Fake it till you make it! What do you think?

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So I have been into personal development for about 2 years now. Since I have been my life has completely turned around for the better! When I first started I listened to different speakers then I do now...

One of the first things I heard in my journey was a great quote "Fake it till you make it!". This really clicked with me at the time, Idk why. I started doing everything I saw other successful people doing even when I was broke. I bought a watch, started dressing nice for work, cleaning my car and house, I constantly started talking about finances and money. Anyways things were going well.

As my journey continued about 6 months ago I read "The 7 habits of highly effective people" by stephen covey and it has again rejuvenated me. But Dr. Covey is much like the opposite of "Fake it till you make it". He expressed you can't fake it, everything in life is based around principles.

I started to think hard on this and I believe its true. I started to realize some of the people I use to listen to were not so focused on how to be...they were more into how to appear to others and the law of attarction.

Do you guys think some of the personal development coaches preach to much about personality ethics (how to appear to be) instead of the charther ethics (how to actually be)? Who do you like and dislike?
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  • Profile picture of the author rmolina88
    It's kind of hard for me to fake how much I dislike my job, but I can't fake the joy that IM may bring me in the future!
    • Profile picture of the author MatthewM
      Definitely don't fake it till you make it. Most people see right through the bull stuff.

      Market other niches outside it IM. Make your success their so you have something to write/blog about when you cross over to IM niche
  • Profile picture of the author Andrew O
    Are you referring to pretending (only to yourself) that you are already successful, or going out there and telling others about your "fake" accomplishments?

    The second one is obviously a no-no, but the first can have it's benefits. For example: if you wake up every day and say "I'm so happy to have already reached my goals!" that creates a great feeling of success and motivation that you can use throughout your day. I wouldn't call it "faking it" I would call it visualization, and it can be a big help in achieving your goals.
    • Profile picture of the author Jimmy Reilly
      Act as if! That's what Ben Affleck taught me.
    • Profile picture of the author KristieDean
      Originally Posted by AndrewOlson View Post

      Are you referring to pretending (only to yourself) that you are already successful, or going out there and telling others about your "fake" accomplishments?

      The second one is obviously a no-no, but the first can have it's benefits. For example: if you wake up every day and say "I'm so happy to have already reached my goals!" that creates a great feeling of success and motivation that you can use throughout your day. I wouldn't call it "faking it" I would call it visualization, and it can be a big help in achieving your goals.
      I agree - fake it till you make it can help in certain situations. It can help a person realize how he/she needs to act in a certain situation, and it can give a person self-confidence. However, you can't fake credentials or make up information about yourself. That's immoral.
    • Profile picture of the author WorkSatisfaction
      I have to agree that nobody likes a show-off or someone who pretends and 'faking it till you make it' often means that we are not being true to ourselves or to others.

      I do however believe that the mind is an extremely powerful tool and having a positive outlook on everything including life, success, love etc usually means that the battle will be won far sooner than if your outlook were negative instead.

      It just makes sense that positive people generally are more productive people as they have less 'baggage' and 'worries' to carry around in addition to working towards living full, happy and successful lives.

      You can therefore harness the power of your mind to help you focus on acquiring the tools you will need to achieve the dreams towards which you strive in life and in business. Once you do this 'faking' will no longer be required.
  • Profile picture of the author Eric Nishio
    Faking till you make it is an interesting idea, but I think it's too vulnerable to pursue seriously. As MatthewM said, most experts will see through the shield anyway. But I wouldn't consider having a nice wardrobe faking, unless you're buying loads of luxuries from Gucci and LV. Surely there's an unavoidable degree of fakeness attached to wearing nice clothes, but I'm sure most employers and clients appreciate it that someone they're working with shows respect by choosing not to do business in shorts and Crocs.
  • Profile picture of the author defaultuser
    There is a big difference between the two. I was always told to fake it till you make it. But it never worked for me.

    As soon as I started making money through my own information product things just clicked.

    If fake it till you make it worked for me, I wouldn't know as much as I do.
    • Profile picture of the author paulgl
      Don't fake it. Just keep the attitude that you are a winner,
      regardless of where you are at.

      In public, err on the side of humbleness.

      I remember a parable.
      (don't worry, no religion here)

      It goes like this. When invited to a dinner, do not
      sit in the highest place of honor. You may be told
      to get up and move to the end. You will be disgraced.
      Instead, sit at the lowest spot first. Then when the
      host sees you there, he will ask you to come up
      closer. You will then be honored.

      Remember Warren Buffet is called the Oracle of Omaha
      because he still lives in a 5 bedroom house he bought in
      1957 in Omaha. He is a fan of Dale Carnegie's stuff. I think
      Mr. Buffet has lived his entire life in Omaha. Or at least
      that what he puts out there. He errs on the side of humbleness.

      So instead of fake it till you make it, how about fake like you
      didn't make it?

      Paul
  • Profile picture of the author ellewong
    This is like a catch 22 huh. How do you get people to listen to you when you've not made it?

    Well, I disgree with faking it in order to make it.

