Why fear success

Good stuff Odahh. We all have a certain fear of success that lies in our subconscious.

I got your thought Odahh, I think "fear" is the big reason why many people failed. They are afraid of failure that is why they don't want to do something, failure is just a part of success and failure precisely is the reason for success.

No one fear success but they fear the great responsibility behind success. As well the afraid of failure eventually they succeed.

You're definitely on the right track Odahh.

When you’ve “quantified” what you’re afraid of (writing it down) think about how you can change what you’re afraid of. Perhaps it will replacing “Limiting Beliefs” with positive affirmations. For instance instead of being afraid of something you can affirm:

“Whatever happens I’ll handle it.”

(Which is true if you think about it: You’ve handled most things that have happened to you.) Or maybe it will be facing something you’re afraid of by breaking it down and confronting it one piece at a time.

Although it's important to figure out what you’re afraid of (or what might be holding you back) it's equally important to understand why you want to be “successful.”

Because then your “Why I want to be successful …” log will be something that’s more important than what you’re afraid of. Something you can focus on. Something that inspires and motivates you. A vision that can drive you forward.

See, even though I was afraid of the unknown or what might happen (which I didn’t realize until I put pen to paper) my “What I want to be successful …” log was infinitively more powerful.

So, if you’re ready Odahh ¾ face your fear ¾ and take the next step.

Well said. I agree with that. I think that in a weird way, people somehow become dependant to their problems, they accept that their problems, their "situation" is here to stay, "normal", and basically defines their life. So the possibility of a sudden major change becomes frightening, probably because a change may bring some problems they're not familiar with and may shake their habits.

Reading over the bored it popped into my head. A strategy i learned from 4 hour work week. IF your dealing with fear of any type . think of the worst thing that can happen. list them out then ask yourself how bad will that really be .

I myself always believe the worst is going to happen . so i am good at this . so if you ever need the whats the worst that can happen question answered.. ask me!

I agree with that. I think in a funny way, any way people become dependent on their problems, they acknowledge their problems, their "status" here to stay, "general", and basically my life defines. Frightening prospect of major change so suddenly, perhaps because a change to bring some problems, they're not familiar with their habits and could shake is.</span>

Hey,

Thanks for the awesome thread!

You have a great point here. It's kind of similar to people who are addicted to pain. They have gotten so used to that usual pain, whether it be in school, home, or relationships it's normal to them. So normal that they tend to look for that certain pain, because without it they feel un-normal.

You should never fear success, but fear failure. I fear failing everyday that is why I work so hard and push myself to succeed. I was in fear of not graduating my senior year of high school. I guess you can say I was in fear of become a "failure" among my family. That fear pushed me to succeed when the odds were stacked against me, and it can do the same for you!

Thanks again!

God bless,
William Veasley

What if it's not success or failure people are afraid of...

It's already been touched on in this thread, and I think it is "fear of change".

To some, success is to work from home. To others, thats a big failure, they want to work from the beach sipping drinks. And again, other people think those guys n gals are a bunch of lazy couch potatoes not living life to the max, success must be working 20 hours a day and having cocktail mingles with your ex wifes colleageus. You know, to get ahead of everyone else.

So, people have a funny way of staying in whatever state they are, call it success or failure.

The ones who get everything they want? The ones who can see through the states, the ones who have connected with their inner being, the self. Not the ego, but the self.

You can also live a life without fear.

Exactly. Well said Mr. Carter.

u grab my words, good post i agree with u on the opinion of fear of success

i think fear for success is the biggest hurdle in way of our success

Why fear success when you have greater things to fear.Fear of not having enough money to support your family,paying debts and even going for a holidays.These fear should be the source of motivation to achieve success.That is my point of view.

If we fear success or fear failure we will get nothing done

Fear dont let people to try things !!

Can someone please help me with this thought about fear - It seems that fear is learned - it is programmed inside you. If you always hear that you can never make it, the odds are too great, you just don't have what it takes, or other constant torments, how do you turn off the outside world and re-focus on yes you can do it! Especially when building a business correctly takes time and quite a few failings along the way? Also, it is not possible to just associate with others - say for whatever the reason, these nay sayers are a part of your life - you cannot simply walk away. Food for thought - you think? This is how failure - and built in failure becomes a learned response - a built in mechanism.

great post Odahh. i have said for about 15 years of public speaking now that most people have fear of failure, even more have fear of success. after learning from an amazing mentor the last couple of years, i can say that your title gives us the clues. why fear success? fear, we all know is False Expectations Apprearing Real-what the basis of that is simply when we fib to ourselves-we have all "looked into the future" and imagined some event, and convinced ourselves that that event will cause more pain than pleasure, which is completely untrue. at all times we have constant pain/pleasure, support/challenge, etc. the other clue is in the word "success". everyone is masterfully successful right now for who they are as they are and cannot be more successful. who is defining success? if we are talking about money, than that is different. bill gates does not have more success than you, he has more money. your value in life may be in your friendships, your family, your church/spirituality, your mind, your physical health, your work. success is an illusion as you are "doing you", perfectly, you cannot mess it up!

it is easy to be broke, you don't have to do anything to hit your goal. many posts are correct, the responsibility that comes with financial wealth, is more difficult that being broke. i speak from experience. responsibility, is responding.....with your ability. like most things, we are not born with most abillities, that need to be learned. i often think about roger bannister. around 1940 he was the first man in history of the planet, to run under a 4 minute mile. within in two years, about 37 more persons did including ladies. when that "mental barrier" was broke down, it is now common place.

our self-worth is at the root of our finances. serving people as well. serve a lot of people, make more money typically. see your inner value, get paid more outside. i have often said, "when you settle for less, you get it". You are already successful in many ways and will be the rest of your life. Dr. Mike