Are your words damaging your self esteem?
Are your words damaging your self esteem?
Our self esteem are defined by our own thoughts of ourselves. Whenever we do a self talk to ourselves, we will either boost our self esteem or lower it, depending on what are the words we use.
Talking to ourselves in a positive way, such as...
1. I am confident.
2. I am able to succeed on what I am going to do.
3. This thing is hard, but it is going to be challenging and I love challenges.
If we talk to ourselves consistently in such positive ways, there is no way for us to have low self esteem because we are always reinforcing the idea that we have great values about ourselves.
But what if we talk to ourselves in this way...
1. They don't like me.
2. I can't do this.
3. I fail every time.
You definitely feel much, much worse whenever you say these to yourself and it does not contribute anything in helping you build your self esteem. More over, most of these thoughts are not true. You won't know who like you or not unless they tell you about it and even if they don't like you, there are still 6 billions of other people to play with, why bother with one?
You won't know whether you can or not do it unless you try and no one fail every time. There are definitely times when you succeeded in doing something. These are the false negative thoughts that you must avoid.
Change your words
The first thing to build self esteem is to change the way you talk to yourself. Always talk to yourself in positive tone instead of negative tone. Do not use extreme words such as "never" or "always".
Find your self a journal and keep track of the negative conversation you have with yourself and jot it down. Analyze your negative thoughts and ask yourself whether is it true. Most probably, most of your negative thoughts are false and can be solve easily.
Write down your good qualities. Jot down at least 10 good qualities you have and use repeat it to yourself constantly until you memorize it. Whenever you feel down and out, just refer back to them and remind yourself of the great qualities you have.
If you are interested in knowing how using words can bring you success, you may be interested in this article of mine, How Changing Your Choice Of Words Can Bring You Success | Hit Your Goals
Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger
Our self esteem are defined by our own thoughts of ourselves. Whenever we do a self talk to ourselves, we will either boost our self esteem or lower it, depending on what are the words we use.
Talking to ourselves in a positive way, such as...
1. I am confident.
2. I am able to succeed on what I am going to do.
3. This thing is hard, but it is going to be challenging and I love challenges.
If we talk to ourselves consistently in such positive ways, there is no way for us to have low self esteem because we are always reinforcing the idea that we have great values about ourselves.
But what if we talk to ourselves in this way...
1. They don't like me.
2. I can't do this.
3. I fail every time.
You definitely feel much, much worse whenever you say these to yourself and it does not contribute anything in helping you build your self esteem. More over, most of these thoughts are not true. You won't know who like you or not unless they tell you about it and even if they don't like you, there are still 6 billions of other people to play with, why bother with one?
You won't know whether you can or not do it unless you try and no one fail every time. There are definitely times when you succeeded in doing something. These are the false negative thoughts that you must avoid.
Change your words
The first thing to build self esteem is to change the way you talk to yourself. Always talk to yourself in positive tone instead of negative tone. Do not use extreme words such as "never" or "always".
Find your self a journal and keep track of the negative conversation you have with yourself and jot it down. Analyze your negative thoughts and ask yourself whether is it true. Most probably, most of your negative thoughts are false and can be solve easily.
Write down your good qualities. Jot down at least 10 good qualities you have and use repeat it to yourself constantly until you memorize it. Whenever you feel down and out, just refer back to them and remind yourself of the great qualities you have.
If you are interested in knowing how using words can bring you success, you may be interested in this article of mine, How Changing Your Choice Of Words Can Bring You Success | Hit Your Goals
Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger
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