I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours?

Steven Wagenheim · 11-24-2008, 08:13 AM

I finally did it...conquered my biggest fear.

I never told this to anyone and maybe this is a very common fear among
IMers, but my biggest fear was that I'd become successful and then one
day I'd discover it was all just luck and it would fall apart on me.

Well, after having my 2nd killer year in a row, I am no longer worried that it
won't last. As a matter of fact, next year is going to be even better than
this year by a wide margin.

So what's YOUR biggest fear that you've conquered or on your way to
conquering? It doesn't have to be about IM, but anything IM related with
a "how to" of how you conquered it, might help others.

My how to?

It was simple.

I achieved success, saw that I could duplicate it and then sustain it over
a long period of time.

Took me almost 2 whole years, but I did it.

tomw · 11-24-2008, 08:55 AM

The greatest fear I ever had in my life was public speaking.

Throughout my career I have always had to present either creative work or marketing strategies to clients simply as part of the ongoing business of the ad gencies I worked for, or even worse, for new business pitches in competition with other agencies.

Man, I used to dread these. Even if I knew there would be only three of four people in the room. It always kept me awake during the previous night(s!) and genuinely gave me the cold sweats. But I did it.

I always knew it was an irrational fear. But upon deep analysis and rumination, as one does when irrationally trying to rationalise such a thing, I traced it back to my school days.

I had this real bitch of a music teacher, Mrs. Mosely. Boy, she hated me because I was a bit of a class joker. Almost every lesson she used to make me get on my chair and sing for the class. She never did this to a single other kid the whole time she taught us. I can't tell you how much this messed up a shy seven year old. To have everyone in the room falling off their chairs pointing and laughing at you as you warble "All Things Bright and Beautiful" I think scarred me for life!

Then the biggest day of my career came, some years ago. After quite a bit of success in a number of industry awards one year I was invited to speak at a unbelievably prestigious event. Probably the greatest honour that can be bestowed upon someone in our industry. I couldn't believe it and I checked the name and address on the envelope at least ten times! Of course I accepted.

However, the event would be attended by a couple of thousand of the brightest and best in the advertising and design world. You can imagine how sick I felt when I accepted the invitation. What made it even worse was the fact that I had more than two months notice. Two months to sh*t my pants with anxiety and lie awake in a cold sweat every day. Every night.

It really was the biggest most important day of my professional life. It was so important to me. Something I had dreamed of since I was a teenager and realised I wanted to go to design school and work in advertising. I tried everything you can imagine, and many that you can't, from hypnosis tapes to weird esoteric chanting! As well as stuff too embarrassing (now) to go into!

How did I conquer my fear? Well, the truth is that I didn't, not really. I was in the green room, sweating and quaking with fear. Worrying about everything from whether I would make an ass of myself to whether my bow tie was on straight. Then I got talking to Drayton Bird, who I knew from previous collaborations, and as we talked I noticed that he looked a bit shaky too and that he was taking quite regular, pained gulps from a plastic cup. Turns out that even he was pretty nervous and the cup was an inch of orange topped up with vodka!

I couldn't believe that he felt like this too, after all, he was Drayton Bird!

So we talked about our mutual fears and he kindly filled a cup with Vodka (and nothing else, Harvey!) for me!

I got on stage and fuelled by the finest Russian Dutch courage and by the greatest pep talk by possibly the greatest living marketer it was a success.

So you see, I never really conquered my fear, but I came away thinking that if I could do it once I could do it a hundred times. And I have done.

I guess the moral is that we really are capable of anything. We just have to take that leap of faith and actually do it once. Take action. Push ourselves and step out of our comfort zone. Yes this is a cliche, but it is also true.

If we can find the strength and courage to conquer our doubts and fears we can achieve whatever we set our hearts and minds on.

Believe me, if i could make that presentation, you can do anything.

Thomas

sunny56 · 11-24-2008, 09:02 AM

Great Post Tom....I quite enjoyed reading that.

I've never really had to speak in public, but I'm sure my reaction will by much the same if I ever do!

Well, My greatest fear is that I will lose control of this thing.

