Have you ever been bullied? Or felt different?

by Diice

Posted: 12 years ago 21 replies

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Hi guys,

im not the sort to get all emotional, i've just turned 17 years old and i recently just earned $350 in 1 day from my IM ventures. Im quite proud of what i've done and im only really here to help others and build some relationships with people who are looking to better their own futures. Its not often a 17 year old brings in $350 in 1 day.

However i've seen this sub-forum a few times and ive always wanted to post something here. I've had severe depression for around 18 months now and have been on several different types of medication.

I am making this post because i just want to see how people reply, it would be nice to have a little boost just by reading your comments and perhaps learning about your own backfalls or issues. I haven't actually been bullied myself however i have faced many times where i feel like an outcast from groups. I am not very social when it comes to drinking, parties, clubbing etc. and it gets me down because i know all my "friends" gossip about me and call me anti-social.

But they dont understand, they dont understand what its like to feel a need to make money, but not just that, they dont understand what its like to have a need to better yourself. I am constantly trying to better myself, which is a struggle in its self, sometimes its so hard to motivate yourself and discipline yourself when you are so down.

My dreams are simple really, to be financially stable, to have a family and to be able to buy anything that they want. To be able to support them and help them acheive their own dreams.

I've never had much support, i do not get on with my dad at all and my mum is not in a position to help me. I feel bad writing this as i dont want everyone to feel sorry for me, i am sure you have your own problems to worry about. But it would be nice to hear about your problems or maybe just how you deal with them.

But i just want to know, have any of you ever been bullied or felt different? Do you feel the desire to make something of yourself?
I can't think of anything worse than growing old knowing that i have not reached my full potential, i can't think of anything worse than telling my future son/daughter he can't have something. Its an actual pain, not just a dream, its like i need it to survive.

Im sorry if this post doesnt make much sense, sometimes i just feel a bit better if i just speak a load of nonsense and get it all out of my system!

Thank you for reading, any support would be appreiciated.
-Michael

#bullied #felt

Jamie Lewis 12 years ago

Yes. Ive been bullied alot actually.
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StephanieMojica 12 years ago

Yes, I was extensively bullied in school especially between 5th and 10th grade. It leaves a permanent imprint on your self-esteem, but you CAN recover from it.

Surrounding myself with positive people (even through motivational tapes and books), therapy, meditation, and an attitude that "The best revenge is to be a success" has helped me through many self-doubts.

Replace those old tapes with new ones, literally. I can't speak enough about the power of "reprogramming" your brain.

Good luck!

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mattryan30 12 years ago

Man, you're very young.I would not worry so much as you have a whole lot more of life ahead of you Just take things in stride as as you get older you'll not put as much stock into what other people say of think about your life. I've felt the same say as you and I'm much older than you just keep making that money in Im,if you made $350.00 in one day you can at least get yourself to the point where your making a a decent steady income from home.You just have to develop a little more patience which admittedly is a very hard thing to have at your age.
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RobbieT 12 years ago

Hi Michael,

Well done for earning $350 in one day.

My advice would be to walk your own path, as we are all different (thank God for that).
I'll bet none of the people who think you're different or anti-social have ever made $350 in a day just from their own efforts.

Regarding the depression, one thing that can help some forms of depression is exercise. Exercise releases Endorphins (feel good chemicals) into the brain and you get a natural high.
Do a Google search and do some research on the subject "the effect of exercise on depression"

I hope that is of some help to you.

Take good care of those that you love (including yourself)

Robbie T
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Jonathan 2.0 Banned 12 years ago

Yeah I was bullied for years in school.

So I decided to just concentrate on my sport. (Did everything from football/soccer to cricket to running, etc.) And although I didn't think I did all that well, at the end of my first year I was awarded joint "Sport's Person Of The Year."

I also think that being bullied made me into more of an independent person and a leader. So I guess that point is that something good can come out of your experience.
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- MissTerraK 12 years ago
  
  Hi Michael!
  
  I am impressed that at your age you have your goals in life set out and over and beyond that, have started implementing them and have had success with them!
  
  Congratulations!
  
  I received a little jiving and ribbing but never bullying. But either way, it's not fun and can cause certain negative mindsets to be built within us leading to low self esteem and depression. Mindsets where every statement or action is run through the filter of what we have found or heard to be true in our lives, but not the truth.
  
