Living A Life Of Purpose Will Upset Some

I would question them back and make them confuse. Lol.

It depends. If that someone is a person who I care enough, like my family members and close friends, I will make my best to share with them what my life purpose is if they do not understand it clearly.

If they tend to object or judge, I will shut my mouth up and continue doing what I suppose to do and let the actions speak. Like what you have said, they are judging themselves when they try to judge me. So do I. If I keep on telling them "what do I want for my life", I most probably fall into the trap of judging other as well. I am defending myself because I may get confuse about my life purpose sometimes and not yet at that "peaceful" stage that you mentioned.

Thanks for your "if someone doesn't understand your purpose they aren't clear with their purpose." Like it alot.

It's my pleasure Hazel, thanks for sharing your insight too.

I dealt with these feelings first-hand, as have most of us in business for ourselves. I keep reminding myself that my feelings and those of others are simply mirrors, reflecting back to us what we think about ourselves.

This helps me to not take things personally.

- Ryan Biddulph

If people question how I live my life I don't waste my time or energy trying to justify it. I don't need to - it's my life and those are my choices.

I do, however, ask them a question back: "So, what's your reality?"

At the very least, it leaves them scratching their heads.

I wouldn't worry too much about how others judge me. They're only seeing their own reflection most of the time. Or, their perception is their reality. I guess I am concerned with how my children see me. I want to be their hero!!!

Good points here guys, every person creates their own reality.

We all have different filters. What one person fully understand and accepts another may not be able to comprehend, and the natural response of many is to fight or judge that which they don't understand.

RB

Yes, I guess most of the time we won't really care about what others talk about us unless they are those that you really care about.

Sharing two great quotes with you warriors,

Bernad Shaw - The things most people want to know about are usually none of their business.

Robert Kiyosaki from his "Rich Dad’s Guide To Become Rich" - ...But if people are criticizing you, at least they’ve noticed you. Be worried if no one is criticizing you.

33 percent of the people will love you no matter what you do. 33 percent of the people dislike you regardless of what you do. And 33 percent of the people don’t care either way.

Your job in life is to ignore the 33 percent who will never like you and do your best to convince the 33 percent in the middle to join the 33 percent who love you...

I especially like this 33% law

By the way, one quick question, how do I know when there is someone replies to my thread or post? Do I need to subscribe to every of them or is there any simple way that I can trace?

I just want to keep myself update with those threads that I have ever left comments.

Thanks!

I adopted a mindset from a mentor of mine a long while ago that might help.. to the Warriors that have a challenge with the OP.

"Other people's opinions are none of my business"

This statement can mean lots of different things to many different people. If you happen to like spaming people, you feel angry a lot, or you know that the choices you're making are not in the best interest of others.. I think you'll need more time to reflect on how to make things better for you- before you can make a bigger difference for others.

It helps with making the money you want, and living the lifestyle you want too

I used to put too much emphasis on the opinions of others. And I was a miserable *******. That statement back then probably wouldn't make sense to me.

I listen to what people want because, like most of us here, I can usually fill a need or find a solution created by someone else and point them to it.

Negitive opinions have their place. I consider them and decide how much weight they hold in changing my thoughts, but if I'm doing things in the best interests of helping others and giving good service, then thier opinion of me or what I'm doing clearly does not fit in my reality.

Grant

PS.. Hazel 0513. Look to the right, red bar that's above the original post on this page. There's a menu popup that says "thread tools". Click that and choose "Subscribe to this thread".

Wow. What insight. What you brought up here is so incredibly important. Here's my take on it:

We (very much) live in a collective society. I see so many people with great potential, with great talents out there. But 95% of them let it go to waste. It almost seems they are afraid of something What/Why is that?

It is because they have been indoctrinated a certain way of living, following a certain path. They have been told by their parents from the earliest years what it is they need to do in order to "succeed" in life.
Since most human beings want the approval from other human beings their only priority becomes to live up to certain expectations, ignoring the voice within.

The problem is many people let other people create the image they have about themselves. They just adapt and have wrong conceptions about themselves.

So the road to success or self-determination often means to be what they call an "outsider".
Because following your passion, your strives or "Obsession" like you call it means to set yourself apart from the "crowd" or collective. It means to discover what it is that makes you truly unique in this world. Not just another facade but finding out what it really is that you want in your live.

From my observervation people are afraid to do this. True INDEPENDENCE can only be achieved when you don't care anymore what other people think or say about you.

Bottom line: Do your own thing...