Beware of such people

From your post I say you are one of these people. So I just encountered one. I say forget about them and enjoy your own things in life

I avoid them

Misery loves company.

SNL has a great one - Debbie Downer.

Some call these people "Psychic Vampires" because being around them drains your energy. Many don't seem to realize they are doing it either.

I am quite concern about a lot of advertisement that some school are advertising in the newspaper enticing people to learn trading and I know from a trader who went for the T3B (stock) and the C2O (US options) that the trainer and mentors are not certified qualified in the finacial industry. They claim their system are 80% accurate but there is no live account to show any public nor any students can dare to open their accounts to show people if what they follow true to the strategies did make money. Dont believed me, please ask them to show you LIVE trade and not PAPER money trade.

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Alex1985

"Psychic Vampires" indeed.

I used to avoid these people because I didn't want to be brought down, but now I have fun with them instead.

Whatever they say, I react loud and excitedly.

For example, I have a neighbor who is sullen about everything and ever conversation begins with a complaint about something.

So when she said "I heard it is going to snow all week." in her sullen tone, I slapped both of my hands together and said "I know! I know... isn't it great!" as if I were a little kid about to open the first present at christmas.

She went on to say "I probably wont be able to get out of my driveway" and I said "AWESOME! You wont have to go to that job you hate! Wow... you'll get the day off! Your so lucky".

It doesn't seem to annoy her, but every once and awhile she becomes a bit upbeat. That, or she walks away.

I have to admit, I really enjoy myself.

definitely.. people influence you no matter what you think. I definitely agree with this and I know it to be true.

"Psychic Vampires?" Reminds me of a book that I read. It is called "Emotional Vampires". A pretty interesting read. I simply avoid those people who do not have the same frequency as me.

I normally stay away from them, having the belief in myself that when I do get to their position of wealth and freedom, number one,I would be fulfilled because I would have set out positive intentions to get there eg with financial freedom, I would set up a trust fund for autistic kids, give my family a better life and number two, I would forever express gratitude for my abundance and look forward to encouraging others to achieve theirs.
that's my philosophy in life

Dangerous times and dangerous people are a bad combination. We are surrounded by people fixated on how bad the economy is when in reality warriors are always looking with one eye at what blessings are in front of us and with another for the horizon of opportunity.

My personal economy is great! 2008 was my best year ever and I look forward to 2009 being even better.

Definitely got that kind of people around me, but sure as hell I avoid them like th e plague, don't want the negativity passed on to me..

Urgh! I hate people like that...I think they are the way there are because they don't look at the finer things in life, they just look at the ugly and bad things. They have so much yet they still complain, so blessed yet they still feel as if they are suffering! It makes me sick sometimes, I have a friend like that. Her parents are filthy rich, they give her everything she wants but if it's a wrong color and has a little tiny problem she throws a fit! Sometimes I want to slap her and tell her to stop acting like a spoiled brat!

Both of my parents were often negative. And as much as I love them and everything they gave me I couldn't stand the constant negativity. That's partly why I decided to become a more positive person. Here's what worked for me:

1) Being higher self-esteem: You can't really argue with someone when they're more positive and more accurate in conversation
2) Having strong boundaries: Sometimes I would say "I don't want to hear about your problems. Please don't use me to vent" which they'd be OK about because they know that unloading their bad day on me isn't a good thing to do
3) Knowledge and understanding: Underneath my Mother's constant criticism, over-warning of danger, and general negativity, there was love and she was doing the best she could with what she had
Unless they're family or close friends I'd add another one
4) Don't spend too much time with them

I'm not going to call people "Psychic Vampires" or anything equally preposterous just because they're negative--especially my wonderful Mother and Father. Labeling people something negative doesn't help them. It just makes you feel superior. Generally my parents did and amazing job. We have a good relationship. And I love them. It definitely wasn't their fault life wasn't as kind to them as it could have been.

You may want to spend your time around more positive people (and I think that's a good idea) but that doesn't mean you have to be judgmental. Try practicing some understanding and emphaphy.

Hello :

You need to ignore such people and not let yourself get affected by them.

God Bless.
Shakuntala

Meh you don't have to ignore them. Just don't pay any mind to them. You'll find people like that in the workplace. Remember to thank God for everyday and to live it to the best of your ability. While they're wasting time being depressed you can be productive and happy.

I do my best to avoid negative people as much as I can. I know negative people bring me down. Instead, I tend to stay by myself a lot and work on surrounding myself with positive thoughts and things that make me happy.

Let the feeling of negativity go. This is the best way to eliminate the real cause of negative encounters.
Avoiding them would just keep them popping in your life again and again. Positive thinking is "putting good stuff on top of bad stuff".

