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| "I already know that." Why are these four words the most dangerous in the English language? Because when you utter these words, you have closed your mind to the possibilities. Let's say someone is about to give a presentation. You hear its title and you groan, "I already know that." What happens next? You turn off your mind. You start doodling or making a list of things to do. Or you start reading ahead to see what the next speaker on the agenda should have to say. You've just closed off any possibility that you might actually learn something new. Maybe you DO think you know this topic. But are you experiencing success? Any success at all? If you ARE successful, wouldn't you like MORE? Then uncross your arms and get that look off your face. You know the one I'm talking about. The one that says, "I already know that." |
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"I already Knew that" may be truly the most dangerous words. But some times I have seen if you have already knowledge and you have gone in more depth then the newbie speaker. I once had stuck on an occasion. A newbie speaker wanted us to hear every thing he know about a very childish theme. I had knowledge way beyond he was talking about but just for showing a positive attitude... I spent whole one hour hearing his bla bla... So in my opinion it's not always the most dangerous to think that you already knew it. |
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I can understand your point that you don't want to waste time listening to recycled information. But here's an example of how "I already know that" can be dangerous. What if you've heard it before, but it hasn't sunk in? What if you need to hear it again so you can REALLY hear it and understand it? Here's an example. I've been involved with a hobby group for a while that meets regularly. They discuss this hobby and actually create things with this hobby. Some of the members of the group are really talented, while others aren't. Some try hard, but others don't. This can be a lucrative hobby if you're good enough and sell your work. But some of the people who have been members for many years, and are still plugging away at the hobby, haven't sold their work. They'd like to sell it. They dream of selling it and "making it big." What's the problem? They're missing some of the vital information on how to properly craft what they create. So, as they pump out creation after creation, they're just not as good as they need to be in order to sell. Why are they missing this vital info that would be so helpful? Mainly because they hear what the next speaker plans to talk about at the next meeting and often say, "Are you kidding me? I've been in this group for years. I already know that. I'm not going to sit through it again." So while the newbies (and a lot of oldies) sit at the meeting, taking notes like crazy, and asking questions to delve deeper into the methods, these "I already know that" people either skip the meeting or they sit there with their arms crossed and act like this is all too elementary for them. Of course, even if you hear all of the details and keep an open mind, it still doesn't guarantee you'll sell. Still need to put those methods into practice, just like anything else. I've done well with this other hobby, and when I've had the chance to give presentations to the group, I've encountered a lot of the "I already know that" attitude and I just want to SCREAM, "Yes, I realize that you think you know this. But you're not listening to the basics, and you keep making mistake A, B and C. Let me help you get these methods down and then you can smooth it over and move on." It's not always regurgitated, recycled info. Sometimes we miss the gems because we're too focused on how familiar we are with the same old dirt. Just another way to look at it. Jill |
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A great post Jilian. Whilst simple, it does ring true in many ways. I don't think it's much of an issue if we already know something, or if someone who's less experienced than us comes along and tries to preach to the choir about something we know better than them, of course those situations arise where we would be well within our right to ignore the person, but I think the greater message, the greater point, is to never be too cocky and think that you know everything about something, and thereby become oblivious to any potential acquisition of further knowledge in that subject. I absolutely love it when a subject I believe I know something about is discussed, only to find out that I have some important (or minor) detail about the subject absolutely wrong. It means I've learned something, and had I closed my mind off from discussing that subject to begin with because I already "knew it", then I would have failed to have been corrected. So I interprete what Jilian says as meaning "don't become too damn cocky". |
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Its also called hindsight bias in real psychology. And it's not the most dangerous. Plenty of other words hold equal weight (or rather, the meaning attached to them does....) |
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Nice quote Jillian, and very true it's our own theories that sometimes prevent us from knowing new things, however by being moderate and good listeners we can save ourselves a lot
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If you ever catch yourself saying "I already know that" ask yourself if you're using that knowledge. 'cause knowing it won't make you a cent, but putting that knowledge into action just might. I guarantee most people on this forum know a TON more about Internet marketing than they're actively using. |
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that is very true. I think it is dangerous in a way that it gives an impression that you don't want to learn new things. thanks for sharing. |
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I agree with that, I've experienced that also. I told a friend of mine something about SEO and he said. "Hey I know many things about SEO, so don't teach me laah". But then I tried to convinced him that this was the strategy that he hasn't known yet. Unfortunately he was realy stubborn. so I had no more choice but leave him that way.
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In Zen Buddhism there is a concept of Beginners Mind - which is much like what you are basically describing. That phrase can destroy the sense of Beginners Mind, thus closing you off from pure possibility and potentiality.
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This is so true. Every man I meet is my master in some way. I can gleam from the wisdom of all around me. |
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I agree with you Jillian. There is always something to learn, even if you claim to know everything about a subject. The others may look at something in a different way than you do, and maybe that will bring you new ideas about something. Claiming to know all there is about something, and shutting yourself off from listening to them is disrespectful and can potentially be bad because you could be missing out on some useful information. |
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I already know that is an assumption that I have been guilty of many times. Thank you for the reminder and I will pause to at least investigate a bit more before deciding that. Sometimes just one bit of info can make a difference in ones life.
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Jillian, Great post! As a lifelong learner and natural born teacher, one of my personal mantras is to "learn once, teach twice". Spread the wealth around. You do a great job of living my mantra! Leslie |
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Here's an add-on to Jill's "I already know that": You don't know SQUAT until you've done it. You might THINK you know what a "Sugar Apple" taste like (a fruit in the Caribeans), because the name implies an apple thats sugary, but you will NEVER know what it REALLY taste like until you've actually took a big, juicy bite, twirled it around with your tongue, salivated on the juices, and took a big gulp down your throat. Now you've TASTED it. |
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Yup. "Knowing" isn't the same as KNOWING. Or maybe it's better to say that "knowing" something isn't the same as putting it into practice, experiencing the benefits for yourself, understanding the nuances, and believing in it.
