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Venturetothetop 26th October 2010 01:00 AM

9 reasons you will not be successful
 
After looking back over my early years, and even troughs in my IM career, I can see reasons as to why I was not successful. These reasons may also explain why you also are not being successful - YET...

Feel free to add to these, so it becomes a definative list.

9 Reasons:

1) I listened to far to many people.


Whenever you need advice, you ask around. The problem is that if you ask on a forum like this, you can get thousands of answers, which can actually just confuse you or give you information overload (which actually slows you down).

Solution:

  • Be very specific in your questions. Do not just ask how do I make money, but be specific 'How can i write and anrticle and make money form it today'
  • Do not collect advice. Take advice from someone who has the life you want. Stick with them until they can offer no more advice then add a new mentor.

2) I did not have a mentor:

Of course you can do it without a mentor, but it will just take you 3 or 4 times as long. I struggled initially on my own before I accidently found a great mentor. What this guy taught me within 6 months, changed my life and success story forever.

Solution:

  • Find someone who has the life you want and convince them that you are worthy to be mentored
  • Catch their attention throught comments on their blog that are thoughtful - its so simple and it works, just be consistant.
  • Think what you can do for them in return. Why should they invest time in you and not someone else?

3) I focused on way too many things at once.


One of my big problems was the fact I could not finish anything but could always dream of great new projects. Its what I term the 'entrepreneurs curse'. Entrepreneurs are creative and as such have a hard time doing the routine managing, they excel at the creative managing.

The problem is, when I worked on too many projects, none of my projects got the attention they deserved and as such their performances were always under par, until I learned to focus on one thing and do it well.

Solution:

  • Use my 'Rule of Three' which means you always think in threes. Write down the three most imprortant tasks of the day. What are the three key features that your product must have, what are the three key messages your readers should learn etc. It helps you prioritise and stay focused on what is important
  • Don't overcomplicate thinngs. Think in three and prioritise

(So many people have messaged me about how to obtain a mentor - so i created this specific thread to help you (Click here)- be sure to read it after finishing this article)


4) I never finished things.


Half finished goods got me nowhere as I could not sell them or do anything with them. A mentor helped me focus and finish off one project before moving to the next, and suddently success started to knock at my door...

Solution:

  • Learn to accept that one finished product is worth more then 100 half finished projects.
  • Do not aim for perfection, just finish it. Once it is finished work on improving it for perfection, but often you find the product is good enough already.

5) I did not listen to the advice given to me.


Strange, I woudl ask for advice but then not take it. I would make excuses as to why it would never work for me - such as he already has a bigger list. He is already well known etc. Only when I had a confrontational conversation with my mentor did he kick my ass into action and stop me making excuses.

Solution

  • If you trust the person, trust the advice. Try it...
  • IF you want the lifestyle your advisor has, then accept that they know something that you do not know or understand yet.

6) I did not really believe I could be successful.


Strange, it was my aim to be successful but I kept making excuses so I would not have to try. I made it very difficult for myself to be successful until I learnt that I have nothing to lose by trying. I would only end up where I am already, so by trying I can only gain knowledge or experience, and in the best case actually achieve success.

Solution:

  • Understand that most people are not successful on the first few attempts. That is why it is called a learning curve.
  • Surround yourself with people who are successful. There is a reaon why powerful and successful people follow this rule.
  • Believe it is possible or you are just wasting your time and energy.

7) I was just to lazy.


I could spend so much time getting distracted and actually doing nothing. I had to admit, I was just too lazy.

Solution:
  • Do something, it always better then doing nothing
  • I hung my 'Four Magic Words' above my computer: 'This is useful because' and I asked myself that all the time.

8) I could not prioritise


I briefly covered this earlier, but my lack of ability to prioritise meant that when I learn to work hard, I forgot to work smart and what is improtant. I would be working, but not getting anywhere fast as I had forgot about what was most important.

Solution

  • Remember the rule of three. Ask youself at the beginning of the day: 'What three tasks are most important'
  • Write down all your task on a piece of paper and number them:
  • 1 = urgent, 2 = important, 3= perhaps should do
  • Do the 1's first, then 2's. Forget 3's for now.
  • Put all your tasks on post it notes and have the satisfaction of throwing them away whenever you finish one.

