Where are the real live mentors???? Small Vent

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I keep running into people that just want me to buy their programs. I want real help not the line your pocket tripwire products.... I'm tired. I know there is a network of people that are helpful but where are they? I just got here so I'll start reading. I'm just frustrated right now. I want to get with those that will help me expand my products and share secrets to get set up and what works and what don't and I'lI do the same... I hired a mentor one time that fired me when I told her I needed to pay her 300.00 more. That's all I owe you out of 2000.00. But because I could not pay it right then, she fired me. I told her because I wanted to be honest and pay her at the end of the month. She said she totally forgot about it and thought I had paid it all. Really? I could have been dishonest and said nothing. When I think about it, she gave me absolutely nothing that I couldn't have found myself. Phonto, Canva, and a hashtag. I want a real person that wants to network and not one that just wants to post me as a client on their page. I'm tired, a little discouraged but I will live. Thanks for your ear. I just had to get that out in a safe place.
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    Hi, Merx, yep Mentors, followed a few, and most turned out to not deliver what they promised or wouldn't do what they promised to do at the start.

    Plenty of sales copy, but very little on the delivery.

    There are a few seasoned marketers here, including me, but l am mainly in the graphics area, so not sure if l can help you?

    And l certainly can't offer any of my trade secrets, although l can point you in the right direction, if asked.

    • Profile picture of the author blueonblue
      Yep bought a guys course. talked to him and yup I will help you no money. put your name on a project and we do together. Write sales letter and other things to help.

      Did not tell me he was doing 2 launches of his own. Too busy to continue. He doesnt get back to me. Promised to finish by Tuesday, 2nd time missed it. if I dont hear by the next 2 days will go it alone.
  • Profile picture of the author SEOMasters
    No idea what you are looking for but might be able to help Just send me a PM about what kind of help you need and will take it from there. At no cost
  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    ya ya ya

    see from what i have read from people or motivational authors ..who founf mentors that worked they had to work for those mentors jim roah will talk about his mentor who he worked for ..thwn Tony robin worked for jim roahn ..then bob procy\tor talks about working for earlnightangal . v


    so if you want real nwntors find who you will work for how is weaithy
  • Profile picture of the author merx
    Thanks for all of the replies. I was in my feelings hard when I wrote that. What I need is a plan of action. I have been trying to build my own site. OMG I think I am crazy. I need direction. I have the knowledge. I forgot to mention that the mentor I hired was doing a joint venture with someone in my same exact field. I felt like your just listening to me and taking my ideas to the venture table for your benefit. I just stopped talking to her but I see her venture is really taking off. Ugh. Not jealous, just feel betrayed in a strange way.
  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Stop! Stop fussing about the mentor. It's not uncommon for coaches or mentors to join venture with a promising student. You say you don't have a plan or a site ....so how can you have the 'exact same field'.

    You feel 'betrayed' because you think "that could have been me". But could it? Were you learning fast enough to be a partner in a business? Had you learned enough to carry your weight? If you haven't build a site or made a plan yet - probably not.

    Yes, you are jealous and it's understandable for a few minutes. Time's up - get over it.

    Learn to build a site or blog - you don't need a mentor to do that. Learn to make a marketing plan and a plan of action - short term and long term - you can learn that online. Focus on your goal and your "field" and you'll be surprised what you can accomplish on your own.
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    • Profile picture of the author merx
      I do have a plan and I do know my business. That's not my issue. When I got with her, she had that person already however the ideas I discussed with her changed their direction and became the basis for their venture. I'm not jealous nor did I want to venture and still don't. I am learning and rebuilding my site right now but I am frustrated with getting it done. Wrote my blogs today plus put up my blog page. I merely vented a frustration, nothing more. I am back on my plans and moving forward but I did need an outlet. That is all.
  • Profile picture of the author yukon
    Never work with anyone that doesn't know the niche because they're clueless...

    Would you hire a plumber to teach you how to land an airplane? No, nobody does that, well, nobody with any sense does that.
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    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
      Originally Posted by yukon View Post

      Never work with anyone that doesn't know the niche because they're clueless...

      Would you hire a plumber to teach you how to land an airplane? No, nobody does that, well, nobody with any sense does that.
      A bit like asking an insurance salesman, about global temperatures?

    • Profile picture of the author NetMan
      This is lame as a comparison imo, and "never work" means what. I guarantee I can bring traffic to any site even if the niche is from another planet loll .take care.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    you are over thinking the mentor thing .

    especially if the person you thought was mentoring you learned ideas from you that she implemented and made money from..at least your ideas are valid ..

    your problem may be that you have way to many good valid ideas ..and you are suffering from the paradox of choice ..you are not ready to hunker down and run with one idea because you feel like it might be the wrong one ..

    the mentor relationship that got me doing what i am now lasted about a week..and if you don't need your hand held and just need someone to point you in a direction.. it could only be an hour or two ...

    and yes expect that a real mentor will get more value from the help they give you than you may up front
  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi Merx,

    Good to rant it out because doing so clears the lower energies that you clung to, that block the really helpful mentors from flowing your way

    Also, you will find by feeling and venting your anger makes you happier, healthier and wealthier. When you feel this way, you vibe higher, which puts you on the radar of folks who you will gladly pay $4 for an eBook, or $15, or $350 for a course or $350 for coaching.

