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Even though you have always been a person with very optimistic views about everything, especially about your business, you will feel down once in a while. What do you do when you feel down (de-motivated) for a particular day? Do you force yourself to keep working to get the job done, or do you take the day off to cool down? |
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Maybe meditate, watch a funny movie, put on some AC/DC or Bon Jovi. Sometimes jogging helps to clear your mind. But I think best is to talk to a close person. | |
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When I feel down I meditate, go for a workout at the gym or try to work out why I'm feeling low. Usually I'm working really hard on projects, so I don't really get the time to start feeling sad. I used to suffer from depression and alcohol addiction but since overcoming these things I rarely get down. I make a point of only listening to the news when I've finished my day's work as that can get me down. When all you hear is about is violence and injustice in the world it is hard not to be affected. Rob |
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I take time off to do something I enjoy. Or I go to sleep, knowing that when I wake up I will feel better - sort of like just starting the day over. Maybe the second time around will be better. Kathryn |
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When I'm feeling down, I listen to Ace of Base. It gets me PUMPED.
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I try to work through it, and focus on my goal for that day.
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Welly, I truly feel that reading my post in this forum "How To Rid Yourself of Doubt" is a great start on how to face such a situation. Peace & Tranquility |
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I'm pretty cool if I say so myself...lol, and I know my stuff, folks. I'm 31 years old and I'm full, full, full time on the internet. No part timing around this way...I'm here because I simply enjoy spreading as much love & light as I possibly can. Check me out on facebook,& say Hi. http://www.facebook.com/kevingmadison or twitter http://www.twitter.com/kevinmadison | |
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We recommend you read the Holy Bible, specially the words of the Lord Jesus and Paul.
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i go and sleep. : ZZZ and I talk to my wife about my problems. Most of the time, talking about it makes the problems smaller or even disappear. =) John |
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That depends on HOW down I feel. I don't get those days too much anymore because I'm doing much better than I used to, but sometimes I just want "more". Greed is a powerful emotion! (although it's not really greed since I'm doing good things with my money) However, I usually like to either take the day off or go over my goals/past successes and realize that I have nothing to be down about. It's usually just a case of being lazy |
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If I'm not feeling motivated, I won't work. Luckily that doesn't happen too often (because I like to give myself a healthy dose of time off anyway)... but when it does, I feel there's no need to push myself. This is something I had to learn the hard way - used to do the whole 12-16 hour days every day, no matter what, thing - but then I realized that you're much better off listening to what your body tells you. Not only do I find it to be more profitable, but I'm much happier for it. |
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I talk myself through it. Yes I do talk to myself and I do answer myself. I like myself and tell myself so. Others depend on me being strong so I am and I do stay that way. |
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Often I find that listening to podcasts on internet business or success can motivate me a lot, so that's one thing. Sometimes I just find that if I'm getting troubled too much by the little things in life, it probably means I don't have an engaging enough external focus (goal) and need to rethink that, give myself something to get excited about again. |
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i shift from reverse back into neutral by doing simple things, like commenting, directory subs, and messing with layouts. after a while the big picture comes back, and at least i haven't wasted time. |
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I will eat go out and get my favourite foods (that I don't eat often), like cheesecake, sashimi or stuff like that. Then I will get a long night sleep... and I will be charged up again in the next morning. |
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When I'm down, I have a couple of remedies: My music is a sure-fire reviver. I play harp and fiddle. The harp is wonderful for expressing any hurting-in-my-soul. The fiddle reminds me of how joyful living can and should be. Or, if I seriously need to hide in my "rabbit-hole" and pull the entrance in after me... I go outdoors. If summer, I pull weeds. Yep, I totally love pulling weeds - what better way to get to know local plants and their growth habits, needs, root structures, etc.? If winter, I go to the shore and watch birds. We even have the magnificent Bald Eagle here in Southern Maryland! Sometimes it helps to just retreat into a favorite movie. Hope this helps give someone else a few ideas! Dot |
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There are a number of things that I like to do if I am down. First of all, listening to some good music, playing games and most importantly going out with friends for playing cricket. I think I just love cricket. |
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Like some others, I listen to music and I sing along... I have a few CDs that I absolutely love, of course I know all the songs (or most of them). When I sing along, I completely forget about everything, I relax and I'm a new person. I guess singing and dancing helps release stress from my body. Dagmar |
