Dealing with negative blog comments

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I suppose if you are going to speak out on the internet there will always be people that have negative things to say...but I have had earned this nasty blog-stalker that doesn't know a thing about me but sure loves to attack everything I write. Does this happen to any of you? I barely have enough time to send nice comments on other people's blogs, let alone send personal attacks to people I don't know...how does she gets this energy? I can't respond to her because she uses anonymous emails...any tips on how to get rid of her???
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  • Profile picture of the author flowbee77
    Originally Posted by RachelCorrine View Post

    I suppose if you are going to speak out on the internet there will always be people that have negative things to say...but I have had earned this nasty blog-stalker that doesn't know a thing about me but sure loves to attack everything I write. Does this happen to any of you? I barely have enough time to send nice comments on other people's blogs, let alone send personal attacks to people I don't know...how does she gets this energy? I can't respond to her because she uses anonymous emails...any tips on how to get rid of her???
    Ignore her. If her attacks are personal in nature, 99% of the people reading her comments will see her for what she is, childish. The other 1% don't care.

    Ignoring her as though she does not exist removes her power over you. You got better things to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author scortillion
    I agree, ignoring her is probably best. Act as if she is not even there. Try this for awhile.

    IF that does not work after a month and you want to put in a little effort start by thanking her for her point of view. Be really nice and always thank her for her post and point of view. Always look for something VERY nice to say to and about her.

    This will do two things, it will show everyone else that you are trying to be nice, plus it will probably really anger the person posting against you. After a while they will just get too angry to deal with you anymore or get band from the website.
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  • Profile picture of the author JustinP
    Look at it this way...you are getting comments!!! WOOHOO. You MUST be doing something right if it is driving someone to invest so much energy. Your real fans will fight your battle for you in the long run. In the mean time, I like the advice already given. Ignore them or make very short, vague comments that show you are not affected.
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    • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
      Originally Posted by JustinP View Post

      Look at it this way...you are getting comments!!! WOOHOO. You MUST be doing something right if it is driving someone to invest so much energy. Your real fans will fight your battle for you in the long run. In the mean time, I like the advice already given. Ignore them or make very short, vague comments that show you are not affected.
      Great Point J.
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  • Profile picture of the author Darla
    Originally Posted by RachelCorrine View Post

    I suppose if you are going to speak out on the internet there will always be people that have negative things to say...but I have had earned this nasty blog-stalker that doesn't know a thing about me but sure loves to attack everything I write. Does this happen to any of you? I barely have enough time to send nice comments on other people's blogs, let alone send personal attacks to people I don't know...how does she gets this energy? I can't respond to her because she uses anonymous emails...any tips on how to get rid of her???

    That's terrible. Don't you moderate ( i.e.approve or disapprove) all comments before they post to your blog? If you do, just consistently delete her comments before they post. Eventually she will see her comments are not getting through and may find some other way to spend her time.

    If that does not work, you may be able to block her IP. I have read that that can be done, but being as technically challenged as I am, I am not sure exactly how to do that. :-( Contact your web-hosting service and they should be able to help you with that.
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  • Profile picture of the author rcritchett
    Great Post! Yes, this definitely happens to me. Initially, when I first started getting an interaction on my website, it was all really great comments. Then, when the inevitable happened and I started getting negative feedback, it was quite easy to get into a really unresourceful state of mind. What gets me through it, with grace is knowing that when you put your neck on the line, and you're a voice for people to criticize, it's very natural to get bad feedback. I refer to this thing, and a strategy for a psychological redirect as the "psychology of discomfort." The truth is, it's easy to hide behind the net, and write bad comment after bad comment. What's not easy is being the creator who goes out there and takes things from their minds, and turns them into blogs. For that, you're a gem. In my area, of high performance psychology, I believe that the best way to get rid of a belief is to give it absolutely no attention. Literally, in your brain, if you don't use neural pathways, they start to weaken. Eventually, if you don't respond to this obvious challenge in this persons mind, he/she won't see a point in doing that anymore.
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  • Profile picture of the author AwesomePossum
    Honestly, I believe that the best way to take care of this has already been posted up.

    #1: Moderate your blog and approve comments before posting...it takes just a little bit of time and it solves the problem

    #2: I know it's hard but in a way ignore it...the way I think about it is if she's taking the time to attack you, it has NOTHING to do with your blog and once you stop fueling her fire by completely disowning her negative energy she'll have nothing to stay for because you're not giving her what she wants...negative energy.

    Don't fuel or nurse a fire that's surrounded with pavement. It'll go out all by itself.

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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi Rachel,

    I second the advice to ignore this person. The positive is that you are encountering resistance, indicating that you are growing rapidly. The other positive? By simply ignoring this person they will go away.

    Whatever you give your attention and energy to expands. When you remove the attention and energy that thing or person disappears from your life. As you encounter more of these types it becomes easier to ignore them, it becomes habitual after a while.

    Have a powerful day!

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    • Profile picture of the author flowbee77
      Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

      Hi Rachel,

      The positive is that you are encountering resistance, indicating that you are growing rapidly.

      RB
      Great sentence Ryan.
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  • Profile picture of the author maidmarion
    You are getting attention and that is good. You should moderate your comments, and that way only the best will show. Ignore the bad comments, it isn't personal!

    Focus on the good comments and the bad ones will float away.
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