Removing "But" From Your Business...

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Sorry if something like this has been posted/brought up in this section before. I'm sure it has. I don't get over here too often...

A recent event got be thinking...

A subscriber of mine contacted me on Skype. Very nice person, smart, and articulate.

They struggled all year to get things going so I offered to jump on Skype with them and toss some ideas around.

Immediately, I noticed something....

Anytime I brought up an idea, there was always a "but".

They would talk about another person's success and use the word "but".

You see it all the time on this forum...

"But they have a 20,000 person list" "But they already have a following" "But they are getting a ton of traffic" "But they know Wordpress" "But they already have existing relationships built with affiliates", etc..

Of course, I'm not perfect. I do the same thing from time to time, we all do.

When you break it down, "But" is really just an excuse. You already know what you need to do since you've identified why someone else is having success.

There's many times "but" can be transformed into a goal:

"But they have a 20,000 person list" ---> "I'm going to build a 20,000 person list"
"But they already have a following" ---> "I'm going to work my ass off and build a following"
"But they are getting a ton of traffic" ---> "I'm going to hustle and learn everything I can about generating traffic"
"But they know Wordpress" ---> "I'm going to watch tutorials and Google around to learn Wordpress"
"But they already have existing relationships with affiliates" ---> "I'm going to make a serious effort to connect myself with affiliates".

"But" can also cause you to have negative emotions and even become resentful towards others. So remove it from your thought process.

Just something to keep in mind heading into 2015.

If you have any thoughts as it relates to this or point out any resources that talk about this, I'd love to hear your take since there's many "professional" mindset people in here.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Karp
    Totally agree.

    Your mindset plays a pivotal role in your success. Are you a victim? Or do you shape your reality?

    That simple change in perspective can mean the difference between achieving what you want to achieve and falling short.

    Sure, some people do get lucky, and they get a head start in the business. But most start out with no skills, no following, no network, no traffic, no X, X, and X.

    But they make it work. They learn. The act. They fail. They learn again.

    Then they succeed.

    Great post man. Thanks for sharing.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      You see it all the time on this forum...
      Yes, you do.

      It's used by those who say they want ideas and advice - but really mean they want an audience to complain to. The "but" excuses them from trying - or even seriously considering - advice given by others in the thread.

      We've heard of 'passive aggressive' - I wonder if there is also 'passive negative'....as in...

      I would try that, but....

      It's a good idea, but....

      You say that would work, but...

      I don't think it's deliberate - it's almost a reflex answer from some people.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    i have learned that you need to hear the but and what comes after in order to tell what people really believe about themselves ..

    i will change you answers a bit

    "But they have a 20,000 person list" ---> in other words i do not believe i can build a list that big
    "But they already have a following" ---> i don't believe there is anything that interesting about me
    "But they are getting a ton of traffic" ---> i don't believ i can ever get as much
    "But they know Wordpress" ---> gosh learning new thing like this not me
    "But they already have existing relationships with affiliates" --->im shy i don't believe i can do this

    what i figure is the best response when you here this is.."at some point they didn't "

    shifting a little here ..again buts are basically how we state are true beliefs about ourselves ..

    if we want to change our beliefs we need to write down things that come after the but ..

    this has helped me shit a lot of long term beliefs and i believe i came up with it ..

    you have to be honest .. lets go for the easy one

    but they know word press .. so i am admitting i don't know word press . and i am using this lack of knowlege as a block.. well have i tried learning it if not will i try learning..if not do i care to learn ..if the answer is not really

    and if the line of answers on the other buts turn out similar .

    the core truth is ..that the person with this series of blocks..may like the idea of the business..but does not really want to do what they need to do to make it happen..they are grasping on to a drean and doing what they see the need to do to keep the dream ..but doing nothing they need to do to make it a reality ..

    if it is not really important the person should redirect their time energy and other resources to things in life where they are willing to work..

    look many people go to school combines almost 20 plus years from k-12 to degree before they actually do anything with what they learn ..

    personally i had to get my head streight and restore my physical health before i looks for the way to earn money but in doing those things it has pointed me wear i need to go ..

    though i would like to derive income online ..i need something physicel to do that is productive ..when i find that i will figure out which im thing i will need ..so i am here to keep up on the terms

    and this part of the forum has a lot of other people working on getting their head streight so many gems pop up..
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  • Profile picture of the author iwankurniawan
    wow.. thanks for sharing..
    so ... i'll change this : ...but my english is very bad to talk with others Warrior Member
    with this : ....i just do it, to talk with them ...so i'll know which one's wrong and what the better (Y)
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