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Do jumping jacks. Dig a hole. Fill it back up. Go for a run. |
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I simply pray in the Spirit. sesan |
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It's important to surround yourself with great people. Being an entrepreneur can be so isolating. Finding like-minded people to be with is a great way to come up out of those down feelings. I have networks online that I hang out in, and I have great friends and family off line. So when I feel down, a lot of times, I'll turn to them for support. |
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It depends. If I'm unsatisfied with expectations, I work harder. If I'm just not feeling up to it today I do one of two things: 1) Go to the gym 2) Take a break That's the beauty of owning your own business. It allows you to take some time off and still earn money. |
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Well my personal thing to do when I am feeling down and stuff is to go kill stuff on my games. I'm a stratgey freak so any game that gets me thinking away from marketing is great. I also get too kill stuff which is awesome. Bruno |
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I go to YouTube and watch the animal vids. Mainly cats and kittens, and then I gravitate to the doggies. Always cheers me up. ![]() Then I go hunt out one of the best motivational songs like EVER!! Man, I play this a few times and it never fails to get me psyched and ready to go: |
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I keep working at it and maybe take a little break to note down why I'm doing what I am doing. It's the reasons why that make it all worth it to me, so feeling down is very rare. |
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Visiting the Mind Warriors is one of my favorite things to do when I'm down! Or I look to other people who I find particularly inspirational, such as motivational speaker Les Brown. Some days I can snap out of it by shifting gears and working on something other than what is aggravating me. Other days I have to back off altogether and trust that the next day will be better. Valerie |
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I listened to the free audio which i got from Simpleology.com . Sometimes when the going gets tough it's difficult to focus. It works for me quite well. Cheers, |
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I listen to music that makes me happy and dance. I also watch funny videos online to get me laughing.
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| Its so good if my husband want to talk to me if he got problem. Usually if I feel down, I change my physiology. I learn from NLP. I adapt the body posture when I am motivated and within seconds, I am motivated again. But if I think I really need rest, I just take nap too...
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I like the Nina Samoan. But as for me I like to find something to zone out. For me I like to push myself harder when I'm running. Thats what makes me zone out. Some meditate but this is just my way of reaching the conciousness. I run like I'm racing untill my vision turn to a tunnel and I cannt think of anything else. Then my mind is clear to get back in the game.
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There are a few things I try when I,m feeling down. Exercise has always been important and makes me feel alive.Even something different to change your routine. Communication can also provide relief from these symptoms. Tony |
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Ok. Is it just me, or is igorkheifets a spittin' image of Yanik Silver? My post is related so stay with me.. When I'm getting down, and the negitive thoughts start popping up, I do a number of things to help get me back on track. I'm positive that at least one of these things will get motivated again..or just make you laugh: • Look in the mirror, look yourself in the eye and say, "damn you're beautiful!" (if that doesn't change your outlook on things, then I don't know what will) • Read/listen to some sales letters/recordings from highly motivated people (Yanik Silver, for example. The guy is nuts, and a positive influence. Others include Zig Ziglar, Anthony Robbins, Steven R. Covey, and Jeff Dunham. That last guy is funny, and he's a great marketer too. But his two buddies, Walter and Peanut will bust your gut.) • Meditate with audio recordings. (I'm talking about the ones that you shouldn't listen to while driving) Just a quick comparison because I gotta see for myself... Yanik Silver: (Famous Copywriter/Marketer) ![]() igorkheifets: ![]() ![]() You decide! |
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I've tried a lot of things through the years and I've found out that this is not according to taste but to a certain moods. 1. disappear for a day. More like playing hookie and have a walk in the mall, not necessarily doing any shopping, just sitting around watching people, having coffee, or ice cream (one pint please). 2. watch DVDs. preferably action movies or old classics. 3. go to a pizzeria, and order lasagna with a slice of pepperoni pizza. There's this one assurance that this too shall pass. I've had a mild depression before, conquered it without drugs, but it was a struggle. The household support pulled me through. That helps a lot. |
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Personally... ..the only thing that can be done is to change your image. Every reply here had to do by changing our images..Why not? change your image to your prefernce.. rey P.S. The brain and body only respond to images. |
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Meditation is the best way to regain the confidence..Try Yoga...
