Best Way To Change Limiting Beliefs On Your Own

I'm not sure I 100% understand but I will talk a little about me perhaps you can connect. I was just lazy and did not put the work in. I knew a lot of information but for so long I took no action. I knew deep down that I could be successful but I just never did anything about it.

If you are like me then you will only become truely motivated when your life hits the shit storm! Not a good place to be in my friend. How many hours a day do you work now?

I am guessing you are an 'intellectual' someone who spends a lot of time in their own head, pretty well educated and book smart. You over analyize information way too much and fail to take action because of this. You probably get frustrated when you see people who you deem to be less intellectual than you succeed. Part of you probably does not feel like you even deserve success and that is why you are self sabotaging.

You should try doing affirmations to boost your self esteem and confidence. You should also take action. Just do a few small business actions today. Just write 1 or 2 articles and keep yourself busy!

Hi Stevie,

You hit the nail right on the head with I know everything and I know if I applied myself I could do just about anything but I don't take action...a lot of my day goes into distraction and trivia and doing business activities that are just keeping the fire at bay rather than any money making activities...

I wouldn't say i'm so intellectual but i have read loads of personal change, attended an anthony robbins seminar, walked on fire, read the books, listened to the tapes...

like you i also need to be in a bad place to take action....but so far doing that has not been the best strategy....i was once tooted as the golden child who would go to cambridge university and make a bigger impact on the world than bill gates...now i'm 25 and like $50,000+ in debt...and here is the thing...i still sleep at night...its like my situation is bad but i always think to myself...i could change my whole life around within 6months if I just started using my potential and so I don't create enough urgency, I only deal with the problem as it gets too bad...but the longer this goes on the more screwed I will be.

In 2007 i left my secure job to pursue my offline technology business and if was great for the 1st 4 months...then as success came and word got out and family wanted money I ended up screwing that up...I know someone I was protecting myself in all of that...there was positive intent there but damn...i just keep putting myself into more impossible to get out situations....if I make it without going bankrupt I will most certainly be writing a book.

I mean I know what my beliefs are...but here is the worst thing...i don't even take action of changing them....

Warrior Eric Louvier I think said in his course that "just take action - stop waiting to be more prepared" and thats what I do....I keep reading books, listening to things, until I am 1000% certain I will get the desired result.

when I was a kid I was great at maths and trial and error didn't matter I just wanted the result no matter what...now I find myself not trying things unless I know they work flat out....thats not going to get me anywhere.

so only 3% max of those who come to the warrior forum and buy wso's take action...and these belief issues are what causes it.

I feel your pain man. Just take 1 small action today that you know will help your business. You will feel proud after. Just do keyword research today and then do an article tomorrow. The more pressure you put on yourself to not just succeed but succeed in the grandest way possible the harder it will be for you to take action.

I think the best thing I heard was if you are going to fail...fail fast! None of the great inventors made things work perfectly first time around. There are no bad experiences or failures just learning experiences.

Go take action my friend and don't make me go there and kick your ass!

I'm right in your situation. It's like you're writing about me! Holy smokes! I'm an action taker, but it only lasts about 1 week. Then I'm back to square one! My wife wants me to see a shrink.

Hey, My favourite "belief" change tool is the 3dMind process by Tom Vizzini and Kim McFarland .. I could plug an affiliate link.. but i'm not gonna do that because it's hands down the best changetool out there atm.

It's about 250,00 $ and you'll get 2 dvd's, a few booklets with it..and last but not least you'll get access to the support group where the creators and 3dmind trained practitioners will help you get the get the results that you want.

You can find it here or you can PM/ Skype me (bartloos) if you want to know more.

Have fun

Bart

Hi,

No one will ever truly have the "correct answers" for you. But hopefully I can give you some insight into what has worked for me.

My take on your situation is: You are not lazy. You do not have a problem taking action. You don't mess things up. Yourself and the people around you are trying to label your lack of satisfaction with your life and accomplishments the only way they know how. This typically happens with "smart" people.

You breeze through life skipping steps that most people take and get to the result faster thus separating yourself from your peers. Since they haven't been able to do that they label you as "smart" and based on how society views smart people they cannot criticize your results for fear of being labeled "stupid". So they call you "lazy", thinking if had his brain i would go far, after awhile you start to believe this and you begin to think of yourself as lazy. Once you label yourself in a certain way it becomes very easy to justify anything aligning with that label. So in sense maybe you do become lazy but you never were.

What they developed and you didn't was a sense of accomplishment and pride from action that may not have had any purpose. So to move forward and release this label form yourself you can't struggle against your current reality.

An effective strategy to add satisfaction to your life is too think about your dream life. Everyone has one and by definition it has to be satisfying. Once you understand what type of life would satisfy you. You can work backwards and add those elements into your day so that each day allows you to move forward on the things that would make you satisfied.

In other words you no longer take action to make money, or build businesses, or whatever. You now take action because you want to be satisfied (and you know you want this because you wrote the post looking for a solution to the problem of being unsatisfied).

It is like IM you have to do solid keyword research first and once you found a good market the rest almost takes care of itself because if you find a profitable market you have more money to invest in better tools, better people, etc.

This daily mix can and will change with your tastes. Come back and post after 180 days of living the elements that make up your ideal life and you will be blown away at your own results and you will actually appreciate them.

That is my take. Hope it helps.

Lao Tsu said: "A journey of a thousand miles starts with one step".
Being a brilliant procrastinator I totally understand your dilemma. I found that positive affirmations work and to stop the negative self talk I put an elastic band around my wrist and give myself a tiny little ping as a reminder to stop. Immediately replace the neg thought with a positive one, even if it just to say: "I am getting better and better on a daily basis, I am making progress."
Take little steps every day, make a list and tick off one or more tasks, make sure that you don't beat yourself up if you are having a "no doing day". Just keep going, and give yourself little rewards for achieving some goals.
Success is not always measured by how much money you make, but how happy and content you can be, ask yourself what you really want, how much does it mean to you to achieve it and then take that one step towards it. Be grateful, you are one lucky person to be able to do whatever you set your mind to, there are already so many things to be happy about, I have not been able to give up chocolate, or coffee.

I have had the same problem in my life and have found that setting small goals every day like many others have mentioned is the way to go. I used to often set goals that would take many years to achieve and then they would seem unattainable. Now that I have broken them down, it seems much easier to get through each day. If you do not believe in yourself, no one else will either!! I wish you the best of luck and the success you surely deserve.

Hey, it take 21 days to change a habit. Stick to it for 21 days and it will begin to become a habit. You dont have limiting belifes if you say that. that is what manifest period.

Riz You have a focused mind your displined and you stick to your goals. Goals are normally assositated in the mind as negative because we have failed to achieve them. so change goals to outcomes what outcomes do you want after 21 days and stick to it. Why do you want those outcomes and what actions steps will you take to get your outcomes.

I am a Bashar fan and watch his videos on youtube everytime I feel down