Lack of overall drive, People drive me nuts!

[QUOTE=Nick Barton;6404953]Easy said but I really don't want to cut myself off from all my family, and sadly it tends to be your nearest and dearest that are the worst offenders...]

I think all the people who have stressed the importance of associating with positive people are 100% right. To quickly meet one's objectives a supportive group/individual is extremely important.

However, Nick, I think you also hit the nail on the head. Many of the worst offenders are your nearest and dearest to question your motives, ambitions and mission in life. Now that is the difficult part, and the difficulty increases or decreases according to how strong willed you are. The more compassion, kindness and patient you are with people the more better you will be in communicating your message and less difficulty you will tend to have. In the end, you might not win everyone over to your way of thinking, however, you will still gain their respect.

This way you, have shown to be a better human being, both to your self and others, and a force for good. In the process you were able to learn and develop so many other precious qualities that can be transfered to any area of your business and life.

All the people who have said, cut negative people off, I do respect and understand where they are coming from, however, in my honest and humble opinion they have missed something very precious, and overlooked this very point. How could that ever be seen as a positive thing to do? And if you carry on doing that, what you are really doing is throwing this very opportunity down the gutter, instead of viewing it as an opportunity to inspire and encourage others to think and do better with their life, people and their concerns are seen as problems. Moreover, developing qualities such as patience, compassion and communication skills will only help strengthen our own character as a person, in the journey of life.

Is it any surprise then, why so many marital relationships have gone sour and divorce is on the increase?

Spouses not talking to each, siblings not talking to their parents for many months and even years having gone by, or to each other and so and so forth. Where did the love, compassion and patience go? we have started to treat human relationships as we treat objects, disposable cups and saucers. Is it any wonder then our society is breaking down if not, already broken? Life has it's up and down and everyone can live for him/herself. However, there is something noble and precious to live for others also. When children see this compassion and love in one's communication, they become better for it. They grow up becoming better human beings and better parents. They learn from you consciously as well as unconsciously how to go the extra mile and kindness pays in more ways than one. They will learn not to throw the towel in quickly, but, to stand ground and win people over by love and compassion. It can be done, however, you've got to have the heart to do it.




Please forgive me if any offence is taken by any one, that was not my intention.

kind Regards

It seems you missed her point that would solve your problem, actually. Not every path to self improvement is going to be lined with people coddling your ego.

Take a good look at yourself. Perhaps your attitude is attracting these people you seem to dislike so much.

[QUOTE=Cee;The saying ' Birds of a feather flock together' is very true. As you become more success oriented you will start to have less in common with those you formerly associated with. It's the reason that rich people hang out together. Your mind is opening up to new possibilities that not everyone has the ability to see. Some people also really like complaining and wouldn't know what to do if they had nothing to complain about.]


Cee, you are so right, the more success you have and I would say in any calling you will begin to naturally, dissociate from your previous realtionships slowly but, surely. This might not be intentional on your part and I think one shouldn't completely cut people off who are negative or who have a different opinion to yourself. The reason, because it gives one opportunity to encourage others to have a better vision of themselves. You can only do this if you engage with others.


The easy thing, to do is to cut people off, not associate with them. I understand, one shouldn't actively seek a negative company, which I can agree with. But, it is very probable that you had friendship and associations with the very people that you now dislike/detest. Just because, you have seen the light and are much more positive in your life than they are, still, should not mean you cut off your relationship with them completely.

Your humanity, your kindness should be used to overlook peoples faults and weaknesses because, that was you yesterday. Moreover, as I stated above one should use this opportunity, whenever, you meet/engage with people to inspire, encourage elevate their thinking in becoming much better human beings and successful all round. One of the prophetic saying states, that even giving good advice or counselling is regarded as charity in the sight
of God Almighty( Praise to him for everything, Lord of All the worlds without Partner/Associates)

Thanks