The most basic thing about FEAR of FAILURE

by writeaway 21 replies
If you're so afraid of failure that you don't want to implement the stuff you've read about in WSOs or information products you've bought from all over the web, maybe this will get you started.....

If you're afraid that your new project will fail, understand that you've already failed NOW. You're not putting together your passive income. You're just stuck in analysis paralysis. You're spinning in circles.

That's failure because you're wasting your time.

Dive in. Implement. Build. Make.

Once the project's up, keep tweaking it until it produces results or you learn some very important lessons and you build something.

Something. Anything... is better than what you have now. Worries and not much else.

Stop worrying about FAILURE before you even START. Get off the fence and keep at it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    For me the fear of "failure" loses its power when you realize that it's something you can learn from that will make you more successful.

    "Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It's quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn't as all. You can be discouraged by failure - or you can learn from it. So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because, remember, that's where you will find success."
    - Thomas J. Watson [Founder of IBM]
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    "Each problem has hidden in it an opportunity so powerful that it literally dwarfs the problem. The greatest success stories were created by people who recognized a problem and turned it into an opportunity."―Joseph Sugarman
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    • Profile picture of the author Chad Brey
      I like Jonathan's comment. Sounds a lot like philosophies found in many of Robert Kiyosaki's books.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    well there is fear of failure and expectation of failure .. fear of failure and expectation are both easy to overcome if you list out the worst possible outcomes from failing .

    remember from the lower classes people where trained not to fail .. doctors on the other hand spend an hour or 3 learning how to do a surgery the best way.. and another 2 years learning what to do when things go wrong they also have big mal practice policies

    you don't want your accountant to mess up. But you can get your taxes done by one of the best and then have 40 of the other best look at them .. and you will get 100 different things that where missed or done wrong .

    most of the time it not fear of failure or fear of success.. 90 percent of people put most of their energies into not changing .. so it is fear of change of any kind ..how many people do you know that hate their jobs and miserable because of it. Will freak out an be even worse if they lost that job
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  • Profile picture of the author Ron Lafuddy
    Originally Posted by writeaway View Post

    If you're so afraid of failure that you don't want to implement the stuff you've read about in WSOs or information products you've bought from all over the web, maybe this will get you started.....

    If you're afraid that your new project will fail, understand that you've already failed NOW. You're not putting together your passive income. You're just stuck in analysis paralysis. You're spinning in circles.

    That's failure because you're wasting your time.

    Dive in. Implement. Build. Make.

    Once the project's up, keep tweaking it until it produces results or you learn some very important lessons and you build something.

    Something. Anything... is better than what you have now. Worries and not much else.

    Stop worrying about FAILURE before you even START. Get off the fence and keep at it.
    Exactly. ACTION! ACTION! ACTION!

    You can study for the next 10 years. Without ACTION you won't be any further ahead 10 years from now, than you are today. Instead, you'll be 10 years behind.

    You will NEVER make that time back

    You'll never recoup the lost income you could have made..

    Being afraid of failure can only be overcome by taking action. No amount of study will overcome the fear.

    Ron
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    • Profile picture of the author writeaway
      Originally Posted by Ron Lafuddy View Post

      Exactly. ACTION! ACTION! ACTION!

      You can study for the next 10 years. Without ACTION you won't be any further ahead 10 years from now, than you are today. Instead, you'll be 10 years behind.

      You will NEVER make that time back

      You'll never recoup the lost income you could have made..

      Being afraid of failure can only be overcome by taking action. No amount of study will overcome the fear.

      Ron
      That's right. Dive in. Don't expect things to be "JUST RIGHT" before you take action. I've got some bad news... it will NEVER be the 'perfect time' until YOU make a move.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Blip
    Failure is a great teacher but winning takes the cake.
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  • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
    the only thing we have to fear is fear itself

    now why didnt i think of that
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  • Profile picture of the author RogozRazvan
    Look, I think the entire fear concept is a bit misrepresented.

    You don't fear only failure. You don't fear only looking bad in front of other people.

    To win it big in life, you need to take bigger risks than your reputation. This means your money, other people's money, even your freedom to be able to do some things. You may risk your home, your car, your savings.

