How to Replace Negativity with Positivity and Change Your Results

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Have you ever found yourself in an emotional place where you can't help but focus on the negative? Does it feel like you're viewing everything through dark, dreary filters rather than rose-colored glasses?

Maybe you could benefit from undergoing a change in your disposition. You'll feel so much better when you take steps to be more positive. Plus, you'll get more positive results.

When you change your approach, you change your results.

Try these strategies to switch from a negative focus to a more positive one:

1. Accept that you'll encounter negative thoughts. Avoid beating yourself up because you experience less-than-positive ideas. Consider those thoughts as being an unavoidable part of your life that you can easily deal with.

• Life isn't perfect for anyone. There's a mixture of good and not-so-good moments.
• Challenge yourself to change your negativity into more positive energy.

2. Take responsibility for your own thinking. Accept that your thoughts are coming from within you. The good news is that you can control your own thoughts. .

3. Keep the negativity to yourself. Now that you've given yourself permission to confront negative thoughts, promise yourself you'll refrain from verbally sharing the negativity with those around you.

• If you decide to talk to someone about a challenging situation, wait until you have a better handle on controlling your negative feelings.

4. Flip your mood. Get a mental grasp on your negative thoughts. You may be familiar with the expression, "Turn your frown upside down," meaning to smile and avoid dwelling on your troubles.

• You can also flip your mood from dark to bright. Think of it as flipping your cognitive switch, like a light switch. You have the "power" to flip your disposition.

5. Record the positive connection to a negative situation. Keep a pencil and paper or your electronic device close by at all times. When you experience a negative thought about a person or situation, jot down something positive about it.

• For example, let's say you're excited to eat breakfast at your favorite restaurant this weekend. But you end up with the slowest waitress in the place. You find yourself feeling annoyed and think, "Why are they so slow? This waitress is ruining my breakfast."

• You recognize your negative thoughts about the waitress. "Flip" your mindset and focus on the positive aspects of your breakfast experience. Write something like, "When my food arrived¸ the pancakes were hot, fluffy, and full of pecans. The coffee was great."

• When you jot down the positives, you can read them later as an exercise to sharpen your disposition in a constructive way.

6. Adopt a new mantra, such as "Don't sweat the small stuff." In a tough situation, try to recite your mantra over and over again. You'll soon be ready to move on with your day.

7. Look ahead to the near future. Maybe you'll discover you are full of negative thoughts each morning. If so, allow yourself to look two or three hours into the future. Think about a productive day at work followed by a dinner with an old friend.

• When you can imagine and focus on the good things that are yet to come, a positive light will shine through and eliminate the darkness brought on by negative thinking.

8. Praise your efforts. Once you've experienced your power over your disposition, acknowledge your efforts. You can even reward yourself for motivation to maintain your positivity.

Start working now to successfully deflate your negative thinking. Change your disposition and adopt a more positive perspective. With experience, you'll see that life is so much sweeter when you identify the positives and learn to side-step the negatives.

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  • Profile picture of the author trinity571
    Very well said. You could turn that into a useful book if you expanded on it. It would be worth a read, I think.
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  • Profile picture of the author TChase
    Thank you for sharing this!
    I would have to point out that people vary in emotional and mental capacity. There are people who can't keep all the negativity inside that they need someone to talk it out to. There are others who can take it, though i personally believe that keeping everything in will one day burn you out. I guess it just varied on who ever is experiencing it, the best thing is to not let it eat all of you up, see what strategy works for you and become better.
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  • Profile picture of the author HRDFarris
    Thank you for sharing this!
    Replacing negativity with positivity is easier said than done. There will be times when you are all positive then there will be time when you're all negative. Doing so will take time, it will take patience but once you have founds the best way for you to do so, then it will be easier.
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  • Profile picture of the author zapzer0
    This is indeed, correct, however it's quite difficult to be optimistic all the time as there are many things that may affect your mood for that particular day. Just do what you have to do, and do it skillfully and with confidence.
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  • As always man, fantastic content bro!

    I thank you for this post man, very inspirational my dude!

    Well done,
    Michael

    Originally Posted by Matthew J Trujillo View Post

    Have you ever found yourself in an emotional place where you can't help but focus on the negative? Does it feel like you're viewing everything through dark, dreary filters rather than rose-colored glasses?

    Maybe you could benefit from undergoing a change in your disposition. You'll feel so much better when you take steps to be more positive. Plus, you'll get more positive results.

    When you change your approach, you change your results.

    Try these strategies to switch from a negative focus to a more positive one:

    1. Accept that you'll encounter negative thoughts. Avoid beating yourself up because you experience less-than-positive ideas. Consider those thoughts as being an unavoidable part of your life that you can easily deal with.

    • Life isn't perfect for anyone. There's a mixture of good and not-so-good moments.
    • Challenge yourself to change your negativity into more positive energy.

    2. Take responsibility for your own thinking. Accept that your thoughts are coming from within you. The good news is that you can control your own thoughts. .

    3. Keep the negativity to yourself. Now that you've given yourself permission to confront negative thoughts, promise yourself you'll refrain from verbally sharing the negativity with those around you.

    • If you decide to talk to someone about a challenging situation, wait until you have a better handle on controlling your negative feelings.

    4. Flip your mood. Get a mental grasp on your negative thoughts. You may be familiar with the expression, "Turn your frown upside down," meaning to smile and avoid dwelling on your troubles.

    • You can also flip your mood from dark to bright. Think of it as flipping your cognitive switch, like a light switch. You have the "power" to flip your disposition.

    5. Record the positive connection to a negative situation. Keep a pencil and paper or your electronic device close by at all times. When you experience a negative thought about a person or situation, jot down something positive about it.