I feel like I can never relax, I know this is supposed to be the dream lifestyle, but i"ve in the past always had jobs where I could forget them when I go home.

Now, I never REALLY have time off, even though I probably WORK less than 40 hrs/week, the time I spend thinking and worrying about the business is about 700 hrs /week...

I'm hoping that will go away with time, but still havent solved it.

Wish me luck :-D

Harvey.Segal · 11-24-2008, 09:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tomw

So we talked about our mutual crapping ourselves and he filled a cup for me!

You might want to rephrase that sentence.

.

Adam Carn · 11-24-2008, 09:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harvey.Segal

You might want to rephrase that sentence.

.

LOLL, sorry that's funny!

trioman · 11-24-2008, 09:23 AM

My biggest fear is spending years and years trying to succeed on the internet and falling short of my ultimate goal of making a minimum of 10k a month...

tomw · 11-24-2008, 09:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harvey.Segal

You might want to rephrase that sentence.

.

LOL! Thanks, I will. I can assure you that it was not "two marketers, one cup."

Thomas

Louis Raven · 11-24-2008, 09:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tomw

I had this real bitch of a music teacher, Mrs. Mosely. Boy, she hated me because I was a bit of a class joker. Almost every lesson she used to make me get on my chair and sing for the class. She never did this to a single other kid the whole time she taught us. I can't tell you how much this messed up a shy seven year old. To have everyone in the room falling off their chairs pointing and laughing at you as you warble "All Things Bright and Beautiful" I think it scarred me for life!

Thomas

what a @#?=+

Spike SpiegelIM · 11-24-2008, 03:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tomw

LOL! Thanks, I will. I can assure you that it was not "two marketers, one cup."

Thomas

Exactly what came into my mind when I read that phrase. XD

Li Weng · 11-25-2008, 04:21 AM

My biggest fear is the fear of spiders, and I've yet to find a way to conquer it..

Harvey.Segal · 11-25-2008, 04:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Li Weng

My biggest fear is the fear of spiders, and I've yet to find a way to conquer it..

Just put this in your robots.txt file

User-agent: *
Disallow: /

Harvey

derekwong28 · 11-25-2008, 05:03 AM

My biggest fear is death. I don't think I can ever conquer it and nor do I think anybody else could conquer it completely. Although very religious people tend to cope with it better.

Derek

Barry Rice · 11-25-2008, 07:04 AM

I was terrified of heights. So bad that even watching a scene on TV that depicted looking down from a tall building nearly brought out a sweat.

It all started many years ago as I was in a helicopter during a combat assualt in Vietnam. The Huey's tailboom was hit by an enemy rocket as we were approximately 50 ft off the ground. Needless to say, helicopters and rockets don't play well with each other. Luckily, or now I prefer to believe it was God's handiwork (several others were not as fortunate), I was blown out, hitting the ground with my legs taking the brunt. Not able to move, I was further wounded. For years, every time I envisioned "height", I saw myself, once again, flying through the air, the ground rushing up.

So, for almost 25 years I was terrified of heights. Strangely, it did not bother me to fly commericially, they fly high enough that I just didn't (and don't) believe they'll have to play with rockets. Yet, anything else to get me off the ground came close to causing a 'coronary'.

Off to flight school I went. The first time my instructor demonstrated a stall procedure, well, "heart doctor, here I come". Determined to get over my fear, I persisted.

I eventually got over my fear, was licensed and enjoyed several years of hopping in a little puddle jumper of a plane, flying the countryside at low level, enjoying stall procedures, suddenness of wind slapping the plane around during landings, crabbing to the runways, and more. Heights, low and higher, became my friend.

F.E.A.R. - False Evidence Appearing Real - 'tis true. I've applied overcoming my fear of heights to a previous fear of speaking to large and small groups and other areas in my life.

I know I'm only going to get one opportunity to enjoy this thing called "life", with no 2nd chances. I don't want to sit in a rocking chair some day, reflecting on my life, saying "I wish I had"! The only thing, as I see it, that will determine whether I say that or not, is how I approach fear with the choices I make for my life from God's bountiful sunrises of opportunity.

dsanchez · 11-25-2008, 03:12 PM

My biggest fear is also death, but only now that I'm a mother.

