Looks can be deceiving.

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Physical appearance will always comes first, when we are dealing with strange people. It is always their looks that we are up to. But sometimes or maybe most of the time its tricky.

Have you ever been deceived by the looks of the person? When was that? It can be a sad or happy story. Now tell your story.
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  • Profile picture of the author edmltw
    Used to be cheated. Now i am the cheater. :rolleyes:
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    • Profile picture of the author Jason Field
      Originally Posted by edmltw View Post

      Used to be cheated. Now i am the cheater. :rolleyes:
      What? So now you always cheat. And you will even cheat us someday.
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  • Profile picture of the author Gary Pettit
    Yeah looks can be deceiving. Sometimes, we first trust or give attention to those who are good looking human beings. But we are wrong, sometimes, we are more prone to be fooled and cheated when we are surrounded by good looking appearances.
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    • Profile picture of the author Gator1
      Originally Posted by sparkie2260 View Post

      Yeah looks can be deceiving. Sometimes, we first trust or give attention to those who are good looking human beings. But we are wrong, sometimes, we are more prone to be fooled and cheated when we are surrounded by good looking appearances.
      How true that is. To bad people relay on site intuition rather then what it real a lot of the time. Do you see many ugly car sales people?
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  • Profile picture of the author HorseStall
    Yes, looks are often deceiving. I have met people at conferences who did not look successful but were very successful. As they say don't judge a book by its cover.
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    • Profile picture of the author ucajack
      Well earlier yes looks were indeed deceptive. but with time i have learned to read the character of a person through their eyes and body language.
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Never trust in appearances. It's easy to be a lazy thinker and trust in appearances, but it can cost you a great deal of happiness, health and wealth.

    I have so many stories where I judged according to looks, too many to pick a single one!

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    • Profile picture of the author DGFletcher
      Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

      Never trust in appearances. It's easy to be a lazy thinker and trust in appearances, but it can cost you a great deal of happiness, health and wealth.

      I have so many stories where I judged according to looks, too many to pick a single one!

      Ryan Biddulph
      I used to believe that you shouldn't trust in appearances. Then I actually started researching what appearances were useful and which ones weren't.

      For example: ethnicity can be deceiving. Ignore that one. Bone structure is also useless.

      On the other hand: body language can be really, really useful. You can read people's minds almost when you read body language the right way.

      Clothing: also really, really useful. You can't pick your bones or your face, but you can pick your clothes. Same with makeup. Same with hair, mostly.

      Body condition: fat/not fat, zits/no zits, glasses/no glasses. That can be really useful too if you know what you're looking for. Tall/short can be really good too--because tall people expect you to treat them a certain way, and short people expect you to treat them a different way. Knowing what they expect can be something you can use to help connect with them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kenster
    I cant think of a specific story but I agree, looks can be deceiving.

    The thing is that judging people is something that is natural and is beneficial. If you perceive somebody to be a threat, you naturally shy away whereas if you perceive somebody to be non-threatening, you are much more open to them. Its a natural defense mechanism.

    The important part is finding a balance. You need to give people enough room to show their true selves yet still give your natural judgements some credit.


    At the end of the day, I am okay judging people to a certain extent. I am a very logical person and base a lot of my judgements on statistics. If people who wear green socks are statsitically 90% likely to be murderers, sure I am going to run away when I see somebody with green socks. It only makes sense. Guess what, the person I ran away from may have been part of the 10% and may be the nicest person in the world, but I am not willing to take that chance, being that more often than not, they are murderers.

    My example is extreme, but I say it to make a point. Its important to find that balance of being open enough because looks CAN be deceiving, but still giving judgments at least some credit.


    Hope that made sense...its been a long day, so perhaps it didnt!

    -Ken
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  • Profile picture of the author excoder01
    Judge not by appearance, but by intention.
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    • Profile picture of the author wbeil48
      Have you ever heard the expression, "Looking at the world through a pair of Rose Colored Glasses"? We all rely on our perceptions to form our own definition of reality. But we must be constantly on guard and flexible enough to bend and shape that initial perception "on the spot" based on nonverbal feedback from the subject.

      Actions speak much louder than words. Don't so much listen to what a person is telling you, instead concentrate on the "way" they are trying to convince you. Trust has to be earned so just because a movie star, for instance, may be radiant and beautiful on the outside is absolutely no indication of who they actually are inside. Just look at the movie stars who get themselves in big jams with drugs, domestic violence, physical and mental abuse of those closest to them.

      So next time you encounter a good looking man or woman who is trying to convince you of their point of view, look beyond their radiant "air" and listen to their inner voice...what they are REALLY trying to say/do. Again, rely more on nonverbal cues and a whole lot less on verbal.

      Hope that all makes sense to you. It's how I live my life.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kenster
      Originally Posted by excoder01 View Post

      Judge not by appearance, but by intention.


      Except we generally know appearance before we know intention so its a natural defense mechanism to judge by appearance at first.

      If only people had a tatoo on their forehead that told us what their intentions were!
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  • Profile picture of the author wcmylife
    Just wanted to pull the same concept back to Internet Marketing and websites - it's amazing that so many website owners/companies put so much emphasis on appearance/design without focusing on the content they put up.

    A design is important in setting a professional appearance but at the end of the day or page, its the copy which sells the lead/the service or the product - don't ever forget that.
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  • Profile picture of the author Harold Lindsey
    Yeah looks can be very deceiving.

    About 4 years ago I was watching TV, (always a dangerous time waster) and I happened to catch this short documentary on faces; and how they effect people. Well the narrator showed us a nice kind of long angular face of a man... and then they showed us a kind of short, kind of round face. The screen then switched over to a lady on the street with a microphone asking people which faces they thought were beautiful or handsome.