9) I did not have anyone to hold me accountable.


The best atheletes have forfeits if they miss training, and a coach who measures their performance and tells them off if they are slacking, yet I for some reason felt I could do it all alone.

Solution
  • Find yourself an accountibility partner to help yourself be accountable (I used my mentor, who would not talk to me unless I had done the tasks i promised)

I hope you find these useful. Remember, the road to success is supposed to be a little challenging, it makes us respect the journey once we finally make it there.

If you struggle with many of these things... I've started a FREE video series to help (mainly for beginner marketers) - Click here to view

webfighter 26th October 2010 01:15 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Really great list.

Though I now make a reasonable amount of (inconsistent) money online, I can still find myself struggling through more than one of these problems!

Marhelper 26th October 2010 01:22 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
People posting threads in the negative.

TristanPerry 26th October 2010 01:38 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Brilliant tips, many thanks :) Some of these definitely ring true to me, and I'm sure many others too.

pethanks 26th October 2010 02:11 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
These 9 reasons why we are successful are very useful. We can use these things to succeed.

mikey22 26th October 2010 02:38 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Cheers, very accurate and i can say i think almost all of these need to be fixed before being truly successful

Venturetothetop 26th October 2010 04:15 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Thanks guys, I spent over 10 years trying to tackle these issues, and I still have to remind myself to stop falling back into bad habits.

I think the book 'Think and grow rich' was the start of my turning point. I accidently then found a mentor who helped me turn a lot of negative habits around..

King Shiloh 26th October 2010 05:09 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Great tips but even specific questions can still generate too many replies/responses/suggestions depending on what is working for those that sent in the responses. Why? I have always told folks that what works for me might now work for them and vice versa.

So, ask specific questions but identify what will work for you considering the factors surrounding you.

Venturetothetop 26th October 2010 08:54 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
So true KS - I guess I should add that every journey is difference. A mentor helps you find the path, but you have to make it your own...

Venturetothetop 26th October 2010 11:56 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Well, i could have wrote - 9 reasons why I am successful
but for some reason this title helped me write it this way and helped me be honest about what stopped me being successful.

mattlaclear 26th October 2010 11:58 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Hey OP...what makes you think we Warriors are not successful? Speak for yourself bud.

Venturetothetop 27th October 2010 01:20 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
@ MAtt - well it seems this post has a mixed reception, but mostly positive, so lets start some controversy - I love it!

kwachity 27th October 2010 02:30 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Venturetothetop - I am more than fresh in this. just Started yesterday and I am already overwhelmed by tonnes of information available. I do not have a personal website, no CPA link and lots of challenges. However, I have never believed in impossibility. Please tell me how to find a mentor because that is the most important step here to me.

Ben_R 27th October 2010 05:59 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
great advice thank you

taken at all on board

hopefully we can learn from your own mistakes

Venturetothetop 27th October 2010 11:18 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Thanks

Yeah I als belive that if I am able to identify my own mistakes and correct them - then it is a sure fire sign that I am progessing and becomign better as a person...

janejana 29th October 2010 01:07 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Keep the faith and maintain motivating yourself

Aira Bongco 29th October 2010 03:58 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
These are the barriers. Now that you know them, it is time to overcome them every time it gets in your way.

helenaldin 30th October 2010 10:54 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
I like #7 the best. Another way to put it would be "not doing whatever is necessary to grow the business".

Too many people SAY they're doing everything they can to bring in leads or get traffic, but if you look at what they COULD be doing, the list is much longer.

Scootek 30th October 2010 11:12 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
A really great article. So much of that applies.

wickedsubmit 30th October 2010 11:54 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Thanks buddy for great advice we need to learn from our mistakes

pdhodges 30th October 2010 12:07 PM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
I see myself in many of your points.

johnyeo90 31st October 2010 03:47 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Another one is..I didnt take any action..

emmedi 31st October 2010 06:34 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by guyfolks123 (Post 2777873)
I am a newbie to all this, I was greatful reading the above from Kumar. I am struggling and would appreciate a mentor, so that I can focus on the things
that are important from sound advice. My aim is to believe in myself that one
day I will get a sale from my website. I am looking for a mentor to guide me
into Internet Marketing business. I am reading lost of e-books but sometimes I
get lost in them. Feedback would be appreciate! Thanks

A feedback: make your salesletter personal. There is a picture of a guy (you I suppose), so talk like you are the guy, not with the impersonal tone you use (it's rigurgitated internet marketing get rich BS, IMHO).