    I note these numbers because these are some of my product/services rates. In the past few days I recommended my eBooks to individuals - priced $4 to $15 - and they bought the eBooks immediately. One dude is raring to sign up for my $350 coaching service. Why? Because they are on my same wavelength. I mentored them, they resonated, so the money flows freely and easily, between us, whatever the amount.

    If they resisted spending money it'd be their lack of clarity, or fear, and in truth, any angry folks who I met in the past, who felt disillusioned with mentors, simply had to clear some fear to move up on the energetic ladder, to align with awesome mentors, who they gladly paid.

    As for the $300 or $2000 price tag, many of these products do rock but when you are upset, you can't see the value in the courses. Also, I know during my leaner/struggling years, I highly resented/hated LOL that slick copy....mainly because I was a jealous SOB who envied the success of folks who made a lot of money and helped a lot of people.

    I had to own my jealously - aka, belief in lack and limitation aka fear - before I could step it up and have greater success online. That's just my experience though.

    Hey, if you need help, message me. Follow my blog. Don't resist buying my eBooks or courses. They can really really really help you live your dreams because they are chock full of practical tips, that have helped a bunch of folks live their dreams. I specialize mainly in blogging but also help IMers in different areas. Especially the mindset stuff. Which is huge.

    As for the money thing, just, in your more calm moments, own the money blocks you have. It's just money. Really. Pay up front. Pay immediately, Pay to play. Because the more you resist spending money, the more problems you will have in life because money is really shy around stingy-ness and damn does money love hunting a person who spends it freely. Energy thing

    Happy Mentor Hunting And do keep yer head up. We're here to help and serve. Whether for free, or for something trivial called "money".

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    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
      Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

      Hi Merx,

      Good to rant it out because doing so clears the lower energies that you clung to, that block the really helpful mentors from flowing your way

      Also, you will find by feeling and venting your anger makes you happier, healthier and wealthier. When you feel this way, you vibe higher, which puts you on the radar of folks who you will gladly pay $4 for an eBook, or $15, or $350 for a course or $350 for coaching.

      I note these numbers because these are some of my product/services rates. In the past few days I recommended my eBooks to individuals - priced $4 to $15 - and they bought the eBooks immediately. One dude is raring to sign up for my $350 coaching service. Why? Because they are on my same wavelength. I mentored them, they resonated, so the money flows freely and easily, between us, whatever the amount.

      If they resisted spending money it'd be their lack of clarity, or fear, and in truth, any angry folks who I met in the past, who felt disillusioned with mentors, simply had to clear some fear to move up on the energetic ladder, to align with awesome mentors, who they gladly paid.

      As for the $300 or $2000 price tag, many of these products do rock but when you are upset, you can't see the value in the courses. Also, I know during my leaner/struggling years, I highly resented/hated LOL that slick copy....mainly because I was a jealous SOB who envied the success of folks who made a lot of money and helped a lot of people.

      I had to own my jealously - aka, belief in lack and limitation aka fear - before I could step it up and have greater success online. That's just my experience though.

      Hey, if you need help, message me. Follow my blog. Don't resist buying my eBooks or courses. They can really really really help you live your dreams because they are chock full of practical tips, that have helped a bunch of folks live their dreams. I specialize mainly in blogging but also help IMers in different areas. Especially the mindset stuff. Which is huge.

      As for the money thing, just, in your more calm moments, own the money blocks you have. It's just money. Really. Pay up front. Pay immediately, Pay to play. Because the more you resist spending money, the more problems you will have in life because money is really shy around stingy-ness and damn does money love hunting a person who spends it freely. Energy thing

      Happy Mentor Hunting And do keep yer head up. We're here to help and serve. Whether for free, or for something trivial called "money".

      Ryan
      No, doubt you could teach him how to sell a dream?

      $2000 courses, lol, l considered Frank Kerns List Building Course, for $1,800 a while ago, only because he squawked on about section three videos, giving you "my best secrets to wealth" or something like that.

      I got access to this product later on, and it didn't. A lot of good material to beef up your list, but nothing on how make one.

      Unless you considered the case study of a women who bought his stuff and rang him to death to get him to help her sell her product..

      In other words, no guaranteed way to make wealth, and almost 2k down the drain.

      "Lack of Clarity or fear", lol, maybe or there might be another reason?

      I know that if someone having a party doesn't buy my s**t, then God is punishing them, or they will abducted by aliens.

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