Top 3 Things Holding You Back

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I just have one thing that is holding back. What? I have not identified that single usual or unusual idea that will make me have that extraordinary business breakthrough that I desire.

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DJ Hughes

14 years ago

The top of my list would have to be procrastination. Second would be lack of a specific plan. Third is always feeling like I've missed the boat. I've also had many efforts in the past turn out completely fruitless and I am a little concerned that might happen again.

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JAlexander

14 years ago

I tend to over plan then look back at the plan to tweak it all the while not executing the plan till I feel perfection is met. Now knowing I do this, I have set limits and deadlines on myself to curb the activity

. So there is an element of wheel spinning here an procrastination.

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tmeachum

14 years ago

My biggest problem is not knowing what to do now that I know what I want to do. I want to do affiliate marketing. I've researched so many different programs that my head hurts and don't know what's legit and what isn't.

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devincrump 14 years ago

I think that too much information and not enough knowledge to know how to use the information is my problem. Procrastination is also right up there too.
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devincrump

14 years ago

Originally Posted by tmeachum

My biggest problem is not knowing what to do now that I know what I want to do. I want to do affiliate marketing. I've researched so many different programs that my head hurts and don't know what's legit and what isn't.

That is so true. Its like I know all the pieces to the puzzle but struggling to put them together.

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Core Freedom

14 years ago

Originally Posted by King Shiloh

I just have one thing that is holding back. What? I have not identified that single usual or unusual idea that will make me have that extraordinary business breakthrough that I desire.

I can totally related! Here are some questions I asked myself when I was at a real low point in life. This was 15 years ago, in fact I was on my death bed, literally, and I asked myself what I would bring to the world if I had more time. Perhaps they help you too:

1. It's the end of my life, what are the 3-5 things I am truly proud of?
2. Whom have I worked with all my life? What did was my average customer like? How old were they? Who were they in life? What did they bring to the table?
3. What are 3-5 things that leave me in absolute bliss every day? What leaves my customer in bliss every day?
4. What do my customers say about me (apply wishful thinking here)?
5. What can I improve right now to attract this customer?

I think the thing that ended up being my big ticket was the very thing that was the biggest thorn in my life growing up. Often this is our biggest fear. What is that for you? I bet if you turned that around you'll have found the diamond in the rough.

Originally Posted by DJ Hughes

The top of my list would have to be procrastination. Second would be lack of a specific plan. Third is always feeling like I've missed the boat. I've also had many efforts in the past turn out completely fruitless and I am a little concerned that might happen again.

I can definitely relate! At the same time I want to encourage you that 'what is yours is yours and cannot be taken from you.' So if it as taken from you it was yours to begin with. I believe that people are so unique that they are the only ones able to bring to the table the thing they've come here for. So it's not an outward journey to find that 'thing' outside of you, but a journey inward to see what you can bring forth from within. And there shall be no competition for you.

Originally Posted by JAlexander

I tend to over plan then look back at the plan to tweak it all the while not executing the plan till I feel perfection is met. Now knowing I do this, I have set limits and deadlines on myself to curb the activity

. So there is an element of wheel spinning here an procrastination.

I think planning is a great gift and you got it! As Solomon says, 'the wise man avoids all extremes.'

Thanks for sharing! I'm glad to know we're all riding the same boat!

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we_got_tops

14 years ago

Mine is definitely spending too much passive time slowly completing my tasks instead of actively prioritizing those goals and setting deadlines. For example, if I set off to blog comment to build some backlinks, I might get distracted and spend an hour surfing around without doing anything productive.

I know what I need to do, but since I don't have the support of any other workers, I sometimes don't get hard enough on myself.

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Core Freedom

14 years ago

Originally Posted by HarryP

We have some things in common! One thing holding me back is also spending too much passive time slowly completing my tasks instead of the major prioritizing out of my goals. Also setting a business plan. I have a lot of business plan and yet I can't implement them all due to lack of financial stuff and so on.

I see that a lot in my business planning courses! People come with amazing ideas, they finish an awesome plan only to find out that they need a quarter million dollars just to open the doors. It can drive many to give up on their plans, which is just too bad because money is just one aspect to making a business work.

I always tell my class that the 'how' is not our business, the 'how' is the domain of the Universe. Our only job is to get CLEAR with what we want, put it in writing and open our arms to receiving the help wherever it comes from (and it usually comes in the most unusual ways).

Hold on to the DREAM always seeing it a reality (money's not worth holding onto to, it's just a means like your computer or cell phone is).

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kakaboo

14 years ago

1) Lack of Action
2) Confused by all the hype and programs, upsells, downsells, crossells and whatnot
3) Lack of support ( a mentor maybe or someone that you could consult as some information are not always clear in words or videos)

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RasiFranks

14 years ago

I would say for me the top things that hold me back are:

1. Procrastination - always making up excuses outside of my own means to blame my procrastination on like its some force against me not letting me accomplish my goals

2. Ambition/Drive - so many times will I be driven to accomplish a goal when I'm not actively working on it, once I sit down to achieve the goal I get off track and become less driven or ambitious (definitely need to work on that)

3. Unorganized - being so scattered with what I want to get done that either nothing gets done or everything gets done 25% of the way, which in the end might as well have not gotten done at all...