  Believe in yourself, your talents, gifts and strengths and try to develop the mindset of: I am who I am - your approval not needed! for the bullies and negative people in your life. That should start to work wonders for you.
  
  You sound like an amazing young man and I would be proud to call you my son!
  
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  Jonathan 2.0 Banned 12 years ago
  
  Nice post TerraK. I agree - Michael seems much more a head of most people his age. : ) And actually a head of many people in "IM."
  
  That's another thing going through difficult times can do. (Helps you mature and advance in life.) That’s been my experience anyway.
  
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mattryan30 12 years ago

I agree with MissTerrak and Jonathan 2.0,you are a extremely motivated person which is a great thing,and your doing better than most people who try to make money on the internet.In fact most people just give up without really doing anything,and you proved that you made money from doing something,so kudos for you! Disregard what I said earlier about having patience as long as it helps keep you going and motivated to succeed,just don't let you impatience get you down.

I was bullied myself and teased when I was your age and I used to fret a lot about it until I realized where these people are coming from.Most of them have a ton of issues or a chip on their shoulder,and try to put others down to feel better about themselves. I was also very shy at your age and what people would call antisocial,but I was able to change quite a bit for the better since then.

Just look at your youth,anything you don't like you about yourself you have the ability to change later on.Time is on your side!

I often look at what people say bad about me as a challenge for me to improve,but in your case its most likely your "friends" making a huge thing out of nothing because they think they can get on your nerves.Some people, especially the people who we call friends often are quite insecure people, and their bullying may be motivated by their own insecurities or perhaps they may even be jealousy of you.

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Roan 12 years ago

I think as a teenager you will always feel like an outcast at some point. I think every teenager experiences it from time to time for whatever reason. It is part of growing up. You know what you like, you know what you want and it might be different from what other teenagers are interested in but nothing wrong with that. You are not alone. Try to find like minded people.

I myself have felt different all along for a reason, however nothing wrong with that everyone is unique. It's a shame really how everyone wants to be the same just not to stand out.

Well done for earning that much money in 1 day! Keep it going I would say!
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GT 12 years ago

Hi, Michael:

Achievers and visionaries will always be questioned, ridiculed and misunderstood. Sometimes those being bullied or mistreated are different in some way and that is unfortunate for them, and sometimes it is simply that the bully has a "problem" and the victim is an easy target. In all cases, bullying is NEVER justified and should not happen . . . but knowing that doesn't prevent it from happening, unfortunately.

If your dreams are honourable and respect other people, then stick with them. Don't let the bullies discourage you. It is better to stick to your dreams and achieve them and show the world what you are capable of than to quit, give up or hide and rob the world of the good you could have done.

I was bullied to a small degree in school, always being small and skinny, lol. Most of the time I just let the bullies have their fun and then we all got on with our lives. A couple of times - when I seemed to have momentarily lost my mind - I stood up to the bullies. I paid for it a few times, but to balance that, there were also times that it surprised the bullies and they backed down! And THAT surprised ME! lol

If you have found ways to begin earning money online, awesome! Keep working at that. The skills you learn now and the dedication you develop to marketing will form a foundation of success for you that others only dream about.

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automedix1 12 years ago

I have definitely been bullied in school. I have had an actual pistol held to my head. All you can do is grin and stare it down. I am now 39 years old and trying to accomplish what you have seen at the age of 17. Bravo!! If I knew at the age of 17, what I know now, I would be much further ahead and far less behind.

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Tom Shat 12 years ago

Yes, I was bullied in my high school period.Meditation and breathing exercises helped me to come out of it.
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Cataclysm1987 12 years ago

Get back at em by becoming a millionaire.
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- cookie58 12 years ago
  
  Been Bullied All My Life and I believe it wont Stop Because thats How Mankind is . P.s Just Got Bullied Out Of $1997 On WF and was told there nothing i can do about It .
  
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NakedBen 12 years ago

We'd all do well to live by this quote:
"Be civil to all; sociable to many, familiar with a few; friend to one; enemy to none."

