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How will I accomplish this? Vs. Why I am not good enough?


The person who asks the first question will live completely different life than the person who asks the later. It is all how you thnk and what type of attitude you use that can make hell of difference...
#“how” #“how” #power
  • Profile picture of the author vk3
    Yeah, I definitely agree, Code..

    As simple as this sounds, 80% of time should be spent on the "how", instead of the actual situation (end goal, etc.).

    Whenever I have strong feelings about something that aren't positive, I always find them alleviating when you work towards the solution with the right questions.. "How can I feel better about what I'm doing?" "What could I focus on to make this a positive experience?"
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    • Profile picture of the author Code Weaver
      thanks for replying, yeah I agree 80 percent of the time should be spent on how to go about getting to your goals and doing something to get there. Spend to much time in other stuff that does not help us
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  • Profile picture of the author ahew
    Answering "how" puts us in a place of power vs the latter which is simply needy.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Ten
    That is a great point that the OP points out.
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  • Profile picture of the author Code Weaver
    Thanks guys, I am glad u liked the point I have tried to convey, yes asking the question how does empowers you....
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  • Profile picture of the author kaidaiah
    Totally agree. Having that positive mentality that it CAN be done and figuring out the proper method to getting it done. It gives you that mental edge that many people do not have, and rejects listening to conventional wisdom that says things CANNOT be done.
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  • Profile picture of the author YasirYar
    Yes its a fact that success comes with the right mindset. I believe that attitude is more important than aptitude.
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  • Profile picture of the author paul_1
    That is right. You have to think positive. If you dwell yourself in thinking about negative things, more likely the results are going to be such. No matter how difficult things might look like, always strive to think of how you can overcome it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Lin Raj
    The word HOW comes to everyones mind after a determination of goal.But if we consciously put the question to ourself,the mind will have an orientation for goal even if we have not so strong determination.
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    • Profile picture of the author weekendmarketer
      The word how shows the mindset of a person who likes to procrastinate. Winners never quit & quitters never win
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      • Profile picture of the author frankm
        Originally Posted by andyrego View Post

        The word how shows the mindset of a person who likes to procrastinate.
        Are you saying that asking "How will I accomplish this?" is procrastination? Lots of people ask that question and then go and do it. The procrastinator is the person who asks how to do it and then doesn't do it!

        I'm pretty sure that with these matters you'll eventually you'll do it when the pain of doing it is less than the pain of not doing it. When you get to that point the important thing is make the pain of doing it as bearable as possible. At this point, asking "How" questions becomes extremely important

        Frank
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        • Profile picture of the author lovebeingdaddy
          I agree with Frankm, asking how does not mean your procrastinating, asking "Why I am not good enough" shows lack of confidence and that person seems to be already accepting defeat.
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          • Profile picture of the author frankm
            Originally Posted by lovebeingdaddy View Post

            asking "Why I am not good enough"
            Interestingly, "why I am not good enough" is not even a question... but it might even be better written this way because people who say this are usually looking for excuses and ways to convince themselves that they're not good enough.

            They don't say "Why am I not good enough?"... they say "I'm not good enough because..."

            Frank
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            • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
              You're spot on Bro.

              Success in life is not just finding the right answers,
              but asking the right questions.

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            • Profile picture of the author lovebeingdaddy
              Totally agree, I understood what he was getting at, but you are right when people question themselves they are already dooming themselves to failure..kinda of a self full-filling prophecy?
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    • Profile picture of the author Salesforce
      I agree with Lin Raj.How is a least noticed powerful word.
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  • Looks like someone has been reading "Afformations" by Noah St. John...
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  • Profile picture of the author danlew
    When I am attracted with something that can change my entire life, I ask myself with the word "How". I simply think positive of doing it, no matter what the outcome is. Just go for it then, give it a best shot!
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    • Profile picture of the author lovebeingdaddy
      Agreed Danlew! Imperfect Action is better than no action..
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  • Profile picture of the author Daverio
    When I want to start something I ask my self "How".. And then the next thing I find my self searching to the answers to the "how"..
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  • Profile picture of the author calebciantar
    totally agreed..
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  • Profile picture of the author accendo
    Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up - Thomas Edison
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