You're the Cause of Everything - But Only If You Choose to Be

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It's 100% correct that we are the cause of everything that happens in our life. Our situation is completely our own making.

Most people love to take credit for the good parts and suggest that they are the cause of all the good in their life, but absolve themselves of responsibility when their financial situation isn't good, when their environment is negative or when they don't get things their way.
If you're willing to take credit when it's good, take credit when it's bad!

The only difference here is in a matter of choice. We are always at the cause - but we CHOOSE to give that power to someone or something else.

You'll gradually grow in your sense of responsibility and decide more and more to be the cause rather than the victim. The more you do this the more control you'll have over your environment.

Signs that you're not at the cause are "symptom thoughts", these are ways of dealing with situations that assume the situation must stay the same.

Take a guy who's surrounded by negative people, his thought process goes something like this, "Everyone is negative, how do I deal with it? How do I cope? How can I manage?", rather than "Do I want to be in this situation? Should I choose to leave?".

Taking control of your life and deciding to assume responsibility as the cause of everything you have (or lack) in your life is the first step to getting what you really want.

Until you take that step you're nothing more than a leaf in the wind, dragged around, hopeful that he'll occasionally land on fertile ground but more often than not disappointed that the wind didn't quite blow the way you wanted.

Start asking yourself root level questions by being skeptical and critical of everything you have in your life. You can choose to change your life's structure, not just work inside it.
#choose #create #responsibility
  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    there is a better way to say this ..

    you have to take blame completely out of it ..because then you get locked in a battle with the ego ..

    in your example i was that guy .. i was that guy for 37 years but the last few years of that i was rooting down ripping up and reprogramming ..and understanding how to control my bi polar disorder and high functioning autism without drugs ..

    now the patterns you are in..are the cause of the things that happen to you ..and to effectively change your life you have to change how you respond when things happen to you .. pattern are different than habits ..

    as i have become more self aware .it has become very easy to identify and change patterns of behavior ..i am also very honest of my self ..and allow myself to be human ..

    blah..my insomnia is crappy tonight ..but every time i fall asleep i dream about people walking up to hand me money and i wake up when i sit up to take it from their hands
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  • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
    Originally Posted by Wayne Equity View Post

    It's 100% correct that we are the cause of everything that happens in our life. Our situation is completely our own making.
    So, those one legged, one armed Veterans caused their own injuries? The million people a year in accidents caused those accidents? The thousands of women raped every year caused their rapes?

    Since you have come on this forum and mouthed off about your success secrets, there is an alarming amount of 100% of this, that and the other bull shit.

    If you say 95%, maybe. Perhaps 90% of our outcomes are in our control, and can be made via choices. Cancer? Heart disease? Some things we come into the world with.

    In your tripe, a dwarf who wants to play in the NBA just needs a mindset.
    A kid in an auto accident created and caused this?

    I get your rah rah enthusiasm, but tone down the hype, the bs, and your certainty that you have all the answers for everyone, you don't.

    Instead of all this regurgitated bs we've heard over and over, how about some actual useful, practical steps to take to get us to your promised land of being 100% in control of our lives, a world of unicorns, rainbows with pots of gold and where horse shit doesn't stink?

    Can you?

    GordonJ

    PS. I can, and will start. In order to get where one wants to go, the biggest mistake they make is to follow some guru like this OP who is all rah rah mindset...better if you start with examination of where you have been

    and what got you to where you are today.

    Often, there are hidden, unseen governors on your activities, maybe placed there in your youth, some blocks you have, some chocks under your wheels which prevent you from taking off. You could have a great mindset, get all positived up til the cows come home...

    but until you kick out the chocks, you'll be (in the words of Mealoaf) All revved up and no place to go.

    Ignoring your past, as many of the mindset gurus would have you do is like placing a piece of paper over a sinkhole that looks like concrete and falling into the hole because it wasn
    t properly prepared. Many here, need to eliminate the old blocks first, must fill in the holes of their lives and not just cover them up ...
    then,
    then, maybe you get a 80-90% chance of taking control of your life and making things happen the way you want them.
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    • Profile picture of the author Wayne Equity
      Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

      So, those one legged, one armed Veterans caused their own injuries? The million people a year in accidents caused those accidents? The thousands of women raped every year caused their rapes?
      You're taking this literally. I'm not talking about tragedies while they happen. I'm talking about your life situation and how you handle it.

