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You don’t have to have full-blown fear of failure to be concerned. When you start working on a new goal, it’s common sense to think that you may fail at it. In fact, unless your goal is not at all challenging, you most likely will fail, at least in some of the details.

So how do you handle failure when you are working on achieving a new goal? Well, it’s simple. Try your best to embrace it. Think of each failure as a lesson in the school of hard knocks. And when you graduate, boy, will you be smart.

Try not to take failure personally. Admittedly, that’s easier said than done. After all, you have chosen your goal because it is something you truly desire. You have focused on the goal and committed time, energy, and possibly money to reach it. Surely it’s hard not to take failure personally.

But by looking at a failure analytically, you can examine what went wrong and what went right, learn from the experience, decide what to keep and what to discard, and then move on. Failure is very instrumental in perfecting your strategy toward reaching your goal.

Many of the most successful people have failed in some measure, and many honor their failures as learning experiences and part of the training necessary to meet the goal.

As Ellen DeGeneres said,

“When you take risks, you learn that there will be times when you succeed and times when you fail, and both are equally important.”

When you create your plan to reach your goal, recognize that you may fail at certain things. You can even temper your goal to accommodate the possibility of failure. If your goal starts out, “I want a job that pays me £100,000,” you may re-write it to say, “I want a job where I can contribute to the company, be challenged to develop high level skills, and have the potential of high income growth.”

By stating a goal that way, you identify other characteristics of the goal that have value than just the salary. That gives you more chances to succeed. It also gives you a chance to accomplish the goal over time. Getting the job is the first stage of success. Getting the salary that you want is a second, future stage of success.

Encountering failure is bound to hurt but don’t let it stop you. Learn from your errors. Claim the things that you got right. And whatever you do, don’t quit. Make necessary revisions to your plan and get back to work on your goal.
And never overlook the wisdom that you can from having failed.

“I have not failed,”

Thomas Edison said.

“I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work.”
#fail
  • Profile picture of the author Nassime
    Thanks for this thread,
    The failure is just temporary, you can handle that looking where are the opportunities.
    Many things can be change and we need just to look very well and analyzed the situation ;-)
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    • Profile picture of the author Mirzon3
      Thanks for the reply Nassime.
      The focus should be on what will happen when I success :-)
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
    POSTERS: Please take the time to go through your article after submitting it, and check to make sure formatting issues are dealt with.

    It is really annoying to have to wade through your article with formatting errors caused by unrecognized characters.

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    • Profile picture of the author Mirzon3
      Originally Posted by Jason Kanigan View Post

      POSTERS: Please take the time to go through your article after submitting it, and check to make sure formatting issues are dealt with.

      It is really annoying to have to wade through your article with formatting errors caused by unrecognized characters.

      And it negatively affects perception of its worthiness.

      Please take the time to make ensure it appears correctly.
      Well there's a learning curve Jason, really appreciate the heads up on that.

      This is my first time on this site and I didn't realize it had been re formatted. Men and multi tasking??
      So I have re-edited it to look as it should. Hope it's more clear for you to be able to digest the content my friend
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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    Nice post. Something people should understand is that "failure" is something that will accelerate their success.

    One of my favourite quotations (From Thomas J. Watson - Founder of IBM) is:

    "Would you like me to give you a formula for... success? It's quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure. You're thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn't at all... you can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it. So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because, remember that's where you'll find success."
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    "Each problem has hidden in it an opportunity so powerful that it literally dwarfs the problem. The greatest success stories were created by people who recognized a problem and turned it into an opportunity."―Joseph Sugarman
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    • Profile picture of the author Mirzon3
      Thanks for the comments Jonathan

      "It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default".
      - J. K. Rowling
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  • Profile picture of the author Anthony Shama
    thank for such a good thread
    i love this part the most: "Encountering failure is bound to hurt but don’t let it stop you. Learn from your errors. Claim the things that you got right. And whatever you do, don’t quit. Make necessary revisions to your plan and get back to work on your goal.
    And never overlook the wisdom that you can from having failed."

    it literally summarize the things you need to do when you face failure at any point in life.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mirzon3
      I appreciate your comments Anthony,

      "I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying".
      - Michael Jordan
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  • Profile picture of the author gingerninjas
    Originally Posted by Mirzon3 View Post

    You don’t have to have full-blown fear of failure to be concerned. When you start working on a new goal, it’s common sense to think that you may fail at it. In fact, unless your goal is not at all challenging, you most likely will fail, at least in some of the details.

    So how do you handle failure when you are working on achieving a new goal? Well, it’s simple. Try your best to embrace it. Think of each failure as a lesson in the school of hard knocks. And when you graduate, boy, will you be smart.

    Try not to take failure personally. Admittedly, that’s easier said than done. After all, you have chosen your goal because it is something you truly desire. You have focused on the goal and committed time, energy, and possibly money to reach it. Surely it’s hard not to take failure personally.

    But by looking at a failure analytically, you can examine what went wrong and what went right, learn from the experience, decide what to keep and what to discard, and then move on. Failure is very instrumental in perfecting your strategy toward reaching your goal.

    Many of the most successful people have failed in some measure, and many honor their failures as learning experiences and part of the training necessary to meet the goal.

    As Ellen DeGeneres said,

    “When you take risks, you learn that there will be times when you succeed and times when you fail, and both are equally important.”

    When you create your plan to reach your goal, recognize that you may fail at certain things. You can even temper your goal to accommodate the possibility of failure. If your goal starts out, “I want a job that pays me £100,000,” you may re-write it to say, “I want a job where I can contribute to the company, be challenged to develop high level skills, and have the potential of high income growth.”

    By stating a goal that way, you identify other characteristics of the goal that have value than just the salary. That gives you more chances to succeed. It also gives you a chance to accomplish the goal over time. Getting the job is the first stage of success. Getting the salary that you want is a second, future stage of success.

    Encountering failure is bound to hurt but don’t let it stop you. Learn from your errors. Claim the things that you got right. And whatever you do, don’t quit. Make necessary revisions to your plan and get back to work on your goal.
    And never overlook the wisdom that you can from having failed.

    “I have not failed,”

    Thomas Edison said.

    “I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work.”
    "Oh but my darling, what if you fly?"
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