Why you should STOP comparing yourself to others

by Juliana Nunez 14 replies
“By comparing yourself to others you limit yourself to being only as excellent as they may be, and in so doing, prevent yourself from achieving a higher level of accomplishment that you never knew possible. Let others be GUIDES not GOALS.”

If you focus on what you don’t have, you will never grasp and appreciate what you do have.

I try and focus my energy on what I DO have and what I am capable of. In doing so, I am motivated to progress and driven to succeed.
After all

“Look in the mirror, that’s your competition.”

Instead of comparing myself to others, I have chosen to compare who I am now to who I want to become.

So who do I want to become?

The best version of myself, and to me this means becoming educated, happy, and successful.

I recognize that this is a process, and every step I take is a change that is benefiting my life and bringing me closer to what I want and who I want to be.

By Elizabeth (Revolutionary Dream Builders)

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#mind warriors #comparing #stop
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  • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
    another random video supporting the OP and/or adding value to the thread.

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  • Profile picture of the author Joyce Birmingham
    I agree, it's never useful comparing ourselves to others. There's a saying that no one else is you, and that is your power.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joe Libby
    Absolutely true. I think that once you discover your special talents and strengths and work on those, then you will start to achieve successful results.
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  • Profile picture of the author Pat H
    I appreciate your post Juliana. I just read an article on TinyBuddha.com about this subject that suggests we often compare ourselves with someone who we perceive as being, having, or doing more. It goes on to suggest our mind wants to know where we fit into the scheme of things. So we need to give it something to do. Why not simply redirect the comparison to a past and a present self and keep the comparison within?

    What are you doing today that you couldn't have done five, three, or even one year ago? How have you stepped out in the last year that you might have found inconceivable before?

    In other words, how have you continued to become a new and improved version of yourself?

    If you can't get on your own side, you never get past "go!"
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    • Profile picture of the author Elizabeth Boujard
      TinyBuddha.com is the perfect site to achieve inner peace and radiate positivity all over. I personally follow the site and always appreciate a good read about minimalism and true happiness.
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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    Comparisons have always been made through our entire life.
    Competing against others at school in sports and also in getting the highest grades.

    You compete with work colleagues trying to be the best performer, etc.

    When you socialise, people compare others to see who:
    wears nicer clothing.
    Has an expensive haircut.
    Drives an expensive fast car.
    Owns the biggest home.

    And so the list goes on and on.

    Unless you have walked a mile in somebody else's shoes, and can really understand what they're going through, it's impossible to accurately compare yourself.

    There's only one thing you should do and that's to:

    However, give yourself permission to stumble, but always be prepared to get back up again. That's the definition of a true winner!!!

    So stop comparing yourself to others, start comparing yourself now to how you were in the past and what you're working towards in the future.
    Your future starts TODAY!!

    Cheers, Laurence. Writer/Editor/Proofreader.
    Check out my site or Blog. Ask if you have questions.

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  • Agreed!
    We should to strive to be the best possible versions of ourselves and not only for our own selves, but for the benefit and contribution we can offer to others.
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  • Profile picture of the author blueonblue
    “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

    Dr. Seuss
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  • Profile picture of the author Johnny0204
    Each person has his/her own journey in life.

    Each person is different in their characteristics, circumstances, friends and millions of other stuffs.

    Let us strive to be the best version of ourselves, rather than trying to be the same as other people for the rest of our lives.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kingten
    Comparing yourself to others makes you loos focus on your goals , because you will be busy minding about what they are doing instead of minding your own business.

    Other people they should be inspiration to you, if they are doing good or better than you, You should stop comparing you to others because you dont even know if they are happy or not.
    Focus on you, that's the main thing.
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