How Do You Deal with Negative People in Your Life?

Hey Ehanson,

There are always going to be negative people in your life. You have to learn to ignore it and build a wall with your positivity. What I'm saying is the best way to fight negativity is with positivity. That is the best way I have learned to deal with negativity. It's much easier to be negative than positive, that is why you have to be self aware and practice things that put you in a good mood.

Hope that helps!

God bless,
William Veasley

Yes, I get what you are saying. The easiest fix would be to distance yourself from "toxic" people. If you are forced to live with them, Bose makes some nice noise canceling headphones. I have the QC15s and you can't hear a thing with them on. Put on some nice background music, and you can focus on getting things done.

People who focus on only negative things will never accomplish anything significant, will never be successful, and more importantly, will never feel happy or fulfilled. Since they realize their life is crap, they want to bring you down to their level so they don't feel as bad.

Even though the world is a mess right now, we do not have control over it. So why focus your time and energy on something you can't change? Gas prices are getting higher, and will continue to go higher. We as Internet Marketers can complain about that, which will accomplish nothing. Or we can create new income streams, which will offset the prices, no matter how high they go!

I marry them.

I think you just need to do what you think is the right thing to do.

You may find out if your wrong but then again you may be right. I think most people would like for you to succeed but they are skeptical and they don't want to see you fail.

They really do want you to succeed but have a strange way of trying to talk you out of it.

I have found out that most people love to rain on your parade....

I usually just ignore them.. especially when I firmly believe in something.. no one can persuade me otherwise.

I dealt positively with them, If they talk and treat negatively towards me well I just change the ambiance into negative to influence them and let them realize that they are wrong.

Personally, I try to be with people who coincide with my positive view of life.

Negative people are like a cancer. you need to get ride of it early or they will rapidly consume you

Really whenever made this situation being good experienced person obviously understand the mood of the customer and than after conveyance the client ,so before present the task we should tried client hope so convenience, so experience examine there.

Indifference to all the negativity is the key. If you can't help avoiding them, then have the strength to deal with them. You might just find yourself helping a pessimist become a better person.

For me if it's family I just dont enter into conversations that I know they will pick holes in. All my friends are positive people because I choose only to be friends with positive people. I used to have a lot of negative friends so decided to change them! It's a choice to only be surrounded with positive people

I tolerate negative and other such people up to a point. After they cross a line that I have in my mind, I jettison them from my life.

from Desiderata (a prose poem)

As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexatious to the spirit.

Just walk away!

Rob

I usually give them the benefit of the doubt at first. Like maybe they were having a bad day or something like that. But after two or three interactions, if they're clearly negative on a consistent basis, then I cut'em loose.

I have come to terms that it is best to not associate with the negative people in my life especially those who bring me down. I recently had to cut ties w/ a relationship for that reason. t Iam focusing on myself.

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Well. There are 3 options:
1. Ignore that person.
2. Get as far as you can.
3. Have an argument with that person. Usually people don't talk for a few days once they had an argument. So it'll give you a break

I quit agonizing about negative influences decades ago. Now I listen (one time only) to what the person has to say. I think about it for a moment in case they have a valid point. If I decide that their point wasn't valid I say that I appreciate their opinion but I disagree. If they persist I tell them that it's my life and I make the decisions, right or wrong. If they still persist I tell them on no uncertain terms to "BUG OFF!" and I move on. If they try to bring up the subject again, I interrupt them and tell them to mind their own business or I will remove them from my life.

Some people just don't listen and think that what they believe is right for them is what's right for everyone. There's just no chance that they could be wrong or at least wrong in your case.

I just ignore them when they too negative. Its a simple plan

When the voice on the inside, is stronger, louder and more profound than the views and opinions on the outside, then you have mastered your life.

I forget who that quote is paraphrased from, however it is very accurate and useful. If you are sitting in a crowded cafeteria or similar large room with more people than should be there, full of noise and talking, yelling and horsing around... How do you hear your friend beside you talking? You drown out the noise around you, and focus your attention on what the person that matters to you, is saying.

How do you see the ear ring or coin you dropped in the grass? You focus. You tell your eyes to ignore the green and look for the shiny...
Focus. Training. Discipline.