Staying organized, focused and pushing yourself to get things done will definitely pay off we all just have to re-work our minds to be long term thinkers and realize everything we do now will effect us months down the road...

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Asanga

14 years ago

mine is Procrastination and Uncertainty . Uncertainty in the scene the feeling of what if i don't make it and the other what if i make it,it sounds too good to be true so i probably will not make it.i know if i can get over these hurdles ill be a multimillionaire

so lets see

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Aira Bongco

14 years ago

What are the three things holding me back?
1. Laziness - It's the devil if you want to get things done. But we all have it
2. Diversions - Facebook, a new shiny online marketing product or method or other diversions. I hate them. It encourages my laziness
3. Planning too much - Yeah I am one of those people who plan too much ahead. In fact, I have made plans for 4 years from now. I am that addicted to planning. Crazy, I know.

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unknowncat

14 years ago

hahahaha so many lazy people want easy money!

my three:
1) not consistent on the ongoing chores like link building, content building.
2) not thinking outside the box and perusing marketing channels other than search!
3) i spend more time with my girl than i do with my business. could be worse..

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lovefreedom

14 years ago

I would say that the biggest challenge is actually find a mentor. There are a lot of people calling themselves like it but to find someone truly committed to your success, it can be quite hard. Once you find the right mentor, it's like time traveling to your successful future, you reach success and you reach it FAST!

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EdgeStorm 14 years ago

Can't focus on working with the presence of my family at home.

I think I need an office badly!!
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  Originally Posted by EdgeStorm
  
  Can't focus on working with the presence of my family at home.
  
  I think I need an office badly!!
  
  If your current environment bugs you, getting a detached workspace is one of the most profitable things you can do. It is firmly on my Top-5 list over actions that have resulted in the highest impact on my effectivity.
  
  It has helped me focus and treat my IM involvement as a business. "As a business" should include a lot of tracking, accounting and performance monitoring of what works, and what is bleeding you. "Going to the office" makes it so much easier to slip into this mindset.
  
  "Office" can be anything from a dedicated spot in the basement to a rented space downtown, whatever works for you. Did wonders for me.
  
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joscarff

14 years ago

1. Time
2. Time
3. Time

Those are all slightly different.

1. there's not enough time so i hesitate to start anything major and end up doing loads of small things that amount to nothing

2. fear that i might actually waste the small amount of time that i have, so I spend more time worrying about whether I'm using my time wisely(!)

3. and when i have time i tend to work on projects that i *know* are going to pay me money right now, rather work on building an IM empire that might not actually ever happen...

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Core Freedom

14 years ago

Originally Posted by lovefreedom

I would say that the biggest challenge is actually find a mentor. There are a lot of people calling themselves like it but to find someone truly committed to your success, it can be quite hard. Once you find the right mentor, it's like time traveling to your successful future, you reach success and you reach it FAST!

I can totally relate. Ten years ago I wanted to get into real estate investing and posted an ad on Craigslist for a mentor. I got one reply from someone saying "your mentor will appear when you're ready." I remember being insulted because there I had just placed an ad, of course I was ready! But I later realized that s/he meant. When I finally was committed to my own success first and nothing and no one was going to stop me, rather than wanting someone else to hold me by the hand, more than one mentor showed up. I think a mentor wants to spend time with people that are unstoppable in every way, people that don't let anything get in their way, no even themselves.

Originally Posted by EdgeStorm

Can't focus on working with the presence of my family at home.

I think I need an office badly!!

Yes, with a teenager out of high school and looking for work and a dog that constantly wants to be pet I am totally with you! We share one car and so I couldn't even get an office if I wanted to, but I certainly have been thinking along the same lines these past few weeks.

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webairalex

14 years ago

I would say meaningful interaction, a mentor can only help if he/she are selflessly helping you. Motivation is always difficult to attain especially when life has you running around.

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jointaldc

14 years ago

the top three things that held me back were,

1. procrastination
2. low self-confidence
3. over analytic

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Get Inspired Today

14 years ago

I've come to the belief that procrastination is merely a symptom of some problem. In the past, I tried to "conquer" procrastination, but the more I learned the more I found myself tackling deeper problems.

It's kind of like liposuction... we can suck out the fat, but if you still overeat your victories are short-lived and the real problems never solved.

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Core Freedom

14 years ago

Originally Posted by Get Inspired Today

I've come to the belief that procrastination is merely a symptom of some problem. In the past, I tried to "conquer" procrastination, but the more I learned the more I found myself tackling deeper problems.

It's kind of like liposuction... we can suck out the fat, but if you still overeat your victories are short-lived and the real problems never solved.

Couldn't agree with you more! I definitely think Procrastination is a national epidemic and yet it's only one of the ripples of the bigger issue at hand. The rock that caused the ripples in the first is of course long buried underneath the surface. It's basic cause and effect principle.

