Never Be the Smartest Person in the Room

by Wayne Equity 20 replies
Nobody wants to be the dumbest person in the room, but the dumb person has an advantage he can learn from literally everybody in the room.

However, there is a trap, way more insidious then you think, that occurs once a person decides "I know everything I need to learn" or "nobody here can teach me anything new".

The biggest impediment to learning is thinking that you already know everything. The moment you believe there's nothing new to learn, you immediately close your mind to new ideas.

The reason you never want to be the smartest guy in the room, is because categorically that means that you have nobody else to learn from.

This applies to two groups of people, those that take action and those that don't.

You help the group that doesn't take action by educating them and increasing their sense of responsibility towards their environment, thus engaging them and building up their motivation to take action. But this can only be done if the person seeks change it, and doesn't think he knows everything.

Then there is the group of people that do take action, but since they're seeing growth and results, most have decided that they are beyond help since they know everything now.
You must always be open to new ideas, you never know where The next golden idea would come from. It could come from a book, a friend talking to you, or just the thought that you had.

As long as you maintain the mindset that you are the smartest guy in the room, you basically block your awareness from picking up those clues and then using them to your advantage.
The best part about letting go of this belief is that there's no inherent risk or drawback to being open minded and always open to learning more.
In the case of the people that don't take action, I believe that the biggest reason they think they know everything is because they're afraid of taking action and they got used to the sense of security (false security obviously) from not dealing with obstacles all the time such as those that the action takers face.

These people obviously do face challenges, but since they don't have a destination they don't view them as challenges to overcome but just as problems to dissolve so they can go on with their routine of nothingness.

For people who are taking action, the biggest reason for thinking you know everything, is ego. It's that desire to look the smartest, to show yourself and others that you are moving forward faster than those around you, it also stems from a fear of being influenced and considering bad information you might unfortunately get from other people, The fear stems from you not trusting in your ability to judge and discriminate between good information and bad at formation, but between good suppliers of information and bad suppliers of information.

These are the inherent fears that causes people to think they know everything:

Fear of change.
Fear of taking action.
Fear of ego loss.
Fear of bad judgments.
Number one and two are related to people who don't take action, number three and four are related to those that do.

You get rid of the fear of change when your circumstances become so bad that you prefer the risk of change than what you currently have, the other way is for the reward (the goal) to be so big that you would prefer to take the risk and discomfort of changing.

You get rid of the fear of taking action by gradually building momentum by taking small actions consistently and then growing of them until you become comfortable with taking consistent daily action. Rotating the rotor of the boat only works if the ship is actually moving.

You get rid of the fear of ego loss by realizing that the way people around you value and judge you is based on who you are and on your behavior. Having a big ego and trying to impress people by putting them down and showing them how great you are only makes you look insecure, let your habits and results speak for themselves, since that's how you judge most people anyway. Stay humble and always listen, you never know where the next clue might show up.

You get rid of the fear of bad judgment by surrounding yourself with people you trust and mentors you believe in, and also by letting yourself be coached and advised by people you trust and gradually seeing how this helps you, and how your ability to discriminate between good advice and bad advice is a lot more accurate than you previously believed.

You must get rid of the belief that you know everything, until you do you're basically stuck in your current situation and momentum.

Open your mind and listen to everybody you talk to, surround yourself with people you respect, gradually take more and more action, and always keep the reward (the goal) in front of you to remember why it's worth it to keep moving and continuously move faster.

You can use that strategies I gave above, Or you can just find a room with much smarter people than you :-)

Good luck,
Robby Frank
#mind warriors #person #room #smartest
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  • Profile picture of the author desireedavid
    let your habits and results speak for themselves
    Thank you for this!

    It's good to be reminded that we need to keep learning. Especially since we work in a world where change is the only thing constant.

    I hate people who brag about their accomplishments, yet they have nothing to show for it. I think the most admirable people out there are those who are very generous with what they know, without bragging about what they have.
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    • Profile picture of the author Wayne Equity
      Originally Posted by desireedavid View Post

      Thank you for this!

      It's good to be reminded that we need to keep learning. Especially since we work in a world where change is the only thing constant.

      I hate people who brag about their accomplishments, yet they have nothing to show for it. I think the most admirable people out there are those who are very generous with what they know, without bragging about what they have.
      Agreed, thanks for the comment.
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    Originally Posted by Wayne Equity View Post

    Nobody wants to be the dumbest person in the room, but the dumb person has an advantage he can learn from literally everybody in the room.