Now that's our personal responsibility. We can't be responsible for the stupidity of others. Stick to your values and your dreams, live by the above quote and press on brother.
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sidenote

12 years ago

Michael I am sorry to see you having difficulties, but you seem to be headed in the right direction and as a mother of a young man I would tell you to persevere and never allow anyone to steer you away from your dreams no matter what. You have so much compassion as a young man and insightful enough to realize that some people can be very cruel to others. Bullies have been around since the beginning of time, and this is just a harsh reality we have to live with.

However, at your age it is important that you learn now to never allow other peoples problems to become your own. It is okay to help others and I would encourage you to help people as much as you can. Everything you give in life is returned back to you. Just dont let other people make you the barrier of their problems. We all have our own crosses to bear.

You also show great insight and understanding about you life's plans, and I would encourage you to stick to your life's goals. Not many young men your age are utilizing the resources on the WF. Far less your age even know about the forum, yet you have committed to making things happen and are well on your way. Dont ever doubt yourself, particularly as a result of ridicule or undue coercion of other people.

Keep your head up and keep fighting til you get where you want to go.
Never give up!!

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Kylie Mitchell

12 years ago

Well said Sidenote - wonderful words of wisdom to an inspiring young man

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Shadowflux 12 years ago

Hang in there buddy!

I'm not going to give you the "you're just a kid" speech but I will tell you this:

Be yourself. Do what you know is right for you. Stay on the right path to your goals and you will achieve them. Believe in yourself, even if no one else does!

When I was your age things were not good at all. I won't go into detail but I can tell you that I do not wish I was 17 again. Things were very hard for me and I won't lie to you. Things got a lot worse as I got a bit older. They were bad, really bad, for a few years and I began to question every aspect of my life and my self.

I struggled through it and it made me into a stronger, wiser and better person.

Have I felt different? Yes. All of my life. Everyone called me "antisocial". I'm not sure I ever met someone that I felt was "like me" until I became an adult. Do you know what I've found?

I was different and that was good

Looking back on the people who made fun of me, called me a loser or a failure, most of them are miserable now. Worse yet, they didn't have to deal with 10% of what I went through and they're still miserable. They made awful life choices and they are stuck living with those choices.

Different is good

There are enough people who are exactly the same, we don't need any more. Be yourself, be different, that is where new ideas and new innovations come from. Too many people repeat the same mistakes and suffer the same consequences. Be different, that is what's truly valuable in this day and age.

Listen to your heart. When you know, I mean really know, that something is right for you then do it. Always try to better yourself and you will become an amazing person that people look up to.

It doesn't matter if someone else has the absolute best intentions, if you know, in your heart, that they're wrong then do not do what they say.
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SamuraiKat 12 years ago

I am not going trying to be one of the me also. What I can tell you is this. It is awesome that you are doing your own thing. Things change and things improve. I just celebrated 20th reunion and I was AMAZED at the number of people that dreaded going to the 20th reunion.

I am still not sure how many people missed the 10 year though. More people have experienced bullying than you would think. One person posted it best. High school is like playing survivor. College is much more relaxed. It is a phase that you go through. This is hard to accept when you are in the middle of it.

The best thing you can do at your age. Find ways to strengthen you self-confidence. As you continue with your success, don't get caught up in things that DISTRACT you from you. Learn who you are.

This comes from the social outcast that I was in high school. Through time, I made drastic changes and things in my life changed for the best.
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Kylie Mitchell 12 years ago

Hey Mciahel,

Good on you for reaching out.

You would be very surprised just how common bullying is, not just at school but in the workplace. It is endemic in society but very slowly awareness is improving.

I have just had to end a job because of it.

I would say, when it happen when your a teenager it can be much worse, so I heartily congratulate you on what you have done- more than me with IM- keep going!!

There are some exellenect resources online but someone listening, someone to talk to is great.

You are not alone that's for sure.

Keep on and up, and seek support from groups and people, keep talking about your troubles and success' - I wish I had at your age.

Kind Regards and Best Wishes
Kylie
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Exel 12 years ago

I believe that in order to be better than others you have to be different. If you do
what other people do you will get what they get. People will always consider you
strange and "not normal". It can be very tough sometimes, but let them laugh and
provoke, nothing ever lasts forever. When you have a house and a boat and deciding
whether to spend next month in Thailand or the Philippines, and they are working at
dead-end jobs for minimum wage - see who is laughing then.
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