Personal Power

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." - Steve Jobs

You are where ever you are because of the CHOICES you have made. No one else is responsible for the way you feel or act.

In our daily to do list, we allow external elements to effect our life. This happens because we get consumed in managing so many things. By doing so we give up our personal power. For example, an ecstatic drivers cuts you off, you flip them the bird and nasty things on them.

Imagine that for a sec. Some random person just cut you off and you got upset. You will NEVER see that person ever again but yet their action has made you get so upset.

The other day, it was raining outside. I decided to stick my hand out and feel the cool water trickle down my hand. "Get your hands back in" my mother yelled. To her it seamed childish. But on the other hand, rain brings a cool breeze and replenishes the earth.

You have to break out of the victim mentality - "Why does this happen to me?" "I did not do any of this". The victim mentality always ask "Why me?" instead of "What can I do to make things better". The victim refuses to take charge of a situation and blames others for their feelings.

If this is you or sometimes feel this way just remember: YOU FEEL THE WAY YOU DO BECAUSE OF YOURSELF. Everything is of your own doing.

See where I am headin' with this. Sometimes life gets hard. Its supposed to be that way. If it was all candies and rainbows then there would be no fun. The important element is HOW you get out of the rut.

Take action

Get honest with yourself. Ask these questions and journal your answers.

• What is bothering you the most right now?
• Who are you blaming for that feeling?
• How is this effecting your life?

Another great list from the livestrong.com website:

• Acknowledging that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life.
• Accepting that you are responsible for what you choose to feel or think.
• Accepting that you choose the direction for your life.
• Accepting that you cannot blame others for the choices you have made.
• Tearing down the mask of defense or rationale for why others are responsible for who you are, what has happened to you and what you are bound to become.
• The rational belief that you are responsible for determining who your are, and how your choices affect your life.
• Pointing the finger of responsibility back to yourself and away from others when you are discussing the consequences of your actions.
• Realizing that you determine your feelings about any events or actions addressed to you, no matter how negative they seem.