Leaving my son alone even though he has his father thank God scares me, especially now that he's a teenager and is going through all those changes in his life.

One thing that helps me though is reading the Bible, it gives me peace of mind. In my case that helps to "conquer" the fear in a way.

Dagmar

Manu Bhoir · 11-25-2008, 04:10 PM

I think its ok to have some fear because thats where we get our strength and wisdom to deal with things.

I deal with my fears through meditation, even by just observing my own thoughts as a third person and acknowledging them was a great start for me.

Manu.

Sylvia Rolfe · 11-25-2008, 08:46 PM

My biggest fear used to be that of failure. I was brought up ridiculed for any little failures so I saw it as something to be ashamed of instead of something to learn from. I look at it this way, thousands of inventions were created from the failures of inventors to create what they were seeking to create. Who knows my next failure could lead to my biggest success.

I have had a lot of irrational fears that I struggle to overcome, some I have been successful with others not so much, yet. Things like spiders, we bought a pet tarantula, taking care of her taught me to let go of the fear (we now own 2), heights I still have some issues with but I can fly on a plane without tranqulizers. Most of the fears I have overcome I have done so by being my usual analytical, logical self and going what really is the worst that can happen and how likely is that really to happen and when I realize I have a bigger chance of being eaten by a shark or winning the lottery, I let go of it.

Sylvia

jayden.fellze · 11-26-2008, 02:52 AM

My greatest fear had been interviews. I had always had the fear that I would fumble somewhere and make myself a laughing stock. I would have attended at least 10-15 interviews and only after I succeeded in one of them, that I thought I would be able to tackle the situations and I became a bit confident of myself. Now I have started feeling that I can manage interviews. It has taken nearly 5-6 years for me to get this confidence. Even now I wont say I am fully confident of myself! May be a flaw!!

Trandanos · 11-26-2008, 05:45 AM

My biggest fear is having the courage to leave my full time salary job. To have the confidence to say to myself I can make this internet marketing business work and to have total 100% belief in the system.

DynamicMentalFitness · 12-02-2008, 01:11 PM

So it happened that one day I discovered all my fears were the same size - all of them 'too big' for my peace and happiness - so I took aim, and brought down Fear, itself.

Much has changed since.

GeorgR. · 12-02-2008, 10:06 PM

my "fear" is that success relies on external powers which are not under my control.

EXAMPLE:

Years ago marketers could use affiliate links using AdWords.

Google made (and makes) policy changes from one day to the other - brought down many, many marketers which relied on "given things"....but those things can change from one day to the other.

Thats why you want to spread your wings and don't want to rely on a single factor making or breaking your business.

This merely an example.

Mari_Quint · 12-03-2008, 12:31 AM

My biggest fear is losing my full-time job while still a novice in IM. Reading all the successes and claims of various internet marketers is kinda overwhelming. I mean, which tool or whose strategy really maximizes income? Finding a good mentor is also key in being successful in IM. There are loads of questions in my mind and I think the best way to clarify all my "confusion" is to read more, do more research and ask lots of questions.

WorksForWeb · 12-03-2008, 02:59 AM

It's difficult to say what's my biggest fear. Actually I think I have no such a huge fear. Anyway when I realize that I am affraid of something I try to look for the reason of the fear. When you know the reason of the desease you will be able to find a remedy.

Ray Abraham · 12-05-2008, 12:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harvey.Segal

Just put this in your robots.txt file

User-agent: *
Disallow: /

Harvey

LOL, Harvey... That's a good one!

Anyway Steven,

I'm afraid I'm now thinking the same way as you did...
Few weeks ago I made my first affiliate sale using articles and I tought I could duplicate it.

It didnt happen...
I'm stuck with that one sale regardless I wrote much more articles & my Alexa rank is climbing (now 490,000+).

Maybe the first sale was just a pure luck... I don't know

Ray

Eric Stanley · 12-05-2008, 11:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harvey.Segal

Just put this in your robots.txt file

User-agent: *
Disallow: /

Harvey

I actually LOL'd at this one. Brilliant.

