For Beginning Marketers With Family Problems

dsanchez · 12-01-2008, 10:08 AM

The secret to this is, in my opinion, the same as on other areas of life: "balance". You can't let other people tell you what to do or what decisions to make all the time, and live your life the way they want to; but at the same time, I agree with the others that we have to be responsible to our family.

It's not a good idea to quit a job without having something substantial (an additional income) and lose everything, especially your good credit for a one-second-not-thought-well decision.

At the same time, Internet Marketing is wonderful and if someone doesn't understand our passion for it, is because this person clearly doesn't know about the possibilities of living from an online income; so I think is also good to educate our family in that sense at least to the point that is possible. Once they know something about the subject, I'm sure things will get a lot easier.

My two cents.

Dagmar

jjasmern · 12-01-2008, 10:16 AM

Thank you. I'm just starting out and my family just doesn't understand. They want me to give up on this and get a "normal job". I'm having a great time and am beginning to see things happen. It's nice to get encouragement from people who do understand.

kaniganj · 12-05-2011, 07:01 AM

Even when you DO make good money online, those same negative people will continue to tell you that you need to get a regular job. These people equate a job with safety, even though you can get laid off or fired from a job at any time, and will never understand how strong that making your own money will make you feel. So don't expect them to quiet down for more than a week or two once you "show them the money."

Lee McIntyre is a pretty well-known UK IMer, and his family STILL tells him to "get a job" back in teaching or accounting or law--one of the previous fields he's worked in--even though he rakes in a million or more a year.

I don't think "balance" is possible, either. If you've got a product or skill that is in demand, you're still going to spend the first two months glued to your computer! "Somebody" is going to want to know what the heck you are doing there for so darn long. Building a business of any kind takes commitment and a certain kind of obsession, at least in the beginning. The key is to not tie yourself into the fulfillment of whatever your business does for your customers...so that you can free yourself of it later and maybe even sell it.

For those who realize they are getting defensive, really defensive, when put on the spot by their "well-meaning" friends and family members about making money online: try this. Every time you meet one of them, remind yourself that they are probably going to take a pot shot at you about IM. Expect it. Tell yourself, "I'm not going to get into an argument." Smile to yourself when they bring it up. It's all right--this is exactly what you expect them to do. Then respond with a featherweight "happy trails" reply. Sounds like:

"So...you're still trying that online thing? You know, I read that 9 out of 10 people who try never make a dollar doing that. Why don't you get a real job?"

(This would normally sting, and make you lash out in reaction, but this time you're ready. You expect this kind of thing, and smile inwardly. It's actually kind of funny. What the heck do they know about IM, really? They read one article?)

"Oh, hey, thanks for asking about it. Things are going OK."

Try moving the conversation to another subject. Should they persist, you could say (not snarkily!)

"I appreciate your concern. If it turns out I need help getting a job, I'll talk to you right away. All right?"

Regardless of what you say, anyhow, if you remember that they are very likely going to say something about you being in IM, and affirming to yourself that you're not going to get into an argument, then you're much more likely to have a relaxed encounter.

DanEitreim · 12-05-2011, 04:04 PM

Too many people feel free to give advice...usually negative, particularly when they are secretly afraid someone will be more successful than they are.

Here is a saying I really like..."Don't take advice from anyone who isn't already where you are trying to go."

12-01-2008, 10:08 AM	#51
dsanchez HyperActive Warrior Join Date: May 2006 Location: Georgia, U.S. Posts: 197 Thanks: 7 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts Social Networking	Re: For Beginning Marketers With Family Problems The secret to this is, in my opinion, the same as on other areas of life: "balance". You can't let other people tell you what to do or what decisions to make all the time, and live your life the way they want to; but at the same time, I agree with the others that we have to be responsible to our family. It's not a good idea to quit a job without having something substantial (an additional income) and lose everything, especially your good credit for a one-second-not-thought-well decision. At the same time, Internet Marketing is wonderful and if someone doesn't understand our passion for it, is because this person clearly doesn't know about the possibilities of living from an online income; so I think is also good to educate our family in that sense at least to the point that is possible. Once they know something about the subject, I'm sure things will get a lot easier. My two cents. Dagmar

12-01-2008, 10:16 AM	#52
jjasmern Warrior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Centreville, VA Posts: 20 Thanks: 0 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts Social Networking	Re: For Beginning Marketers With Family Problems Thank you. I'm just starting out and my family just doesn't understand. They want me to give up on this and get a "normal job". I'm having a great time and am beginning to see things happen. It's nice to get encouragement from people who do understand.
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12-05-2011, 07:01 AM	#53
kaniganj Sales Trainer+Copywriter War Room Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: NC, USA Posts: 942 Thanks: 220 Thanked 378 Times in 275 Posts	Re: For Beginning Marketers With Family Problems Even when you DO make good money online, those same negative people will continue to tell you that you need to get a regular job. These people equate a job with safety, even though you can get laid off or fired from a job at any time, and will never understand how strong that making your own money will make you feel. So don't expect them to quiet down for more than a week or two once you "show them the money." Lee McIntyre is a pretty well-known UK IMer, and his family STILL tells him to "get a job" back in teaching or accounting or law--one of the previous fields he's worked in--even though he rakes in a million or more a year. I don't think "balance" is possible, either. If you've got a product or skill that is in demand, you're still going to spend the first two months glued to your computer! "Somebody" is going to want to know what the heck you are doing there for so darn long. Building a business of any kind takes commitment and a certain kind of obsession, at least in the beginning. The key is to not tie yourself into the fulfillment of whatever your business does for your customers...so that you can free yourself of it later and maybe even sell it. For those who realize they are getting defensive, really defensive, when put on the spot by their "well-meaning" friends and family members about making money online: try this. Every time you meet one of them, remind yourself that they are probably going to take a pot shot at you about IM. Expect it. Tell yourself, "I'm not going to get into an argument." Smile to yourself when they bring it up. It's all right--this is exactly what you expect them to do. Then respond with a featherweight "happy trails" reply. Sounds like: "So...you're still trying that online thing? You know, I read that 9 out of 10 people who try never make a dollar doing that. Why don't you get a real job?" (This would normally sting, and make you lash out in reaction, but this time you're ready. You expect this kind of thing, and smile inwardly. It's actually kind of funny. What the heck do they know about IM, really? They read one article?) "Oh, hey, thanks for asking about it. Things are going OK." Try moving the conversation to another subject. Should they persist, you could say (not snarkily!) "I appreciate your concern. If it turns out I need help getting a job, I'll talk to you right away. All right?" Regardless of what you say, anyhow, if you remember that they are very likely going to say something about you being in IM, and affirming to yourself that you're not going to get into an argument, then you're much more likely to have a relaxed encounter.
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12-05-2011, 04:04 PM	#54
DanEitreim Active Warrior War Room Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 70 Thanks: 21 Thanked 9 Times in 7 Posts	Re: For Beginning Marketers With Family Problems Too many people feel free to give advice...usually negative, particularly when they are secretly afraid someone will be more successful than they are. Here is a saying I really like..."Don't take advice from anyone who isn't already where you are trying to go."
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