    Too many people think that what you're losing is only the potential upside. In reality, there is a downside too. In some circumstances, it is nothing ventured, nothing gained. However, in others, you actually venture, a lot, and at the end of the day you may wake up yourself not just as before when you've started but worse.

    So the solution is not this. It is not to become indifferent and stop fearing failure.

    The solution is smart risk management. It is to know your upside and your downside and to act accordingly.

    Let's take the classic high-school case, asking a girl for a date.

    Best case win - she accepts.
    Best case loss - she doesn't accept and life moves on.
    Worst case loss - her refusing makes your life be a lot worse than before.

    The upside, the neutral, the downside.

    This is true in life too. Not everything is a best case loss and jumping head in because "you don't fear failure" has little to do with the actual outcome of that situation. The goal of business is to earn revenue, not to dare. There's no honor if you try and lose everything. Or as many investors say ...

    "The first rule of investing is ... DON'T LOSE MONEY. The second rule of investing - see rule #1".

    There is this belief among people that failure means nothing and that if you just spread your wings and fly, you'll break through the illusion of limitation and achieve anything.

    Well, not really.

    In reality, skills, competence, preparation and hard work makes the difference between failure and success, not just the courage to break through. In reality, David doesn't always ... or generally wins against Goliath. Another Goliath wins against Goliath.

    And you know what? Realizing this is not a limiting belief, not at all. You still work. You still progress. You still dream high and take risks. But you act in a calculated manner so you limit your downside while increasing your upside.

    It is easy to say "don't fear failure" when all you have to lose are 50 hours of your time. However, when you need to invest $25.000 into traffic on Facebook, you do fear failure. You don't want to learn a $25.000 lesson. There are going to be enough of them that are not voluntary that skipping one is generally, something desirable. So instead of that, you test. You build models. You see what reality tells you in terms of assumptions and facts. And then you invest the money. Having a downside makes you be more strategic and less blunt with life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Just Jess
    You are not competing with anyone but yourself. Not the twaddle that society imposes on you, greatness is found within and you must be a grateful inhabitant of this planet (that will change, as we gain traction...).
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  • Profile picture of the author Believe In You
    Failure only happens to machines. You are better than that.
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  • Profile picture of the author Isabela Aleixo
    Writeaway,

    I do agree that I learn better from my mistakes than rom the times I succeed, which is a bit strange...
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    • Profile picture of the author writeaway
      Originally Posted by Isabela Aleixo View Post

      Writeaway,

      I do agree that I learn better from my mistakes than rom the times I succeed, which is a bit strange...
      It's actually not strange at all

      When you fail, it's easier to pick apart which action or process caused the failure

      This isn't as easy to do with success - especially if there are many factors at play
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  • Profile picture of the author Joyce Birmingham
    I just like to know that the project is something with great potential that's been already proved to work. Otherwise I'm taking too big a risk.
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  • As far as my knowledge is concerned, I have come to realize about following points.
    There are two types of fears. One is being Nervous and other is having Fear.
    Being nervous is fine because that's natural and it goes with experience.
    On the other hand, fear is something that is caused by one's own faults or lack of care shown in any matter.

    So, when you know that you're right but still reluctant, then it means you are nervous, and when you know that you've done something wrong, you'll have fear no matter what.

    Hope it made sense.
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  • Profile picture of the author Angel Kaylish
    To counteract fear take an action ".A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken a new action. If there's no action, you haven't truly decided." Anthony Robbins
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    • Profile picture of the author writeaway
      Originally Posted by Angel Kaylish View Post

      To counteract fear take an action ".A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken a new action. If there's no action, you haven't truly decided." Anthony Robbins
      That's true but it has to be the RIGHT action. You can't just jump in blindly. Have a plan. Break it down into tasks. And take action. Measure. Take more action. Keep finetuning.
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  • Profile picture of the author Pat H
    "When you take risks you learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail, and both are equally important." - Ellen DeGeneres
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  • Profile picture of the author Tahreem Saeed
    Success is the result of perfection, hard work, learning from failure, loyalty, and persistence. Colin Powell
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  • Profile picture of the author Tahreem Saeed
    I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying. Michael Jordan
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    "No, kidding"!

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