Personally myself, I like to make sure when I am dealing with people who are very negative, and whom I've had to deflect some negative energy or actions away from already, I will allow some of the negative energy attempting to brew in me, out at them. After all, what goes around comes around, and if they are infecting you with their negativity it's only fair to give some back to them, in a controlled and less harmful manner. Sometimes one needs their own negative energy thrown back in their face, to even realize what they are actually projecting. As long as you retain control of yourself and focus on it being a pressure release valve which only blows out that little bit of steam that managed to get out, while the rest is processed and turned to water properly.

I have a solution, don't tell people what you're going to do.

Do it first!

Let your results shut them up.

ignore them, all they need is your attention, once they have it you'll find yourself involved in a 'pigfight' (if thats the word)

In my opinion suggest them to read three books
1. Shed Your Negativities by Fulzaadi Kunsafaku
2. Rich Daad Poor Daad By Robert Kiosky
3. Think and Grow Rich by N. HIll

And their negativity will be gone forever and you will be saved from shedding thmself.

Yes, I'm glad somebody mentioned some books. I find that reading a book can be helpful in itself, removing yourself from everything else, no screen no other distractions, just some good words to think about. Need to do it more often myself, it's been a while since I picked up my books.

Expunge them like a virus, Negative people drain sap your energy and love company, should you spend more time with them as opposed to positive people, you certainly will not attain your potential! My advice, keep off, keep off if you can, in a gradual way

I agree with the many comments above. There will always be negative people in your life and somehow, they will never really stop at anything when trying to put you down. The best thing to do is to learn to ignore them and their comments. Think of it this way: What will their words do to you? NOTHING - as long as you don't let those words get to you.

You don't really mention who the negative people are in your life...if they are parents that you are living with b/c you take care of them or b/c you are too young to live on your own, then I would suggest that you try to rise above the negativity. Do not argue with someone who is negative - you don't need to convince them of something that you know will make a positive change for you.

However, if the people are not your parents (in one of the two scenarios above), then I would take a serious look at why you are living with such negative people. You can't change others, so figure out a way to get yourself away from the situation if it cannot be changed.

Surrounding yourself with positive energy, successful people, people who believe in you, is clearly the best solution.

Be proud of yourself for trying to make positive changes and keep trying - never stop believing in yourself - it will happen......

I think a good goal in life is to do what you can to make sure your mind is at ease. If it is important to you to have a positive mind (which is helped by positive influences), I would recommend:

First, try to truly help the person understand why you enjoy your life and why they should enjoy theirs.

Second, spend a moment reflecting on what you think would make them happy and create that for them. You are at an advantage because you have a positive attitude, so you could even help them reinvent themselves. Remember: altruism is the key to having a mind that is at ease (Dalai Lama), so you might do this whether this is someone you love or not.

Third, if the first two don't work for you, realize the importance of your happiness and get out of there or spend much more time away from this person.

Good Luck. Don't let their negativity anger or frustrate you, and have compassion for those who have been conditioned for whatever reason to be negative.

May be hide somewhere. Or just dont listen.

There are people in this world who are born pessimists and no matter what you try they will always be negative. Our advantage is we do not have to be around them, so keep off anyone who feeds from your positive kamal, they are such a drag.

There are two kinds of people with negative attitudes that I have experience with. One will tell you about their problems, and the other will tell you about YOUR problems. The first kind of negative person can be helped, and you can maybe talk them out of a temporary bad mood. I think of it as a good deed to be a good friend to somebody who really may have things going on that are hard to deal with. It is hardest to deal with the second kind of person, who wants to bring you down and often says things that are unpleasant.

I agree with other posters on several points. It does help to limit time spent with negative people (especially the mean-spirited or selfish ones). I know that they may have life circumstances that make them negative or unloving... but still, it is best to avoid relating to them, if you know how it will usually turn out.

I loved the idea about being super-positive to these kinds of people. I think I will try that next in a similar situation.

Life is pretty short. I'm trying to make the best of my allotted time.
6 years ago, I came to the conclusion that some people are like psychic toxins.
I AVOID them.

It's a bit easy for me, one of my gifts is the ability to FOCUS, when I'm
working (when am I not working:-)) nothing else signifies...Not my dreams, not my beloved, not my pains...

What we focus on grows, right? ''Those'' people have a right to their worldviews...and you have a right to yours. It's YOUR joy and peace of mind that's at stake.

How Do You Deal with Negative People in Your Life?

Not difficult at all.