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I agree with your post that people who say that "they already know this" tend to shut off their minds, and ignore information that they have seen before. This can be detrimental as a person can always have an AHHA moment from hearing something a second or even third time. I personally attend many of my company's regional trainings that they put on in various cities, and although I know the presentation by heart, I always leave more empowered. Successful people do successful things, and being a life long humble learner, will get a person to their desitination faster! Great Post |
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Your post reminds me of someone that I do know Everything I tell him he "already knows that" (this is also accompanied by eye rolling) what confuses me is that although he knows everything he does nothing. Two years on and he still has a blank website nothing on it ... oh yes.. and although he knows how to set up a wordpress site I was the one that installed it two years ago for him lol Knowing does not equal doing |
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What I enjoy is when I think I know, then someone with way less experience than me comes along and explains the idea in a way that I never considered. I think that people who think they know, have simply shut their mind off. Everyone looks at the same thing differently. |
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This is a great point. And this is one of the reasons why I am always doing research for my website. I run a weight loss oriented website and try to target the health market in general so it is important for me to try and learn as much as possible. I honestly do not think it is possible to know too much about something. You must keep pushing yourself to have an open mind towards new knowledge because it can help you in many ways down the road. |
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I agree with your post Jillian, it is showing a closed mind. What about the Three Most Dangerous Words - I, Me, My. They can kill any conversation, as the orator is only focused internally and not about their surrounds and the people in the conversation. |
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I would like to add in "I can't do it". I hate those four words.
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So you mean we have total 8 dangerous words... "I already know it" and "I can't do it." |
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Agree with Mark 2. Those 4 additional words are also dangerous. Dagmar |
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Great post. you are right...just because we know something intellectually doesnt mean we are acting on it. i am not sure if it was Socrates or Plato who said that the person who doesnt know and knows that he doesnt know is the most intelligent. Moral of the story: Never stop learning |
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This is A Great Post! and soo true ! One phrase I keep reminding myself that's dangerous is; I can do it alone. Thanks Ray |
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From my experience I observed that people who think they know everything don't really know a thing... I also agree with rcm3rd, even if you can do it alone it's more fun when you work with people. |
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I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but those are not the 4 most dangerous words in the english language. Having been married for 8 years, I can tell you. It's: "How Do I look"? |
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Very true. "I already know that.." leaves NO room whatsoever for improvement. VERY true. Careful guys!
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haha, well I honestly do try to tell her. But us guys tend to screw up words lol. no matter what we say, it gets twisted. Comeon guys....you know what i mean |
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forget the 4 letter sentences of I cant do it and whatnot. If you start a sentence with just 2 words "I CANT..." then you are already set up for failure. Unless of course you say "I cant fail" but now we are just going off topic. You all get my point. 'I can't' is generally the start of a bad sentence. |
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I agree whole-heartedly with the statement and it's danger. I'm far more afraid of a single word statement, I hear uttered from the youth around me in a near constant litany of apathy: Whatever. It's beyond the risk of being close minded, or failing to learn more. The Not Caring about anything, that's what scares me. And it's as common as dirt. Of course you can just ignore this post. I don't really care. Don't like it? Whatever. |
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I agree! I think there are a lot of words out there that are very dangerous...it all comes down to the thoughts behind those words. I think Henry Ford said it best: "If you think you can or you think you can't, you're right." I think that people will say things like that because they don't really believe they can do it. |
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Any word, statement or affirmation that lacks the potential to move, create or beggin a thought process is dangerous such as: I can't do it It's impossible I hate this... Whatever I know this Maybe tomorrow.. among many others. |
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"I already know that" is just one of those words that we think is dangerous, but still its how you say it. Sometimes it can be intentional or just for fun.
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I love that comment, "I already know that." I usually come back with something like, "Oh great! So tell me how it's helped you?" That usually shuts them down just as quickly as they tried to shut you down. And then I continue relaying information if they are receptive. If they're not,then clearly, I must not waste time....I KEEP IT MOVING.
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What about when you ask someone a question, and they reply sarcastically with, "I already told you?" What's a good response to that?
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For me the most dangerous words are "will start it from tomorrow". Those were the words that delayed my goals and kept me in poverty.
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One of the best things I heard someone say was when this particular student in Aikido(martial art) said to his teacher at a seminar " but sensei I'm trying" this teacher looked at his student and replied with "Trying, stop trying and just do it. Trying is crap" That teacher was movie star Steven Seagal Rich |
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The moral of the story is simply to keep an open mind even when you wanna close it |
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"I Already Know That"...?! Maybe, the most dangerous 4 words in English dictionary but only to those who can't even think more after hearing those words. |
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“A closed mind is like a closed book; just a block of wood” - Chinese Proverb I any and EVERY situation - there is always something to learn.... I was at a chamber of commerce event last night and amoungst the guest speakers was one of the most unengaging people I've seen for a very long while - however I stood and watched his presentation and in doing so had a great business idea come to me - a corporate presentation service "We speak when you can't" - you offer a small speaking fee to present on behalf of your customer but then agree on a call to action to do something or buy something (which was approriate for this event) and then take a percentage of those takings...... everyone has something to offer - if we approach each person and situation with an open mind and open heart..... remember though that all that we hear may not be useful, even destructive, however even from these things we can glean goodnesss, knowledge and even enlightenment. |
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