by esmein
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Until you absolutely must.

Making money online is not complicated but it most certainly isn't easy. While I don't know all the factors that make a marketer successful, I'm certain I know a few that will trip you up and today I'd like to talk about the number one pet peeve of mine; misery through inaction.

Misery is not when you wake up early in the morning and start hacking away at a batch of articles. It's when you wake up early just to feel like sh*t for not starting to work right away.

Misery is not when you're dead tired after a long day of building links. It is when you're dead tired and can't show anything for it.

You can't just 'kinda wish' you got out of your situation. You must be willing to go all out. Ever heard of a pole vaulter, who didn't dash as fast as they could because they were concerned that the pole might snap?

I don't claim to be a know-it-all. I consider myself to be a lousy motivator at best, but there is one thing I learned through all the opportunities I missed and all the days I've wasted. Yes, I spent days at times looking at my keyboard; petrified that it might not work out.

You won't make it unless you've had enough to a point where you'd rather die trying than continue tiptoeing.

There were times when I smoked cigarettes I rolled from butts of cigs I smoked earlier and put in my backpack. They made me gag. Not because they tasted sour or the smoke was heavy, but because of the depth of misery they represented. I was low and didn't do everything I could against it. I wasn't going for it. I won't live another moment if I ever have to do it again.

My girlfriend sometimes buys those 'yellow label' items in the supermarket. Those are the products discounted because they're close to their expiration date. I utterly despise eating food only because of it's price and not for nutrition. She saves money wherever she can and I love her for it, but I can't live a day longer with the taste of stale bread in my mouth.

I coded on the theme of one of my sites for three days straight, and I can't write PHP to save my life. My HTML and CSS are rusty at best. I had to do it because I simply had no money to buy a properly written pro framework and the ones I got free needed the extra work. I was hurting my business by not having the money to do what I can do. I'm not going to live a day longer doing what I can't do properly.

I know I'm effectively wasting money by doing everything about and in my business, including article writing, keyword research, design, coding. You name it, I did it. Not a day longer if I can help it.

I went full time nearly two years ago because I couldn't stay a day longer at my workplace, and have been living on what my fiancée makes as a professional web-developer ever since. And I can't live a day longer being the man and having to ask for pocket money so I can keep the servers running.


I've had some moderate success, but the money doesn't come rolling in as fast as I make it. If you ever made it to $100 on Amazon you know that about two and a half months pass until you can hold the check and it takes just a while longer to cash it. Yeah, not living in the US and working with US based companies is kind of a drag. But it's not as big of a drag as not having enough money to buy yourself a coffee, and then proceed to work with a massive migraine for the rest of the day due to caffeine withdrawal.


Yeah, I know it sounds grim for a first post, but here is what I hope you'll take away from it: no man has ever faced a fate he did not deserve.

I deserved mine through inaction.

Once you're entirely sick of those things you can't chew another day, you will take action to avoid them.

That's when you'll start seeing success.

And not a moment earlier.
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  • Profile picture of the author poath
    I agree so much with you, desperation is the strongest drive you can have. In alot of things in life, you can't make true progress until you truely snap and say 'no more'.
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    • Profile picture of the author esmein
      Originally Posted by poath View Post

      you can't make true progress until you truely snap and say 'no more'.
      I find the staying snapped part somewhat challenging, but yes, desperation is powerful stuff even in small doses.

      It helps you blast through self-sabotage, doubts, competition and productivity issues. Being in the 'no more' zone is a little like being on the up-swing period of bi-polar depression. Anything and everything is possible.
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      • Profile picture of the author Mary McLean
        Originally Posted by esmein View Post

        I find the staying snapped part somewhat challenging, but yes, desperation is powerful stuff even in small doses.

        It helps you blast through self-sabotage, doubts, competition and productivity issues. Being in the 'no more' zone is a little like being on the up-swing period of bi-polar depression. Anything and everything is possible.
        That is really very funny, in a serious way.

        I'm not mocking you, but I had to ROLF re the "staying snapped" part...

        Very well written first post too, young person!

        Maybe you should write and tend towards your strengths?:confused:
        I don't know, but it sure packs a punch.
        Good on you for posting it.

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        • Profile picture of the author esmein
          Originally Posted by Mary McLean View Post

          That is really very funny, in a serious way.