Lemaire · 12-06-2008, 06:07 PM

I work with alot of veterans who have PTSD. Fear seethes through their veins and I found Barry Rice's story incredibly inspiring. Thank you for sharing.

Josef_Benjamin · 12-06-2008, 06:41 PM

I would normally never reveal this, but why not.

My biggest fear was prospecting.

You see, one of the biggest reasons people fail to succeed online is because of their unwillingness to communicate with people before they make the sale. Also known as : Prospecting.

So, i guess that would be phone fear.

How did i solve this problem?

Daily work on myself in increments. Taking useful advice from those who understood my situation and applied them into my life, actively.

Succeeding in this business means stepping outside your comfort zone, and i made that commitment when i signed up...what i didn't know was that i was actually going to have to talke to *GASP* PEOPLE!

Developing my social skills outside of IM is/was critical to my current success. Talking to people on the phone is actually easier than talking to people face to face - for obvious reasons such as:

1. Risk of embarrasment
2. Fear of saying the wrong things
3. There is someone looking at you while you interact with them
4. odds are there are more people watching you interact with the person
5. You really can't fake confidence in front of people, easier on the phone

I still get nervous, but i've learned to not let it stop me. And I've found that I'm the guy in the mall/bank/supermaket or whereever who's having the most fun.

You really do have to get used to having conversations with people you don't know initially.

Just look at all the big name marketers out there. They are where they're at because they are good communicators - better than average. So they get better than average results.

If you want to succeed, you CANNOT hide behind a computer screen...you gotta be on the front line. Those who work behind the scenes make much less money, and we call those people employees.

Christian Fox · 12-06-2008, 06:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Barry Rice

I was terrified of heights. So bad that even watching a scene on TV that depicted looking down from a tall building nearly brought out a sweat.

It all started many years ago as I was in a helicopter during a combat assualt in Vietnam. The Huey's tailboom was hit by an enemy rocket as we were approximately 50 ft off the ground. Needless to say, helicopters and rockets don't play well with each other. Luckily, or now I prefer to believe it was God's handiwork (several others were not as fortunate), I was blown out, hitting the ground with my legs taking the brunt. Not able to move, I was further wounded. For years, every time I envisioned "height", I saw myself, once again, flying through the air, the ground rushing up.

So, for almost 25 years I was terrified of heights. Strangely, it did not bother me to fly commericially, they fly high enough that I just didn't (and don't) believe they'll have to play with rockets. Yet, anything else to get me off the ground came close to causing a 'coronary'.

Off to flight school I went. The first time my instructor demonstrated a stall procedure, well, "heart doctor, here I come". Determined to get over my fear, I persisted.

I eventually got over my fear, was licensed and enjoyed several years of hopping in a little puddle jumper of a plane, flying the countryside at low level, enjoying stall procedures, suddenness of wind slapping the plane around during landings, crabbing to the runways, and more. Heights, low and higher, became my friend.

F.E.A.R. - False Evidence Appearing Real - 'tis true. I've applied overcoming my fear of heights to a previous fear of speaking to large and small groups and other areas in my life.

I know I'm only going to get one opportunity to enjoy this thing called "life", with no 2nd chances. I don't want to sit in a rocking chair some day, reflecting on my life, saying "I wish I had"! The only thing, as I see it, that will determine whether I say that or not, is how I approach fear with the choices I make for my life from God's bountiful sunrises of opportunity.

That's great you overcame your fear. Thanks for your service also.

I am a licensed pilot also and used to own a buccaneer amphibious ultralight. Low and slow is a lot of fun and the best way to fly IMO.

linda.robe · 12-09-2008, 05:43 AM

My greatest fear is in GHOST..........

BizBooks · 12-09-2008, 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Harvey.Segal

Just put this in your robots.txt file

User-agent: *
Disallow: /

Harvey

except for alexa... right?

