Strengthening your Mental Game - help needed!

Here's what you need to do: Give your book to a few potential customers ... NOT friends or family members. If your potential customers LOVE it, you are on the right track.

Whatever your friends and family says, they are NOT your target audience and therefore shouldnt really be asked an opinion of.

You will find the reaction of a potential customer to your book very, very positive

Thanks badboy_Nick.

Exactly, why would you care so much about an ebook that was not even written for those people. If you did your ebook correctly you would be basing it around helping someone else with their problem. If your ebook does a good job with that, then it will be ok to sell.

Try not to get discouraged by a few naysayers, trust me we all have them. I think if most people on here heard that they are stupid for trying to do something online, this board might be empty.

If the people you asked to look it over need to lose weight, they may have taken your request as a criticism about them.

Another possibility is that they are jealous. I have one family member that is jealous of me working for myself because that person would like to be doing the same thing. They could jealous of you for losing weight yourself if they need to, or could be jealous that you wrote a book, or that you're striking out on your own business venture.

Then again, maybe they don't think your product is very good and don't want to tell you that.

If you want honest criticism, offer a few copies up for review in the Internet Marketing Product Reviews & Ratings forum, but be forewarned, the folks in that forum can be tough on you. Otherwise, proceed with your site and offer the first few visitors with a review copy in exchange for feedback.

Michele...this is perfectly understandable for your reaction...just understand that is exactly why you feel that way...HOWEVER...it's so crucial to understand that you are an individual...when you get involved with personal relationships they tend to balance you out so you will never get their approval because they are not you but in fact opposite in a way...in fact family is by far the worst people to sell your product to

There are plenty of people in the exact position your selling...but your personal relationships simply aren't the place for it....I'm absolutely positive your book is great. If you put your work into it have faith in yourself and don't worry.

Nick's suggestion is a great one...maybe it would be a good idea to give away your product to a few customers...

As for your sales page...go to the copywriting section and ask where you'd like improvement....however....be very careful when implementing the suggestions...only use the ones that help string your product and sales page together...if you take everybody's advice you'll go nowhere...your sales page will be a disaster area. If you don't find a suggestion that you would like to personally use then don't use any of them

Is this Michelle? Hello Michelle.
Michelle, you have a beautiful name. And provocative writing style. Why would you let these go to waste? I for once would love to read a book from a captivating author named Michelle.

For your author status I would add an L to your name - double L stands for double lovable

Hi Michele.

Something to remember is that parents can be over-protective. Their criticism is often motivated by "love." That's been my experience, anyway.

I remember a time when I would lay on my bed and cry because my Dad said I'd never be "successful." The reason why I didn't take well to the criticism is because I had low self-esteem.

One method of improving your self-esteem- if you think this applies to you- is to do what Jack Canfield recommends and "acknowledge your positive past."

Scientific research has proven the more you acknowledge your past successes, the more confident you become at taking on- and successfully accomplishing- more.

Here are 3 proven techniques for improving self-esteem.

Self-Esteem

I. First, divide your life into 3 equal time periods. For example if you're 21 your time periods would be: From birth to 7. Then 7 to 14. And then 14 to 21. Then list 3 successes you've had for each time period. You can choose anything providing it's something important to you.

II. Next, to really convince yourself you're a "successful person" and you can achieve great things, see if you can come up with 100 or more successes. This time let your imagination run wild and include everything.

III. Finally, keep a "Victory Log." Simply record all of you success every day, week, month, and year. They can be anything. And, it can be as simple as using a file on your computer, to a leather-bound journal with illustrations.

Let's move on to that "attitude/mindset" you mentioned.

You'll probably be happy to hear that it's something you can learn for yourself. All of the people who have that "attitude/mindset" had to learn it- it's part of their character.

And, character is something we all have to build, piece by piece- by thought, choice, courage, and determination.

You're building character right now by learning how to be more confident, how to deal with "rejection," and how to be more successful generally.

There's nothing you "should" or "shouldn't" be doing, by the way. Everyone is at a different level of success and evolution. Remember, as John Lennon said "There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be."

Here's something I think could be helpful.

Affirmations

According to best-selling author Susan Jeffers ("Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway") an affirmation is: "An encapsulation of a whole wealth of life-affirming thoughts that remind us we are inherently powerful and loving and there is nothing to fear."

So to replace the gloom and doom, Michelle, with thoughts of peace, power, and love- and to connect with your higher self- simply practice the following.

"One step at a time is enough for me."
"Whatever happens, I'll handle it."
"I reach our and invite others into my life."
"I focus on my many blessings"
"I let go and I trust."
"I know that I count and I act as if I do."
"The quality of my life depends only on me."
"I radiate love wherever I go."
"I am drawing to me all good things."
"I am powerful and I love it."

If you're interested in learning the "deeper meaning"- for every affirmation- simply go to http://www.susanjeffers.com/ and sign up for her newsletter. Then, Susan will send you a special report titled: "Why Affirmations Are So Powerful." I think you're really going to like it.

Let's take a moment to talk about "rejection." The first thing to understand is that "rejection." is a myth. (It's a concept we hold in our head.)

Let's suppose you ask 10 people to review your book for a testimonial and they all e-mail back saying they don't like it. The reality of the situation is that you didn't have any testimonials before asking and you don't have any now. So the situation hasn't got worse, it's stayed the same.

Remember you don't have anything to lose by asking.

And when you understand that rejection isn't personal, and failure isn't fatal, you stand to learn a great deal that will put you above the average person.

Every successful person has learned how to deal with rejection.

Famous "Failure"

Novelist Stephen King almost made a multimillion-dollar mistake when he threw his Carrie manuscript in the garbage because he was tired of rejections. "We are not interested in science fiction that deals with negative utopias," he was told. "They do not sell." Luckily his wife fished it out of the garbage.

Eventually Carrie was printed by another publisher, sold more than 4 million copies, and was made into a blockbusting film.

Michele keep going. Never give up.

Remember it doesn't matter what people say because where there's a will, there's a way. Start taking more action now because your book could be worth a fortune, or you might learn something invaluable.

(I hope some of that was helpful ...)

ZigZag