How Do You Overcome Failure?

Good question BillMarket. I've learned to overcome failure by changing my perspective about it, in other words, how I see failure. I used to take failure personally and get down on myself. This was really foolish, since failure is the only way to success.

So what I do now is to view failure as just an "event" - and not a person. That helps me to avoid personalizing it.

Also, I've accepted failure as the route to success, so I learn from it, make adjustments, dust myself off and try again (and again and again). Failure is not something I'm scared of anymore, and so I don't try to avoid it by paralysis and non-action. Of course, I don't want to fail, but after doing my best to plan, I just take action as quickly as possible, make my mistakes FAST, and then learn and move on.

Thats my way of coping with it anyway. Hope that helps.

PS - by the way, we learned to be scared of failure and avoid it at all cost when we were in school. School taught us to avoid failure (remember those big RED MARKS all over your term paper or tests when you made mistakes?) School is terrible for teaching kids never to make mistakes. Successful business people on the other hand, are not afraid of making mistakes or failing - its how they build big businesses!

Thats why most successful business people were usually the C students. They made lots of mistakes, and actually learned not to be afraid of them!!

Robert Kiyosaki said - The A students end up working for the C students, and the B students go work for the government!

Dan Tredo

"Failure" does not exist. People are taught that there is a failure and that it is something "bad." Truth is that something like that in reality does not exist, but only in our mind.

Outcome of each of our actions can be:

1. what we want,

2. or different.

That's all. There is no failure and success. There is only change, and their outcomes.

Failure is in the eye of the beholder / There is no such thing as failure

^^ pick your cheesy motivational quote

But really, I think it is true.

When I was starting out people laughed at the money I lost, the time I spent to make little return, asked me why I was bothering etc etc.

I didn't even see it as failure though.

I knew I was on a path, and I was learning a lot and getting better... these failures built up to quite a decent level of success so far, and no one is laughing anymore

well said Dan!

The way I personally see it ,Failure is when you quit.I agree with Dtredo about the way school designs kids to adults to believe when failing is a bad thing.When ever something doesn't work out for you, you make adjustments not quitting.Really if you think about it quitting means in other words failing.Hope my reply helps you.God bless.

There is no failure except in no longer trying

Failing To Me Is More Like Feedback.

Feeback tells you weather your going the right way or not
to move a bit to the left or right.

The more you "fail" the more your guided to your
ultimate goal.

Never have a plan b, and stick to the course

I always fail forward, getting closer and closer to where
I want to ultimately be.

Simple way to overcome failure is to change your perception.If you consider yourself a failure you will be a failure and the way to overcome this is to change the way you see yourself.

Overcoming failure is also learning from it to prevent having the same failures again. That's the way I'm overcoming it.

How to overcome failure:

Look at it straight in the face and laugh. Then pick yourself back up as many times as you need to and become stronger each time.

Failure is good. If there was no failure, there would be no success.

Just some nice Failure sayings of mine:

Fail as fast - rinse and repeat for more success next time.

Leverage on failure for greater rewards.

Failure is Life's way of saying, there is a better way - here's your opportunity to improve, become better and greater.

Failure is a given, not a privilege.

Deal with Failure or Let it go.

NO such thing as Failure Forever - There is always a way to Succeed!

Change your perceptions - Kick Failure in the butt.

Take Action & Nip Failure in the bud.

I think that failure sometimes is difficult to overcome because people get so frustrated when things don't go a certain way. Try and Try Again is what people say... but sometimes someone may not be good at a certain thing... or it's not for them...

I remember when I was younger and was in school... some classes stuck and some didn't. I would constantly study and study to try to do well and it just wasn't happenning... even had tutors... I guess those subjects just weren't for me...

Plus, with all these "make money fast" schemes that are online now, people are mainly concerned with getting the money fast rather than totally understanding the concept and I think when that happens, failure happens.

I try to remind myself that the more failures I encounter means that I am up against a problem that most people probably run into when doing what I'm doing. Therefore, if I can overcome this problem that means I am that much farther ahead of an entire group of people that gave up after that step. The more problems I encounter, the further I get, and the more knowledgeable I become, which makes my knowledge more and more marketable and profitable

when i fail in any feild of life i chage my plan stronger that i should not face failing again.

You never fail until you stop trying.

Hmm found out what went wrong, Correct it and move forward...

BillMarket, it's ok to fail orI like to phrase it facing a temporary setback. If you never have a temporary setback you will never try some other method and most times the other method is usually easier. Be happy about that season and look to a new way and a new day.