11-24-2008, 08:13 AM	#1
Steven Wagenheim Article Marketing Wiz War Room Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Roselle, NJ, USA Posts: 13,262 Blog Entries: 11 Thanks: 515 Thanked 2,888 Times in 904 Posts Social Networking	I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? I finally did it...conquered my biggest fear. I never told this to anyone and maybe this is a very common fear among IMers, but my biggest fear was that I'd become successful and then one day I'd discover it was all just luck and it would fall apart on me. Well, after having my 2nd killer year in a row, I am no longer worried that it won't last. As a matter of fact, next year is going to be even better than this year by a wide margin. So what's YOUR biggest fear that you've conquered or on your way to conquering? It doesn't have to be about IM, but anything IM related with a "how to" of how you conquered it, might help others. My how to? It was simple. I achieved success, saw that I could duplicate it and then sustain it over a long period of time. Took me almost 2 whole years, but I did it.
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tomw Advanced Warrior War Room Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: , , United Kingdom. Posts: 927 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 480 Thanked 286 Times in 148 Posts	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? The greatest fear I ever had in my life was public speaking. Throughout my career I have always had to present either creative work or marketing strategies to clients simply as part of the ongoing business of the ad gencies I worked for, or even worse, for new business pitches in competition with other agencies. Man, I used to dread these. Even if I knew there would be only three of four people in the room. It always kept me awake during the previous night(s!) and genuinely gave me the cold sweats. But I did it. I always knew it was an irrational fear. But upon deep analysis and rumination, as one does when irrationally trying to rationalise such a thing, I traced it back to my school days. I had this real bitch of a music teacher, Mrs. Mosely. Boy, she hated me because I was a bit of a class joker. Almost every lesson she used to make me get on my chair and sing for the class. She never did this to a single other kid the whole time she taught us. I can't tell you how much this messed up a shy seven year old. To have everyone in the room falling off their chairs pointing and laughing at you as you warble "All Things Bright and Beautiful" I think scarred me for life! Then the biggest day of my career came, some years ago. After quite a bit of success in a number of industry awards one year I was invited to speak at a unbelievably prestigious event. Probably the greatest honour that can be bestowed upon someone in our industry. I couldn't believe it and I checked the name and address on the envelope at least ten times! Of course I accepted. However, the event would be attended by a couple of thousand of the brightest and best in the advertising and design world. You can imagine how sick I felt when I accepted the invitation. What made it even worse was the fact that I had more than two months notice. Two months to sh*t my pants with anxiety and lie awake in a cold sweat every day. Every night. It really was the biggest most important day of my professional life. It was so important to me. Something I had dreamed of since I was a teenager and realised I wanted to go to design school and work in advertising. I tried everything you can imagine, and many that you can't, from hypnosis tapes to weird esoteric chanting! As well as stuff too embarrassing (now) to go into! How did I conquer my fear? Well, the truth is that I didn't, not really. I was in the green room, sweating and quaking with fear. Worrying about everything from whether I would make an ass of myself to whether my bow tie was on straight. Then I got talking to Drayton Bird, who I knew from previous collaborations, and as we talked I noticed that he looked a bit shaky too and that he was taking quite regular, pained gulps from a plastic cup. Turns out that even he was pretty nervous and the cup was an inch of orange topped up with vodka! I couldn't believe that he felt like this too, after all, he was Drayton Bird! So we talked about our mutual fears and he kindly filled a cup with Vodka (and nothing else, Harvey!) for me! I got on stage and fuelled by the finest Russian Dutch courage and by the greatest pep talk by possibly the greatest living marketer it was a success. So you see, I never really conquered my fear, but I came away thinking that if I could do it once I could do it a hundred times. And I have done. I guess the moral is that we really are capable of anything. We just have to take that leap of faith and actually do it once. Take action. Push ourselves and step out of our comfort zone. Yes this is a cliche, but it is also true. If we can find the strength and courage to conquer our doubts and fears we can achieve whatever we set our hearts and minds on. Believe me, if i could make that presentation, you can do anything. Thomas

