried about it for years. But recently I've accepted it's just how I am, and I need to find working patterns that suit that tendency.

    Remember that most people have difficulty getting started, and spend years talking about ideas which they never quite get the motivation to begin. When you think about it, the opposite problem isn't really that bad.
  • Profile picture of the author solado
    I do things a little differently - People say follow your intrests and money will come.
    I find a good niche and follow the money.
  • Profile picture of the author fin
    Here's the thing...

    You say you don't have a passion and that's fine, but it certainly doesn't mean you will never have one. You can't have tried everything in the world.

    Maybe laziness, or such, is holding you back from trying new things. Have you tried to:

    Knit?
    Run a marathon?
    Abseiling?

    My advice is to try new things. It could be anything like a new hobby, or even a new class at night school.

    Why don't you do something easier, and this might cost you a few $$$.

    Have a look on Amazon at the different book topics - have a good look through them and look at the inside previews. Now buy a new book every week or two in something you think might be interesting.

    It will only take you a short time to read a book - rinse and repeat until you find something you are passionate about, or want to get passionate about.

    Good luck...
  • Profile picture of the author sandebdavid
    “The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will.” Vincent T. Lombardi
  • Profile picture of the author timtheman
    Maybe you don't need a passion, maybe you just need motivation. What would motivate you to be a internet marketer? Is it the opportunity to work at home on your own schedule? Is it the opportunity to make a lot more money than you would at your day job? Is it the satisfaction of being your own boss and building your own business? Is it to help your family?

    If you can't find passion, find something to motivate you.
  • Profile picture of the author Praveen Kumar
    I think your hobbies is to create threads on WF about how to find passion??????

    LOL
  • Profile picture of the author hamzidosh
    @Martin.Avis
    So right, couldnt have put that better...extroverts Like us always have that issue.
    You'll make it dude just do whatever U want!

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