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Unread 17th December 2010, 02:31 AM   #1
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Default How to Let Your Child(ren) Know You're Proud of Them?

Praise your child(ren) with even the littlest compliment. When your child accomplishes something, even if it's just good behavior, reward him with encouraging words. Tell your child that he/she was a good boy/girl or that he/she did a good job. Even if you have trouble talking about your feelings, it is important that your child knows he's done good in your eyes. When your child knows that you are proud of him, he will be more willing to behave well later, get good grades, or accomplish a tough task. Try to compliment your child as often as you can. Even if all you do is pat your child on the back and say 'good job in school', you will have made a difference to him and helped him feel good about himself. Each thing your child does that makes him proud, should make you proud as well, especially in his eyes.

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That's some good advice, madilyn. Kids' self esteem in later life is heavily depended on the experiences and lessons they learned when their young. If a kid gets scolded a lot or gets "no" every time or never hears any compliment to reinforce taking good actions , then the kid's self esteem will be very low later in life or understand right from wrong.

I watched one of Marshall Slyver's video where he acted out two scenarios: one with a father scolding the kid and the other with him encouraging and telling the kid that he's a gift and he would grow up to do great things. The audience went completely stunned and silenced when he scolded the kid and said he was good for nothing. This is the kind of belief system that many adults had been instilled since they were kids and held them back in life from achieving great things. Of course, you'll have to methodically teach your kids when they do wrong to make sure they grow up alright.


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Children do need a lot of encouragement! Even though I don't have children, I sometimes talk to myself as though I was talking to a child. I tell myself how well I have done, how much I love you and how clever I am!

We are still childlike inside, so we need it all through our lives.

Once we feel good, we can give love to our children even more!

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Yes children DO need encouragement and good motivation, but sometimes it can be overdone. When children do well, really well they should be complemented and praised but when they come in 5th they shouldn’t get a trophy for that, praised for trying sure, rewarded for 5th, 10th or even last, no.

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I agree, but... if you praise your kid only when they perform well, or achieve something, you are telling them that they need to achieve to gain your approval/love. Not everyone handles that very well as they grow up.

My suggestion? Tell your kid that you love them. A lot. Often. But don't create a connection between you being proud of "them" and you being proud of "their achievement". There is a big difference, try to find a balance.
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Great advice! Also, when your child is doing something that you don't want them to do...rather than tell them what not to do...tell them what to do. For example, when your child is running and you want them to stop, say, "walk please!" Don't say, "don't run!"
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I agree, but... if you praise your kid only when they perform well, or achieve something, you are telling them that they need to achieve to gain your approval/love. Not everyone handles that very well as they grow up.

My suggestion? Tell your kid that you love them. A lot. Often. But don't create a connection between you being proud of "them" and you being proud of "their achievement". There is a big difference, try to find a balance.
So far no one said only. Children always need to be praised when they try and do good things, but I believe because too many people don't discipline their kids anymore is the reason for all the high crime rates and kids vandalizing things these days.

Praise is good and needed, but discipline and punishment is needed too. If kids knew there would bad results for them doing bad instead of just saying “bad” then society would be a lot better these days.
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Put less emphasis on trivial misdeeds and focus on good behavior. Most of the times, a parent should remind them of the time they did well or behaved well. Prise and positive reinforcement should be on top too. I think those will show how proud the parents are of their children. I believe those are enough to let the children realize that they provide love and pride to their parents. Also, let kids complete their sentences. avoid interruptions as these disrupt their train of thought and make them feel as if their ideas are insignificant and not worth listening to.
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I think praising and encouraging your child to be himself or herself (rather than who you wanted to be or want him or her to be) is a true key. Selfless, unconditional support and praise are crucial to any child's success. Good luck, peace, and prosperity!

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I think praising and encouraging your child to be himself or herself (rather than who you wanted to be or want him or her to be) is a true key. Selfless, unconditional support and praise are crucial to any child's success. Good luck, peace, and prosperity!

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Great point, to many times a parent tries to make the kid into what they wanted to be instead of what the child wants.

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I do try to do this as much as possible. Everyone likes to hear encouraging words.
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letting your child know the good things he/she does is a major thing in their life. They look for acceptance from their parents. If you have a child, please make sure to complement everything they do, as long as it's good of course.

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I know my children proud of me because I will not fail them even though I was busy at work, I have shown them my support even though I was busy.

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Very useful thread, thanks for sharing.
From everything we do in our everyday life, children are the most important part, and dispite us being very busy, we should not forget to spend time with them, listen, encourage and complement them. This is how we build their self esteem.
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Unread 11th July 2012, 06:52 AM   #15
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Hi all, good post!

'Catch them being good' is a phrase I use in my book:

'How to Raise Children Successfully'

It is exactly that...instaed of complaing or criticising them, praise something they did...it actually works!!!

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I totally agree with you madilyn! A simple compliment or affirmation will make your child/children feel that you're proud of them. And with that, they will continuously do something good not only to you (parents) but to other people as well.

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