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I will often listen to some meditation music, I particularly love Enya music for relaxing and centering my mind and body. I take some time away from the computer, half a day or so and then I'm usually ready to get back at it. I've never been one to let things keep me down for long or let it get turned into a pity me party. |
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Hi, I will either surf to YouTube for inspirational videos like these one:- .. Or read amazing feat like this one :- Cliff Young, a farmer who inspired a nation Or just go for a walk or swim for hours. I think many of us forget what nature can really do to uplift you. |
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I just usually spend some time doing some breathing meditation or probably listening to relaxing music like sounds of waterfall. I also love to watch The Secret (man, has been watching that like 50 times). Walking in the garden or just sitting near a lake can also help a bit. Btw, I just realize from GrantFreeman post that igorkheifets and Yanik Silver are actually twins! That's the most amazing thing I ever seen since I've got warning from Warrior Forum for posting a joke in Off Topic forum :-) |
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For me... I will take some time and think about my future... Think of the outcomes after you have achieved the things that you want in your life. If you want to be rich, then think of what is going to happen to you after you are rich. This will definitely motivates you. Audios and videos work well too. You can also stay close with the nature. Go to your garden and have a walk there. Let the fresh air 'clear' your mind and 'free' your mind. |
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What Was Nigel Really Worth? I know the below is quite long, but… As the saying goes…“DON’T WORRY BE HAPPY” I want to tell you about Nigel's dramatic story and then explain how it applies to many people in their quest for answers to their financial worries or just feeling down in the dumps! Nigel had recently gone through a divorce after 20 years of marriage. He had been feeling pretty low so in an attempt to pick himself up out of the doldrums he had made a decision to do something positive and exciting. He had gone with a group of friends to New Zealand on an adventure holiday. Including Nigel, there were 17 friends who had flown to New Zealand and who were now boarding a charter flight to a wilderness destination on an offshore island where they would be trekking inland and then white water rafting back to the coast. They were looking forward to some serious fun and adventure and as the aircraft accelerated along the runway Nigel made a conscious decision to put the pain and hurt of the past months behind him and to have a really great time. The aircraft took off without a hitch and as the twin engines droned in the background Nigel thought about his life and how he had never really amounted to much even though he was a good person with lots of friends. He had married at age 25 and now at age 45 was trying to understand why his wife had just up and left him for a bloke who didn't treat her anywhere near as well as he had done. It just didn't make sense at all. Sure, they had struggled with money forever but that was just normal as far as Nigel could see. He had tried a few business ideas but none had really worked out that well. He always ended up working long hours and even though he made a point of charging below the standard rate to try to attract more business he invariably would become frustrated by the long hours and a lack of real return on his time. He always went the extra mile for his customers to keep them happy and coming back for more but in the end he worked out that he might as well just go and work for a boss so that is what he had done. Working for a boss meant less time at work and as far as Nigel could see that should have made things better around the home. More time with his wife and the kids should have helped but it had made no difference and things deteriorated further. Now it was all over. Nigel was going to have to just move on. Suddenly a loud bang came from the starboard engine and it began shaking seriously. Within seconds smoke began billowing out from beneath the cowling and soon after that flames appeared and grew in intensity as they streamed out behind the failing engine. This was serious Nigel thought!!!! It soon became apparent to everyone on board that this was not going to be the joy-flight they had anticipated! The pilot's voice announcing that there was going to be a watery landing came as no surprise to everyone on board after they noticed the wing itself had begun to melt from the heat of the engine fire. Worry turned to fear and then panic as the ocean loomed nearer and nearer. What was to become of them Nigel thought? Would they die on impact? Would they be trapped inside the sinking fuselage, drowning as it sank to the bottom of the ocean? What a way to go! Nobody had expected anything like this when they took off that morning. Nigel found it hard to describe his feelings as he and his friends unwillingly anticipated their fate. While lady luck had chosen to frown upon their day only minutes earlier she now appeared to smile