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calyp5o

13 years ago

wow..
nice share..

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Core Freedom

13 years ago

Originally Posted by devincrump

I think that too much information and not enough knowledge to know how to use the information is my problem. Procrastination is also right up there too.

Originally Posted by devincrump

That is so true. Its like I know all the pieces to the puzzle but struggling to put them together.

Procrastination, for whatever reasons, seems to be a big one for most people. So I went to AskOxford to see where the word stems from. Here is what it says:

Origin:
late 16th century: from Latin procrastinat- 'deferred until tomorrow', from the verb procrastinare, from pro- 'forward' + crastinus 'belonging to tomorrow' (from cras 'tomorrow')

In reading this it makes me wonder if 'deferred until tomorrow' might have related to a repayment of debt of some kind and over time we simply 'twisted' its use a bit.

I think people are often stuck because of past trauma, an old story that somehow hooked into us and we have built our life around this certain pain or discomfort. Kind of like a pearl that starts as a grain of sand that hurts the creature, over time and with enough layers there is a pearl (so women adorn themselves with something pretty that is laid over grains of sand).

So we too might look busy (really busy, even exhausted) but this busy-ness is just like the laying of layers of pearl around the real issue...Interesting concept.

What if we refused to spin the pearl by adding layer after layer and instead removed layers one by one until we found the grain of sand that caused the procrastination in the first place? We'd be truly unstoppable!

Originally Posted by calyp5o

wow..
nice share..

I so agree!

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Core Freedom

13 years ago

Originally Posted by Abundance-University

Kind of like a pearl that starts as a grain of sand that hurts the creature, over time and with enough layers there is a pearl (so women adorn themselves with something pretty that is laid over grains of sand).

Correction: I looked up the exact cause for pearl creation. Here's what Wikipedia says:

Pearls are formed inside the shell of certain mollusks as a defense mechanism against a potentially threatening irritant such as a parasite inside its shell, or an attack from outside, injuring the mantle tissue...The combination of aragonite and conchiolin is called nacre, which makes up mother-of-pearl. The commonly held belief that a grain of sand acts as the irritant is in fact rarely the case. Typical stimuli include organic material, parasites, or even damage that displaces mantle tissue to another part of the mollusk's body. These small particles or organisms gain entry when the shell valves are open for feeding or respiration.

I think we often have our hearts open towards people or situations and when we get hurt we too build a defense mechanism around the real issue, hence procrastination.

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rouse9 13 years ago

Very enlightening post but I would like to add that in my view, procrastination, if understood correctly, has its own positive side effects.
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- Core Freedom 13 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by rouse9
  
  Very enlightening post but I would like to add that in my view, procrastination, if understood correctly, has its own positive side effects.
  
  I'd love to hear your view point - examples?
  
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areaman

13 years ago

I find myself easily distracted by shiny objects, e-mails, various e-books, etc. i think part of the reason is I don't feel that I have found that one focus to concentrate on to develop some sales. I go one direction for awhile and then change direction if I see something that interests me. With so much conflicting advice out there I'm not confident in going in a specific direction. It seems I'm always looking for that "aha" moment that causes me to take off, but I'm working on it.

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ryanbiddulph

13 years ago

All helpful tips here.

#1 on my list? The belief that anything could hold you back. Belief is regression is a thought-jailor.

You are born unlimited, and remain unlimited until you accept the belief that you aren't unlimited.

Ryan Biddulph

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mankis

13 years ago

I have all I need, talent, knowledge, high quality work, experience, desire to be the best in what I do, idea, goal... but I don't have enough money to take free month or two to finish my project.

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sponsorlist

13 years ago

Procrastination and priorization definately would be something to improve, and the evergrowing amout of (mis)information isn't helping. Sometimes you just really have to stop and think for a moment that is the stuff you're doing getting you anywhere, or would it be better to close those 50 browser tabs and focus on something actually important.

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Seleyna

13 years ago

1. procrastination
2. handsome capital
3. unnecessary priorities

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PeterDunin

13 years ago

1.Fear of not achieving my goals
2.Laziness
3.Arthritis (because I ache a lot)

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Ben_R

13 years ago

the main thing is yourself

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Shania

13 years ago

1. Lack of systematic planning and action
2. Giving up too soon
3. Fear of failure

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Core Freedom 13 years ago

Wow, I'm impressed with all of your responses and insights! Thank you for participating so willingly.

It looks like procrastination, overload of information and fear of not achieving something important may top the list overall.

I appreciate Ryan's one pointer: belief - whether it's belief that we are limited or unlimited.

I completely agree. I see limiting belief like the lid on the box that I need to kick off to get out of the box and be free. Sometimes the lid is so heavy that we need a bit of help from fellow travelers.

In the past I used affirmations that started with "I am successful" but that devil's advocate voice right after chimed in saying "no, you're not." Nowadays my affirmations start with "I love it when...I am successful" and I find that the voice has nothing to say... Think about it, try it. It might work wonders for you too.

Hopefully this post encourages everyone to prioritize their tasks while keeping their long term goals in laser focus. You will get there!
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