How do you persuade?

jayden.fellze · 03-02-2009, 08:03 AM

How do you persuade? What are the most effective tools/techniques do you consider where you can persuade other people? Share your thoughts.

DominicTFY · 03-02-2009, 10:08 AM

Hey jayden,

Before we can persuade anyone, we need to first build rapport with them. You can do this easily by:

1. Relating to a common incident/situation
2. Relating to a common interests
3. And much, much more...

How do you exactly do that? Just start by asking questions. e.g. "Ever had dirty tough stains that were difficult to remove?" etc

Hope that helped,
Dominic

Brad Gosse · 03-02-2009, 10:27 AM

Persuasion is a tough game. The word itself sounds shady but when done right you will always be able to persuade people. I try to live by the following...

Rule #1 Deliver on promises. If people believe you, persuasion will come easily over and over.
Rule #2 Offer real value
Rule #3 Solve a problem. People are easily persuaded by solutions to existing problems in life or business. This could be a home remedy for the common cold or a complex business solution.

rickymat · 03-02-2009, 11:43 AM

Hi Brad,

Here are the some useful tips to persuade anyone:

Enter Their World
Mirror Their Body Language
Be Cheerful and Nice
Be Sincere and Trustworthy
Provide Them With Compelling Evidence
Show Them “What’s In It For Them”
Genuinely Care For Them

Try to implement these points in you and start persuade people.

Best wishes

jayden.fellze · 03-03-2009, 09:42 AM

Thank you guys for your sharing of thoughts, I think these are all enough for me to learn more about the art of persuasion.

DominicTFY · 03-03-2009, 09:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jayden.fellze

Thank you guys for your sharing of thoughts, I think these are all enough for me to learn more about the art of persuasion.

Jayden, there's actually a good book on persuasion, called "Persuasion" by James Borg. Wonder if you've seen it before...

Loren Woirhaye · 03-03-2009, 09:59 AM

Check out Kevin Hogan's stuff. Body Language Expert, Speaker, Influence, Persuasion, Kevin Hogan - there is
some awesome free material on there about persuasion and the
bonuses for joining his list are killer.

Loren Woirhaye · 03-03-2009, 10:02 AM

Check out Kevin Hogan's stuff. Body Language Expert, Speaker, Influence, Persuasion, Kevin Hogan - there is
some awesome free material on there about persuasion and the
bonuses for joining his list are killer.

MaskedMarketer · 03-03-2009, 10:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Loren Woirhaye

Check out Kevin Hogan's stuff. Body Language Expert, Speaker, Influence, Persuasion, Kevin Hogan - there is
some awesome free material on there about persuasion and the
bonuses for joining his list are killer.

I think kevin hogan says the first step to persuasion is persuading yourself.

Makes sense.

megalinktraffic · 09-14-2010, 08:00 AM

Look at the Issue or goal from the point of view of your client or customers and act accordingly or speak in their favour this will enable them take decision as u need..

ucajack · 09-14-2010, 08:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rickymat

Hi Brad,

Here are the some useful tips to persuade anyone:

Enter Their World
Mirror Their Body Language
Be Cheerful and Nice
Be Sincere and Trustworthy
Provide Them With Compelling Evidence
Show Them “What’s In It For Them”
Genuinely Care For Them

Try to implement these points in you and start persuade people.

Best wishes

I have heard about these before but never tried them.

ryanbiddulph · 09-14-2010, 11:58 AM

Hi jayden.fellze,

1 - Build Trust

If people trust you they can be persuaded by you.

2 - Establish Authority

Experts can persuade others easily, without the use of force.

3 - Don't Force It

Force negates. Don't try too hard. Simply build a relationship with whomever you wish to persuade and allow them to be convinced. The universe finds perfect matches for you when you allow it too.

Ryan Biddulph

he_who_brings_order · 09-14-2010, 04:56 PM

I...

- Analyze person. Body language, mostly.

- Adapt to that type of person.

- Understand his/her needs.

- Use some universal tool for influence. (example: provide a quick fix, find similarity etc)

...........

This topic is too big for the forum post. Books have been written on the subject.

