How do you keep on going when you feel like giving up?

Hi Ryanman!

Recently, I discovered I rarely take big steps forward due to fear of failure, wasting time or making mistakes.

It's amazing how immobilizing those 3 fears are!

My largest challenge is taking a step forward because it has become so comfortable to learn and educate myself.

Too bad the money tree is near dry and its time to get the ball rolling, so at this moment, lack of funds is what motivates me!

If this weren't the case, making things fun would motivate me! Once I get my feet wet a couple times, setting challenging but reasonable goals will keep me truckin'!

Thanks for the thought!

Monique Abrams

I keep focusing on my future, my goal, and making a commitment to completion.

As far as I'm concerned, the only way someone can fail is if they QUIT and so quite simply, I never cease to keep my eyes focused on the prize.

There might be struggles at times, and no doubt there are frustrations...but in the end, will it be a worthwhile fight? Absolutely.

Just mt 2 cents !

You should try to gain some insight into WHY you feel like quiting. It may be that you need to re-assess what you doing or the entire direction that your life is heading in. Feelings, even negative ones, may well be offering you the opportunity for getting some useful feedback and altering your course of action. Perhaps whatever you are doing is not congruent with your core values and you ought to quit rather than continue fighting yourself. Sometimes the "negative" is a blessing in disguise that gives us valuable insights to new paths of action.

I have my moments when I just want to throw my hands up in the air yell, "I quit!". But these personal pity parties don't last long because deep down I know that giving in is not an option. If I can't fix my financial situation today I can at least do some sort of exercise to improve my health, reach out through a phone call or email to someone that I've been meaning to re-connect with, read a little bit from that book that's been sitting on my table. Small things that still give me a sense of positive forward movement, or taking control, of knowing that I can keep going. This keeps that window of opportunity open just a crack in the hope that things will eventually get better.

I keep focusing on my vision..how I plan things to be...

Victoria

I have the following quote about Success on my wall.

"Do the things others won't do"

When I feel like quiting and nothing is going my way. I look at that quote and keep going.

For me, giving up is not an option. I keep focused on my goals no matter what the hurdle. Actually, I felt a bit bummed about not being adept in a certain important area of my business but then I thought, "I always run into hurdles. It's always hard for me at first. But, then I keep on researching, learning, and talking to people until I finally get it."

I think about all the things that I am working so hard to achieve and then I tell myself.."you've made it so far you just can't give up now"

What often works for me is looking at things as a challenge and an opportunity for personal growth. A person may feel like giving up but if what they're imagining, planning, and striving for is something important to them there's every reason to keep going. As I like to say: "A man's strength is developed through many and great trials, tribulations and challenges." So you may as well keep going and learn something amazing about yourself.

For me there's nothing worse than knowing I quit something which was important to me. I'd rather face pain, failure, humiliation, rejection, and self-doubt than wrestle with knowing that I gave up. So if you can accomplish something- and you almost always can- you may as well go ahead and accomplish it. That's what I always say.

Just keep going, downtime gives you too much time to think negaitve thoughts. Always remember why you got into the business in the first place - try to get that passion back

What's wrong with giving up?
Sometimes it might be the best thing you'd ever wanted to do.

Gleb

you have nothing better to do than to keep trying.

I just meditate and focus on what I will get after I am done. Basically visualize your main goal, very powerful.

Have a poster of your dream in front of you on the wall. Visualize yourself having already achieved your dreams, and that will get the wheels in motion again.

A poster of a Porsche or a car you want to own someday helps you to never give up.

Hard-headed! Never liked anyone telling me I can't do what I say I can. Even the idea of me quitting on something I believed in enough to start, makes me wonder... am I the person I think I am or just another fake? Can't stand a fake!

Go ahead and pick up Think & Grow Rich by Napleon Hill. Best motivational book of all time. Try to see beyond the "money" aspect of it and apply it to you life too.

There was a point some months back where I was very discouraged. I felt that others were posting about making money quickly and I was still spending more than I was making online and under tremendous financial pressure. And then I realized.... so what that it takes me longer to find the key to success... as long as I keep trying different keys... as long as I'm careful and don't simply try the same thing over again. Then I know I can get it.

Watching people trying to find the right key for the right lock was actually one of the tasks in one of the Amazing Race shows (a couple seasons ago). Some people who had been trying to find the right key for their lock for an hour or more were just emotionally devastated when another contestant would run up and by sheer luck find the correct key in a half-dozen tries and pass them by. Other folks were very good at not taking their eyes off THEIR goal, their key, their lock.. so what that guy just dashed ahead of me and life isn't fair. I'm going to get it. I'm going to get it.

Stay focused. Make sure you learn from your experiences and repeat after me: I'm going to get it.

Just my 2 cents.
Anne

i would think of the good memories and the things that inspires me so that I would not feel like giving up and of course, I would pray so that I would be guided with the help of prayers.

I'm with Cara above - I give myself a little time to site back and pay attention to the emotions I'm going through, dealing with them in other ways that just ignoring them and powering on with whatever I've been doing. It normally only takes a couple of days and I'm back on the task with a renewed sense of energy.