Sounds like you're dealing with people who respect the social distortions of everyday collective behaviors. Sometimes, this might mean that you respect those same distortion behaviors yourself. First thing to do is always look in the mirror and check yourself.

Only way I know to do that is to 'OBJECTIVELY' divorce yourself from racial and cultural behavioral overtones, religious and philosophical tradition, and passionate desire for cosmetic tangibles that are of a financial or sentimental character. You do this so youi can sit down, shut-up, leaven yourself alone, and dismiss distractions away from your personal periods of quality living and breathing. Next:

1. Generally individuals concerned with what 'YOU' cant do, are starved of vision or starved of not being rewarded for some offering they think they should be rewarded for or acknowledged for. No big deal. Maintain 'Clear Perspective Perception', as clarity is visually evident whether you know what you're presenting or not. Confidence can be brandished or hidden if a person chooses to do so, 'BUT', you have to be able to have it to generate its on or off switch at will. Humans physically 'feel' the feature attribute of confidence. Use accordingly.

2. The starving person as mentioned above, doesn't see how what you're doing benefits them. Align your lifestyle behaviors with either verbal or evident physical behavioral demonstration as to the persons loss if they don't see you succeed at just being you. In other words, you must command a radiation of understanding of your value to anyone around you or associated with your influence. A healthy measure of knowledgeable confidence in some talent you might posses that you 'casually demonstrate', will generally imply a consequence of respect. Of course this requires you to know your talents. Whatever it is; just 'QUIETLY' show it.

3. If a bully is lurking, it's good to understand what it it is that they consciously understand as respectable social interaction. Some like boisterous controlling power; some like to see the extraction of fear; some respect financial strength demonstrations, and so on. The common denominator is that they usually like or respect something 'Outside Of Themselves. This means they only know a limited amount about who they really are. They actually might be driven by fear of the unknown. The unknown could be anything of anyone; even you. A social phenomenon occurs when you ofer a stranger; or bully; some sort of aid, assistance, or help. Of course this must be a measured offering that concerns the attitudes of all involved parties, however, you will be able to visually see the reflection of how well that person cares to know about themselves. An aggressive flare-up indicates this person is hurting inside and off the deep-end. They need help, sex, or love. Acceptance of aid or assistance tends to show that intelligence can win over bullying, if they can seer or experience the right reason to exercise sensibility.

There's more solutions as far as I can conceive, but ultimately, its up to you...

Hope this little bit helps - Tom

WOW!! T-Totally understand what you are saying. I have only been trying this for 2 mo's! My husband comes in& it is all about him, if I even try to talk about what I am trying online, the subject gets changed and it is all about him again. This is very frustrating...I don't know how to get everyone to understand I am trying to make everything better for all of us! I have 4 kids too, the oldest says what I am doing is stupid, will never work & is a waste of time and money. I AM SO READY TO MAKE THIS WORK - they drive my to a different direction - I am tired of taking care of everyone elses A__, I want to have fun for once in my life - let them handle their own b- SH@@! Or at least learn how - my gosh I was Babbysitting and cutting grass at 12 years old! I have kids at home still not driving they are twins 18!!! WOW how times change.

First I will try to ask them why they would feel that way. I would explain my point of view and try to help them see where Im coming from and point out other people that have made it that were in the same situation. If none of that works I just ignore them completly. I dont have time to waste on people that dont want to change their situation.

Its a sad thing but we all make our own decisions. But im not the type of person that will just ignore them for life. If they come to me and start asking me about what I am talking about I will be more then happy to show them more of what I have been talking about. but that is only if they ask.

I don't like them! actually I am I negtive person to some extent! Sometimes I fell I don't like myself!

You simply limit the time you spend with these negative people and spend more time with outcome-oriented, positive people.

IF you live with someone that is always negative then go the opposite way, Rely on yourself to find the positive. Read self help books watch positve movies. Tell yourself positive thoughts.

I feel They are a problem right from the start if they don't believe in themselves how are they ever going to believe in someone else. And if you don't trust someone same thing. You can't be insecure and negative and expect to make the right descisions

I don't.

And as a result, I don't know any negative people anymore.

I just ignore them. Don't think much about them. They are jealous of you.

Here are some things i would try if i were in your shoes:

1. I would try to find an opportunity to live separately
2. I would try to spend more time with people i like, who are positive and have goals in their life
3. I wouldn't pay too much attention to the negativity that comes from these people and i would stick more to my work and goals