Angel
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It's tough dealing with failure. There is anger, frustation and stress.
For some hours or days I take a break from my work. Then i get back to it with a new plan and action and move ahead.

Cut my losses and take a smarter route!

My way of overcoming failure is searching wisdom. I always remind myself to learn from others mistake and turn failure to better results.

I read and watch stories of real life failures who have have been beaten many times over through adversity and devastation but have risen from the ashes time and time for a final triumph.

One such great video I watched is "Success is a Journey" by Brian Tracy. In this video Brian shares his own experience about how he 'barely' crossed the Sahara many years ago. Then there is the story of President Lincoln.

Whenever I hit a brick wall I quickly divert my attention to those who have had a hundred times worse and still managed to swim across the lava flow (so to speak).

Steps to overcome failure :-

1.Rise up and don't regret; you have spent your time wisely
2. Understand that failure is there to bring you wisdom
3. Learn as much as possible from the failure
4. Don't give up; maybe you are only one step away from success
5. Maintain your enthusiasm
6. Keep dreaming big dreams
7. Keep your confidence in yourself.

Failure is only something we try and it doesnt go on as expected, if we say I failed to accomplish something its cool we can try again and get it done.

The problem is when you say I am a Failure, then thats damaging, none of us is a failure but all of us has failed before, and there is no man who has seen success without seeing failure before.

Failure is not achieving what you thought you were trying to accomplish.

The steps you follow to reach the goal you set for yourself.

What if you don't know exactly where you are going but do it anyway, is that failure too?

How many of us are making it up as we go each and everyday to feel like we are successful in some way?

So is success actually reaching your goal? I think it isn't. I think success is the act of NOT achieving your stated goal many times over as fast as you can by taking decisive focused action even if you don't know what your doing.

if we move forward with conviction toward our dreams we can only achieve success that will transform ourselves into the people we hope to be.

I make "Persistence" by buzz word.

Failure is opportunity, but when the failure is particularly bitter, or stinging it's tough to see it as an opportunity. This is where persistence comes in. By decided to keep going no matter what you're programmed to....keep going. The person who keeps going never quits until the goal is reached. You also see the seed of equivalent benefit much quicker than the average person. Since you're focused on moving forward you only stick around to take the positive and move on.

Ryan

The best way to overcome failure is to always be prepared by creating in yourself a Positive Mental Attitude that works with positive affirmations.

great motivational thread

Failure is a state of mind. I always follow these principles: Success is a journey,not a destination. Enjoy the journey whatever obstacles are put in front of you. From these obstacles, we change our direction, we analyze the next possible solution which makes us a better man and a woman. What makes us happy? is our ultimate goal.

in my opinion always aqnd always chase only what you beleive that it is totally logic to be achieved this is how you come with failure at the end!

Failure is not to be overcome, it is part of life like sleeping. You get up and start your day over again.

If you see failure as some big scary thing, use the Japanese principle of kaizen to make small improvements each day that lead to giant leaps in success.

I forgot who said it but to paraphrase; people tend to overestimate what they can accomplish in the short term, and underestimate what they can accomplish in the long term.

This fact is why kaizen is so powerful. Try it.

Don’t give up; maybe you are only one step away from success.

The thought of giving up is tempting, especially when we have failed over and over again. But who knows that maybe you are only one step away from success? Will you waste the long journey you have passed when you are already so close to your destination? So hold on tight and don’t give up. Thomas Edison failed thousands of times to perfect the light bulb. He knew what it means not to give up.

If you look at this way failure actually becomes a success...

Back when I was doing door-to-door sales, i figured that every other 10-15 doors i knocked on and gave them the spiel they'd convert into a sale... After a while everytime I got the door banged in my face I was actually happy, 'cause I was 1 door closer to success... So I was more than glad to knock one more door, and if I got rejected I knew that I was getting closer to that one sale...

Thankfully, I managed to keep that mindset when I did got started in IM and then onto coaching and consulting... Hope that helps.

-Mac

My approach to failure had come from Robert Schuller coined statement that "failure is not final and success is never ending".
This has helped me to see situation as a part of the whole. Nothing is total in itself, but just the combination of all things taking place in my life all together.

I sit back, look at the whole issue again, learn that which i need to learn, correct myself where necessary, restrategize and go after it again it is working.
For every form of failure is a statement to learn something thta is necessary for the desired success.

If at first you don't succeed...try again. When I fail, I pick myself up and go after what I'm trying to accomplish - again. BUT only after I analyze what I did wrong in the first place. I know that if I want success enough I'll find a way to get it.