    You don't always need to make income claims in order to get people to listen to you. In fact, one of my mentors do not drive one of those high flying cars, wear expensive watches, etc. Instead he is very humble but because of the immense value that he provides.. and that actually works when I apply them, I just listen and follow

    So my take is just focus on continuous learning and provide immense value.
    • Profile picture of the author swilliams09
      I always took fake it until you make to be a mindset thing than a physical trait thing. Instead of wearing suits and driving expensive cars I can't afford its more about me adopting the mindset of a winner. I may not be a mogul yet, but in my mind I am thinking like a mogul and carry myself like one. I may not have the experience and the confidence from closing million dollar deals but I will play it cool like I've done it a thousand times. Its more like WWDTD, "What Would Donald Trump Do?" and less like PTDLALD "Pretend To Dress And Live like Donald Trump".
  • Profile picture of the author Caroline Lingard
    'Fake it' is the wrong term. 'Act as if' is the right one. Its a mindset thing based on 'what you think about you bring about'. In other words, if you have belief thoughts of faking you will only ever manifest more faking. If however you have thoughts of 'act as if' then you are having belief thoughts that you have already succeeded and so will eventually manifest success.
  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Fake it until you make it = become successful more quickly, usually.

    Covey's principle = usually takes a longer time to become successful.

    Any wildly successful person faked it until they made it. You aren't likely to achieve stupendous things by trusting appearances. This is why most people spend life going around in circles. See appearance: I'm broke. Make deduction: I must be poor. Cycle continues until death or faking that they are rich.

    When I began faking it my life changed dramatically. I became happier since I've realized appearances are temporary and fleeting. The truth behind these appearances resides in my mind.

    Ryan
  • Profile picture of the author vivifoster
    i read the secret and i read the 7 habits.. the secret tells you that you need to feel it, breath it as if it 's there and it will happen. 7 habits tells the opposite.

    i think fake it till you make it is what the secret is telling. they just use fake it to sound funny. i have no problems with it as long as you're not hurting anyone. don't fake it by owing a lot, buy what you can buy, do what you can do. don't limit yourself.
  • Profile picture of the author ASCW
    Faking it until you make it can be a useful tool when you are just starting out. Since usually you have no idea which way to go, or what to pursue. But if you can just fake it you can at least get somewhere and maybe from there you can start building and living around principles.

    (read covey's book myself, big fan.)
  • Profile picture of the author roxstar
    There is no fake it until you make it. The moment you try is the first step to making it.
    • Profile picture of the author nepeterson
      Originally Posted by roxstar View Post

      There is no fake it until you make it. The moment you try is the first step to making it.
      Agreed!

      Why fake it at all? If you have a clear picture in your mind of your success, and are grateful for it as if it were already true; the universe will do everything and anything to make sure that it is realized.
  • Profile picture of the author Denise Oyston
    Hi AW

    If you have not read anything by Esther and Jerry Hicks. Head over to Amazon now!! They have a bookMoney and the Law of attractions. It Costs less than $10 andd will change your life..
    Everything starts with vibration first. Change that and you will attract things of similar vibration. That is how it works. I could go on and on about how this works.

    Fake it till you make it does work. Just look at an athletes regime. The brain does not know the diiference between real and imagined so that is the principle of how it works.

    Covey is good and yet he is very "head" centred rather than feeling. Feeling will win anytime.

    Cheers and Good luck to you

    Denise
  • Profile picture of the author solardave
    Originally Posted by Black Magick View Post

    This is what Napoleon Hill talks about in The Law Of Success. A lot of people don't truly understand what this term means. It doesn't mean that you go around telling lies about your life or anything like that. "Fake It Til' You Make It" is another way of saying feel good right now! The way you're gonna feel when you achieved your goal, feel that way right now as if it's already yours. Another thing is to look the part. When I first started with this philosophy, I changed my appearance to a more professional, clean-cut style. Not that I was trying to pretend to be already rich, but to think and look the part gave me a boost in confidence.
    I agree here. I first heard this saying 30 some years ago at a meeting. It changed my life in the context that it was given. I'm fairly new to IM and maybe I'm not making it yet but I am not faking it either. I think in this business FITYMI has to be a mindset not so much applying to knowledge as it does to believe that we can do this.
  • Profile picture of the author Edk
    Both sides are actually right
    • Profile picture of the author webwriter
      Well, you've got to begin somewhere and if you temporarily "fake it until you make it," you're probably off to a very positive start. It takes a lot of faith and confidence in oneself to pursue IM, especially the belief that you can indeed do it and become successful.

      In the meantime, you're attracting more positive vibes and if you persist and not give up, you'll soon reach a point at which you can shed the "faking" part and start "making it" for real.
  • Profile picture of the author Sheryl Polomka
    Don't fake it. Just keep the attitude that you are a winner,
    regardless of where you are at.
    I agree with this, you need the right attitude. The problem with faking it is how far do you take that faking? Do you fill your salespage with lies about how successful you are? Or do you just fake it by dressing and acting like you are successful?