They are not bringing negativity in your life. They just showing what's already inside us.
It might be a challenging concept to grasp though for our blame-trained ("they are bad") minds.

Gleb

You will bound to encounter them...they can be your partners, colleagues, friends or even family members.

You can try to avoid them as far as possible, as they can easily pass the negativity to you. If you have to work together with them, just do your work and 'block out the negative' and concentrate on being positive and try to inject 'positivity' in the conversation. Only be with them when needed, and not mix with them all the time when there is no need to.

As for family member, you probably can't avoid them totally...but you can probably 'shut your mind' when they speak 'negative things', ignore what they say that are negative. Speak positive. Some will think you are crazy when you speak positive and do the things (which you must do to succeed). They think what you do is a waste of time and you may be hurting yourself, so they speak negative (out of love). Just keep your faith and be persistent in doing.

Your family members (even friends) want to protect you from harm (some may do it out of jealousy too if they see you getting ahead of them) and hence they will try to stop you by speaking negative on what you are doing. Understand where they are coming from but still love them as they do not know what they are doing (even though they think they know!)

You can hate what they do, but do not hate the person !
You are to love the person !
Hate the sins, but love the sinners!

Yep! Well said..misery loves company! Nothing ever makes them happy! Just plain sad. Then don't forget the users that drain people just so they can use them up to make themselves feel good. While thinking they are doing you the favor! Life is crazy!

I absolutely agree! I have a friend who's so depressive. When talking to him, it's like he's sucking up my energy and eventually find myself depressed too, by the end of the day.

Now, I stay away from them. I love people who are joyful and always have the zest for life :-)

You cant let these type of people take you down to there level of haterism...

Yes haterism is a contagious disease that is caught by falling in to peoples negativity. The common cure of Haterism is to hit them back with something positive. Im not saying this is gonna make them change their thought process but it will help fight that poisoneous haterism they put in the air. You cant change people you can only prevent them from changing you.

Hello

Animals react. People observe. Just simply listen.

If you think you can counter the negative energies of these people then help them. Sometimes all they need is an uplifting energy from a happy person who does not get affected by negative energies easily.

I agree with John Derrick: a positive upbeat confrontation is better than ignoring these
unfortunate negative people. Ignoring is much easier... but not very generous...

I agree one shouldn't devote his life to help others at the expense of one's own
life quality... but -really- how much effort and time does it take to smile?? not much more
than it takes to ignore someone... with the difference that smiling is healthier

I work with one such person... unfortunately for 8 hours a day I have to deal with her.
The most negative person I've ever met. Ever. We've been having fights (I'm her boss)
until I decided I cannot afford to be seen behaving so "unprofessionally" by her collegues,
even though she really drove me up the walls with her negativity. I manage the customer
service for mopeds and bikes and most of the customers who call us don't do it because
they don't have anything better to do: they call to complain. We NEED to have a positive
working environment to provide a better service and she doesn't help one bit by complaining
about anything and everything at any time...

So we've been fighting because of her negativity UNTIL I decided not to fight anymore.
No magic tricks, special ways, fancy techniques... We are masters of our destiny... and
also of our behaviour and how we relate with other people.

I'm a very positive person (one must be to work in customer care ;-) and I decided I don't
need to be brought down and angered by her. So from that moment I've always smiled
and treated her with so much courtesy and kindness that she... hates me even more ;-)
eheheh, she's so negative that she hates my kindness and positivity... but I won't ignore
her. Even if I could I wouldn't ignore her. Instead I'm trying to help her see how useless
her behaviour is by giving the best example of a positive approach to all her collegues
(who now think like me that she's emotionally unbalanced), which also gives a great
example of how patient they must be with our customers - and in fact I've been told more
than once (by people in my team) that if I can tolerate her and be polite they should be
able to handle even the maddest of customers ;°)

Basically I turned a critical situation in a positive example of how difficult and negative
people should be handled: very few of them can resist extreme hardcore kindness ;°)

So don't ignore people who are so negative: treat them with even more positivity, courtesy
and smile as much as you can.

They either learn that being positive is so much smarter than being negative, or they'll
hate your smile so much that it will be them who will avoid you, so you won't need to
ignore them ;-)

ciao,
Saul

Ps. but yeah, if you don't need to relate with them and they are not part of your life
just forget about them and "ignore" them... if instead you feel more generous share a
smile with them... even if it's just to piss them off ...eheheh

I you surround yourself are positive happy people your life will be the same. Avoid the negative people they have a good way of dragging you down with them