for a moment. With an amazing piece of brilliance, the pilot managed to flare-out and then stall the aircraft just before impact, allowing it to belly flop into the water with an almighty splash only to re-surface moments later like a cork thrown into a bucket of water. No-one was killed! In fact, most of those on board suffered no more than a few cuts and bruises. Nothing serious had happened... yet! But what about the fire? What about sinking ? More good news! The fire was extinguished by the the water and for a moment there was a sense of relief and calm that the ordeal was over. Looking around, the group began to express their relief to each other, but lady luck was not smiling for long. The aircraft had sustained serious structural damage as it hit the surface of the ocean and they were taking water fast. It was clear that they were going down ... again! Getting out of the sinking aircraft now became an urgent priority. What followed was the most unimaginable series of events you would ever read about. With only minutes until the aircraft would sink, all 17 on board rushed to locate the life raft and get it inflated as quickly as possible. Frantically they worked together at unpacking the raft and getting it ready to deploy but then gradually, one by one, a sense of shock came over the group as they began to realise that only 16 people could possibly fit into the life-raft! Someone would have to take their chances in the water. What was tragic about this was the fact that sharks had already started to circle the sinking aircraft almost as if they were anticipating that lunch was about to be served! Knowing that someone was almost sure to be taken by sharks, the group had some collective soul searching to do. How could they possibly make the decision of who would miss out on a place in the life raft? It was quickly suggested that everyone should take turns at telling why they should be granted a place in the life raft and then the group would vote on who had been least convincing in presenting their case for survival. What else could they do? They would have drawn straws but nobody had any. Time was running out! Nigel was thinking hard about what he would say when it was his turn to speak. It was as if his life was flashing before him. He thought about the good times he had had as a child growing up. The times he had spent with family and friends. How he had gone camping as a boy scout; how he had won every medal offered by the scouting movement for bushmanship and how much fun that had been. He thought of his children and wondered what they would feel if he never made it home. He thought about his ex-wife and wondered if she would even shed a tear if he died. Nigel's thoughts turned to how he had been brought up to always be polite; to always let others go first. Never to be pushy or greedy. Never to think that he was better than others. He was a modest and humble person who loved life. As he listened to the rushed words of his friends, Nigel was overwhelmed by a feeling that he just could not put himself before his friends and as his turn to speak arrived he made a decision. He could not live with himself for the rest of his life knowing that he had put himself ahead of one of his friends who had then died as a consequence. He was struggling to come to terms with his wife leaving him anyway so what the heck! Standing quickly to an upright position, Nigel took a step forward, said goodbye and threw himself out of the sinking plane and into the shark infested water. He was quickly devoured in a feeding frenzy that shocked and sickened his friends to their very core. He died a painful but swift death right there in front of his mates who watched his gallant actions unfold in utter disbelief as they helplessly viewed their friend's ghastly self-sacrifice. The remaining 16 were absolutely stunned and the significance of what they had just witnessed was overwhelming as they climbed into the life raft and pushed away from the sinking fuselage. They made it clear just in time to avoid being sucked under by the undertow of the sinking wreck and before too long found themselves bobbing around in the ocean with nothing in sight but the distant horizon in all directions for as far as they could see. They were stunned at the events of the day and wondered what would happen next! Each one of them paid tribute to their friend Nigel, taking turns at recalling the events of a time they had spent with him in the past. He was a faithful friend and now he had made the supreme sacrifice for each one of them. Hours passed and day turned to night. Talk began to turn to whether they would ever be rescued or make it to land safely or not. Jokes about 'Gilligan's Island' became common as they tried hard to hide their sorrow and their fear. Who would be the professor? Which one of them was most like Thurston Howell? Who in the group was Gilligan? Would they spend days or weeks lost at sea or would they float to a deserted island? Was this to become their own personal version of that famous sitcom's three hour cruise? Thoughts turned to the fact that no-one had anything more than the clothes they were wearing. All their gear had gone down with the plane. Everything had happened so quickly they were lucky to have come away with their lives but now they were feeling