Fake it till you make it! What do you think?

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So I have been into personal development for about 2 years now. Since I have been my life has completely turned around for the better! When I first started I listened to different speakers then I do now...

One of the first things I heard in my journey was a great quote "Fake it till you make it!". This really clicked with me at the time, Idk why. I started doing everything I saw other successful people doing even when I was broke. I bought a watch, started dressing nice for work, cleaning my car and house, I constantly started talking about finances and money. Anyways things were going well.

As my journey continued about 6 months ago I read "The 7 habits of highly effective people" by stephen covey and it has again rejuvenated me. But Dr. Covey is much like the opposite of "Fake it till you make it". He expressed you can't fake it, everything in life is based around principles.

I started to think hard on this and I believe its true. I started to realize some of the people I use to listen to were not so focused on how to be...they were more into how to appear to others and the law of attarction.

Do you guys think some of the personal development coaches preach to much about personality ethics (how to appear to be) instead of the charther ethics (how to actually be)? Who do you like and dislike?
#personal development #fake #make #till

  • Profile picture of the author steven-brandon88
    I hate the concept of fake it to you make it because for most people it doesnt work. How can you pretend to be a business leader when you have no idea what your doin and people see right through this. this ruins reputations and wastes time.

    Instead people should focus on developing a skill and offering it as a service or product.
  • Profile picture of the author rmolina88
    It's kind of hard for me to fake how much I dislike my job, but I can't fake the joy that IM may bring me in the future!
  • Profile picture of the author MatthewM
    Definitely don't fake it till you make it. Most people see right through the bull stuff.

    Market other niches outside it IM. Make your success their so you have something to write/blog about when you cross over to IM niche
  • Profile picture of the author Andrew O
    Are you referring to pretending (only to yourself) that you are already successful, or going out there and telling others about your "fake" accomplishments?

    The second one is obviously a no-no, but the first can have it's benefits. For example: if you wake up every day and say "I'm so happy to have already reached my goals!" that creates a great feeling of success and motivation that you can use throughout your day. I wouldn't call it "faking it" I would call it visualization, and it can be a big help in achieving your goals.
  • Profile picture of the author Jimmy Reilly
    Act as if! That's what Ben Affleck taught me.
  • Profile picture of the author Eric Nishio
    Faking till you make it is an interesting idea, but I think it's too vulnerable to pursue seriously. As MatthewM said, most experts will see through the shield anyway. But I wouldn't consider having a nice wardrobe faking, unless you're buying loads of luxuries from Gucci and LV. Surely there's an unavoidable degree of fakeness attached to wearing nice clothes, but I'm sure most employers and clients appreciate it that someone they're working with shows respect by choosing not to do business in shorts and Crocs.
  • Profile picture of the author KristieDean
    Originally Posted by AndrewOlson View Post

    Are you referring to pretending (only to yourself) that you are already successful, or going out there and telling others about your "fake" accomplishments?

    The second one is obviously a no-no, but the first can have it's benefits. For example: if you wake up every day and say "I'm so happy to have already reached my goals!" that creates a great feeling of success and motivation that you can use throughout your day. I wouldn't call it "faking it" I would call it visualization, and it can be a big help in achieving your goals.
    I agree - fake it till you make it can help in certain situations. It can help a person realize how he/she needs to act in a certain situation, and it can give a person self-confidence. However, you can't fake credentials or make up information about yourself. That's immoral.
  • Profile picture of the author defaultuser
    There is a big difference between the two. I was always told to fake it till you make it. But it never worked for me.

    As soon as I started making money through my own information product things just clicked.

    If fake it till you make it worked for me, I wouldn't know as much as I do.
  • Profile picture of the author paulgl
    Don't fake it. Just keep the attitude that you are a winner,
    regardless of where you are at.

    In public, err on the side of humbleness.

    I remember a parable.
    (don't worry, no religion here)

    It goes like this. When invited to a dinner, do not
    sit in the highest place of honor. You may be told
    to get up and move to the end. You will be disgraced.
    Instead, sit at the lowest spot first. Then when the
    host sees you there, he will ask you to come up
    closer. You will then be honored.

    Remember Warren Buffet is called the Oracle of Omaha
    because he still lives in a 5 bedroom house he bought in
    1957 in Omaha. He is a fan of Dale Carnegie's stuff. I think
    Mr. Buffet has lived his entire life in Omaha. Or at least
    that what he puts out there. He errs on the side of humbleness.

    So instead of fake it till you make it, how about fake like you
    didn't make it?

    Paul
  • Profile picture of the author Global Greg
    Right now is the only moment that exists!

    Too many people think something like "fake it til you make it" means that you should go around writing about how you made $2,500,294 in twenty minutes online but you're still sitting here trying to sell a $12 e-book. That isn't "fake it til you make it" that is just "look foolish so you can't possibly make it."

    But also, if you want to be a millionaire, it isn't just going to run up on you one day, you have to become it, it won't become you!

    One of my friends used to always tell me "most people sit here waiting for their situations to change, and their situations are sitting there waiting for THEM to change!" Always remember that, so next time you are thinking of faking it, do what YOU think will make YOU be the person YOU want to be.