    If a dumb person was capable of learning wouldn't they have already learned before entering the room?

    Is this a magic room?
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    • Profile picture of the author Wayne Equity
      Originally Posted by yukon View Post

      If a dumb person was capable of learning wouldn't they have already learned before entering the room?
      Is this a magic room?
      If you enter room full of multimillionaires, you're likely the dumb person in the room. Means you can learn from everybody in the room, which is awesome, since anybody talk to has the potential to make you much, much smarter. That was the point :-)
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      • Profile picture of the author yukon
        Originally Posted by Wayne Equity View Post

        If you enter room full of multimillionaires, you're likely the dumb person in the room. Means you can learn from everybody in the room, which is awesome, since anybody talk to has the potential to make you much, much smarter. That was the point :-)


        You're confused.

        There's plenty of rich people that are dumb.
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      • Profile picture of the author agmccall
        Originally Posted by Wayne Equity View Post

        If you enter room full of multimillionaires, you're likely the dumb person in the room. Means you can learn from everybody in the room, which is awesome, since anybody talk to has the potential to make you much, much smarter. That was the point :-)
        So if I enter a room full of millionaires and those millionaires are famous actors that are about as smart as a bag of rocks, but they look good. What, exactly do you think I would learn.

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        • Profile picture of the author eComCoder
          Originally Posted by agmccall View Post

          So if I enter a room full of millionaires and those millionaires are famous actors that are about as smart as a bag of rocks, but they look good. What, exactly do you think I would learn.

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          How to act maybe?
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        • Profile picture of the author Wayne Equity
          Originally Posted by agmccall View Post

          So if I enter a room full of millionaires and those millionaires are famous actors that are about as smart as a bag of rocks, but they look good. What, exactly do you think I would learn.
          al
          How to become the top 1% in the field were literally 99% of the people trying to succeed don't achieve anything? How to network with people and find amazing opportunities? Maybe how to overcome almost impossible odds? I think you get my drift...
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    good thread I like it
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  • Profile picture of the author many10s
    Seems the know-it-all attitude, besides inhibiting learning also is related to being either unwilling or unable to take action. Having to "know-it-all is a burdensome cross to bear and people who are carrying it seem unhappy, miserable and angry!
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  • Profile picture of the author hubertkoh
    If you are talking about being not complacent and always working hard even though you already find success, then yes, dont be the smartest guy in the room. Be the most hardworking one.
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    Just made a video about this recently
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  • Profile picture of the author Pablo Montanas
    Thanks for this. Like your story.

    But I actually think you are wrong. Why wouldn't you want to be the smartest man in the room? If that was the case you could teach the people down the hierarchy.
    But when you are not the smartest, you only rely on the decision of the smartest man.

    Which means when I know and I want to teach the people down below me, I have to be the smartest man.

    Could you share some thoughts on this?
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  • Profile picture of the author velvetcake
    Open your mind and listen to everybody you talk to, surround yourself with people you respect, gradually take more and more action, and always keep the reward (the goal) in front of you to remember why it's worth it to keep moving and continuously move faster.
    those are two opposite ways to use time. what ratio of socializing vs action do you recommend?
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    • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
      Originally Posted by velvetcake View Post

      those are two opposite ways to use time. what ratio of socializing vs action do you recommend?
      life is about balance

      the carpenter union in new zealand in 1890 decided 8 hours 8 hours play 8 hours sleep

      what a pity things have to change
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      • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
        Originally Posted by hardraysnight View Post

        life is about balance

        the carpenter union in new zealand in 1890 decided 8 hours 8 hours play 8 hours sleep

        what a pity things have to change
        They should have gone to a Tony Robbins seminar first!

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        • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
          Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

          They should have gone to a Tony Robbins seminar first!

          no they had to work that day
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    we must go to different rooms
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    I am on the verge of wealth, so l guess that makes me one of the smartest people in the room?

    I guess that others trade secrets might be useful, but if it means starting down the bottom again, and making a lot of mistakes then forget it.

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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    There's an easy way to say it all and I'm surprised nobody mentioned it.
    It goes like this.

    "If I'm the smartest person in the room, then I'm in the wrong room."
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