Also, you can use the "UK" factor to make it more relevant to your users, if you promote it in the UK only (that could be an angle, the "British way to make money online VS the US way").

Also, pay attention to details: in the P.S. it's said it costs 67 but you are selling it for 19.95

Best,

Marco

ryanbiddulph 31st October 2010 06:37 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
A good list Dee, thanks for sharing.

#6 is far and away #1 in my book. Lack of belief in myself motivated me to do things to make others happy, or more importantly, to avoid doing things that would piss people off but be critical to my success.

When I accepted myself, believed in myself and moved forward according to that self image things changed in a positive way quickly. Everything else naturally fell into place when I believed in myself. I had a better idea of who to listen to, who to tune out and what I should be doing in the moment.

Ryan Biddulph

mankis 31st October 2010 04:01 PM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Interesting post, start me wondering why am I not succesfull although only one thing goes for me from that list, and that is #2. So now I just need to find someone that has life I wish to live, huh, if that is easy as it sounds

AwesomePossum 31st October 2010 06:00 PM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Very very nice post...I like it a lot and I think the biggest one is no direction and information overload.

#1 way to fail....

Look at failing.

#1 way to succeed.

Find ONE mentor( ONE proven, quick and simple business model) then work your butt off to apply that business model inside of a niche you like and add your own flavor(your own style of communication)...

That'll give you a win.

mikeb1 31st October 2010 06:28 PM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
guilty as charged on all 9 accounts, had a mentor, who became a pest with a ton of emails to buy this and that product that he was promting every other day.

Gives us a your mentor then, or is that you now.?

Mike.

ColdFire123 2nd November 2010 12:05 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by wickedsubmit (Post 2798402)
Thanks buddy for great advice we need to learn from our mistakes

yeah. Thats true. and also experiences is the best lessons that you can't forget. :)

mark587905 2nd November 2010 12:13 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
(learn fast + work hard) X never stop believing = success in the end

twentyone 2nd November 2010 12:26 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
This is both very factful and motivational.
Motivate me to strive harder to be better and to be successful.
I believe you pal, I you did it I can do it to.

Rama 777 2nd November 2010 01:01 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
I Do Agree about do all things in a single time....It's quite a trap for us,...:o
And I was in that situation too...Really thank you for the post

I just made some a new beginning to manage all properly...
CHeersss!!!
:D:D:D

Shania 2nd November 2010 02:48 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
That is a great post! I am really challenged.

Would consider being my IM mentor?! :-)

Aira Bongco 2nd November 2010 03:14 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by AwesomePossum (Post 2803229)
Very very nice post...I like it a lot and I think the biggest one is no direction and information overload.

#1 way to fail....

Look at failing.

#1 way to succeed.

Find ONE mentor( ONE proven, quick and simple business model) then work your butt off to apply that business model inside of a niche you like and add your own flavor(your own style of communication)...

That'll give you a win.

You are right. Sometimes people left out the 'own flavor' part and go with just creating an impersonal approach to everything. This is wrong. You should have something unique that will let people choose you over others.

PeterDunin 2nd November 2010 07:09 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Really insightful post!thanks for sharing.

circle37 2nd November 2010 08:18 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Excellent post. Another tip: DONT BE GREEDY! Dont try and do everything yourself in the hope of gaining more. Sometimes it's smarter and more beneficial to gain less but share the workload and responsibilities.

fathaz 2nd November 2010 10:00 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Thanks for the list of reasons.. Seem i'm like yours.. I cannot focused on one things when i do.. So, planning is one step for our problems.. Is it right Warriors?

Venturetothetop 21st December 2010 07:00 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Wow - it seems focus and belief are two big factors holding people back.