"Warriors do not win victories by beating their heads against walls, but by overtaking the walls. Warriors jump over walls; they don't demolish them." by Carlos Castaneda

Act like a warrior. Failure doesn't exist for warriors. It is a man-made indulgence. If a warrior fails he dies. So it's not an option. Life is an ongoing struggle. If you don't succeed right away the struggle isn't finished.
If you aquire "the mood of a warrior" you'll be much more successful because you should not underestimate how much energy it costs to indulge in failure.

Another great warriors quote ik like:

"When a warrior makes the decision to take action, he should be prepared to die. If he is prepared to die, there shouldn't be any pitfalls, any unwelcome surprises, any unnecessary acts. Everything should gently fall into place because he is expecting nothing."
by Carlos Castaneda

Live like a warrior and you'll always be successful!

You cannot fail, you can only learn and grow!

Keep your eyes on the prize, cry if u have to. Then wipe your eyes, get up and move forward!

Money blogger is spot on!

The simplest way to overcome failure
is by not associating it to your sense
of worth.

If you fail once at a certain task, that
doesn't mean that you've failed at
life.

Also ensure that there are a multiple no
of activities that you are involved in.

If there is only one thing you do in life
(e.g. your business) and you fail at that
once, then it can be a big blow.

But if you have a lot of interests and you
fail at one of them, it's not that much
of a big deal.

Case in point: Remember the last tennis/soccer
match that you lost. Did it hurt really bad?
No, because you are not a professional player
so you do not associate your sense of worth
to the game.

Similarly do not associate who you are with
your work, your projects and your business.


Cheers.

That's a good question and trust me I meet a lot of failure because of my procrastination.

But generally I just learn from it and then put it down as a note and to the back of my mind. Then structure my new plan to fix the fialure.

I think that the more you think the less likely you are to do something (unless of course it only consists of positive thinking). I will take an idea or what I have learned and test it before questioning it. If I start by questioning it, I won't end up taking action. It's best to take action no matter how much you know and then judge the end result. But don't judge to soon cause you just might have almost made it to the top. After 2 years of internet marketing struggle I'm finally making money. I finally put trust in those that taught me and took action. Your mind is the most powerful or the weakest. Just take ACTION then judge the end result whether you think its counterproductive or not you will learn.

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Cybernetics.

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"Failure" in the moment leads to success in the end.
That is, as long as the person learns from the failure, adjusts his perception of reality and cause/effect, and carries on in a new direction.
There is a flip side, too. How many people have succeeded enormously in the moment, but didn't realize it as success and therefore never followed through?

Failing like succeeding is a part of life,If you didn't fail sometimes you wouldn't be human!

Ah, to overcome failure, why would we want to do that? If we ceased to fail, we would cease to learn! With every failure, we learn something new which only helps us to move forward toward our goal. Life is full of failure, heartbreak, successes, and love. Just roll with it and in the end you will be a better person for it.

Juli Miezejeski, MBA, CPC
Certified Professional Coach
Empowered To Succeed

This guy is good...

http://www.warriorforum.com/mind-war...our-dream.html

I myself have failed many time before. At one point i gave up. But after reading about inspiring quotes/success quotes, it gave me a more moral and encouragement to continue. It does help i can assure you that. It is about having a positive mindset. Just keep your thinking and dream positive. Whenever negative thoughts came up, try to avoid and get it out of your mind immediately.

Honestly, failures are not bad at all. If you can learn from your mistakes and improve it, success sure will be well on your way. It is important to break your bad habits/thinkings if you want to succeed.

Failure is where the gift of success lies.

I wrote about a quote that I heard a long time ago from the immortal Zig Ziglar in another forum, but there is another little story that he tells about his days as a door-to-door salesman that fits right in with this thread's topic. But, before I give you the story I just wanted to say that I'm sure that everyone has heard the saying; "One of the best ways to overcome failure is to simply fail fast."

Now, back to Zig, and how the above saying ties in with with his story.

Zig,

"You know, before I was a motivational speaker I used to be a door-to-door salesman. And in my years on the streets, I became my company's top salesman for 5 years running.

And the reason why? While other salesman were going out and canvasing... they would get to a neighborhood or business park, and hit a few homes or businesses, get a few "NOs" and become dejected and just quit. And as the day went on they saw less and less prospects, because they just didn't want to hear the word "NO."

One day I found out a little secret. I discovered that the more "NOs" I received, the more sales I made. Now at first, this doesn't make sense when you hearing it for the first time, but that's what happened.

