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Getting knocked down

by AFI
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Man today has just been brutal. Two friends of mine out of left field giving me a knife right into the back. Two separate instances but both very hurtful.

It's hard to recover from friends who stab you in the back. Really hard.
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    This is a toughie. I've been there.

    When stinging it's tough to think straight. Try to give yourself time in silence so you can address the feeling and release it. Sitting with the feeling - no matter how agitating or angry the practices causes you to be - is the quickest way to release it.

    I came to realize these folks taught me a valuable lesson about myself and eventually became grateful to them for doing so. Of course, I released them from my life Not because I was angry at them but because I had outgrown the relationship. New people more in harmony with my vision quickly entered my life when I let the feelings and people go.

    I wish you the best

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  • Profile picture of the author jointaldc
    It's even harder when the love of your life stabs you in the front.... that'll take years to recover
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  • Profile picture of the author BetGeek
    I can hear the pain. Sympathetically said, it's also a matter of perspective.

    In the first Wall Street, Gordon Gekko says: "if you want a friend... Get a dog". Gekko wouldn't have bothered much if what happened to you had happened to him.

    This says something about how important friendship is for you, which is great.
    This also says that the people who stabbed you didn't value friendship the same way you do.

    If all of this is true, this may say raise a question, if not a doubt, about how much of a friend the people who found in themselves the ability to hurt you emotionally actually were.
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  • Profile picture of the author susiem
    I can relate to your pain big time. Time does heal as they say, it does hurt for a long time and you do have to release them and go on with your life. You will find out later that there is always someone else to come along to fill that void in your life. One thing that you need to never do though is build a wall around your heart. Don;t let bitterness,unforgiveness hold you captive. Forgive them and release them.
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  • Profile picture of the author paulie888
    The best thing you can do is forgive them, and then let it go - under no circumstances should you dwell on how and why things happened the way they did.

    Just move on and don't let it be a stumbling block. The less time you dwell on it, the better off you will be, and the more time you can spend on your business doing constructive things!

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    • Profile picture of the author jasdon
      Originally Posted by paulie888 View Post

      The best thing you can do is forgive them, and then let it go - under no circumstances should you dwell on how and why things happened the way they did.

      Just move on and don't let it be a stumbling block. The less time you dwell on it, the better off you will be, and the more time you can spend on your business doing constructive things!

      Paul
      Good advice.

      You need to be able to forgive them (though not necessarily remain friends with them) or else you can become bitter. And ultimately that bitter feeling will only hurt you - no-one else.

      It might take some time before you can do it, but being able to forgive is very liberating.
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  • Profile picture of the author PeterDunin
    They obviously weren't true friends,so just treat it as a painful lesson learned.
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  • Profile picture of the author RegalWeb
    If a friend backstabs you, then it hurts.

    But if a love one stabs you in the front, then it hurts BIG TIME.
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  • Profile picture of the author AFI
    I ended up making up with both of them.

    They ARE true friends, we just had a difference of interpretations of events I guess.
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    • Profile picture of the author sparckyz
      Originally Posted by AFI View Post

      Man today has just been brutal. Two friends of mine out of left field giving me a knife right into the back. Two separate instances but both very hurtful.

      It's hard to recover from friends who stab you in the back. Really hard.
      Originally Posted by AFI View Post

      I ended up making up with both of them.

      They ARE true friends, we just had a difference of interpretations of events I guess.
      Must have been a rubber knife then
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    • Profile picture of the author CrhisD
      Originally Posted by AFI View Post

      I ended up making up with both of them.

      They ARE true friends, we just had a difference of interpretations of events I guess.
      True friends are honest with you even if they know you won't like what they're going to say.
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