hungry and thirsty. What would they do? How long could they survive if there was no rescue? Morning seemed to take forever to arrive and to their amazement as daylight broke they saw they were drifting towards a solitary small island. By mid afternoon they were on the beach and counting their lucky stars that they would not spend another day drifting at sea. In the distance a search plane was seen and as they heard it getting louder and louder they frantically made vain attempts at lighting a fire on the beach to attract attention but as quickly as it had appeared the aircraft disappeared and they realised that with no matches and no firelighters they had no chance of ever lighting a fire. What would they do? Not one of them had any idea how they could take charge of their predicament. If they put out to sea in the life raft, who knows where they might end up; South America? South Pole? They realised they were in serious trouble! Over the next two weeks countless aircraft and ships passed by but not one of them noticed the 16 desperate people dancing frantically on the beach trying to attract attention. Time after time they got their hopes up only to have them shattered again as they were passed by. Although there was a heavy dew each morning there did not appear to be any available running water and with no canned food or take-away shops, they had made desperate excursions into the dense vegetation looking for something they could eat but this was no Gilligan's island! There was no sign of life and nothing they tried to eat seemed of any sustenance to them at all. Gradually, together, they all grew weaker and succumbed to thirst and hunger and died! Tragically all 17 eventually perished! Nigel was eaten by sharks and the other 16 died on the island. Nobody ever found out what happened to them and to this day their disappearance is still a mystery to their families and friends. Such a sad story! How different it could have been though if Nigel had not been so selfless in giving his life for his friends. He had felt unworthy to put himself first. How could he? He was brought up to put himself last. He was taught in school that it was rude to rush to the front of the line for tuck-shop or anything else for that matter. He always stood back and allowed others to have their way. He was even praised for doing so! He had learned to put others before himself so well; too well in fact! Nigel had a girlfriend once, but after a few months he realised the relationship really was not working for him but because he was such a kind, caring person and he always put other's before himself he could not tell her that he did not want to continue the relationship. She was so assertive and every time he even thought of calling things off he would start to worry about how that would hurt her feelings. She would always say how much she loved and needed him so it was just too difficult. He went out with her for two years wishing he could find a way to break off the relationship but eventually she had pressured him into engagement and then marriage. How hard he had tried to make that marriage work. Funny thing was, as he had become more comfortable with the relationship, she had gone cold. After years of trying to re-kindle her affections for him she had up and left him for someone else. Someone who would never be as kind and considerate as Nigel. What a turn-about! Nigel often wondered how and why it had turned out this way. You see, Nigel had a bad habit of not only putting himself last; he also did not see himself as being worthy enough to ever place himself before anyone else. This was really crazy because he was quite a talented man. He had a lot to offer and it would not have been wrong of him to expect a lot in return. Of course it was important to consider other people in everything he did. It is good to be humble and polite when it is appropriate, but what would have happened if Nigel had valued his life and what he had to offer the group more highly? He was the only one in the group who had bush survival skills. He knew how to collect the dew for drinking water. He could have lit a fire by rubbing sticks together where the others had failed. They could have attracted a passing ship or aircraft but with no fire the others had no way of doing so. They perished as a result. His knowledge of how to locate and prepare bush tucker would have been invaluable to the group but unfortunately he took these skills with him to his untimely death. What a tragic waste his self-sacrifice turned out to be. It was a tragedy in every sense of the word! The message behind the story So, did you like that story? I hope not! You weren't meant to enjoy it. I told it to highlight an important issue that has become so apparent to me over the last few months. Let me ask you, "Are you a Nigel"? Here are some ideas as to how you can overcome your thoughts of limited self-worth. Ask your friends to write you a note telling of the good qualities they see in you. You can tell them it is part of an assignment you are doing if you find it hard to just ask for no reason. Ask your spouse / girlfriend to write you a note telling of what qualities they see in you. Read and believe these comments to be true. Ask yourself if the people you see as more worthy to receive than yourself actually deserve that