          I'm not mocking you, but I had to ROLF re the "staying snapped" part...

          Very well written first post too, young person!

          Maybe you should write and tend towards your strengths?:confused:
          I don't know, but it sure packs a punch.
          Good on you for posting it.

          Kindest...
          Cheers!

          I do write, if manufacturing uniquely worded articles for distribution counts, but I wouldn't say it's the activity I find the most joy in.

          The problem I usually have with it is that writing is a process that allegedly works the right --creative-- hemisphere of the brain, of which the exhaustion is linked to mood disorders, depression among them.

          When deep down in the wells of your brains, you've got to look up to find bright things to go after. And sometimes it rains in your face instead...

          The point I was trying to get to was that writing sometimes isn't that good of an idea when someone's 'snapped'. It's fussy, it takes long and lets you cool down. Invites that little maggot that says 'hey, it's not that bad, why don't you just sit down and think about it'.

          Sometimes you've got to go with the momentum and go for a run. Punch the air. Scream and yell and let thin air know you're back. And you aren't leaving.

          Oh and yeah, the going gets hard in IM when you find out you were born with a permanent disorder your parents didn't mention. I call it defect, others call it being a non-native speaker. Either way, it's not correctable and some prospects smell it from miles.

          Cr*p. And I was going to finish the post on the up-beat.
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          • Profile picture of the author Mary McLean
            You are a character Esmien!

            Please write every day and entertain me...:p

            Maybe a floor show, stand up comedian?

            Do you just write articles or ebooks or what?

            If I were you, later on I'd collect all your posts and bundle them up after 50 or so and sell them for $10 bucks or whatever!
            You really have a great style for people like me...dyslexic and a bit OCD or ADD!

            I'd buy a nice hard copy book of your funnies, just to have to read and have a LOL or a ROLF moment that you so easily seem to be able to dig out of your vaults in there.

            Left or right side brain?
            Not sure...:confused:

            Thanks again!
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            • Profile picture of the author esmein
              Thanks

              I'm in the article 'business' with chances for promotion.

              Being funny is not what I do on a regular basis unfortunately; people can't tell if I'm dead serious or joking and that kills any kind of consistency.

              If you ever saw a Rich Hall show (can't link obviously, I hope he's still on YouTube) I'd say that's me on a good day.

              A speaking gig is definitely out of question. Shows, stand-up, conventions included. Never went to a mastermind group either. Ever had a chat with a person who writes 2,000 times as many words as he speaks? Not the most productive way of communication.

              One thing is for sure, I should have started interacting on this forum much, much earlier. Just talking to other people makes them (and me!) smile apparently.

              That's what Mind Warriors section is for after all, right?
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    • Profile picture of the author Nudefox
      Originally Posted by poath View Post

      I agree so much with you, desperation is the strongest drive you can have. In alot of things in life, you can't make true progress until you truely snap and say 'no more'.
      Yes, desperation is actually a driving factor in its own right.Remember that the road to success begins with desire and that is what desperation does..WANTING SOMETHING SO BADLY THAT YOUR ENTIRE BEING DEPENDS ON IT.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jarrod
    Yep. It's been said that necessity is the mother of invention, which would include inventing or reinventing yourself for success.
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  • Profile picture of the author writersparadigm
    Those are some serious words, well put. Success is never giving up and there will never be a finish line so keep pushing forward, thank you
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  • Profile picture of the author Abby Gibbs
    Very well said! That's the attitude, never give up despite those hindrances that we encounter.
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  • Profile picture of the author PinkVelvet
    "It's when you wake up early just to feel like sh*t for not starting to work right away."

    - That is so true. Now a days, the first thing I do is wake up at 4AM and start working online. I do this for at least 4 hours, taking 5-10 minute breaks between each hour. It makes me feel better that I've completed all my work by 8AM. After all, internet marketing is a full time job, or not just marketing but any other online business.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mary McLean
    Thanks again!

    Congrats on your upcoming promotion too.

    You never know what can happen as you grow and share in here.

    Make a point to post at least 5 posts a day.

    It is really the best way to learn, communicate and gain writing skills...not that you need them though!

    Looking forwards to the hard cover book?

    You could POD it.

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