    If you genuinely think that telling somebody you made $10 million on internet marketing and can't get out of your moms basement is going to make you a success, then you my friend are most likely on a long and bumpy road. If you spend $60 on a professional phone system instead of new sneakers and pick up the phone as if you were running a million dollar corporation, you my friend are a step closer to your new self.

    So don't let others generalize what you do. There is no right or wrong. Do you and do it well! There is no half stepping in the game of life, either go hard or go home.

    And also, you must understand. If your dream is to become a millionaire and you have $30 in your bank account, at some point you will have to change. You are not going to be the same person. So in the beginning it might seem as if you're faking it, but crossing the bridge is the only way to get to the other side, so at some point you will have to fake yourself out and take the steps to becoming the person you want to be, which is in fact not the person you are today!

    So in the words of the comedian Katt Williams - "do you boo boo!"
  • Profile picture of the author ellewong
    This is like a catch 22 huh. How do you get people to listen to you when you've not made it?

    Well, I disgree with faking it in order to make it.

    You don't always need to make income claims in order to get people to listen to you. In fact, one of my mentors do not drive one of those high flying cars, wear expensive watches, etc. Instead he is very humble but because of the immense value that he provides.. and that actually works when I apply them, I just listen and follow

    So my take is just focus on continuous learning and provide immense value.
  • Profile picture of the author swilliams09
    I always took fake it until you make to be a mindset thing than a physical trait thing. Instead of wearing suits and driving expensive cars I can't afford its more about me adopting the mindset of a winner. I may not be a mogul yet, but in my mind I am thinking like a mogul and carry myself like one. I may not have the experience and the confidence from closing million dollar deals but I will play it cool like I've done it a thousand times. Its more like WWDTD, "What Would Donald Trump Do?" and less like PTDLALD "Pretend To Dress And Live like Donald Trump".
  • Profile picture of the author Caroline Lingard
    'Fake it' is the wrong term. 'Act as if' is the right one. Its a mindset thing based on 'what you think about you bring about'. In other words, if you have belief thoughts of faking you will only ever manifest more faking. If however you have thoughts of 'act as if' then you are having belief thoughts that you have already succeeded and so will eventually manifest success.
  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Fake it until you make it = become successful more quickly, usually.

    Covey's principle = usually takes a longer time to become successful.

    Any wildly successful person faked it until they made it. You aren't likely to achieve stupendous things by trusting appearances. This is why most people spend life going around in circles. See appearance: I'm broke. Make deduction: I must be poor. Cycle continues until death or faking that they are rich.

    When I began faking it my life changed dramatically. I became happier since I've realized appearances are temporary and fleeting. The truth behind these appearances resides in my mind.

    Ryan
  • Profile picture of the author vivifoster
    i read the secret and i read the 7 habits.. the secret tells you that you need to feel it, breath it as if it 's there and it will happen. 7 habits tells the opposite.

    i think fake it till you make it is what the secret is telling. they just use fake it to sound funny. i have no problems with it as long as you're not hurting anyone. don't fake it by owing a lot, buy what you can buy, do what you can do. don't limit yourself.
  • Profile picture of the author ASCW
    Faking it until you make it can be a useful tool when you are just starting out. Since usually you have no idea which way to go, or what to pursue. But if you can just fake it you can at least get somewhere and maybe from there you can start building and living around principles.

    (read covey's book myself, big fan.)
  • Profile picture of the author roxstar
    There is no fake it until you make it. The moment you try is the first step to making it.
  • Profile picture of the author Denise Oyston
    Hi AW

    If you have not read anything by Esther and Jerry Hicks. Head over to Amazon now!! They have a bookMoney and the Law of attractions. It Costs less than $10 andd will change your life..
    Everything starts with vibration first. Change that and you will attract things of similar vibration. That is how it works. I could go on and on about how this works.

    Fake it till you make it does work. Just look at an athletes regime. The brain does not know the diiference between real and imagined so that is the principle of how it works.

    Covey is good and yet he is very "head" centred rather than feeling. Feeling will win anytime.

    Cheers and Good luck to you

    Denise
  • Profile picture of the author solardave
    Originally Posted by Black Magick View Post

    This is what Napoleon Hill talks about in The Law Of Success. A lot of people don't truly understand what this term means. It doesn't mean that you go around telling lies about your life or anything like that. "Fake It Til' You Make It" is another way of saying feel good right now! The way you're gonna feel when you achieved your goal, feel that way right now as if it's already yours. Another thing is to look the part. When I first started with this philosophy, I changed my appearance to a more professional, clean-cut style. Not that I was trying to pretend to be already rich, but to think and look the part gave me a boost in confidence.
    I agree here. I first heard this saying 30 some years ago at a meeting. It changed my life in the context that it was given. I'm fairly new to IM and maybe I'm not making it yet but I am not faking it either. I think in this business FITYMI has to be a mindset not so much applying to knowledge as it does to believe that we can do this.
  • Profile picture of the author Edk
    Both sides are actually right

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