      If you want practical, there's always this.
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      • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
        Originally Posted by Wayne Equity View Post

        You're taking this literally. I'm not talking about tragedies while they happen. I'm talking about your life situation and how you handle it.

        If you want practical, there's always this.
        I responded to what you posted little Tai, isn't that what you are going for, the next Tai Lopez? Didn't waste a second of time watching whatever that is, YES, I took it literal, I don't have a Wayne Equity/Whomever FILTER.

        But, let the readers do as they want, it must be working for you. So carry on, you are right exactly 50% of the time.

        GordonJ
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        • Profile picture of the author Wayne Equity
          Originally Posted by GordonJ View Post

          I responded to what you posted little Tai, isn't that what you are going for, the next Tai Lopez? Didn't waste a second of time watching whatever that is, YES, I took it literal, I don't have a Wayne Equity/Whomever FILTER.
          But, let the readers do as they want, it must be working for you. So carry on, you are right exactly 50% of the time.
          GordonJ
          Never thought I'd meet a negative person here, nice to meet you!
          I mean, not nice at all, but hey at-least you found a place to criticize people!
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          • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
            Originally Posted by Wayne Equity View Post

            Never thought I'd meet a negative person here, nice to meet you!
            I mean, not nice at all, but hey at-least you found a place to criticize people!
            See, more assumption, you must be a Max Valmont protege. I believe in reality and not bull shit. Positive thinking is a part of all success programs, having the right mind set is absolutely a must...but following bull shit gurus down their rabbit holes, and letting them profit through their misguided advice...

            is why I post here. Nothing negative at all.

            You post things like this 100% crap, and we're supposed to let it slide, because you didn't mean it to be literal, so why should we believe anything you tell us?

            That isn't negativity.

            LOOK, this forum, right here, right now are plenty of people who have tried the SECRET, have done positive thinking, have tried a mindset approach and it didn't work...and the answer

            you gurus have

            IS always the same...It is your fault because you didn't stay with it.

            And the FACTS are, there could be deeper issues that all the Tai Lopez/Wayne Equity crap in the world isn't going to help.

            I'm the most positive and upbeat realist you'll ever meet...but got to call a turd a turd no matter how polished you make it.

            GordonJ

            PS. Give us something useful, that was the challenge. And I even gave an example.
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          • Profile picture of the author Ron Lafuddy
            Originally Posted by Wayne Equity View Post

            Never thought I'd meet a negative person here, nice to meet you!
            I mean, not nice at all, but hey at-least you found a place to criticize people!
            "It's 100% correct that we are the cause of everything that happens in our life. Our situation is completely our own making."

            No, sir. It's the PERCEPTION that we are responsible for. Good or bad? Helpful or not? Positive or negative? We are 100% responsible for how we interpret the things that happen in our lives.

            You seem to hold others responsible for the negative feelings your article
            has generated. How is that possible, when you are 100% responsible for posting such content?

            Wouldn't the more "responsible" thing be, to acknowledge the replies with a thank you. Put your ego aside and realize that YOU ALONE have caused the negative responses.

            Your assumptions were wrong. Proof was provided. You owe Gordon an apology and a sincere thank you. That is my perception.

            Learn from your mistakes and be grateful to those who take the time to teach you something you don't currently understand.

            Ron
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  • Profile picture of the author Wayne Equity
    Thanks for.. replying
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  • Profile picture of the author Shana Walters
    I always find it weird that when something bad happens to a person, the first person they choose to blame is Satan.

    Gorgeous Lucky Bitch,
    Shana Jahsinta Walters.
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    Write until my fingers fall off. LOL!!!
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    • Profile picture of the author Wayne Equity
      Originally Posted by Shana Walters View Post

      I always find it weird that when something bad happens to a person, the first person they choose to blame is Satan.
      Gorgeous Lucky Bitch,
      Shana Jahsinta Walters.
      That's a good one
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