Are There Energy Vampires In Your Life?

Yes, I have experienced this and it can be very difficult & draining, especially if the energy sapping vampire happens to be a close friend/relative.

Its better to let go than cling on forever, though its often very difficult to detach, but ultimately all relationships have a finite ending.

It does make lot of sense to stay away from such energy sapping people, no matter how good a relationship one may have shared in the past.

For me, I have found it best to gradually drift away & disconnect than cut off such relationships abruptly.

Yes they would rmolina88. Sounds like it's time to rethink your current place of employment if this is happening on a continual basis.

Thanks for your feedback guys.

Cracker, it's interesting I find it easier to do the opposite. I experienced a great deal of anxiety when letting go of friends gradually. When I decided to do so in one fell swoop, man did it feel good. Not because I disliked them but because it was a new beginning and better for both parties. Of course that one moment hurt but right after, the relief.

And tj, it is true. Those closest to us may want us to be happy but they may also feel alone if we move ahead quicker than they do. This is why they try to hold us back. Most of it is on a subconscious level, not that it excuses their behavior.

Ryan Biddulph

That statement bothers me. Of course, to YOU it's the most important thing. Others may not see it that way - but that's to be expected.

People don't always respond the way we want them to. Sometimes they are just negative - but sometimes family and friends know us better than we realize.

If you are overweight and promise to lose weight "this year" - strangers and new acquaintances will make positive comments. Those who know you well may say something negative. They may have heard the same promise year after year and know better than you do that your promises are just dreams and nothing more.

Talking about making a change is just talking. If you make the change, the attitude of those around you may be more positive.

You can dazzle a stranger with endless tales of IM and how much money you will make - but close friends and family know your personality. They know if you are too lazy to get the work done - they know if your habit is to start something new and quit at the first difficulty. They know when you are just a dreamer. They also may fear your disappointment and thus try to limit your expectations.

This is not an argument in favor of negativity. Just a caution that you are responsible for your own positivity. If you dump everyone you know who doesn't act as a cheerleader for your endeavors- you can lose more than you gain. If all your friends and family react in a negative way when you talk about your "plans" - it might be wise to think about why that would happen....or might be wise to stop talking and start showing them what you can do.

When I first began working online I didn't tell any friends or family what I was doing. I thought they would tell me I was crazy - so I just didn't mention it. When I received my first 3-figure check I said "look what I'm doing" - and they cheered me on.

What you want is for others to accept you and your dreams - but that means you must accept them and their limitations, too. Cutting off people who love you because they don't share your personal dreams of "success" - may not be the best thing to do.

Your life is the most important thing to YOU - but "success" is only a small part of who you are in life.

kay

I enjoyed reading this and partially agree. I think to succeed you sometimes have to shed away those people holding you back and take a focused approach to really achieve your goal!