Andy

I think of the worst job I ever had...a telemarketing gig...and whenever I dont feel animated I remind myself that I better get animated or its back to the phone i go!

I post up notes on my wall infront of my desk. The main big one says

DEVELOPMENT = INFINITY
"IF I STOP I WILL FAIL"

It's no use saying something is a waste of time, or it may take me months to do this, because those months are going to pass by whether you do something or not.
So just do a bit at a time, break it down into small chunks.

Well, it really boils down to what you want out of life. Let me ask you this:

Do you want the following:

1. A "real" job.
2. Long hours.
3. Mean bosses and co-workers.
4. A possibility that your income could be suddenly cut off by your employer (Termination or Layoff).
5. Struggling to pay bills.
6. Living in a normal home.
7. Driving your old beat up car.
8. Your hours are set for you.
9. Having to wake up to a blaring alarm clock (day shift).
10. Having enough energy to stay up (night shift).
11. Get paid for far less than what you and your time are worth.
12. Having to swallow your pride.
13. Depression despite the fact you DO have a source of income.
14. Tons of stress.
15. Being just an average Joe!

Or do you want this:

1. A job that you enjoy.
2. Varied hours (short or long, your choice).
3. NO bosses and NO co-workers.
4. Zero possibility that anyone else other than you can cut off your income.
5. Bills are paid for.
6. Living in an above average home.
7. Driving the coolest car in your hood.
8. You set your hours.
9. Wake up when YOU want to.
10. Go to sleep when YOU want to.
11. Get paid for far more than what you and your time are worth.
12. Being able to give the finger or the crotch chop to ANYONE who bosses you around.
13. Big smile on your face all day everyday.
14. Tons of relaxation.
15. Being among the people that look down at all the broke or underpaid idiots!

So when you look at it, think about what you have and what you COULD and SHOULD have if you don't give up. Besides, giving up is the absolute easiest thing every living, breathing soul on Earth can do. It is also the absolute worst thing every living, breathing soul on Earth can do.

EDIT: One other thing: For my fellow warriors that are struggling to make money online: Take my post, print it out, and put it in front of your workstation. I hope that this will motivate you to keep going. Because the more I think about the BS I know of at jobs, the more it sickens me to death!

Good tips Biggy fat

personally, i try my best to stop the voice that says give up.

like gary halbert would say, just moving in some sort of positive direction can help when you're bummed down.

I like to remind myself that giving up means that I had totally failed. This will help me to think about what is wrong with what I am doing and what I can do to change my actions and hence the results.

I have written an article titled how to get things done even when you don't feel like doing it. You can read it if you would like to have more info on this topic.

Cheers,
Vincent

I have been using tools from Access Energy Transformation and asking questions (the mind loves to solve a puzzle). These two work well for me:
1. How does it get any better that that? (this can work for good or bad situations)
2. What else is possible?
You don't just think about what the answer is--you allow it to come to you. And you can repeat the question over and over like a mantra and it will help you get out of a yucky place and start to feel better.

Shirley

Giving up has never been a phrase in my vocabulary. I have always pushed forward. Sometimes this means going around or over the block, or in extreme circumstances crashing right through. The thing i always remember is NEVER GIVE UP!

you guys are right. it is much easier to look at the negative side of things. Optimism takes courage.=)

I kept thinking about success and my goal to be the Asia Top Success Coach.
When I'm really down, I will take small step, complete small tasks to remind myself of the things that I can do.

I bang my head on the table, cry, meditate and then push on. I tell myself this is the only way I am going to have the liberty of not having to work for someone else. I can't give up because my child and animals like to eat everyday.

I learned one thing when i was 12 years old and most of you guys must heard that story as well but let me revise it here:
There was a king who was sitting in a camp and was about to give up and then suddenly he saw a spider climbing on the wall. The spider get down and start climbing again and again and at last after 6 or 7 tries he succeeded in climbing and the king said to himself that its a small spider and don't give up so how can I being a super human.
This story is not much impressive for few people but it is still the best way of moving yourself when you feel like giving up
Thanks
Webmatic

I have kept this quote stored in my computer and whenever i am discouraged or feel like giving up i open the file read it and all charged up again.here is the quote:
" Many of the great achievements of the world were accomplished by tired and discouraged men who kept on working
"

When I think about giving up and doing something else. I think about not just why I am doing this but Who I am doing it for. Which is namely my kids. I work to give them a better life. So I can give them the things I never had. I don't just mean material things. But things like being there to tuck them in at night because I can work when I want. Not being dictated to by a company and having to go out in the evenings as my father did.
Keep plodding on in this business it doesnt pay to jump from one thing to another, stick with it there will be light at the end of tunnel.

For me, it is remembering if I don't stay active and product I will have to go back to my worse fear a j.o.b. and that is not an option.

You have to stay focused and know that giving up is not an option. Surround yourself w/ like mind successful people. If needed, hire a coach/mentor (strongly recommended). Who better to learn from than those who had gone before you.

Determine your motivation level. My motivation level is not returning to Corporate America. What if I don't want to go to lunch at noon or don't want to work at 8am?

I also love the quote below. Hang in there. You never know, we could possible do a JV some day.