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sunny56 ๏ əɓƝɐᴚʡϚ ɦᴚəᴧ ๏ Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: CO, NYC, CA, MX, ES, MA ... Posts: 105 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 4 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? Great Post Tom....I quite enjoyed reading that. I've never really had to speak in public, but I'm sure my reaction will by much the same if I ever do! Well, My greatest fear is that I will lose control of this thing. I feel like I can never relax, I know this is supposed to be the dream lifestyle, but i"ve in the past always had jobs where I could forget them when I go home. Now, I never REALLY have time off, even though I probably WORK less than 40 hrs/week, the time I spend thinking and worrying about the business is about 700 hrs /week... I'm hoping that will go away with time, but still havent solved it. Wish me luck :-D
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Barry Rice HyperActive Warrior Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Hendersonville, Tn Posts: 166 Thanks: 2 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? I was terrified of heights. So bad that even watching a scene on TV that depicted looking down from a tall building nearly brought out a sweat. It all started many years ago as I was in a helicopter during a combat assualt in Vietnam. The Huey's tailboom was hit by an enemy rocket as we were approximately 50 ft off the ground. Needless to say, helicopters and rockets don't play well with each other. Luckily, or now I prefer to believe it was God's handiwork (several others were not as fortunate), I was blown out, hitting the ground with my legs taking the brunt. Not able to move, I was further wounded. For years, every time I envisioned "height", I saw myself, once again, flying through the air, the ground rushing up. So, for almost 25 years I was terrified of heights. Strangely, it did not bother me to fly commericially, they fly high enough that I just didn't (and don't) believe they'll have to play with rockets. Yet, anything else to get me off the ground came close to causing a 'coronary'. Off to flight school I went. The first time my instructor demonstrated a stall procedure, well, "heart doctor, here I come". Determined to get over my fear, I persisted. I eventually got over my fear, was licensed and enjoyed several years of hopping in a little puddle jumper of a plane, flying the countryside at low level, enjoying stall procedures, suddenness of wind slapping the plane around during landings, crabbing to the runways, and more. Heights, low and higher, became my friend. F.E.A.R. - False Evidence Appearing Real - 'tis true. I've applied overcoming my fear of heights to a previous fear of speaking to large and small groups and other areas in my life. I know I'm only going to get one opportunity to enjoy this thing called "life", with no 2nd chances. I don't want to sit in a rocking chair some day, reflecting on my life, saying "I wish I had"! The only thing, as I see it, that will determine whether I say that or not, is how I approach fear with the choices I make for my life from God's bountiful sunrises of opportunity.
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11-25-2008, 03:12 PM	#14
dsanchez HyperActive Warrior Join Date: May 2006 Location: Georgia, U.S. Posts: 197 Thanks: 7 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts Social Networking	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? My biggest fear is also death, but only now that I'm a mother. Leaving my son alone even though he has his father thank God scares me, especially now that he's a teenager and is going through all those changes in his life. One thing that helps me though is reading the Bible, it gives me peace of mind. In my case that helps to "conquer" the fear in a way. Dagmar

