How do I change my distorted perception on business & money?

You've already taken the first step - you realize that your perception IS distorted.

Now you need to understand that it truly does not matter what other people do or how they act when they succeed in business and are rich. No it does NOT.

For you, what matters is what you your-very-own-self do when and if you succeed in business and get rich. Period.

You can't change anyone else's approach. And you have no business trying or even judging them, IMO.

YOU are the only one you can change or judge. So ask yourself some very serious questions:
* Why are you in business?
* Who are you trying to do busines with?
* Do you want to help or just get their mony any way you can?
* When you do get rich, what do you intend to do with your money? How can you use it to make life better for others - or do you even care enough to want to?

This sort of thing is how you need to approach your career.

You are YOU. Be proud of that!

Hope this helps,
Dot

As a wise man once said to me, "You think too much"

If you weren't interested in having more of it you wouldn't be asking
this question. Because your rage at the perceived criminality of
the wealthy is incrongruent with your actual desire for success,
fulfillment, and a life of less struggle you need to look at how you
got yourself into this bound state.

Your old beliefs about money probably run along the lines of "it's
noble to be poor", probably implanted by parents or other people
you looked up to who taught you that to make more than a working
man's wage was exploitive and taking from others.

Read this book Amazon.com: The Little Money Bible: Stuart Wilde,...
...and start unwinding the source of your incongruent beliefs before
they take you down a bitter road.

"You can only ever see what you are looking at - You can only move in the direction that you are facing"

What does this mean?

It means that your focus determines your reality - Whatever you are looking at (focusing on) is the direction in which you are moving and whatever you are looking at - you are going to continue to see and experience more of.

At all times you are holding a stick in your hand and you can only hold the stick by one end or the other.

You either see yourself as being rich or you see yourself being poor.
You either see yourself as being strong or you see yourself as being weak.
You either see yourself as being healthy, or you see yourself being sick.
You either see yourself struggling, or you see your life being easy in a constant flow

There is no in-between - you hold the stick by one end or the other.

You do not solve a problem by focusing on the problem - you solve all problems by focusing on the solution - when you focus on the solution - you will begin to move in that direction and you will see it and experience it.

The problem is that the mind is a creature of habit and hates to be retrained so it follows the path of least resistance. It is easier for it to live in the past and keep repeating the same thoughts over and over again, than to focus on a new thought.

You have to retrain it to focus only upon those things you want to see.

When you stand back and watch people you will see exactly what they are focusing on - a majority of the population believe that in order to be deserving they have to work hard to create results and so they do - a minority of the population believe they deserve the best that life has to offer so they have a different focus all together and different results - they seem to glide through life.

hard work does not mean more money. i think that is a major flaw with your logic and i think that is a big reason why you are upset.

if you are creative enough to make lots of money with what you have got, then why not do it? dont be jealous of actors or CEO's. they obviously have something that you want. instead of thinking about how life isnt fair, think about how they do it. mimic it, and repeat it. then you make money with little work and you can be free to live your life. its all about creativity and learning from other people

Hey daj,

You are aware of your distorted perception and this is a good start. The next thing is to challenge your own perception. For example; You mentioned that the CEO seems to do nothing yet earn much more money than those people who work their ass off. Have you thought about how hard they work in order to reach the place they are right now.

Replace all the negative thoughts with other thoughts one at a time and ultimately you will eliminate all negative thoughts.

Vincent

Just being here and wanting to make a change is a huge step. Study self help and motivational materials from other great people you want to mirror. This is an ongoing process for most people that should be a daily thing. As you do this more, you're perception of money begins to change. A good starting point would be a book called "The science of Getting Rich" by Wallace D Wattles. You deserve to be rich! Once you come to the realization of this, you'll never look back.

Where did you get this idea?

Who was the last CEO/President you spoke with who described what he or she did in this way?

Hey try to develop a prosperity consciousness. U can do this by varios means. Some nice tips are shared here. Hope some will really click for U. Best of luck mate.!

I advice you to get the book
"Money and the Law of Attraction" by Esther and
Jerry Hicks. The teachings of Abraham.

It will change your perseptions on money and
life at general.

~Igor

I think these are some good tips. But I also think that the most effective thing to do is simply allow those thoughts to be. Let yourself get in touch with why you are angry, because you need to understanding what is pushing your buttons before you can figure how to relate to those things differently. Try journaling maybe, where you are free to talk about however you are feeling without censoring it.

And then take your time to continue your work. Naturally, you will start to see that you want to change your beliefs, without having to make the negative feelings "go away."

Hi Daj,

If you want to break away from your own distorted perception on money, my suggestion to you is to read:

Secrets of The Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker

The book will help you in understanding your own way of thinking about money, disassociating your negative beliefs about money, and reconditioning your mind to respond supportively in terms of money and success.

Cheers~

Mark

You need to understand that when you start a business you always start from scratch. You can't have all the money that you want if you do not have perseverance.

Last time I checked, it was still a free country.

What I mean is that you are welcome to have your own views and feelings. Everyone makes their own way in this world. You make choices every day that get you to where you want to go (or not).