    • For example, let's say you're excited to eat breakfast at your favorite restaurant this weekend. But you end up with the slowest waitress in the place. You find yourself feeling annoyed and think, "Why are they so slow? This waitress is ruining my breakfast."

    • You recognize your negative thoughts about the waitress. "Flip" your mindset and focus on the positive aspects of your breakfast experience. Write something like, "When my food arrived¸ the pancakes were hot, fluffy, and full of pecans. The coffee was great."

    • When you jot down the positives, you can read them later as an exercise to sharpen your disposition in a constructive way.

    6. Adopt a new mantra, such as "Don't sweat the small stuff." In a tough situation, try to recite your mantra over and over again. You'll soon be ready to move on with your day.

    7. Look ahead to the near future. Maybe you'll discover you are full of negative thoughts each morning. If so, allow yourself to look two or three hours into the future. Think about a productive day at work followed by a dinner with an old friend.

    • When you can imagine and focus on the good things that are yet to come, a positive light will shine through and eliminate the darkness brought on by negative thinking.

    8. Praise your efforts. Once you've experienced your power over your disposition, acknowledge your efforts. You can even reward yourself for motivation to maintain your positivity.

    Start working now to successfully deflate your negative thinking. Change your disposition and adopt a more positive perspective. With experience, you'll see that life is so much sweeter when you identify the positives and learn to side-step the negatives.

    My Success Principles
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  • Profile picture of the author JimsonWright
    Thank you for sharing this! I guess the best thing to do is to not jump into conclusions and actions. Negativity won't do you any good in those areas. Sometimes we seek perfection so badly that it becomes out weakness... because its never perfect enough. We need to realize that things will go our way and not. There will be good days and bad ones. I guess we have to look at it as, the good day and the better day.
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  • Profile picture of the author Matthew Trujillo
    Appreciate the input from everybody. As the old saying goes :

    "A negative mind will never result in a positive life"

    Always try and look at the glad half full instead of half empty.

    Being grateful with what you already have in life is the first the step to success.
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  • Profile picture of the author PhilBiggs
    Thank you for sharing this. I think what works best for me is the balance of negativity and positivity. I think that negativity keeps you grounded, it brings the reality that positivity blinds us from. I think the important thing is having the balance of both. Don't get too negative that it lets you down, but keep yourself realistic from positivity.
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    • Profile picture of the author Matthew Trujillo
      Originally Posted by PhilBiggs View Post

      Thank you for sharing this. I think what works best for me is the balance of negativity and positivity. I think that negativity keeps you grounded, it brings the reality that positivity blinds us from. I think the important thing is having the balance of both. Don't get too negative that it lets you down, but keep yourself realistic from positivity.
      Negativity can also make you cynical , which makes you weaker in your actions.

      If you have a strong mindset that is positive and well disciplined you will succeed.

      Succeeding online is all about mental toughness, and when you are negative it ruins your chances.

      However you are right that negativity can be used as a wakeup call if you even wake up.

      In order for this to happen though, you must have a wake up call somehow.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    i have had to break out of overtly negative though patterns that had basically destroyed my life ..

    our mind is like an antenna most of the thoughts we think in a day are really not ours or from withing us..they are just passing throu ..

    you can fall asleep with the tv on and the next day have stuff you heard while asleep pop in and out of your thoughts ..

    what matter is our dominant thoughts ..or what we grasp on to and put effort into thinking about ..

    so don't worry about the 98 percent of thoughts that pass through your head in a day..pay attention to what you grasp on to and put major effort into thinking on .

    and weather you chose to grasp onto negative thought or positive thoughts ..

    then be aware when you are choosing to be in a negative thought pattern and why ..manytimes it is very entertaining and passes the time .

    i am very weird though..a combination of bi polar disorder and high functioning autism with a good list of sub condition ..so my thinking pattern and the way i take in and process information is far different from a normal person ..

    so technically it became much easier for me to think more positive or grasp more positive thinking patterns ..when i stopped trying to fix what i though was a broken system and gave up on being more normal ..and began learning how to optimize around my conditions..

    which i am still in the process of doing.. im 37 ..and have only been on the track of better optimization for about a year ..

    oh yeah and term wise ..instead of positive and negative .. i prefer optimal and sub optimal ..because you do need to progect out and think ..if i keep doing a certain action..what will be the long term effects ..

    if they are going to be negative ..think of the negative stuff .. but avoid hoplessness ..or positive thinking that ignores the probable negatives ..

    stay away from negative thought patterns if you are not willing to do something about the issue that is creating the pattern .

    bah sorry ..your list may be much easier for normal people to grasp and use to creat positive changes in their thinking .
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  • Profile picture of the author tobyjensen
    I love the things that you have mentioned.

    I'm familiar with the disciplines you have mentioned as well. Those can be incredibly helpful. There are so many to study and learn from. So many skills to master. It can be overwhelming, confusing, or at least just distracting with all the claims that are more often than not fail to deliver. So I finally developed my own.

    Gutap - the system to achieving core level change of any limiting belief.

    Steps:
    1 feel the feeling of the false belief to know it
    2 find out what it truly wants you to learn to be better
    3 connect that feeling of the positive lesson (not the concept or picture) to the negative feeling of the false belief to let the positive feeling flow into negative feeling to change it.

    Everyone knows by now how to find out more about the Gutap method I developed if they want too so I won't repeat it here.

    Having studied hundreds of methodologies, philosophies, and systems over twenty-five years this is the only way I have found to change any limiting or false beliefs we have all the way to our core. Many claim to be able to do this but when pressed for specifics more often than not they simply cannot explain what needs to happen let alone how to do it.
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