Gary Pettit · 09-16-2010, 10:25 AM

With passion, integrity, and a spirit of willing helpfulness.
Then they either are persuaded or not, but your work is done.
"To thine own self be true."

Optimus Lime · 09-16-2010, 02:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by he_who_brings_order

I...

- Analyze person. Body language, mostly.

- Adapt to that type of person.

- Understand his/her needs.

- Use some universal tool for influence. (example: provide a quick fix, find similarity etc)

...........

This topic is too big for the forum post. Books have been written on the subject.

good stuff!

papacuppa · 09-17-2010, 07:36 AM

Well, just bear in mind that 70% of communication is through body language -- The only meaning words have are the tone in which you use them.

What does this mean? It means that any rapport you build can ultimately depend on factors outside of your immediate control!

But there is a shining light...

You can condition more self control and so become a better influencer.

If I had to give a couple of points that are practical right now I'd say:

--Genuinely share the interests of who your trying to build a relationship with
--And smile!!

ashrafsobli · 09-17-2010, 11:31 AM

Here is a list of books that I recommend you to read of which I've personally read myself and found great values in them :

1. Influence : The Psychology of Persuasion Robert Cialdini (This is the best)
2. The Psychology of Persuasion : Kevin Hogan
3. Secrets of Power Negotiating for Salespeople, Inside Secrets from A Master Negotiator : Roger Dawson
4. Power Persuasion : Roger Dawson
5. How To Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie ( Classic ! and my first book on psychology of persuasion )

Use the knowledge wisely because in persuasion, there are always 2 sides.. good side and bad side ... bad side is where all the con men are

slk · 09-17-2010, 02:46 PM

The above post has great book references to read. For me, I persuade by being honest, upfront and pleasant. When you are confident (not arrogant) and love what you do, then others are drawn to you and will actually want what you have. You can become better at persuasion.

Vick S · 09-20-2010, 12:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MaskedMarketer

I think kevin hogan says the first step to persuasion is persuading yourself.

Makes sense.

I couldn't agree more. People can smell phony a mile away.. If you want to persuade people to do something for you (use people) - you won't get very far.

I think you have to become the person you want other's to be for you and be real, then people will just be attracted to you... I know this sounds bazzare but its true and works.

xInd · 09-27-2010, 12:36 PM

THE TRUTH. Even when they can't handle the truth.

ryanbiddulph · 09-27-2010, 12:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vick S

I couldn't agree more. People can smell phony a mile away.. If you want to persuade people to do something for you (use people) - you won't get very far.

I think you have to become the person you want other's to be for you and be real, then people will just be attracted to you... I know this sounds bazzare but its true and works.

Well said Vick. You must be the person to become the person, and part of being an attractive person is believing fully in whatever you have to offer.

RB

Gino Robin · 09-27-2010, 01:47 PM

Hi,
The Only truth in Persuasion..it lies in the ability to get the other persons's point of view...as to see things in that person..angle...as well as in your own.......................PUT YOURSELF IN THAT PERSON SHOES !

Thanks I Apreciate
Gino

rawservices · 09-27-2010, 03:31 PM

Develop rapport by mimicking their actions.

They raise their voice you raise yours.

They play with their hair, you do play with yours on the opposite side of your body.

Notice the way they breathe and begin breathing that way.

This is a fast, powerful way to develop rapport with anyone.

Once you have the rapport down and you're a friend, use the techniques above.

Good book: "How to Make Anyone Like You in 90 Seconds or Less"

-Ryan

judith obrien · 09-27-2010, 04:27 PM

By being able to relate to them.If you have walked a mile in there shoes before than you can almost predict what they are going to say or maybe even going to do.But personally i think that wile it make work initially, it will cathch up to you in the long run.That is if you are doing it to anyone who has any common sence1

Vincenzo Oliva · 09-27-2010, 05:21 PM

To make it simple, don't ever tell people what to think or do, give them the information needed where they can draw their own conclusion, the conclusion you want ;-)

Brock Henry · 09-27-2010, 08:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sparkie2260

With passion, integrity, and a spirit of willing helpfulness.
Then they either are persuaded or not, but your work is done.
"To thine own self be true."