    I don't think there is a problem with faking it as in dressing like you are successful and having a successful attitude - that really isn't faking it anyway in my opinion, it is dressing and having the attitude of the person you want to be and are aiming to be.

    When faking it becomes lying about who you are and how successful you are, then that is when it becomes wrong.

    I do believe you need to have the right attitude, the successful attitude, if you want to be successful. But you can have that attitude without faking it.
  • Profile picture of the author believemarketing
    yeap if you know its got to happen it will happen, especially if you have done your homework and well prepared for the battle.... just keep at it and improvise... eventually success is inevitable...

    its all in the mind... people tend to get discouraged when they do not see result...

    as for faking it I guess most people do this to a certain degree and for different purposes, especially when it's 'required'. my opinion anyway
  • Profile picture of the author Lefty4237
    Interesting comments and points for both sides of the coin. Here's food for thought:

    Denise Oyston was right on when she mentioned the brain doesn't know the difference between real and imagined. Brain reasearch has proven this. Also, the brain cannot tell the difference between true and false.

    In other words, the subconscious does not judge - it just accepts. The problem is the conscious mind which filters everything.

    Fake it 'til you make it is not about pretending to others you are somebody you are not. It is meant to help you develop the mindset of a successful person - and not deceive anyone else.

    If you really want to get into it, who you think you are today is a lie. Your current beliefs, habits and actions are mainly the end result of how you learned to please (or displease) your primary caregivers - so in reality you are behaving in a manner that is congruent with your childhood lessons.

    The only exceptions to this are those who have made the effort and taken steps to actually change their belief structure.

    Think about it, when we set goals and affirm them in the present tense, aren't we lying to ourselves? Of course we are!

    Reality is what you choose to make it. It all begins with a lie (untruth) which we focus our energy on until it becomes our new reality.
    • Profile picture of the author strambo
      I think that quote is great to help tentative and unsure people step out of their comfort zone and have the confidence to take action which is the biggest hurdle for most.
  • Profile picture of the author Vic Chan
    I don't like the idea of faking it... but I do like the idea of imagining as if I already there.

    It's just me though.. not sure about others.
  • Profile picture of the author BryansFitWorld
    Originally Posted by awbarton222 View Post

    So I have been into personal development for about 2 years now. Since I have been my life has completely turned around for the better! When I first started I listened to different speakers then I do now...

    One of the first things I heard in my journey was a great quote "Fake it till you make it!". This really clicked with me at the time, Idk why. I started doing everything I saw other successful people doing even when I was broke. I bought a watch, started dressing nice for work, cleaning my car and house, I constantly started talking about finances and money. Anyways things were going well.

    As my journey continued about 6 months ago I read "The 7 habits of highly effective people" by stephen covey and it has again rejuvenated me. But Dr. Covey is much like the opposite of "Fake it till you make it". He expressed you can't fake it, everything in life is based around principles.

    I started to think hard on this and I believe its true. I started to realize some of the people I use to listen to were not so focused on how to be...they were more into how to appear to others and the law of attarction.

    Do you guys think some of the personal development coaches preach to much about personality ethics (how to appear to be) instead of the charther ethics (how to actually be)? Who do you like and dislike?
    I thinkg like with making money online, there are LOTS of different ways to achieve the same thing, like personality ethics like faking til you make it or just principles, I had an argument with a mate of mine who believes in NOT learning from people like Tony Robbins and instead to "trial an error in life" to me thats a waste of time. I mean, its like saying, you should go catch fish with your bare hands instead of buying a fishing rod, for me I personally like to buy the whole fishing net the zie of the football pitch.

    In other words I personally like to learn from other peoples success and then apply the best bits and apply other peoples best bits and rinse and repeat, so far. that has got me an amazing girlfriend and really sooner to be wife, I got myself out of my parents place just a year ago by sorting out my finances, I got my personal training qualification that I "didnt have time for" in the past, I'm publishing a book on amazon next month, I'm creating a mentorship course online for fitness and many more good stuff to list here

    IM is my primary goal, I havent made anything yet but the methods I'm using is getting more and mroe refined and I KNOW I'll get there, so if thats fake it til you make it then thats me
  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    Great post, great replies. I agree with those of you who said it's more of feeling and being who or where you want to be NOW. It can totally be misconstrued into something a bit deceptive and like everyone said, people can pretty much read that. I truly do emulate the people I want to be more like, their traits, qualities and even different parts of their personality but I use it more like how Emerson said it, "In every man there is something wherein I may learn of him, and in that I am his pupil." I think to a degree what Napoleon Hill, and many other people are trying to say is to utilize the power that most of us have discovered and know is crucial in our achievements in life, the power of belief. Believing that you're a "successful entrepreneur" or a "great conversationalist," will invariably bring forth those skill sets or traits! As long as you stay consistent!
  • Profile picture of the author Groovystar
    ...Hard to fake that 30" monitor I can't afford to get XD

    Why view it as faking it? If you can afford it and it helps bolster your confidence, it isn't fake at all, it is something real that can be a permanent part of your life regardless of income or lifestyle. You do what works for you. It's only fake if you perceive it as such, in this case.

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