    Of course the long angular faces, won the good looking contest. Then documentary switched over to a live case study of a mock Jury Trial. They brought in two guys to be interviewed by the prosecution and the defense.

    The jurors were then sent back to decide which of the two men were guilty of the crimes that were presented. And of course almost all of them said that the guy with the slightly round and short face was the guilty party.

    After the trial was over the members of jury were interviewed and asked how they had made their decision? They thought they were off the recorded & off camera. They said "The man with the long angular face just couldn't be the guilty man, he just did look like the type."

    Yep, looks can be deceiving alright.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Field
    Originally Posted by Christopher Grant View Post

    Physical appearance will always comes first, when we are dealing with strange people. It is always their looks that we are up to. But sometimes or maybe most of the time its tricky.

    Have you ever been deceived by the looks of the person? When was that? It can be a sad or happy story. Now tell your story.
    Looks can be so deceiving, that's why it is so important to be very careful about it, like this video below: Enjoy!

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  • Profile picture of the author BetGeek
    Originally Posted by Christopher Grant View Post

    Physical appearance will always comes first, when we are dealing with strange people. It is always their looks that we are up to. But sometimes or maybe most of the time its tricky.

    Have you ever been deceived by the looks of the person? When was that? It can be a sad or happy story. Now tell your story.
    I am my own best deceiver, and have fallen under the "you don't get a second chance to make a good first impression".

    It used to bother me. Now I don't care.
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  • Profile picture of the author dcyberpunk
    People with an open mind and who are evloved beyond judging others will naturally see beyond the sufrace.
    I personally love challenging others opinion of me based on appearance - it quickly and easily weeds out those who are not on the same level.
    Each to their own
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  • Profile picture of the author PeterDunin
    This is very true,no matter who you are the first impression you make of someone is based on their looks and people who say they don't are lying.I remember when I was living in a hotel and this guy moved in and to look at him you wouldn't want to be within 10 feet of him,he looked MEAN!But when I actually met the guy he turned out to be the nicest most genuine people I've ever met and we remain good friends to this day.
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  • Profile picture of the author tj0575
    They absolutely can be. The first millionaire I ever met, still worked a part time job, drove a toyota corolla (2000) and a pontiac sunfire (2003), lived in a decent 3 bedroom rancher that still had an 80's theme going. But one of the nicest people you will ever meet. Made his money through the stock market. Every Sunday he would go over his holdings, decided what he would sell or buy on monday, and would not touch the stock section through out the week. Said you could go crazy if you did that everyday. Oh and he would only spend about 1-2 hrs on Sundays making his decisions.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Thai
    Character is the key Looks certainly plays a part but it is not the main thing. I certainly had been deceived by looks of a person - not a happy ending but i learnt a great lesson
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  • Profile picture of the author Gary Pettit
    According to psychology, "beautiful" people have the advantage in every area and arena of life... except for two:
    1) When it comes to aging. (Giving up their youth is more difficult for them; they are losing more than the not-so-beautiful, and they don't know how to handle it.)
    2) When they are on trial for crimes that involve deception--the point of this thread. (The jury looks at them and says, "Yep, he/she would fool me. Could very well be guilty.)
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    • Most people love eye-pleasing pretty things. I'm not an exception. When I get to know a person without the 'visual' part by blog posts or books, next thing I'd like to know is how s/he looks, talks and moves... all visual things. It is interesting to find out the visual factors after you get to know someone because my visual imagination is always wrong (in a good way mostly). I don't think I can stop getting the first impression by how people look but I think it's OK to do so as long as I'm open to discover who they really are afterward. Maybe that's how they'd like me to find out who they really are.
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      • Profile picture of the author theory expert
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        Originally Posted by sparkie2260 View Post

        According to psychology, "beautiful" people have the advantage in every area and arena of life... except for two:
        1) When it comes to aging. (Giving up their youth is more difficult for them; they are losing more than the not-so-beautiful, and they don't know how to handle it.)
        2) When they are on trial for crimes that involve deception--the point of this thread. (The jury looks at them and says, "Yep, he/she would fool me. Could very well be guilty.)
        Do you have a source of #1? I never heard that one before. #2 is interesting never thought about that before,lol.

        Originally Posted by Lifestyle Lift Journey View Post

        Most people love eye-pleasing pretty things.
        Yeah it makes life a catch 22 for sure.
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  • Profile picture of the author ernestlohan
    Yes, I agree with you. Looks are really deceiving. Many times I was deceive by the looks especially to women.
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  • Profile picture of the author Xmas
    A fancy e-book cover got me.

    It was so pretty, its curves were just so tantalizing.

    I had to have it.

    I plunked down my money.

    I downloaded the ebook.

    It was a reprint rights book of one I already had with an ugly ebook cover. I got it free for signing up to a list. A list that was ugly too, so I unsubscribed.
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  • Profile picture of the author dame016
    I think it's human nature and no matter how hard we try to put aside the looks, we still treat people basing on their looks, at least unconsciously.
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  • Profile picture of the author chelsean
    Being deceived by looks can potentially be harmful to you and/or the other person involved. I often try to make a point not to judge someone off of their looks, because I've been guilty of playing into the judging aspect of it all.
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  • Profile picture of the author DanEitreim
    While we try not to be...we are all prone to trust better looking people and think positively about them. Unfortunately since they have been trusted their whole lives, they are more prone to take advantage of that trust and use people.

    I've noticed that if I have a negative "gut" feeling about someone it is almost always accurate.
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