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Just a thought...(might help)

by billMarket
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A lot of people post on here about
the problems they are having. For
example:

I was once successful, but now I am not,
what should I do?

I hate my job and I want to make money online,
how can I do it?

I can't get traffic to my site, what do I do?

I don't want to sound condescending or
tell people that their problems are not legit...
because they are.

We all have problems we are trying to deal
with and find solutions to.

Yet, I want to offer this advice:

I think the best approach is to STOP
FOCUSING ON solving your own problems...

..and START FOCUSING ON solving other people's
problems.

When you start focusing on helping others, you
might just solve your problems

Just a thought (hope it helps),

Bill.
#thought #thoughtmight
  • Profile picture of the author jointaldc
    that does make sense. Once you stop concentrating so much on your own problems and stop giving them power by thinking about it every, you could think much more clearer.
    Also by helping someone else, you never know who might be able to touch you with their wisdom
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    • Profile picture of the author mankis
      You are absolutly right (bold text). But why do you think that person that askes for help is focused only to her/his own problems? In life I give help more than I ask for it, but in fields that I'm good at. I have super talent for art, design and programming, but zero talent to sell something. I just won Design licks award for the website that I made for one artist that didn't had enough money to pay me the real price. He was also in the hurry to have a website before exhibition opening. I have a small baby that I still breastfeading but I was working for this website day and night, several nights I haven't even go to sleep. Few days we didn't have nothing to eat. At the end the money I get wasn't enough to cover my regular expenses, I'm still in debt. But I made this person most original site that people link to because they like it. The site instantly had lots of traffic just because of my design.
      I opened one topic "Once successful..." because I'm not like most of the people here, sellers. I'm just looking the person that will sell my services. I know that there in the world people pay thousands of dollars to have websites I'm able to make. There must be some person that will recognize my quality and take part of the cake just for recomending me.
      I was surfing the web and found this interesting forum and decided to stick a little bit to see if I can find what I'm looking for here, or at least some directions.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mark Singletary
    Good thought.

    One of my favorite quotes is by Zig Ziglar: "You can have everything you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want".
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Wherever your attention goes, grows. Focus on solutions, focus on things you have to be grateful for, practice focusing on anything but your problems.

    That being said we all have moments where venting might be helpful so there's nothing wrong with getting something off of your mind....if you get it off your mind for good and let it go at that!

    Ryan Biddulph
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  • Profile picture of the author SirHarrrison
    Originally Posted by billMarket View Post

    A lot of people post on here about
    the problems they are having. For
    example:

    I was once successful, but now I am not,
    what should I do?

    I hate my job and I want to make money online,
    how can I do it?

    I can't get traffic to my site, what do I do?

    I don't want to sound condescending or
    tell people that their problems are not legit...
    because they are.

    We all have problems we are trying to deal
    with and find solutions to.

    Yet, I want to offer this advice:

    I think the best approach is to STOP
    FOCUSING ON solving your own problems...

    ..and START FOCUSING ON solving other people's
    problems.

    When you start focusing on helping others, you
    might just solve your problems

    Just a thought (hope it helps),

    Bill.
    Really a gerat piece of advice. Like Joe dirt say: "It's not what you like, It's the consumer."
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    Thank you,
    Harrison

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  • Profile picture of the author Kenster
    That is a great tip. I have found that if you are helping others, the traffic, the money, everything just naturally follows and a business is born. When you try and start a business and make money without helping or solving a need of others, its a much tougher mountain to climb.


    Helping others is normally a momentum that carries with it pockets of opportunity along the way. Then its a matter of monetizing that opportunity in the future!
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  • Profile picture of the author Ruth P
    I definitely like this advice, and it's something I try to do too.

    One thing I've realised is that helping others can often end up helping ourselves. A lot of people go through the same kinds of basic struggles and feelings. Offering them perspective on what really matters or what they can do often gives you a greater perspective on your own situation.

    That said, I do think there are times when we simply need to ask for help.
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  • Profile picture of the author mankis
    Just a thought... it's not easy to ask for help. Sometimes is rather embarrassing. You have to open up your self, give details of your personal life so that people can see that you are sincere, you have to ask for help althoug you know that there are less fortunate people in the world and that maybe people will think that you are not help worthy. So it's not nice when you do all that and instead of getting help people tells you that you shouldn't ask work help but you should help others.
    You could have written this bold part in the text without criticizing people who ask for help.
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    • Profile picture of the author billMarket
      Originally Posted by mankis View Post

      Just a thought... it's not easy to ask for help. Sometimes is rather embarrassing. You have to open up your self, give details of your personal life so that people can see that you are sincere, you have to ask for help althoug you know that there are less fortunate people in the world and that maybe people will think that you are not help worthy. So it's not nice when you do all that and instead of getting help people tells you that you shouldn't ask work help but you should help others.
      You could have written this bold part in the text without criticizing people who ask for help.
      Hey there,

      Thanks for the feedback.

      I hope people dont take my post the wrong way. I did not intend to put down anyone who is asking for help - in fact, I ask for help myself on this forum a lot, and I try to give advice when I see other people asking.

      All I was trying to do was suggest that it might help to focus on helping other people, instead of focusing so much on your own problems.

      When you do this, I find that your own problems start to get smaller.

      Again, I hope I didn't say anything negative about asking for help (don't think I did) because that wasn't my intention. I apologize if it was misleading in anyway.

      Thanks,

      Bill.
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