First you have to decide what it is that you want for yourself. Then you just go for it. If you want to make more money, then make it. I have to laugh when I hear people who make minimum wage complain they don't have any money, so then go and make more. You charge for your time what you are worth. If you are looking to make $100,000 a year, then don't take a job that pays $15 an hour. There is no logic there. Look around, do what successful people are doing, and duplicate it. Lots of people make good money every day. It isn't that hard.

On the other hand, if you are happy making less and living a certain lifestyle, then you are likely better off than the wealthy. Many of them are not happy where they are. So first decide what it is you want and then go out and get it.

Money is like a gun; used the right way it can be beneficial - used the wrong way it is disastrous.

If you think that your perception of money is stopping you from making what you want - start thinking about what more money will do for you. Will it increase your security? Will it help you further a dream? If you think about the basic things it will improve for you, it will stop your negative feelings towards it, and you will regard it as what it is; a trading tool rather than an end-target.

I think that you have to be positive and have the right people as friends so that you can be encourage than be discourage.You can make money online i can assure you of that.I can tell you for sure from personal experience, so be cool and focus and enjoy making the money.

Check out this thread. This guy had some false perceptions of money and totally changed his life. You may find it interesting.

http://www.warriorforum.com/mind-war...r-reading.html

It's unfortunate but this is how a large majority of the population is currently feeling. The media is perpetuating these images and on a personal level I'm not sure there is any quick solution to the conflict between wanting to make money and anger at the perceived self-indulgent rich. It's been said that the way around a belief/attitude is not around it but through it. In other words pierce these thoughts to see what's really at their origen.

There are steps to take daj, many good ones offered here...thank you for posting your "experience."

For me personally that is the key, "experience," which becomes the foundation of our consciousness, and thereby the way we think, feel and take action in a new direction or "stay stuck."

Big words I know, but that is exactly my point. It's most important we don't get hung up on the words as they are just symbols of symbols (at least twice removed from the actual experience any word in any language is attempting to share).

I have 2 of 13 steps written and posted at my blog which shares my own journey of "experience." Step 3 likely released today or tomorrow, is the one that will target most specifically a step to really tackle your current circumstances daj.

See, now your post is contributing to what I may include in it! :-)

If step 1 and 2 which you will find at my blog speak to you as steps that may serve you well, get in touch with me with a comment, or directly here. Your input and feedback daj will be valued, and add to my sharing steps of "experience."

I would suggest you read "Wealth, Riches, and Money" by Craig Hill and Earl Pitts. It gave me a BETTER understanding on how to handle money and why we are attracted to the "false" power that money gives.

From the book I've also learned how not to worry anymore about money, control my impulse buying, and so much more.

I warn you, the book is not for everyone. It may challenge your very beliefs about business and money.

Just have a genuine interest in people and you will think differently and will find all areas of your life (personal and business) improve dramatically.

I would say you have an overall "money is evil" view which actually subconsciously pushes you farther away from it...if you would like more money in your life begin thinking of it in a positive light...for instance... someone recently told me....

"you cant help people if you dont know how to make money" and i agree...

One of the things I firmly believe and that has changed my perspective on money, is that the world would be much better off if we had a different class of 'rich' people.

There will always be people who have control over more resources than others. Those people then determine the fate of the rest.

We have so many terrible issues in the world that are caused because of the temperament of those who control the resources.

So, if you know that you would make better decisions with how you would control the use of resources than those who presently make the decisions, you really can take it upon yourself as your personal responsibility to assume as much control over resources as you can.

Then, you can see to it that the resources you control are put to good use, and not squandered.

I imagine all the good I could do with billions of dollars in my bank account. I would make a real dent in the world. I could truly do some good.

You clearly understand the nature of the present financial system, as you touched on it clearly in regards to the feds, the fact that currency represents nothing anymore and so on. This was all put into place because the people that control the wealth were able to use their wealth to make it all happen.

You also need to realise that it serves the agenda of the unscrupulous elite for you to feel that controlling money is evil. It keeps you on your knees to believe this, with no real power.

The truth is, nothing in this world happens without money. If you want to make real change, in your own life and in the lives of others, you have to fight fire with fire. As long as the good stay poor and the unscrupulous stay rich, we will always have the problems we have now.

What we really need, is more strong willed ethical people, who want to see the world become a better place, taking control of resources and getting some real influence.

The intention to gain control of money for noble ends is a noble goal. Every living creature on Earth has a god given right to an equal share of the wealth provided to us by our planet. Don't let any human brainwash you into giving up your birthright, so that they can take more than what is rightfully theirs.

I say, assume control of as much money as you possibly can, and then see that it is put to good use, in a way that will allow you to live a full life that contributes to making this world a better place.

Hummm, it's good to know your own weeknesses.

Your perception on business and money were distorted and you know this in time that's better.

Now after this full of knowledge forum, You would have learnt too much...

Get the book Money and The Law of Attraction

You can find it on my blog's widget to the left(blog link in my sig)

It is a book by Esther and Jerry Hicks. You will start looking at
things and money very differently

Igor