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Does anyone else feel like this?

by thesorcerersapprentice
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Hi everyone

My name is Neil and I had a very successful military career in the British Air Force spanning 26 years,joining as a boy entrant airman and reaching the rank of wing commander.

I know that I achieved a lot during my time in the air force and that I should have a host of skills that I could take into civilian life. However, since leaving the air force in 2007 I seem to have had a crisis of confidence and I sometimes wonder whether anything I gained in the military will be useful in civilian life or indeed if the qualities that made me successful in the military are in fact a hindrance to being successful outside?

I am sure that many people who have been in one career for a long time (such as the police or education) must feel like this and I was wondering if there are any info products that deal with this sort of thing?

Would be great to hear your views and comments.

Best

Neil
#career #education #feel #military #police
  • Profile picture of the author sk8er431
    you just need to socialize with people around you and you will eventually overcome it.
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  • Profile picture of the author SPMassie
    I don't know that there any info products concerning this. Maybe you could create one to help people like yourself
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  • Profile picture of the author Audrey Harvey
    Hi Neil

    While I'm no expert, I think what you're feeling is pretty normal after so long in the one career. It does take a leap of confidence to try out something new.

    Perhaps the way to look at it would be not to think of the actual skills you performed in your day to day work in the Air Force, but instead focus on the personal characteristics you developed over the years. Leadership? Persistence? Consistency? Then look at what you can do with those. They'll take you where you want to go.

    I wonder if a few sessions with a life coach would be useful for you, just to get some direction and help you to take that first step in a new direction.

    I don't know of any info products out there that deal with this. As Mr Smith said, you could create one, but how many people stay in the same job for decades these days? The market may not be too big.

    I wish you all the best.
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    • Profile picture of the author donhx
      Wing Commander, I believe you feel the way you do because you had structure in the military, and you have little, if any of that, in your life now. With the structure gone, you feel lost.

      My suggestion is that you create a very regimented structure for yourself, and adhere to it. Dress in a uniform (although not necessary a military one), write a procedures manual and follow it. Work the same hours you did in the military. Be accountable to someone of higher rank (perhaps your wife!).

      I'm dead serious about this. Military men with 26 years of service have a comfort zone, and structure is an important part of that. You do certain things for certain reasons, and you are accountable as part of a chain of command. You need to translate that part of the military culture into your present Internet Marketing work.

      Do your Internet Marketing work with the same diligence that you served your country, and you will be a great success.
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  • Profile picture of the author jushuaburnham
    Just continue to connect with people create more friends in the community and be friendly indeed, wear always a smile.
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  • Profile picture of the author maidmarion
    I like donhx's comment! yes, when you are used to structure, it must feel uncomfortable with out it.

    Also connect with others in your position, there must be some around, search for clubs, on google etc.

    Its true also, that its the qualities you have learnt, not just the skills. Seek some help from a career advisor!

    Good Luck, I'm sure you will find your feet.
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  • Profile picture of the author mckward6
    Any move in life takes getting used to. A move out of Army life and into civilian life takes a lot of getting used to. Remember the decisions you make will affect the rest of your life so take your time and choose wisely.
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  • Profile picture of the author IMoptimizer
    I think it's due to serving in the Military so long. You grew accustomed to the way things were done and how they were done. I imagine that you just need to explore your life, get out there, meet new people.

    I know I'd be the same way if I was in the Military for so long, just the idea of leaving something you been with for so long is hard to do. I had a hard time when it came to graduating high school because I was leaving it behind a long with all my friends.

    Just try to meet new people is all I can honestly come up with.
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  • Profile picture of the author corycrabb
    Yes I agree, I believe its in your own perspective..
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  • Profile picture of the author RegalWeb
    It is much better to socialize and connect with other people. But others cannot change the way you are if you chose to be more deviant and stay away from social norms. Don't live for others, live for yourself.
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