So confused about direction of my "Careers"

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Hi guys. This is my first time posting in this section of WF.

I usually hang out in the copywriters section.

I have changed my career about 20 times in the last decade. I'm 33. I skipped college to play in rock bands because I was too depressed at the time to focus on school.

Many friends noticed I was a good writer and encouraged me to write more. So I started submitting articles to local independent papers, mostly band interviews and such...and they got published! It didn't pay well but fed my ego, and it was fun. I ended up freelance writing for a few newspapers and making an extra $500 a month doing so.

And then I stopped.

A few years later I got into picking up girls as a hobby (I was shy/introvert.) And I actually got really good at it. So in desperation for $$ I went commercial. I now have a blog...which is why I am here on WF.

it's at absoluteability.com

I coach guys how to meet and attract women...in real life. I'm like hitch or whatever.

Oh yeah, I also dabble in copywriting. I mostly get small jobs off elance. Like right now I'm writing an ebook on online dating for Indian men for $500. It's my first ebook. I should be doing it right now, but I'm procrastinating, hah.

Even though I made $15,000 off coaching last year, I only made $20,000 last year. I in 33 years, have never made more than $20,000. I always quit my jobs when they aren't fulfilling me.

I'm an artist I suppose. I've been lazy.

So I have a blog, a pickup business, a copywriting business....but I still feel lost.

I don't want to teach pickup anymore. It's just getting to be a drag...however I love teaching the concepts and telling the stories. I would. I would love to make passive income.

I thought about taking my blog and making it more like, a self improvement blog.

People that read my blog tell me the same thing, that they, "Can't stop reading it." It's my experience as a journalist. I know how to engage, and teach, and entertain. But I'm sick of being stuck in this narrow margin that only caters to men.

I'm also sick of being judged by people. Try telling them you are a dating coach and watch the odd looks. It's fine, but gets annoying being judged all the time. Not that I should care, but I do.

So I've been thinking of re-branding the blog, I just am not sure how, or in what direction. Self help seems so damn crowded on the net. And I know seduction.

Most self help blogs seem to be Blogs about blogging, or "How to make passive income." Which is kind of cool...but I haven't even done this yet. I have not made passive income.

And then there is copywriting. It's active income and I think I could go to school to learn the craft better. Like, I don't even really know how to use word properly, or photoshop. But I can write! Better than most.

However I have zero interest in real estate, or health food supplements.

You know...I'm just friggin lost here. I need to change something, I need to talk to people that have been there and done it or are on the way.

Please read my website, look at some of the articles maybe and encourage me to make a change. I want my future to look and feel a certain way. I want to travel the world, have fun, create something worthwhile. I just don't know which avenue to pursue.

My mother is getting older and I wish I could buy her a damn house.
#careers #confused #direction
  • Profile picture of the author Ephrils
    I've been bouncing around like you too. I still want the kind of internet wealth I read about on this site, but I did discover something about myself.

    Follow your greatest excitement.

    Whatever it is. Find it and chase it down and do it as much as you can. Your greatest excitement will be most fulfilling to you. It also has a strange way of having aspects of it take care of itself.

    So what makes you excited? And perhaps, even the opposite. What causes fear for you? Those 2 things are not completely different.

    You're going to find the most fulfillment doing the things that excite you. The things that scare you maybe you should explore more(even if it means being stuck in your above mentioned past jobs and websites). Get to the root of those fears so you can move on.

    At the beginning, it may not seem possible to support yourself with your Excitement, but people ARE able to do it, and because they can, so can you.

    So that's my advice. Search within you and find the thing that excites you the most. The experience you can't live without. The thing you want the most.

    Do that. Start now.
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    • Profile picture of the author abundantlife
      Sebastion, I read your post and began wondering how you would answer a similar post from someone else? I think you already know the answer and if you started writing, as though your were responding, your words would tell you what to say. By that I mean the words your write to the other person would give you a clue to your own question.
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  • Profile picture of the author acooking9
    It is great to see you know enough to be searching. But it sounds like you want someone else to tell you what to do, so you will not have to take responsibility for it if it fails.

    You are in such a wonderful position right now. You can head in any direction of you own choice, but unless you are the one who makes the choice you will never be happy with it.

    There is also no reason that what ever you do has to be the final career choice you make. It sounds like you have a lot of ability, read a few books on choosing a career and hopefully something will jump out of the pages at you.
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