One thing I have doen for over ten years is to place a small note on my monitor to remind em of why I am doing all this. It helps to keep me focused and reaffirms my belief that when I try, noone is better then me. The message I write is quite personal, so dont ask !

windwhirl 21st December 2010 07:45 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Cheer up! Now that you have listed down the culprits in becoming unsuccessful, dismiss all those negative thoughts and believe that you can be successful.Why not make another list for becoming successful this time? make a list of suggestions to yourself as to what you should do to be successful this time. I'll start:
Speak up
Exceed limitation -- you have to perform consistently well.
Be passionate -- one can never be successful at something he's not even passionate at.
Keep learning -- winners hve unquenchable thirst for kowledge, as another thread here says

Radcliff 21st December 2010 08:48 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
I appreciate it...as I always say it is more important to know about why we fail.....these are very much near solutions to that answer.

sethczerepak 21st December 2010 09:33 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Solid gold...especially the part about focusing on too many things...that's the leading cause of failure. I created a post about this just the other day...

The Greatest Enemy of Success? | Online Life Coaching

Venturetothetop 23rd December 2010 05:35 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Being positive is great for motivation, but unless we face facts on what we are doing wrong we have no chance of improving. By listing by mistakes, I have shown that i acknowledged them and found a way past them, thus I listed it in this way.

So, all you haters, even via pm, take this post for what it is, a simple way for some of us to continue improving ourselves.

ps - I consider myself very successful, but i would never stop looking for ways to improve further.

bilzz 23rd December 2010 05:40 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Great Post ,its really very helpful to us ! and i would say too Post of the Year :)

windwhirl 23rd December 2010 06:31 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Life is too short to listen to everybody's advise.. much worse to follow all. I posted this in another thread but I'd post again -- Listen to what others have to say but remain in tune with your inner self. Just listen, what they say might not be true, might not be applicable for you. Just listen, you will learn a lot from them but you don't necessarily have to follow them. Always on the look out and always trust you instinct.

success4all 23rd December 2010 07:49 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Venturetothetop (Post 2775821)

6) I did not really believe I could be successful.


Strange, it was my aim to be successful but I kept making excuses so I would not have to try. I made it very difficult for myself to be successful until I learnt that I have nothing to lose by trying. I would only end up where I am already, so by trying I can only gain knowledge or experience, and in the best case actually achieve success.

Solution:
  • Understand that most people are not successful on the first few attempts. That is why it is called a learning curve.
  • Surround yourself with people who are successful. There is a reason why powerful and successful people follow this rule.
  • Believe it is possible or you are just wasting your time and energy.

Great post venture

I like #6 above. If you have been doing everything else and still struggling. This is where you have to look for answers. And look you do, not outside but within, because almost always the real answer comes from within that will set you free and make you succeed. It has always been with/within you, but you never looked or listened closely.

JustinDupre 23rd December 2010 08:08 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Perfect.. I'm loving this.. 9 reasons you will not be successful..I see so many people failed from number 1, 2 and 6.

DIGITALCHAMELEON 23rd December 2010 07:54 PM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
I agree with number, in order to succeed we must listen to the advice from somebody listen to their points and weigh if ti is helpful or not.

corsleymaxwell 23rd December 2010 08:58 PM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
10. Laziness

This is one of the most common reason why most people failed in business. :D

ServingThroughEmail 25th December 2010 02:07 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Don't worry about it, Venturetothetop. Haters gonna hate~!

Anyway, I really got a lot of value out of your post. I know that I'm also guilty of letting my mind slip. I'm going to try your idea for a small note attached to my computer, as well as re-read this post a few times to really get it in there. I think that'll be really helpful!

Thanks! =D

Ninawa 25th December 2010 08:04 AM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Number 4 is my worst enemy. I do something and if it does not succeed I will have to PUSH myself to continue it and I probably will fail. I lose security and motivation easily unfortunately but I am working on this.

Venturetothetop 29th December 2010 02:47 PM

Re: 9 reasons you will not be successful
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by bilzz (Post 3062224)
Great Post ,its really very helpful to us ! and i would say too Post of the Year :)

Maybe a bit far, but thanks !


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