status. The 16 friends in Nigel's story certainly did not! If Mary asks herself why her husband is more important than she is she might realise that he actually is not. In a marriage they should be equal. If Mary and Martha ask themselves why the children they donate to are more important than they are they would realise that they are more important because they have the ability to donate. They have a responsibility to manage their affairs better. Interest charges on their Credit Cards are costing so much that neither can donate efficiently! Spend some time recalling your childhood and the significant moments that have shaped your beliefs about yourself that now limit you. What things were said that you took on board as true? What events were turning points? Why do you allow them to have power over you? I observe my two three old daughter and see that she has no issues of doubting her self worth. Our thoughts of being worthy or unworthy are a learned behavior. Like an elephant that was tethered by a thin rope pegged to the ground as an infant, an adult elephant will never challenge the limiting belief that it can not escape from the constraints of the strand of rope pegged to the ground when it is older. Challenge your rope! Practice valuing yourself. If you are a parent you probably give and give and give to your children. Ask your children to do something for you and when they complain bitterly do not say how ungrateful they are, but instead realise that their reaction is the consequence of you allowing them to be more important than you in the past. Start to expect and ask for more on a regular basis. It will do you and your children a lot of good. You need to start telling yourself that you are worthy. Say to yourself many times a day "I deserve to receive good things and I bring good value to the people in my world". "Nobody is more important than me because I can make a difference". Start keeping a journal of your thoughts about yourself and make a point of each day writing down something good about yourself and what you achieved during the day. Practice believing for and asking for things you want. See yourself in your minds eye confidently asking for these things. Tell your boss with a smile every day that you will be asking for a pay rise soon because you are doing such a great job. If you start to see yourself confident and strong and justified in asking and worthy to receive and then rehearse asking in your minds eye, when it is time to ask, you will simply be repeating what you have been rehearsing over and over in your mind. You won't have to think or worry, you can just confidently ask! Like most things in life, once you become aware of what is happening you can change it. In your journal keep a record of your observations about yourself. LIFE’S WAY TO SHORT! Believe you are worthy of more, ask for more, expect more and be happy to receive more and give more. To prosperity and beyond, be happy :-)) Regards Brian Duffell | |
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Caffeine and Nicotine in the fresh cool air, while pacing up and down, thinking... thinking... It depends how down you get, if it's a biggy then quit for the day, knowing tomorrow is a brand new day. |
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Wow thanks everyone who helped to contribute their opinions, especially for macrobjd who has put together such a long and great post. I realize that feeling down is not something we can avoid, the most important is how we deal with it and keep moving forward |
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I usually take a long walk or do some push ups some times I will take a little 15 minute session to think about absolutley nothing, When I first started I would call my mentors to ask for advice, that is the most effective. I still do this just to talk and see if they have any advice. Finding a mentor is one of the greatest things a new entrepreneur can do for their business. |
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No worries Wellymulia, Glad you enjoyed it ;-) Have a laugh, well... shouldn't really laugh OUCH!! Go to this link at YouTube My body hurts just watching :-( Cheers Brian |
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My friend, When you feel down just take some time off and have a nature walk, it is the most soothing thing on the mind and it relaxes you and take a load off. Try it. Denise |
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On the rare ocasions when I feel depression, I always look to quickly change my PHYSIOLOGY rather than my PSYCHOLOGY. I've learned from Tony Robbins and others its far easier and faster to change my physical posture and body language than to change my thinking. If I change my physiology my mind will follow suit. This has been one of the most remarkable techniques I've ever experienced. Try it! Bruce |
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Here is one more way you can get motivated in your life: Doing CHARITY works. Wehn you are down, maybe you can go to those old folks house and spend some time doing charity work there. Maybe you can even donate some money there. This will make you feel that you are actually more luckier than a lot of people. I guess this works. |
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