Frankly, I think this is the truth. More than anything, simply being authentic is what persuades. People aren't stupid. If you aren't offering something of true value, that will come across in your offer no matter how hard you try to hide it.
So, the solution is to make sure that what you are offering has amazing real value. When that's the case, you'll truly believe in what you are offering, and the persuasion will just be a natural part of how you present what you have. Let your personal quality and the quality of what you are offering speak for itself.

Over-sell = under-profit. Period.

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DominicTFY Dominic Tay War Room Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Singapore Posts: 223 Thanks: 10 Thanked 22 Times in 17 Posts Social Networking	Re: How do you persuade? Hey jayden, Before we can persuade anyone, we need to first build rapport with them. You can do this easily by: 1. Relating to a common incident/situation 2. Relating to a common interests 3. And much, much more... How do you exactly do that? Just start by asking questions. e.g. "Ever had dirty tough stains that were difficult to remove?" etc Hope that helped, Dominic
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rickymat Warrior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 20 Thanks: 0 Thanked 3 Times in 2 Posts	Re: How do you persuade? Hi Brad, Here are the some useful tips to persuade anyone: Enter Their World Mirror Their Body Language Be Cheerful and Nice Be Sincere and Trustworthy Provide Them With Compelling Evidence Show Them “What’s In It For Them” Genuinely Care For Them Try to implement these points in you and start persuade people. Best wishes

03-03-2009, 09:42 AM	#5
jayden.fellze It's just me! Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 471 Thanks: 11 Thanked 17 Times in 16 Posts	Re: How do you persuade? Thank you guys for your sharing of thoughts, I think these are all enough for me to learn more about the art of persuasion.
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Brad Gosse Senior Warrior Member War Room Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Orangeville, Ontario Posts: 2,906 Thanks: 1,311 Thanked 1,070 Times in 566 Posts Social Networking	Re: How do you persuade? Persuasion is a tough game. The word itself sounds shady but when done right you will always be able to persuade people. I try to live by the following... Rule #1 Deliver on promises. If people believe you, persuasion will come easily over and over. Rule #2 Offer real value Rule #3 Solve a problem. People are easily persuaded by solutions to existing problems in life or business. This could be a home remedy for the common cold or a complex business solution.

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papacuppa Active Warrior War Room Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Eastbourne, UK Posts: 81 Thanks: 17 Thanked 26 Times in 10 Posts Social Networking	Re: How do you persuade? Well, just bear in mind that 70% of communication is through body language -- The only meaning words have are the tone in which you use them. What does this mean? It means that any rapport you build can ultimately depend on factors outside of your immediate control! But there is a shining light... You can condition more self control and so become a better influencer. If I had to give a couple of points that are practical right now I'd say: --Genuinely share the interests of who your trying to build a relationship with --And smile!!

09-17-2010, 11:31 AM	#17
ashrafsobli Warrior Member War Room Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 4 Thanks: 8 Thanked 3 Times in 2 Posts	Re: How do you persuade? Here is a list of books that I recommend you to read of which I've personally read myself and found great values in them : 1. Influence : The Psychology of Persuasion Robert Cialdini (This is the best) 2. The Psychology of Persuasion : Kevin Hogan 3. Secrets of Power Negotiating for Salespeople, Inside Secrets from A Master Negotiator : Roger Dawson 4. Power Persuasion : Roger Dawson 5. How To Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie ( Classic ! and my first book on psychology of persuasion ) Use the knowledge wisely because in persuasion, there are always 2 sides.. good side and bad side ... bad side is where all the con men are

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judith obrien Warrior Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 13 Thanks: 2 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: How do you persuade? By being able to relate to them.If you have walked a mile in there shoes before than you can almost predict what they are going to say or maybe even going to do.But personally i think that wile it make work initially, it will cathch up to you in the long run.That is if you are doing it to anyone who has any common sence1

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Vincenzo Oliva Advanced Profit Engineer War Room Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Austin Texas Posts: 626 Thanks: 11 Thanked 165 Times in 123 Posts Social Networking Contact Info	Re: How do you persuade? To make it simple, don't ever tell people what to think or do, give them the information needed where they can draw their own conclusion, the conclusion you want ;-)