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Sylvia Rolfe Money Making Momma War Room Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada. Posts: 1,194 Blog Entries: 6 Thanks: 113 Thanked 99 Times in 60 Posts Social Networking	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? My biggest fear used to be that of failure. I was brought up ridiculed for any little failures so I saw it as something to be ashamed of instead of something to learn from. I look at it this way, thousands of inventions were created from the failures of inventors to create what they were seeking to create. Who knows my next failure could lead to my biggest success. I have had a lot of irrational fears that I struggle to overcome, some I have been successful with others not so much, yet. Things like spiders, we bought a pet tarantula, taking care of her taught me to let go of the fear (we now own 2), heights I still have some issues with but I can fly on a plane without tranqulizers. Most of the fears I have overcome I have done so by being my usual analytical, logical self and going what really is the worst that can happen and how likely is that really to happen and when I realize I have a bigger chance of being eaten by a shark or winning the lottery, I let go of it. Sylvia
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11-26-2008, 02:52 AM	#17
jayden.fellze It's just me! Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 478 Thanks: 11 Thanked 15 Times in 14 Posts	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? My greatest fear had been interviews. I had always had the fear that I would fumble somewhere and make myself a laughing stock. I would have attended at least 10-15 interviews and only after I succeeded in one of them, that I thought I would be able to tackle the situations and I became a bit confident of myself. Now I have started feeling that I can manage interviews. It has taken nearly 5-6 years for me to get this confidence. Even now I wont say I am fully confident of myself! May be a flaw!!
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11-26-2008, 05:45 AM	#18
Trandanos Warrior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Brisbane, Queensland, Australia Posts: 28 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Social Networking	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? My biggest fear is having the courage to leave my full time salary job. To have the confidence to say to myself I can make this internet marketing business work and to have total 100% belief in the system.
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12-02-2008, 01:11 PM	#19
DynamicMentalFitness Dynamic Mental Fitness Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Destin, Florida Posts: 148 Blog Entries: 7 Thanks: 10 Thanked 22 Times in 17 Posts	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? So it happened that one day I discovered all my fears were the same size - all of them 'too big' for my peace and happiness - *so I took aim, and brought down Fear, itself*. Much has changed since.
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12-02-2008, 10:06 PM	#20
GeorgR. Senior Warrior Member War Room Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Earth Posts: 2,552 Thanks: 10 Thanked 202 Times in 132 Posts Social Networking	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? my "fear" is that success relies on external powers which are not under my control. EXAMPLE: Years ago marketers could use affiliate links using AdWords. Google made (and makes) policy changes from one day to the other - brought down many, many marketers which relied on "given things"....but those things can change from one day to the other. Thats why you want to spread your wings and don't want to rely on a single factor making or breaking your business. This merely an example.
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12-03-2008, 12:31 AM	#21
Mari_Quint HyperActive Warrior Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 410 Thanks: 11 Thanked 13 Times in 13 Posts	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? My biggest fear is losing my full-time job while still a novice in IM. Reading all the successes and claims of various internet marketers is kinda overwhelming. I mean, which tool or whose strategy really maximizes income? Finding a good mentor is also key in being successful in IM. There are loads of questions in my mind and I think the best way to clarify all my "confusion" is to read more, do more research and ask lots of questions.

12-03-2008, 02:59 AM	#22
WorksForWeb Warrior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 16 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? It's difficult to say what's my biggest fear. Actually I think I have no such a huge fear. Anyway when I realize that I am affraid of something I try to look for the reason of the fear. When you know the reason of the desease you will be able to find a remedy.

12-06-2008, 06:07 PM	#25
Lemaire Warrior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: California Mountains Posts: 9 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? I work with alot of veterans who have PTSD. Fear seethes through their veins and I found Barry Rice's story incredibly inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
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12-06-2008, 06:41 PM	#26
Josef_Benjamin DaMakeMoneyKing Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Detroit, MI Posts: 138 Thanks: 13 Thanked 33 Times in 14 Posts Social Networking Contact Info	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? I would normally never reveal this, but why not. My biggest fear was prospecting. You see, one of the biggest reasons people fail to succeed online is because of their unwillingness to communicate with people before they make the sale. Also known as : Prospecting. So, i guess that would be phone fear. How did i solve this problem? Daily work on myself in increments. Taking useful advice from those who understood my situation and applied them into my life, actively. Succeeding in this business means stepping outside your comfort zone, and i made that commitment when i signed up...what i didn't know was that i was actually going to have to talke to GASP PEOPLE! Developing my social skills outside of IM is/was critical to my current success. Talking to people on the phone is actually easier than talking to people face to face - for obvious reasons such as: 1. Risk of embarrasment 2. Fear of saying the wrong things 3. There is someone looking at you while you interact with them 4. odds are there are more people watching you interact with the person 5. You really can't fake confidence in front of people, easier on the phone I still get nervous, but i've learned to not let it stop me. And I've found that I'm the guy in the mall/bank/supermaket or whereever who's having the most fun. You really do have to get used to having conversations with people you don't know initially. Just look at all the big name marketers out there. They are where they're at because they are good communicators - better than average. So they get better than average results. If you want to succeed, you CANNOT hide behind a computer screen...you gotta be on the front line. Those who work behind the scenes make much less money, and we call those people employees.

12-09-2008, 05:43 AM	#28
linda.robe Banned Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 83 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: I Finally Conquered My Biggest Fear...What's Yours? My greatest fear is in GHOST..........