"I will prepare and some day my chance will come." Abraham Lincoln

please think of some happy moments.remember u hav to work out in order to have that happy moments again,so never giv up easily.

Whenever I feel like quiting ,I just sit down and take a litle mbit of my time to think about the goal,the gain and my present situation(which I am not confortable with anyway). Then I will see the need to press further and continue.

I remind myself of a couple things...

1) This is tougher because the rewards are FAR greater
2) The only way to lose is to quit

Ryan, you are on this forum learning how to make a difference in your life while MANY others are out goofing off and adding zero value to their lives or others.

I don't know you personally, but I know you won't quit.

Tough spots are just little tests to make sure you're still awake, interested and hungry enough....

Ryan just keep focused and ALWAYS have your
dream outcome in mind. Your subconscious is
constantly working behind closed doors to bring
what ever you want into your life. Have faith!

Andy

When i am in less confident and frustrated,i do not think about the subject and do something different to regain the confidence.I do not give up.

We should never give up,goals come in mind to be achieved.

I make no decision based on how I feel, whether for good or bad. I have made a commitment to myself to do this business, and come hell or high water that is what I'm going to do. So even when I feel like quitting, it has nothing to do with what I will actually do. It's just a feeling, that's all. This too shall pass.

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Best Regards,
John

I'll just keep saying this to myself: ''Out of difficulties, makes miracle!'' and then things will get better!! You can try it !!

You need to remember the lesson in Think and Grow Rich about the guys who quit just three feet from the gold vein.

Most people who fail do not realize that success is just around the corner.

Make it a great day!

Brother Paul

Sometimes I think it just means maybe you need to change direction.

I read this story about James Dyson, the guy who did the Dyson vacuum cleaners...hang on let me see if I can find it....ok, here is the article

Failure Doesn't Suck

Don't give up. Clear your head, do something completely different, and come back with a new set of eyes and mindset.

You ever wonder how it works that sometimes we are looking for something we misplaced, and fret over not being able to find it, and worry about it, only to find it after we stop looking for it?

Same here.

When i feel down, i take a look at other people and see how well they've done, i read stories about people that are 16 years old making millions, im only 15 years old and i think, "maybe i could achieve that"

You never know.

My family keep me going because I have to succeed for them, I have to make it I just keep pushing forward.

Never give up my friends

cheers

marcus

Discipline Discipline Discipline~!

how do you keep on going if you feel like giving up my answer is friends and family support. With out friends or family to support and cheer you up you will mostly likely feel like giving up and started loosing hope and grip.

I've already seen a lot of this kind of situation before. For example if you are in a sports or something like competition and you feel like your are already loosing cause you have no support and feels like giving up. But when you look at the crowd and see your parents or friends cheering for you. It really builds up confidence and you started to grow competing again and determined to win for them. Because they are cheering for you.

Here is what I do:
I take a break from the computer, go outside and I go for a walk.
I listen to Jim Rohn or Brian Tracy for motivation

When things are slow I know one of two things:
1) I am missing some information that is holding me back
2) I am missing a skill that is not letting me move forward

Once I discover what it is - I then go and get it!

I will try to focus hard on my goal and would tell myself that my goal is something very precious and thats why it does not comes easily to me.It is to be hard earned.

Interesting. Sometimes it is time to change tactic and therefore you hold your main goal but give up on a tactic. Therefore it is not technically giving up. I suppose you need clarity wether you are giving up on the tactic or you are giving up on yourself

It's like this, when I feel that I can take another step, I took one at a time, slowly but surely. But there are lots of obstacles in life. Giving up is not the only option, there are other ways to move on forward. And if we failed, well it's part of our life where we learned a lesson. (I keep on going even if I feel like giving up), my motivation is that I'm not doing it for myself but because of my love ones.

I can relate to this now as I am facing this situation where fear overcomes me, i feel like giving up because everything i did just doesn't seem to work, i tried and failed, many times, so therefore i am struggling and having mixed emotions and torn between fear of failing again and making more mistakes at the same time i have this attitude that i can never give up because of my goal, my dream that i will make it despite of anything no matter what. i just hope it will work out for me.

I'm completely honest my feelings to God about of being hopeless in the situation and open up to Him asking for strength and guidance. I believe God has a good purpose for every me. And trials or difficulties make my success more sweet.

"There are no shortcuts to anywhere worth going"

Regards,
Edmund

No matter how slow or how fast - just keep going into the right direction. A step at the time. You will arrive sometime :-)

Keeping going no matter what is my life's work. (Perhaps it should be everyone's life's work)

Humans have 2 brains. The one in the head that says "I can" and the one in the gut that says: "I must".

I go with the gut. It moves the failure factor to the lowest of my priorities. I have found in my research over the last 30 years that failure is a actually a good thing. That's how immunity is built, both in the mindset and in the body.

It's only the "perception" of failure that's harmful because its often interpreted in the head as some sort of serious flaw in our ability to ever move forward.

This aspect is the main theme of my new free DVD entitled "Immune To Failure" which I will release in September. (PM me if you'd like advance notice of the release)

Great comments here from everyone.

More power to you all.
...David