You see, when I hit a neighborhood or a business park, I talked to anybody and everybody, and each time I got a "NO" I became more excited. That's right, I got more excited. Because I knew that a "YES" was just around the corner.

And a couple more "NOs" and the very next prospect -Bingo- I got a "YES". Then I got a "NO"... then I got another "YES", and another "YES", and another "YES". I became scared because to my thinking those three "YESs" in a row was messing up my averages.

On my third year I really studied what was going on. And I discovered that I was just failing a lot faster than everyone else. While those other bozos, were out getting a few "NOs" and failing a little bit. I was racking up a mountain of "NOs" and becoming a failing fool.

But, of course that just meant that I was seeing way more prospects then all the salesman in my company combined. So... what I'm trying to say is just this; " Collect as many "NO"s as you can. Try to fail more that anyone you know, and out of your failures - you will be carving out more successes than anyone you know."

Zig Ziglar (The Great Communicator)

Treat Failures as Feedback instead, imagine that they are the stepping stones to success and do visualization to think success and its definite no matter what your
present circumstances are ..

THATS TRUE, FAILURE IS ONLY TEMPORARY, IF YOU HAVE A DEFINITE PURPOSE OF WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO, STICK TO IT...

KEEP THE FAITH, THE DESIRE, WRITE PLANS THAT YOU RECIEVE AND TAKE ACTION TO EVERY PLAN YOU RECIEVE....

BEST THING TO DO IS TO DO DAILY VIZUALIZATION, REMEBER MAYBE WHAT YOUR GOAL IS BIG TO YOURSELF, BUT TO THE UNIVERSE ITS NOT BIG...

HOW YOU ATTRACTED $1 IS THE SAME AS $10000 BECAUSE THE UNIVERSE IS TRUELY ABUNDANT, JUST HAVE FAITH AND DESIRE, SUCCESS WILL FOLLOW

"What does not kill me, makes me stronger." Friedrich Nietzsche
Stand up and fight, again and again, till You become victorious. Nothing will stand against patience and consistency. And remember that victory will be sweet.

Try NLP trainings to gain more self esteem and to deal with stress, failures and anything negative in your life.

In my opinion, there is no such thing as "failure"!

So called "Failures" are simply, priceless Lessons, which make you better and stronger...

I could say more about this subject, but I don't trust people who keep Power, hehe

Have a good day

The beauty of the internet is that it's totally passive, something that nobody around me seems to get. They want money NOW. They don't want to make the short term sacrifice for future financial freedom, something a job can never provide.

Bottom line--it might take some short term sacrifice, but the long term gains are going to be worth it. I'm not making a full time income yet, but I'm well on my way. If you're struggling to make money online, just remember that the long term benefits (100% financial freedom) are WELL WORTH it.

I do a lot of things. I play videogames, listen to music, work out, pray, anything to distract my mind from the painful stress of something not working the way it should.

As your failures accumulate, oddly enough, so do your successes! Even though I have been struggling to make a consistent income on my websites this past week, just today I woke up to 120 dollars in my Clickbank account, so life can't be all failures if you are persistent!

Making money on a business can be a lot like growing seeds into crops. If you plant just one or two seeds, you are preparing for failure. But if you plant hundreds of seeds a.k.a. hundreds of sites, blogs, squidoo lenses, articles etc etc, you will watch as the seeds that are planted best will sprout and grow and yield up crops for you and your family, a.k.a. money .

Here is a great quote for you to remember if you are failing:

"An expert is a person who has made every possible mistake within his or her field"

Neils Bohr, Danish Scientist and Nobel Laureate

Just remember, you having the courage to fail over and over until you succeed makes you that much better and more successful than the average person. Keep your chin up and don't let your mistakes push you back!

My first 2 weeks in, I blew around $300+ on various programs, guides, etc on IM and gave up after not seeing any results. I really felt like a complete failure for blowing all that money for nothing.

I got yelled at during work the following monday and that got me back on track.

Now that I learned a lot more from all my mistakes and failures, I'm getting closer to making that first dollar. I haven't gotten it yet, but I'm confident I will in Sept.

I try to believe that I can do better than I had been before and I try again. Whatever works for you should be good enough.

To overcome Failure you must failed over and over again until such time you don't know what is the meaning of Failure anymore because you already succeed in your life.

Just think about it as a normal process of life, so what if you failed then go on with your life and don't stop until you finally meet success. Don't over think Failure.

I can't even remember the amount of times I have 'failed' each time I do I pursue a different route. I change the way I do things and I keep looking on the brighter side.

'success is my only option, failure is not'